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By *olmate OP   Man
over a year ago

west mids

1. What tips and techniques would you suggest to manage stress!!!

2. Is it normal to not feeling like sex when you are stressed?

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By *VineMan
over a year ago

The right place

Have you tried grounding techniques, like the 5,4,3,2,1 one?

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

Get a punchbag and some boxing gloves...helps with my stress levels x

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

Perfectly normal.

My libido has been MIA for over a year now.

If anything the thought of sex these days makes me anxious!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Breathing exercises. And what vine said.

I already taught you the Alexander technique

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By *VineMan
over a year ago

The right place

Getting outside and exercising, even just going for a walk.

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

Yes it's normal though sometimes stress makes me hornier.

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By *0astMan
over a year ago

Discovering

Exercise, Exercise, Exercise and Yoga

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By *ecadent_DevonMan
over a year ago

Okehampton

I drink wine, sit on the back porch, ruffle the horses mane and say. “Well old friend, that another day eh?” He looks at me as if to say “I’m a horse mate, no idea what you are saying” and then i say. “Meh you are a horse, I probably need to get out more” and he looks at me as if to say “either get the polos out or I’m offski” and I say “here mate have a polo, I’ll get more wine”

And somehow, in this madness I don’t fall over, emotionally or physically, and the world carries on.

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

I use the gym as de-stress down time - it works really well

I swim 4 nights a week and weekends. During my 40 odd lengths I leave all my stress in the pool

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me I have to just take time to myself!

Listening to my music is my escape, long walks, peace and quiet, also remember to just take one day at at a time, don’t set yourself too much for one day.

Sometimes being awake and breathing is enough!!

Don’t bottle stuff up, don’t be alone and don’t over think! You aren’t alone even when you feel you are!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Find an activity that totally takes your mind off things , even if it’s only half an hour it makes a difference.

Yes to your second question , stress along with depression totally kills your sex drive and that’s normal .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I handle it by going on a walk around the streets.

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By *eepitonwaxMan
over a year ago

Glasgow


"1. What tips and techniques would you suggest to manage stress!!!

2. Is it normal to not feeling like sex when you are stressed?

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1. Exercise & meditate for 10 minutes a day (concentrating on breathing in and out for 10 minutes is harder than it seems!).

2. Yes, very normal for some people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

1. Avoid people

2. Yes because sex involves said people

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

I do daily yoga and meditation exercises to rebalance myself

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By *inky Biscuit DunkerMan
over a year ago

Gloucestershire

Meditation. It’s brilliant

I was very sceptical at first but now find it great for relaxing and positive thinking. The Calm app is great

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Long walks, half an hour before sleep listen to calming music with soft lighting a face mask helps too. Sometimes I cave and stress eat

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

1. Exercise is a great way to help with stress. Try and get a 30 min walk in each day. No mucus or distraction. Listen to your thoughts and find what is stressing you the most and so yourself an action plan for one thing before you do fish your walk.

2. Yes it’s perfectly normal to lose all sexual appetite during times of stress. It will return once the stress goes. Don’t stress over this OP

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Stressed? Go lift weights!

Stressed? Go punch a bag or pads!

Stressed? Ride a motorbike!

Works for me!

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By *olmate OP   Man
over a year ago

west mids

Some of the stuff I do to manage it, like staying away from everything, meditation but not so regular and exercises.

Thank you so much for all those useful advises and kind words!

Xxx

Sol

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By *hrough the looking gla55Couple
over a year ago

Epsom

Long walks with music or just dancing around the house.

Breathing is key. Sounds simple but so effective

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough


"Long walks with music or just dancing around the house.

Breathing is key. Sounds simple but so effective

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And wearing blue knickers.

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip


"1. What tips and techniques would you suggest to manage stress!!!

2. Is it normal to not feeling like sex when you are stressed?

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On number 2, yes totally. My libido plummets when I'm stressed. Luke

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The Insight timer app is very good, it has calming music, meditations, talks, all sorts.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The insight timer app is great, I was skeptical at first but found it really useful & days at BGHS

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By *eardybobMan
over a year ago

the Goldilocks Zone


"Stressed? Go lift weights!

Stressed? Go punch a bag or pads!

Stressed? Ride a motorbike!

Works for me! "

^^^ this, this and this!

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By *eardybobMan
over a year ago

the Goldilocks Zone

Dont know if you smoke, or ever did, but the comments above about breathing are gold dust.

More specifically, when you are feeling it bite, breathe in as far as you can (like just you've just taken a big drag on a cig) and release slowly and very deliberately until there is nothing left in your lungs.

You'll be surprised how much of an endorphine rush you get... it is called diaphragmatic breathing.

Check out: healthblog.uofmhealth.org/lifestyle/an-easy-way-to-beat-stress-and-build-a-healthier-life

I gave up smoking 15 years ago, and missed it until the second a friend told me about this...

Haven't look back since.

Also, if the stress levels are (at least partially) aggravated by heart rate fluctuations/racing, you may also find a low level beta blocker like propranalol helps to smooth things out and (as my doc put it), give you just that little injection of "dont give a shit" to get you through... (really - speak to your doc! They hear it 30 times a day and they CAN help).

Take it easy buddy - the best thing of course is to deal with the source of stress.

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By *imited 3EditionCouple
over a year ago

Live in Scotland Play in England


"1. What tips and techniques would you suggest to manage stress!!!

2. Is it normal to not feeling like sex when you are stressed?

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Try slow walking in a forest

And, be kind to yourself... you don't really have to do it all. Listen to yourself and what you need.

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By *imited 3EditionCouple
over a year ago

Live in Scotland Play in England


"Long walks with music or just dancing around the house.

Breathing is key. Sounds simple but so effective

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Search YouTube for the following video 'relax and breathe: do nothing for 10 minutes'

You can use the visual graphic cue to guide your breathing and develop your technique

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By *hrough the looking gla55Couple
over a year ago

Epsom


"Long walks with music or just dancing around the house.

Breathing is key. Sounds simple but so effective

And wearing blue knickers. "

You know I always feel less stressed in my panties

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Learn how to play an instrument.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Long walks with music or just dancing around the house.

Breathing is key. Sounds simple but so effective

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Yes, take a backpack & get out in nature for the day

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By *hekaiserMan
over a year ago

Glasgow


"1. What tips and techniques would you suggest to manage stress!!!

2. Is it normal to not feeling like sex when you are stressed?

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Probably covered by others, but you need to find the source of your stress-job related etc

My previous job stressed me out big time, so much so I started losing hair. Change of job has resulted in lower stress levels..just waiting for my hair to grow back.. haha

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By *olmate OP   Man
over a year ago

west mids

It is essentially a job related but to be honest I can't leave or change this job...

Thank you all of you for your care and concern.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always find doing some sort of physical exercise, running, bike ride, boxing and really go all out puts the mind and body into a really relaxing state

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