FabSwingers.com forum: A quick bit of field research

By *bat OP Man
over a year ago

Alicante, Spain. (Sometimes in Wales)

I've been chatting to someone on the site who doesn't want to talk about sex.

I know that nobody needs to talk about anything that they don't want to and everyone is free to do or not do what they are comfortable with (within the law!).

Here's my research topic ..

Are there many people here who are not particularly interested in sex, and if so, what exactly are you here for?

No judgement from me, just curious to understand people's thinking.

Cheers,

Gbat

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By *jorkishMan
over a year ago

Seaforth

"I've been chatting to someone on the site who doesn't want to talk about sex.

I know that nobody needs to talk about anything that they don't want to and everyone is free to do or not do what they are comfortable with (within the law!).

Here's my research topic ..

Are there many people here who are not particularly interested in sex, and if so, what exactly are you here for?

No judgement from me, just curious to understand people's thinking.

Cheers,

Gbat "

Some people are lonely and just feel the need to talk to someone. Facebook might not fit their needs as too many family members on there. If they are male maybe they just browse the profile pics as men are more visually inclined (apparently).

Or maybe they get enough sex in the real world and just want chat

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

I'm confused by your opening comments leading to your research question, OP.

I don't want to talk about sex but I do want to do it. I think there are other people like me.

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By *jorkishMan
over a year ago

Seaforth

"I'm confused by your opening comments leading to your research question, OP.

I don't want to talk about sex but I do want to do it. I think there are other people like me.

Regarding your research question, I think there are people here for all sorts of reasons: boredom; liking to look at naked human bodies; reading fantasies; writing fantasies; having fantasies; chatting nonsense on the forum; the thrill of the chase and the power to reject them when they catch their prey; finding regular sex; finding irregular sex; attending socials etc."
all true but notice what op said they don't want to talk about sex. I've presumed that the op has been messaged by these people first. If he's messaged first and that was there response then the answer is obvious that they are not interested

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

I don't chat about sex on here, gets a bit boring after a while tbh

I'd rather sext just before a meet

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

I don't want to talk about sex but I do want to do it. I think there are other people like me.

This is exactly me too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love sex, but I'm not going to discuss it via messages with randoms.

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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

I think there are also some people who joined many years ago have done the kid in a candy shop thing and now just stay because of the friends they have made along the way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think they just don’t want to chat about sex. Some people get their kicks from sex talk, maybe they don’t talk sex for that reason?

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"I love sex, but I'm not going to discuss it via messages with randoms. "

Pretty much what I was going to say so I shan’t bother

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love sex chat, with people I’ve met, know and trust, if a random does it, or even someone I know on here, I really don’t like it.

I don’t know why, it’s my issue for sure, but it’s there.

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

A lot of our time on here talking to friends or perspective play friends we talk about anything other than sex.

We get a better feel for a person talking about everything else.

Whilst it’s good to heighten the senses closer to a meet, a good conversation at other times is so much better in our opinion.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally I’m not here for sex as my time has been and gone but I am here to enhance my wife’s sex life and protect her any way I can and I rather enjoy the forums if that’s ok.

Tony

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I love sex, but I'm not going to discuss it via messages with randoms.

Pretty much what I was going to say so I shan’t bother

We can have the sex chat instead, with gin. Or wine. Or both ?

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By *oudLoutishLoverWoman
over a year ago

Colchester

Fab is full of fantasists who think the women here should be up for sex chat at all times. But you don’t get to know someone by talking about just sex. Plus it gets bloody tedious.

When I get 498 messages about fucking and one about cats, I know which one I always respond to!

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

I don't engage with people who want to talk about sex. It's off putting from randoms and just makes me think they think with their cock.

A lot of women want a little more than that!

How long was it until you mentioned sex with the lady in your OP?

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

I love sex, but I find talking about it boring (unless we have had sex and I know what your turn ons are, how you feel inside me etc). I might humour someone occasionally when I’m feeling frisky, but on the whole I find sex chat a bit prurient, which then actually turns me off them.

And there is nothing worse than listening to someone big themselves up sexually (which sex chat usually involves) only to find out they are a shit shag.

But if you’ve slept with them and sex was awesome, then sex chat can then be quite hot. But only in very small doses as afterall, I’m not E.L James.

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By *annaBeStrongMan
over a year ago

wokingham

You’d be surprised how many people are on here as escorts

You’d be even more surprised how many are on here that never meet, just post pics and enjoy the attention

But it’s anyone’s site to use how they please

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By *uriousscouserWoman
over a year ago

Wirral

Love sex, but sex chat is a bore.

There are a billion more interesting things to discuss, after all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I sometimes chat about sexy other times not. It’s all about mutual appeal and being adults

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A lot of people are on here for the dopamine hit of getting Fabs and getting to page one, they crave the attention, why else would you ask people to fab your photos, what purpose does that serve to meet people for sex.

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By *urelyDevilishWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

I enjoy taking photos and posting them. Its a little 20 year old habit I have.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You’d be surprised how many people are on here as escorts

You’d be even more surprised how many are on here that never meet, just post pics and enjoy the attention

But it’s anyone’s site to use how they please "

I don’t understand the relevance to the thread?

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By *uenevereWoman
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

I love sex, but have no desire to talk about it with people.

I want to do it, not talk about it.

Sex chat often means that they want wank material, not to actually meet.

Not wanting to talk about sex doesn't mean you're uninterested in sex.

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By *bat OP Man
over a year ago

Alicante, Spain. (Sometimes in Wales)

Sorry, I'll give a bit more context.

They winked me about a month ago.

They fabbed a few of my pics.

Their profile doesn't list their interests.

We've swapped nearly 70 messages with a view to meeting when I'm closer to them.

I've been asking them what they want from our meeting.

I never said they were female, that's been an assumption made by some of the respondents. (She's female though!).

Thanks for all your insights, I'm very grateful you've taken the time to answer my query.

Gbat

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By *uenevereWoman
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

"Sorry, I'll give a bit more context.

They winked me about a month ago.

They fabbed a few of my pics.

Their profile doesn't list their interests.

We've swapped nearly 70 messages with a view to meeting when I'm closer to them.

I've been asking them what they want from our meeting.

I never said they were female, that's been an assumption made by some of the respondents. (She's female though!).

Thanks for all your insights, I'm very grateful you've taken the time to answer my query.

Gbat "

Context in the OP would have resulted in very different responses.

In this case. Arrange a social only initially, I wouldn't be talking sex with someone I may not have sex with.

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

"Sorry, I'll give a bit more context.

They winked me about a month ago.

They fabbed a few of my pics.

Their profile doesn't list their interests.

We've swapped nearly 70 messages with a view to meeting when I'm closer to them.

I've been asking them what they want from our meeting.

I never said they were female, that's been an assumption made by some of the respondents. (She's female though!).

Thanks for all your insights, I'm very grateful you've taken the time to answer my query.

Gbat "

Maybe they just wanna go with the flow. No script, no expectations. Just natural and flowy

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By *bat OP Man
over a year ago

Alicante, Spain. (Sometimes in Wales)

"And there is nothing worse than listening to someone big themselves up sexually (which sex chat usually involves) only to find out they are a shit shag."

I used to be a manager in a public facing service. I always told my staff to "underpromise and over deliver." I try to follow my own advice in this respect.

Gbat

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By *bat OP Man
over a year ago

Alicante, Spain. (Sometimes in Wales)

"I enjoy taking photos and posting them. Its a little 20 year old habit I have. "

And what lovely pics they are too! Thanks for sharing.

Gbat

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By *offiaCoolWoman
over a year ago

Kidsgrove

For me I seek long term not one offs. I need to know I have enough in common and the other person is articulate to spend time out of the bedroom. Hence I want to chat about lots of things to find common interests.

For me it can turn to sex/wank chat in a heartbeat from the men. To me this can create an expectation when a social meet is agreed. For my safety, I keep the sexual expectations low.

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

Umm nope... sometimes I want to talk about other stuff...so much brilliant advice and ideas and just riffing on a subject is refreshing... I like the poetry challenges

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By *bat OP Man
over a year ago

Alicante, Spain. (Sometimes in Wales)

"Umm nope... "

Nope what? What is it that you're Nopeing?

Am I right in understanding that "sometimes you want to talk about other stuff" also means that sometimes you want to talk about sex?

Ta,

Gbat

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

"Umm nope...

Nope what? What is it that you're Nopeing?

Am I right in understanding that "sometimes you want to talk about other stuff" also means that sometimes you want to talk about sex?

Ta,

Gbat "
sometimes I talk about sex... sometimes the thread will be about other things...I'm nopeing the need to talk about sex all the time

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By *bat OP Man
over a year ago

Alicante, Spain. (Sometimes in Wales)

Ta, but I don't think anyone here "yepped" the need to talk about sex all the time??

Cheers,

Gbat

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By *HaRiFMan
over a year ago

Beyond the shadows.

I'm here for the free crochet patterns

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

I want to engage in sex with the right people and it may mean some sexual interests discussion.

But I don't do wank fodder.

And not all of the people I am friends with are because of, or about sex.

The forum should hint that fab people are open to more than just sexual topics.

The best way to find why someone you chat with doesn't want to discuss sex, is to raise it with them

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

Sex talk with strangers doesn't do anything for me.

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

Not wanting to talk about sex isn't the the same as not wanting/enjoying sex.

We get people contact us who ask about our sex life. This is not an interesting conversation for us. People who don't have anything else to talk about don't tend to get very far with us. We are very interested in sex though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Talking about sex for any length of time for me becomes a little boring, a small amount of banter in a light hearted Manor can be fun though

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By *rMojoRisinMan
over a year ago

Sheffield

I just like to talk and talk and talk and talk, people usually tell me to shut up by that point though!

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By *inky Biscuit DunkerMan
over a year ago

Gloucestershire

I love a good laugh natter and flirt on here. Exchanging cake recipes too.

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By *aucy tiggerWoman
over a year ago

Back where I belong

I'm not interested in sex talk, I'd rather be doing it, but someone told they'd be lots of talk about cake - so here I am xxx

Anyone wanting to talk cake please message xx

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

Ps ..I've had sex in a field

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By *aucy tiggerWoman
over a year ago

Back where I belong

"Ps ..I've had sex in a field

Show off - was there cake?

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

"Ps ..I've had sex in a field

Show off - was there cake?"
there was wheat

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By *uzy1969Woman
over a year ago

Hull

"I love sex, but I'm not going to discuss it via messages with randoms. "

Same here

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By *inkySeeKinkyDoWoman
over a year ago

'tween PontyCarlo & CasVegas in West Yorks

I echo the sentiments of all the ladies above. We dont want to talk about it when weve never met you...get that into your head brains men and stop letting your dick brains lead you in conversation

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By *inky Biscuit DunkerMan
over a year ago

Gloucestershire

"I'm not interested in sex talk, I'd rather be doing it, but someone told they'd be lots of talk about cake - so here I am xxx

Anyone wanting to talk cake please message xx"

Oh hello

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By *bat OP Man
over a year ago

Alicante, Spain. (Sometimes in Wales)

" a small amount of banter in a light hearted Manor can be fun though"

Do Barrat Homes build light hearted Manors?

Gbat

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