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"I was sad when my cat died but I found it far more upsetting when my husband died. " sorry to hear that but I agree with you people seem to take more care of animals than people | |||
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"I was equally as upset if not more when Pooch went a few months ago . Wether that's a general thing or just me I don't know. Buy yes for me it was just as bad " more upset when you're dog died ! How silly | |||
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"Is the loss of a pet the same as a loss of a human" Not to me, no. It's close but not the same | |||
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"I was equally as upset if not more when Pooch went a few months ago . Wether that's a general thing or just me I don't know. Buy yes for me it was just as bad more upset when you're dog died ! How silly" Don't minimise how other people feel | |||
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"I was equally as upset if not more when Pooch went a few months ago . Wether that's a general thing or just me I don't know. Buy yes for me it was just as bad more upset when you're dog died ! How silly" You asked for peoples opinions so I gave you mine so don't criticise . | |||
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"I was equally as upset if not more when Pooch went a few months ago . Wether that's a general thing or just me I don't know. Buy yes for me it was just as bad more upset when you're dog died ! How silly" That's not a very nice thing to say. Sometimes pets are the ones we turn to when we're upset and they know all your secrets. You may not be the same but no need to call someone silly about their grief. | |||
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"Is the loss of a pen the same as the loss of a pencil. Loss is defined by the value placed in the object, no?" I would be more upset losing a pen than a pencil | |||
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"I was sad when my cat died but I found it far more upsetting when my husband died. sorry to hear that but I agree with you people seem to take more care of animals than people" I never said that | |||
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"I was equally as upset if not more when Pooch went a few months ago . Wether that's a general thing or just me I don't know. Buy yes for me it was just as bad more upset when you're dog died ! How silly" Have you just started this thread to be a dick to people?! | |||
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"I was equally as upset if not more when Pooch went a few months ago . Wether that's a general thing or just me I don't know. Buy yes for me it was just as bad more upset when you're dog died ! How silly That's not a very nice thing to say. Sometimes pets are the ones we turn to when we're upset and they know all your secrets. You may not be the same but no need to call someone silly about their grief. " why would you turn to a pet if your upset do they talk to you back | |||
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"I was equally as upset if not more when Pooch went a few months ago . Wether that's a general thing or just me I don't know. Buy yes for me it was just as bad more upset when you're dog died ! How silly That's not a very nice thing to say. Sometimes pets are the ones we turn to when we're upset and they know all your secrets. You may not be the same but no need to call someone silly about their grief. why would you turn to a pet if your upset do they talk to you back" What's the matter OP does someone care more about a pet than you? You sound very bitter to me. Accept there are those different to you and have a wonderful day | |||
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"I was equally as upset if not more when Pooch went a few months ago . Wether that's a general thing or just me I don't know. Buy yes for me it was just as bad more upset when you're dog died ! How silly That's not a very nice thing to say. Sometimes pets are the ones we turn to when we're upset and they know all your secrets. You may not be the same but no need to call someone silly about their grief. why would you turn to a pet if your upset do they talk to you back" No, but they love unconditionally and they don't judge. Sometimes that's all that is needed and sometimes it's in very short supply from people. | |||
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"I was equally as upset if not more when Pooch went a few months ago . Wether that's a general thing or just me I don't know. Buy yes for me it was just as bad more upset when you're dog died ! How silly That's not a very nice thing to say. Sometimes pets are the ones we turn to when we're upset and they know all your secrets. You may not be the same but no need to call someone silly about their grief. why would you turn to a pet if your upset do they talk to you back" They are there when I feel sad, we can hug them and I feel like they can try and cheer me up.. so don’t make fun of people who feel a connection with their pets. Dogs are the ones who literally can give unconditional love… | |||
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"I was equally as upset if not more when Pooch went a few months ago . Wether that's a general thing or just me I don't know. Buy yes for me it was just as bad more upset when you're dog died ! How silly That's not a very nice thing to say. Sometimes pets are the ones we turn to when we're upset and they know all your secrets. You may not be the same but no need to call someone silly about their grief. why would you turn to a pet if your upset do they talk to you back No, but they love unconditionally and they don't judge. Sometimes that's all that is needed and sometimes it's in very short supply from people." Yes girl!!! Worddddddd x | |||
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"* Must bite tongue *" I can’t, sorry. OP, you have obviously never had a close bond with an animal and therefore cannot understand how close and reciprocal the relationship with a pet can be. I would hazard a guess that this is because animals are excellent at reading people and have probably ascertained that you are an arsehole. | |||
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"* Must bite tongue * " I don't want to but I have to haha | |||
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"* Must bite tongue * I can’t, sorry. OP, you have obviously never had a close bond with an animal and therefore cannot understand how close and reciprocal the relationship with a pet can be. I would hazard a guess that this is because animals are excellent at reading people and have probably ascertained that you are an arsehole. " Hahaha awesome. Thankyou | |||
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"* Must bite tongue * I can’t, sorry. OP, you have obviously never had a close bond with an animal and therefore cannot understand how close and reciprocal the relationship with a pet can be. I would hazard a guess that this is because animals are excellent at reading people and have probably ascertained that you are an arsehole. " Great reply x | |||
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"I was equally as upset if not more when Pooch went a few months ago . Wether that's a general thing or just me I don't know. Buy yes for me it was just as bad " Awww hugs grumpy now would you like me to massage your head better with my mouth x | |||
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"Attachment, companionship, loyalty, love, familiarity. Is the loss of an adoptepted family member worse than that of blood relative? Is the loss of a friend worse than the loss of a family member? Their impact, influence and value they have had on your life dictates far more how hard their loss is than any other factor. In my life currently there are very few people I would mourn the loss of more than my pets. If I didn't have those people, there is not a single person on this planet that I would mourn the loss of more than my pets. I'll even push it and say yes, I value my pets lives more than anyone on this thread. If it means saving my pets or saving you, you best look elsewhere for help because you won't find it with me. " Very well said. | |||
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"I was equally as upset if not more when Pooch went a few months ago . Wether that's a general thing or just me I don't know. Buy yes for me it was just as bad Awww hugs grumpy now would you like me to massage your head better with my mouth x " Well how could I refuse | |||
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"When I lost my 14 year old boxer it was sad but expected. She’d been with me through an entire relationship so while sad it was something we got by, when her son died in my arms at the age of 9 during a seizure caused by a brain tumour it was devastating. 3 years on it still is. They were with me through all the mates who went off and had kids. The friends who got into drugs and the friends who simply never returned but the dogs were always there. Some of these comments the OP is making would have landed him on his arse had he made them to me during the time I lost my two. They were my kids and my support. It still sucks that I can’t come home from work and see someone happy to see me. Damn sure I haven’t had that from a human " Absolutely get that mate . Sorry for your loss | |||
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"I was equally as upset if not more when Pooch went a few months ago . Wether that's a general thing or just me I don't know. Buy yes for me it was just as bad Awww hugs grumpy now would you like me to massage your head better with my mouth x Well how could I refuse " Ok it’s a done deal one head to mouth massage come up | |||
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"Honestly, I love my animals, and have an elderly doggo who is on borrowed time. I know her passing will be hard, she has been my constant companion for 14 years, and has saved my life more than once. I dread it. I lost my Dad a few years ago, and we weren't particularly close, but it was devastating. I have lost cats over the years and miss their little personalities too. OP, just because others don't have the same opinion as you, you shouldn't belittle them. That says that you lack empathy, so maybe its something for you to reflect on." So well put | |||
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"When I lost my 14 year old boxer it was sad but expected. She’d been with me through an entire relationship so while sad it was something we got by, when her son died in my arms at the age of 9 during a seizure caused by a brain tumour it was devastating. 3 years on it still is. They were with me through all the mates who went off and had kids. The friends who got into drugs and the friends who simply never returned but the dogs were always there. Some of these comments the OP is making would have landed him on his arse had he made them to me during the time I lost my two. They were my kids and my support. It still sucks that I can’t come home from work and see someone happy to see me. Damn sure I haven’t had that from a human Absolutely get that mate . Sorry for your loss " Cheers bud | |||
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"When I lost my Labrador almost ten years ago now, I hadn’t felt a heart ache like that. I couldn’t look at other dogs especially labradors for a long time after because it made me sad I’ve not had a dog since " You should get another dog and give it a happy life the way you gave your first dog. | |||
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"Is the loss of a pet the same as a loss of a human" I would say so there has been a study recently that said that it’s just as traumatic an event as losing a loved one. In my opinion I think it is more than the same I have dog and the attachment we both have is incredible I have raised him from a puppy and he has shown me how animals are far great beings than humans the love and unconditional love they give back is incredible. | |||
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"Often a pet can hit harder for a few reasons OP. Firstly they a companion for sometimes the whole of their lives. They rely and depend on their owner and in return give unconditional love. Unlike hoomans who for all our efforts are naturally complicated. Secondly pets can sense when we are feeling low and are there throughout those hard times without question. They never try to fix things or even ask us to talk about it. Just cuddles and the occasional lick on the face. Isn’t that what most of us want? " | |||
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"I love cats and dogs. I have lost many cats to the road, injuries from fighting and sadly killed by other people. I always get a new cat from the local cat home where I visit to feed, speak too and read a book with them. I provide funding to the home where I can as they do a wonderful job re-homing cats who (after lockdown) have been dumped. I build a close connection to any cat I take in. I give them lots of attention, a place in the house that is just for them and quality food.play fight regular and in return I get a lot of love back and a cat waiting on the doorstep for when I return. Losing a cat for me is terrible they are part of the family. It takes me a few days then I go back to the cat home and look at the available cats. I feel I have to introduce a new cat fairly quickly so I can move on. New cat bed, new food bowls etc and start building a new relationship. Animals are important and we must always show them love care and that they matter because they do support us without question. " Not a cat lady..A cat man. well done fella what a good hearted gent. 16 years 3 days apart with my dog, how could it not effect anyone. | |||
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"Just to add, I worked with animals for many years and developed some very strong bonds with some of them. Even trying to maintain a professional distance, it was inevitable, and felt the loss of each keenly. But there was one that was special, and I still miss him." They read emotional stability and have real intelligence, mine brought my t.v buttons. | |||
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"I have always said if someone did something to my dog I would go full John wick. " Serious then | |||
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"I will be heartbroken when i lose my golden retriever. He is 14 and my soulmate. Bonds with pets can be as strong as bonds with humans." No doubt about. | |||
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"* Must bite tongue * I can’t, sorry. OP, you have obviously never had a close bond with an animal and therefore cannot understand how close and reciprocal the relationship with a pet can be. I would hazard a guess that this is because animals are excellent at reading people and have probably ascertained that you are an arsehole. Great reply x " perfectly reply | |||
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"When I lost my Labrador almost ten years ago now, I hadn’t felt a heart ache like that. I couldn’t look at other dogs especially labradors for a long time after because it made me sad I’ve not had a dog since You should get another dog and give it a happy life the way you gave your first dog." I have thought about it maybe one day | |||
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"Always have to laugh when you get someone pop up like this OP. You judge everyone after you asked for there opinion. No one judged you for sitting in your car wearing ladies knickers did they? No one has queried why your profile seems to be suggesting it's a couples one when it's only you listed. What's wrong OP, did that lady run off with your pet and left you all alone and bitter? Cockwomble at it's finest you are, have a good day! " Haha | |||
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"Always have to laugh when you get someone pop up like this OP. You judge everyone after you asked for there opinion. No one judged you for sitting in your car wearing ladies knickers did they? No one has queried why your profile seems to be suggesting it's a couples one when it's only you listed. What's wrong OP, did that lady run off with your pet and left you all alone and bitter? Cockwomble at it's finest you are, have a good day! " I hadn’t thought to look at his profile. I think you are right, the woman he wants to have sex with has lost a pet and now he isn’t getting any. | |||
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"I was equally as upset if not more when Pooch went a few months ago . Wether that's a general thing or just me I don't know. Buy yes for me it was just as bad more upset when you're dog died ! How silly" Ok carlo, (clearly there is no Sue) who the fuck are you to say how silly! You asked for opinions and then you take the piss out of people, sad pathetic man!! 1yr tomorrow I lost my rottie and I can tell you now I preferred him to most humans!! I'll tell you what's silly, you using a single person profile pretending to be a couple when all your veris state meeting the man .. | |||
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"I've cried at the loss of every one of my dogs, and over a few that passed through the rescue that I volunteered for...I've yet to cry over the death of a human. Does it hurt more or less? I don't know. It hurts differently. But I love my dogs differently to how I love humans...there aren't many humans that I'd protect with the ferocity that I would protect my dog. " Well said! I thought the process of my dog passing to be extremely traumatic… to be fair | |||
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"Surely the love of man and the love of mans best friend are totally different? But equally as traumatic to lose " yes thats true. but i think with some people man and women they can decide not to seek company in another human so prefer pets. many single women i know have dogs, they out walking them some every carrying them like a handbag. some just get to a point in life that will do for them. i do get a lot of pleasure visiting the cat home and sitting down with a book reading to the cats. some may think this is crazy behaviour, it maybe. but you should see them all rush to be first to get the lap or best position. they all lay around sometimes looking up at you and its great. its no wonder cat cafes are popular places with many having to be booked in advance | |||
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