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Is it still looks over personality?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Me and my mate discussing this I've always said it's All About Personality forget about the looks if someone has got a good personality and you get on with that person that's all that matters when I was younger it was all about they look good they look fit I want to bang them maybe that's where I went wrong in my younger years

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If it's just a shag why do they need a personality?

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By *ablo minibar123Woman
over a year ago

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Surely it's got to be a mixture of both. I couldn't fuck someone I didn't find at least a bit attractive nowadays, but then again the guy I found most attractive I couldn't fuck as we had no spark.

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By *onb21Woman
over a year ago

Cardiff

One doesn't work without the other but both are wholly subjective and sometimes undefinable.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I need both.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I still think that there's got to be a spark there before you start taking your outfit off of someone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Both in a way. Got to have a bit of attraction but personality goes a long way for me and manners!

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By *ily WhiteWoman
over a year ago

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It's both...but on here it's unlikely that I'm going to find out what their personality is like unless I find them attractive in the first place.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Got to be both, bit its hard getting across a witty personality online at times. Humour can be lost in the written word.

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By *inky Biscuit DunkerMan
over a year ago

Gloucestershire

A ‘date’ with a stunning lady but with zero personality

Really doesn’t work for me. I love a good old laugh and a natter

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Initially yes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mixture of both to be FWB x but for just a shag, then looks would just do

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By *riar BelisseWoman
over a year ago

On Holibobs

Yes... if I don't fancy him it's instant friend zone

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By *.R.MMan
over a year ago

Norfolk

A bit of both

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By *ancer36Woman
over a year ago

Stirling

There’s got to be an attraction for me to fancy someone and want to take anything further, a great personality is definitely helpful but if that’s all that’s there it would be a platonic thing. I like the full package x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Looks are important, yes I said it...

When you meet someone you have to have a certain something that lures the other person in.

Once initial observations have been made though you need character, personality and usually a soh to help build the connection.

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By *hat BlokeMan
over a year ago

Harrogate

Either or arguments are useless in the context of what will make you want to engage with someone. Initial attraction is physical, followed up by an assessment of personality. If both are not there in sufficient quantity, there will be no spark.

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By *uzz And WoodyCouple
over a year ago

Maidstone


"One doesn't work without the other but both are wholly subjective and sometimes undefinable."

Exactly this. Initially it has to be looks but there needs to be a personality too for any longevity or any chance of fun.

Ed

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By *2000ManMan
over a year ago

Worthing

Women swipe right on 5% of men as an example which applies on most forums and apps!

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By *eah BabyCouple
over a year ago

Cheshire, Windermere ,Cumbria

Needs to be both, those that I physically find attractive can fall flat if their personality doesn’t shine, so it would be game over

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The attraction comes first before you get a chance to know the personality. But for me, I can only become attracted if they have the personality to match. A beautiful person can become ugly very quickly if they are a horrible person.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

It is never just a shag for me. The conversation and texting for me is as important if not more so than the sex. It's working well for me so far.

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By *arty84Man
over a year ago

Orpington

If it's just a one night thing then yeah looks are the way to go.

But for anything more than a one time thing, then yeah it's mostly personality for me.

There does need to be a bit of an attraction, but some of the best times for me personally where with someone I connected with on a mental level.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends on what I am looking for and what they looking for in witch way the scales tip

If it’s just out and out one night bang then looks take presdint

If your looking for a fb or fwb then I let the looks slide a little in favour off some personality

If your looking for a full on realship then it’s even more in the personality than looks department

And if your looking for a realship and to share me with others then that’s way on the personality side

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By *affron40Woman
over a year ago

manchester

Welcome back

It’s got to be a combination of both in that the face must attract, but the personality is what keeps me interested.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personality is what I look for, looks are only skin deep.

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By *tue555Man
over a year ago

Passed Beyond Reach

If is always looks first - nobody says Oh wow what a personality on that one. If you have a great personality or not it will be looks that make the first move - that is different for different people

It will always be looks that is a constant

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By *elshkinkyMan
over a year ago

south wales

Surely it depends on the situation… if it’s to satisfy a need for you both then physical attraction will be more important… if it’s going to be more long term then of course you need to be attracted to both elements

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’ll be 9 out of 10 times that a face pic or a smile that attracts me over a body pic… but once I’m chatting it’s personality and connection that decides if it’s taken any further. I’ve chatted to lots of people in life and on here and made some wonderful connections with a few ladies.

Some have been amazing partners and some are still. And some drift away to sail their own path but are true close friends.

By it’s always come from their personality that it became what it was

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

After initial attraction (for me face then body) it is definitely the personality that keeps me there. Or not as the case may be.

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

Like most who have posted, I need both. I wouldn't meet someone I wasn't attracted to, unless it was just for a cuppa and a chat,if we got on.

Equally, I wouldn't meet someone who was hot but dull.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve said it numerous times, you don’t look at her personality when you’re up to your knackers in her

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

I bloody hope not - I'll never find myself a delightful lady.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

100% looks. I’m not wanting a relationship

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


"Me and my mate discussing this I've always said it's All About Personality forget about the looks if someone has got a good personality and you get on with that person that's all that matters when I was younger it was all about they look good they look fit I want to bang them maybe that's where I went wrong in my younger years "

Attraction can come in many ways for me, and others will know what I mean when I say 'that spark', but I can't just fuck someone simply because they're there, and available. No 'posh wanks' for me

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Lanzarote

Attraction comes in many forms. I am attracted to someones manner and confidence. They do not need to be super handsome but they need to have that certain something about them.

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland


"Attraction comes in many forms. I am attracted to someones manner and confidence. They do not need to be super handsome but they need to have that certain something about them."

Perfectly put!

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough


"Attraction comes in many forms. I am attracted to someones manner and confidence. They do not need to be super handsome but they need to have that certain something about them."

When scientists have found out what my 'certain something' is then I may be a happy man.

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