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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

What the title says.

Curious to know what people like/dislike, and what would you like your ideal first message to be?

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By *iss LovelyWoman
over a year ago

Here and There

I check to see that they’ve read my profile, then I check to see if I find them attractive.

I don’t like a message to be too long. It feels unnatural. A ‘hi, I really like your profile, I think we’d get on’ from someone who clearly meets what I’m looking for as stated in my bio is perfect. Anything vulgar or too ‘try hard’ puts me off

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By *gent CoulsonMan
over a year ago

Secret hideaway in the pennines

"I check to see that they’ve read my profile, then I check to see if I find them attractive.

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By *iss LovelyWoman
over a year ago

Here and There

"I check to see that they’ve read my profile, then I check to see if I find them attractive.

Yeah I’m not meeting at the moment. I don’t want any messages at all. But when I was, that was how I did things.

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By *ustustwo.1965Couple
over a year ago

"What the title says.

Curious to know what people like/dislike, and what would you like your ideal first message to be?"

We always like our first message to be from a couple

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By *xanderMan
over a year ago

around here

I always message "Hi im (real name) would you like to chat?" always include a face poc too. Takes all of 5 mins before its deleted. No idea what ladies on here want.

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By *ynda1978Woman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Liverpool

"I check to see that they’ve read my profile, then I check to see if I find them attractive.

I totally agree with you on this!!

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By *uke OzadeMan
over a year ago

Ho Chi Minge City

"What the title says.

Curious to know what people like/dislike, and what would you like your ideal first message to be?"

I like receiving ones that say “Hot chick with fabulous norks seeks intimate liaisons with your penis”

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By *inkylipsWoman
over a year ago

Debauchery

Well In the last couple of days I’ve had “c**t” and “didn’t like the jungle then” and a few moths ago “monkey” inside that was monkey features.

I don’t like those so much and it’s from people I’ve never spoken to before who are photo verified and have membership. I would prefer the “I want to sniff your ass” that I used to get.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What the title says.

Curious to know what people like/dislike, and what would you like your ideal first message to be?"

Generally I prefer more than a word or sentence with a genuine interest to talk. Doesn’t have to be war and peace or tones of back and forth messages but even with a couple of shared questions and answers shows both parties are genuinely interested and you can at least get an idea of who your talking to.

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By *elinefineWoman
over a year ago

kempston

Little bit of humour. More than just “hi, can we talk.” No dick pics. Don’t call me babe or hun. Don’t graphically tell me what you want to do to me... And read my profile!!

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By *ld StrumpetWoman
over a year ago

Telford

I prefer some kind of thought and that doesn’t need to be paragraphs. Just simple plain greeting as if you was stood in front of me.

Messages like hey sexy what you up to…me.. it’s half five in the morning flower I’m guessing not much.

Stuff like .. Irish in London. Errr I’m literally nowhere near you.

Then the usual openers … wanna empty my balls… your tits look big.. can you sit on my face .

But among them all there are some awesome messages snd really nice people here… just gotta kiss a lot of frogs to find them lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A message that is more than one line usually helps, along with a good bio and attractive pictures

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By *inky Biscuit DunkerMan
over a year ago

Gloucestershire

I always like a bit of humour when being sent a message. Probably because it’s the type of message I tend to send too.

Offers of tea or food also a bonus

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

"What the title says.

Curious to know what people like/dislike, and what would you like your ideal first message to be?"

Start with "Hello" and use our names. They are right there on our profile. How many times do you start a conversation with somebody you have never met before and not even say hello or introduce yourself in any way? It seems to be standard here and I don't know why.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Humour is always a win for me or something that shows a little personality

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't mind me here in the corner, just taking notes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I always message "Hi im (real name) would you like to chat?" always include a face poc too. Takes all of 5 mins before its deleted. No idea what ladies on here want."

I find "hi would you like to chat" really awkward as an intro message. I can see why you might write it but it goes nowhere. And I get asked it all the time as I imagine most women do. A more open message might be - "we live near each other, have you been to any events around here? Would you recommend any?".

I am invariably really suspicious of "wanna chat" because if I say yes a) it's then "ok what do you want to chat about?"

OR b) so how're you or c) love your tits.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I loved the advice from a couple recently to use quirky subject lines to stand out eg "Important! Lemon drizzle or Carrot?"

I've only received one Limerick hand written for me on here. Still chatting to him!

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By *iss LovelyWoman
over a year ago

Here and There

"What the title says.

Curious to know what people like/dislike, and what would you like your ideal first message to be?

I like receiving ones that say “Hot chick with fabulous norks seeks intimate liaisons with your penis”"

Ha ha ha. That would be an excellent message.

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By *iss LovelyWoman
over a year ago

Here and There

"I always message "Hi im (real name) would you like to chat?" always include a face poc too. Takes all of 5 mins before its deleted. No idea what ladies on here want."

Not everyone you message will be attracted to your profile. Are you targeting people who’s profiles suggest that you’d be their type?

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By *ittyandtheboyCouple
over a year ago

Back of the bins.

"What the title says.

Curious to know what people like/dislike, and what would you like your ideal first message to be?"

Demonstration that they’ve read some of our profile. A little bit of humour and thought in the message.

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By *iss LovelyWoman
over a year ago

Here and There

"I loved the advice from a couple recently to use quirky subject lines to stand out eg "Important! Lemon drizzle or Carrot?"

I've only received one Limerick hand written for me on here. Still chatting to him! "

I find it fascinating how different people like different things, if I receive any of those type of messages I’d delete them. I’d delete the cake one without even opening it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I loved the advice from a couple recently to use quirky subject lines to stand out eg "Important! Lemon drizzle or Carrot?"

I've only received one Limerick hand written for me on here. Still chatting to him!

I find it fascinating how different people like different things, if I receive any of those type of messages I’d delete them. I’d delete the cake one without even opening it. "

It wouldn't have to be about cake! Just something that isn't Hi, Wow or How's you. I'm so sick of them. I'd be crap at writing intro messages wouldn't I? Lucky I have boobs.

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By *onb21Woman
over a year ago

Cardiff

"Well In the last couple of days I’ve had “c**t” and “didn’t like the jungle then” and a few moths ago “monkey” inside that was monkey features.

I don’t like those so much and it’s from people I’ve never spoken to before who are photo verified and have membership. I would prefer the “I want to sniff your ass” that I used to get."

Utterly disgusting. I'm sorry that you have to deal with shit like that.

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By *iss LovelyWoman
over a year ago

Here and There

"I loved the advice from a couple recently to use quirky subject lines to stand out eg "Important! Lemon drizzle or Carrot?"

I've only received one Limerick hand written for me on here. Still chatting to him!

I find it fascinating how different people like different things, if I receive any of those type of messages I’d delete them. I’d delete the cake one without even opening it.

It wouldn't have to be about cake! Just something that isn't Hi, Wow or How's you. I'm so sick of them. I'd be crap at writing intro messages wouldn't I? Lucky I have boobs.

Anything novelty is generally a turn off for me.

Those how’s you messages are so dull aren’t they? At first I didn’t mind and would reply if the guy was hot, but the conversation was always dead and lead straight into something vulgar. No one can message me now, I got so sick of the rubbish ones it’s put me off for a while.

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By *rivervaderMan
over a year ago

bolton

Not got a clue tried assorts and still don’t get a reply

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Takes all of 5 mins before its deleted. No idea what ladies on here want."

100% with you on this one. Utterly frustrating. I send a tailored message after reading their profile, show interest in them, am always polite and respectful, including a face pic if they have one in their profile.

I'd say 9 times out of 10, it's either ignored, deleted after being read, or deleted without being read. Not that I'd lower my own standards, but I may just as well be a rude, disrespectful twat.

I'm an okay looking guy (no oil painting) but can pull attractive women. I look at their verifications and see some of the men they've been with and can't help but think think "you've hit the jackpot with me love"

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

If I am looking, then its normal conversation and I'll give it two days for it to naturally fizzle out when they realise I don't want to talk only about sex, sifting through the instant gratification/only want online shenanigans takes time and makes women extra cautious, sometimes it is just easier to mass delete the inbox which does make it difficult for the genuine to shine through, but they do get there as they just try harder

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By *urls and DressesWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere near here

I like when someone has read my profile and refer to it in their message with genuine interest. I really don’t like being called sexy so that’s usually an instant no. Same as details of what they’d like to do to me, dick pics, “wanna chat” or just boringness

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't like crude, being called hun, babe or similar.

More than hi is good too.

A line or two and if they mention something on my profile then it's a good start.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Takes all of 5 mins before its deleted. No idea what ladies on here want.

I'd say 9 times out of 10, it's either ignored, deleted after being read, or deleted without being read. Not that I'd lower my own standards, but I may just as well be a rude, disrespectful twat.

I haven't looked at your profile but your username might be part of the reason women don't reply. I imagine this post won't help your chances.

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

"Well In the last couple of days I’ve had “c**t” and “didn’t like the jungle then” and a few moths ago “monkey” inside that was monkey features.

I don’t like those so much and it’s from people I’ve never spoken to before who are photo verified and have membership. I would prefer the “I want to sniff your ass” that I used to get."

That's pretty shitty and real sad state of affairs.

I hope you're ok x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well In the last couple of days I’ve had “c**t” and “didn’t like the jungle then” and a few moths ago “monkey” inside that was monkey features.

I don’t like those so much and it’s from people I’ve never spoken to before who are photo verified and have membership. I would prefer the “I want to sniff your ass” that I used to get."

Anyone who sends those should be reported and instantly banned from site. Appalling and disgusting.

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

"Well In the last couple of days I’ve had “c**t” and “didn’t like the jungle then” and a few moths ago “monkey” inside that was monkey features.

I don’t like those so much and it’s from people I’ve never spoken to before who are photo verified and have membership. I would prefer the “I want to sniff your ass” that I used to get.

Anyone who sends those should be reported and instantly banned from site. Appalling and disgusting.

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

We like to see that a little bit of thought has gone into the message. Respectful never vulgar (a random person being suggestive or sending cock pics is not attractive).

We’ll then check pics and if mostly cock pics we’ll delete as we clearly aren’t going to connect.

We respond to all messages if they are polite and respectful but just delete the one liners or vulgar type messages.

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By *aughtynottsCouple
over a year ago

Outside Nottingham

I like a personalised not copy and pasted well written message with a face picture attached from a single guy that’s actually read our profile.

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By *inkylipsWoman
over a year ago

Debauchery

"Well In the last couple of days I’ve had “c**t” and “didn’t like the jungle then” and a few moths ago “monkey” inside that was monkey features.

I don’t like those so much and it’s from people I’ve never spoken to before who are photo verified and have membership. I would prefer the “I want to sniff your ass” that I used to get.

Utterly disgusting. I'm sorry that you have to deal with shit like that."

It is yes. Just people who just like to be nasty and find a target

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By *inkylipsWoman
over a year ago

Debauchery

"Well In the last couple of days I’ve had “c**t” and “didn’t like the jungle then” and a few moths ago “monkey” inside that was monkey features.

I don’t like those so much and it’s from people I’ve never spoken to before who are photo verified and have membership. I would prefer the “I want to sniff your ass” that I used to get.

That's pretty shitty and real sad state of affairs.

I hope you're ok x"

It is yes and not even done from the place of rejection just some randoms.

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By *inkylipsWoman
over a year ago

Debauchery

"Well In the last couple of days I’ve had “c**t” and “didn’t like the jungle then” and a few moths ago “monkey” inside that was monkey features.

I don’t like those so much and it’s from people I’ve never spoken to before who are photo verified and have membership. I would prefer the “I want to sniff your ass” that I used to get.

Anyone who sends those should be reported and instantly banned from site. Appalling and disgusting.

I did, the last guy was still in on here last night, not sure if he still is

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By *ainbowCheesecakeCouple
over a year ago

Northampton

one or two sentences with a little thought and speaking to both of us. Hubby loves responding to those that only want to speak to me, then really for us its more of a list of how to turn us off that ensures whether we respond or not.

The words Heavy cummer instantly gets a delete from us. Its not even the fact that you do, its just those words give me the ick.

telling us what youd do to the wife is a delete.

messages from single guys inviting us to a foursome with their friend.

and finally the real creep who when we blocked him after 10 messages from him without us responding then messaged us from another account with 'we can all block people'

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

"Well In the last couple of days I’ve had “c**t” and “didn’t like the jungle then” and a few moths ago “monkey” inside that was monkey features.

I don’t like those so much and it’s from people I’ve never spoken to before who are photo verified and have membership. I would prefer the “I want to sniff your ass” that I used to get.

That's pretty shitty and real sad state of affairs.

I hope you're ok x

It is yes and not even done from the place of rejection just some randoms."

Rejection or not it's bang out of order.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Takes all of 5 mins before its deleted. No idea what ladies on here want.

I'd say 9 times out of 10, it's either ignored, deleted after being read, or deleted without being read. Not that I'd lower my own standards, but I may just as well be a rude, disrespectful twat.

It’s pretty unreasonable to make a comment on other people they’ve been with. You don’t know what their type is. I don’t think comments like that will help your case.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well In the last couple of days I’ve had “c**t” and “didn’t like the jungle then” and a few moths ago “monkey” inside that was monkey features.

I don’t like those so much and it’s from people I’ve never spoken to before who are photo verified and have membership. I would prefer the “I want to sniff your ass” that I used to get.

Anyone who sends those should be reported and instantly banned from site. Appalling and disgusting.

I did, the last guy was still in on here last night, not sure if he still is "

I’m so sorry, you should not have to hear that kind of abuse. It’s utterly disgusting.

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

I always check a profile first, so if it's from a basic profile, no pics/txt, it's a delete whatever it says.

First message should be polite as in not crude when we've never spoken and with a bit of effort made. I don't need an essay, as a post said yesterday.

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By *ainbowCheesecakeCouple
over a year ago

Northampton

"Takes all of 5 mins before its deleted. No idea what ladies on here want.

I'd say 9 times out of 10, it's either ignored, deleted after being read, or deleted without being read. Not that I'd lower my own standards, but I may just as well be a rude, disrespectful twat.

It’s pretty unreasonable to make a comment on other people they’ve been with. You don’t know what their type is. I don’t think comments like that will help your case. "

so agree with this! I know our type isnt the same as alot of others, it takes all sorts, if I found that comment from someone it would be an instant no from me, everyone on here has their market somewhere. If you arent someones type so what? you arent automatically someones jackpot because you think you are more attractive.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Takes all of 5 mins before its deleted. No idea what ladies on here want.

I'd say 9 times out of 10, it's either ignored, deleted after being read, or deleted without being read. Not that I'd lower my own standards, but I may just as well be a rude, disrespectful twat.

It’s pretty unreasonable to make a comment on other people they’ve been with. You don’t know what their type is. I don’t think comments like that will help your case. "

Exactly

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

Something that stops me in my tracks and makes me want to know more. Quite like direct , this is me , this is what I’m like and what I want etc. Something a little different and interesting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good grammar, shows intelligence.

Will reply to "Hi!" but the second message needs to be coherent. Also some indication that my profile has been read. "Want to suck your cock", means they have not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Usually a nice compliment and some interesting fact that they have read in my bio that they agree with/like or appreciate. Something funny to and I love confidence xx

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By *inkylipsWoman
over a year ago

Debauchery

"Well In the last couple of days I’ve had “c**t” and “didn’t like the jungle then” and a few moths ago “monkey” inside that was monkey features.

I don’t like those so much and it’s from people I’ve never spoken to before who are photo verified and have membership. I would prefer the “I want to sniff your ass” that I used to get.

Anyone who sends those should be reported and instantly banned from site. Appalling and disgusting.

I did, the last guy was still in on here last night, not sure if he still is

I’m so sorry, you should not have to hear that kind of abuse. It’s utterly disgusting."

Seems they are out of the closet lately

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By *hesblokeMan
over a year ago

Derbyshire village

"Well In the last couple of days I’ve had “c**t” and “didn’t like the jungle then” and a few moths ago “monkey” inside that was monkey features.

I don’t like those so much and it’s from people I’ve never spoken to before who are photo verified and have membership. I would prefer the “I want to sniff your ass” that I used to get."

Holy crap.

I can't fathom what goes on in some people's minds.

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By *inkylipsWoman
over a year ago

Debauchery

"Well In the last couple of days I’ve had “c**t” and “didn’t like the jungle then” and a few moths ago “monkey” inside that was monkey features.

I don’t like those so much and it’s from people I’ve never spoken to before who are photo verified and have membership. I would prefer the “I want to sniff your ass” that I used to get.

Holy crap.

I can't fathom what goes on in some people's minds."

Me either

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

"Well In the last couple of days I’ve had “c**t” and “didn’t like the jungle then” and a few moths ago “monkey” inside that was monkey features.

I don’t like those so much and it’s from people I’ve never spoken to before who are photo verified and have membership. I would prefer the “I want to sniff your ass” that I used to get.

Anyone who sends those should be reported and instantly banned from site. Appalling and disgusting.

I did, the last guy was still in on here last night, not sure if he still is "

So sorry you've had this,

It should be zero tolerance with any crap like that x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well In the last couple of days I’ve had “c**t” and “didn’t like the jungle then” and a few moths ago “monkey” inside that was monkey features.

I don’t like those so much and it’s from people I’ve never spoken to before who are photo verified and have membership. I would prefer the “I want to sniff your ass” that I used to get."

This site really attracts the pond scum of humanity. Report any racist and they get kicked off and lose their subscription.

On a more upbeat note, I'm sure your arse is very sniffable;-p

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By *eah BabyCouple
over a year ago

Cheshire, Windermere ,Cumbria

A message that shows the persons read our profile, something with humour also helps and a message that doesn’t feel like it’s been sent to half of Fab in the last hour

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well In the last couple of days I’ve had “c**t” and “didn’t like the jungle then” and a few moths ago “monkey” inside that was monkey features.

I don’t like those so much and it’s from people I’ve never spoken to before who are photo verified and have membership. I would prefer the “I want to sniff your ass” that I used to get.

That's pretty shitty and real sad state of affairs.

I hope you're ok x

It is yes and not even done from the place of rejection just some randoms."
this fucking sucks. Genuinely raging here so can't imagine how it feels to be on the end of this. (angry)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Question for the ladies, would 'your surname must be Gillette cuz you're the best a man can get' work?

No?

Ok *returns to darkened corner*

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

Something that shows you read my profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My hints are to only send messages when someone is online. Have a fun subject. And make the first line look like it's not another generic message.

Bonus hint: if you are doing a copy and paste (not recommended in general) don't hit a profile and send immediately. Gives the game away. But really, don't send out generic messages. Tis obvious.

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By *aoulDuke1Man
over a year ago

Bristol

"Well In the last couple of days I’ve had “c**t” and “didn’t like the jungle then” and a few moths ago “monkey” inside that was monkey features."

That is utterly disgusting, and I hope their lives are as miserable as they deserve to be.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like to engage after my intro with an open ended question. This encourages a response and opens up a convo starter which leads to other convos. An example would be.

Hi, chris here from colwick in nottingham. I see we live quite close and i really like your profile and think we would connect well. So, what are the top 3 things you look for in a play partner? Mine are...

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By *rivervaderMan
over a year ago

bolton

"A message that shows the persons read our profile, something with humour also helps and a message that doesn’t feel like it’s been sent to half of Fab in the last hour

Read your profile and seen your pics I’ve no chance lol

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By *rivervaderMan
over a year ago

bolton

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By *ncemoreroundthesunCouple
over a year ago

on the move

Evidence that they've read our profile.

Then it's extra points for grammar, no text speak, intelligence and intriguing

Also longer than "hi lol".

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By *inkylipsWoman
over a year ago

Debauchery

"Well In the last couple of days I’ve had “c**t” and “didn’t like the jungle then” and a few moths ago “monkey” inside that was monkey features.

I don’t like those so much and it’s from people I’ve never spoken to before who are photo verified and have membership. I would prefer the “I want to sniff your ass” that I used to get.

Anyone who sends those should be reported and instantly banned from site. Appalling and disgusting.

I did, the last guy was still in on here last night, not sure if he still is

So sorry you've had this,

It should be zero tolerance with any crap like that x"

Some people just kind pass people by without being mean

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By *inkylipsWoman
over a year ago

Debauchery

"Well In the last couple of days I’ve had “c**t” and “didn’t like the jungle then” and a few moths ago “monkey” inside that was monkey features.

I don’t like those so much and it’s from people I’ve never spoken to before who are photo verified and have membership. I would prefer the “I want to sniff your ass” that I used to get.

This site really attracts the pond scum of humanity. Report any racist and they get kicked off and lose their subscription.

On a more upbeat note, I'm sure your arse is very sniffable;-p "

It’s does and I seem to attract them like a

Magnet.

Hahaha this did really make me laugh

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By *inkylipsWoman
over a year ago

Debauchery

"Well In the last couple of days I’ve had “c**t” and “didn’t like the jungle then” and a few moths ago “monkey” inside that was monkey features.

I don’t like those so much and it’s from people I’ve never spoken to before who are photo verified and have membership. I would prefer the “I want to sniff your ass” that I used to get.

That's pretty shitty and real sad state of affairs.

I hope you're ok x

It is yes and not even done from the place of rejection just some randoms.this fucking sucks. Genuinely raging here so can't imagine how it feels to be on the end of this. (angry) "

It’s starting to be more frequent. What gets to me more is it’s just randoms who have never messaged me before. I could understand if I had not read his message or deleted it straight away and he was being an ass

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well In the last couple of days I’ve had “c**t” and “didn’t like the jungle then” and a few moths ago “monkey” inside that was monkey features.

I don’t like those so much and it’s from people I’ve never spoken to before who are photo verified and have membership. I would prefer the “I want to sniff your ass” that I used to get."

That is horrendous and it’s not nice to read at my end so I can only imagine how angry and upset you must feel… I am glad I’ve read in your status it looks like he’s been removed… behaviour like ha no place anywhere, and I hope you’re ok.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well In the last couple of days I’ve had “c**t” and “didn’t like the jungle then” and a few moths ago “monkey” inside that was monkey features.

I don’t like those so much and it’s from people I’ve never spoken to before who are photo verified and have membership. I would prefer the “I want to sniff your ass” that I used to get.

That's pretty shitty and real sad state of affairs.

I hope you're ok x

It is yes and not even done from the place of rejection just some randoms.this fucking sucks. Genuinely raging here so can't imagine how it feels to be on the end of this. (angry)

Ah you've gotta love a keyboard warrior, they must have really sad lives

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By *uliette500Woman
over a year ago

Hull

Say more than just "Hi" or "how are you"

Also no pet names....I'm not your sweetheart or darling etc.

Show you've read my profile. It tells you what I don't like as well as what I do.

I say I don't do phone sex or kik etc but so many first messages ask for thses things. It's a clear indication you didn't even look further than my photos.

Be polite don't ask for a meet or sex in a first message.

Oh and I don't want to see your cock in my first messages either.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

This thread was actually very informative. Thank you to those who took their time out to reply. And I hope it helped some of the guys there to better curate their openers in the future

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By *ettaManMan
over a year ago

Kerry and Dublin

Bookmarking

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By *oubleswing2019Man
over a year ago

Colchester

A well-considered and written introduction.

Grammatically correct, properly punctuated, eloquent and thoughtful.

Informative. Even a little tantalising.

The longer the better.

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By *uietly_KinkyMan
over a year ago

High Wycombe

The sender not berating me for my personal limitations is a good start.

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By *udeSpaLoverMan
over a year ago

Sheffield

I've tried everything. Pleasant intro with just face pic; naughty and playful with naughty pics; telling a joke which even if they don't find funny at least shows I have a sense of humour; invitation to specific event or hotel room; comments on their profile or asking questions to show interest.

Nothing generated a better response rate or even read message rate. So it's impossible to know what to write really!

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By *udeSpaLoverMan
over a year ago

Sheffield

"Say more than just "Hi" or "how are you"

Also no pet names....I'm not your sweetheart or darling etc.

Show you've read my profile. It tells you what I don't like as well as what I do.

I say I don't do phone sex or kik etc but so many first messages ask for thses things. It's a clear indication you didn't even look further than my photos.

Be polite don't ask for a meet or sex in a first message.

Oh and I don't want to see your cock in my first messages either. "

Don't really get this, loads of people have cock or pussy pics on their profile anyway - attaching to a message just saves you time looking for the photos. It's like saying I don't want to see pics of your body before I message you...but then how do we know if we like what's on offer or not? I think it's important to show the merchandise, because a good message by itself won't get anywhere if the receiver ultimately doesn't like your body or looks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm absolutely useless at 1st messages I'll admit it, I do read profiles check we match what we're looking for, but when it comes to writing the message brain freeze takes over, the joys of being a little socially awkward.

Mrs

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By *mily36CWoman
over a year ago

Beds (or anywhere beginning with B..!?)

"What the title says.

Curious to know what people like/dislike, and what would you like your ideal first message to be?"

I message first as everyone is blocked... so what would you prefer your first message you get to say OP.?

(speaking hypothetically

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By *agpie and RavenMan
over a year ago

Leicester

"What the title says.

Curious to know what people like/dislike, and what would you like your ideal first message to be?"

Title: We really like your profile.

First message: Hi Jane and Frank, we've looked at your profile and really like what we see. We've attached body and face pics of the both of us and if you like what you see then please get back to us . . . Thanks (Insert names here)

We'll then wait til the other is home to open the message, discuss, and respond with a nay or continue the correspondence.

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By *agpie and RavenMan
over a year ago

Leicester

"Well In the last couple of days I’ve had “c**t” and “didn’t like the jungle then” and a few moths ago “monkey” inside that was monkey features.

I don’t like those so much and it’s from people I’ve never spoken to before who are photo verified and have membership. I would prefer the “I want to sniff your ass” that I used to get."

Sorry to read this. Surprisingly, and I don't want to tempt fate, but we've yet to recieve a message of this type. If/when we do I really hope they don't block us after they've posted the message

Frank

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By *agpie and RavenMan
over a year ago

Leicester

"Takes all of 5 mins before its deleted. No idea what ladies on here want.

I'd say 9 times out of 10, it's either ignored, deleted after being read, or deleted without being read. Not that I'd lower my own standards, but I may just as well be a rude, disrespectful twat.

I haven't looked at your profile but your username might be part of the reason women don't reply. I imagine this post won't help your chances. "

To me his username indicates he plays bass in a jazz band. However, I can see other reasons why some would be put off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like to receive poetry in a first message.

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By *agpie and RavenMan
over a year ago

Leicester

"Say more than just "Hi" or "how are you"

Also no pet names....I'm not your sweetheart or darling etc.

Show you've read my profile. It tells you what I don't like as well as what I do.

I say I don't do phone sex or kik etc but so many first messages ask for thses things. It's a clear indication you didn't even look further than my photos.

Be polite don't ask for a meet or sex in a first message.

Oh and I don't want to see your cock in my first messages either.

Whilst I agree with you about showing the merchandise, all but one of your 15 pics shows your cock.

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By *agpie and RavenMan
over a year ago

Leicester

"I like to receive poetry in a first message. "

Roses are red

Violets are blue

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By *lovebustyladiesMan
over a year ago

Birmingham

Basically if somebody’s going to talk to you they will what’s in the profile makes diddley squat - some chats are like pulling teeth u get one word answers then after the 39th message u get what’s your name lol some people just like talking about themselves proved that numerous times -don’t be scared if they block you - somebody will reply and will get on like a house on fire if they actually want to know you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I like to receive poetry in a first message. "

Received a Limerick recently and still chatting with him.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Say more than just "Hi" or "how are you"

Also no pet names....I'm not your sweetheart or darling etc.

Show you've read my profile. It tells you what I don't like as well as what I do.

I say I don't do phone sex or kik etc but so many first messages ask for thses things. It's a clear indication you didn't even look further than my photos.

Be polite don't ask for a meet or sex in a first message.

Oh and I don't want to see your cock in my first messages either.

"The merchandise". You might see human interaction as some sort of meat market but not all of us do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A simple polite greeting with a face picture/pictures attached.

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By *pectressWoman
over a year ago

Midlothian

"I always message "Hi im (real name) would you like to chat?" always include a face poc too. Takes all of 5 mins before its deleted. No idea what ladies on here want."

That’s because it’s lazy and unoriginal

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By *pectressWoman
over a year ago

Midlothian

"A well-considered and written introduction.

Grammatically correct, properly punctuated, eloquent and thoughtful.

Informative. Even a little tantalising.

The longer the better.

This, with humour and showing you read my profile!

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By *inkylipsWoman
over a year ago

Debauchery

"Well In the last couple of days I’ve had “c**t” and “didn’t like the jungle then” and a few moths ago “monkey” inside that was monkey features.

I don’t like those so much and it’s from people I’ve never spoken to before who are photo verified and have membership. I would prefer the “I want to sniff your ass” that I used to get.

Sorry to read this. Surprisingly, and I don't want to tempt fate, but we've yet to recieve a message of this type. If/when we do I really hope they don't block us after they've posted the message

Frank"

I was on here 2 and a half years before I got my first one. I got the odd rude message but never racist one until now

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