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"Some men msg continuously... Like one after another...I don't understand how they don't get the hint. Persistence doesn't work...it actually speaks volumes of the type of person they are...they come across as needy & dramatic... " Exactly. Never in my life have I thought, ya know what, fuckit, I give up, you have persuaded me to do this thing I had no intention of doing. Your constant asking has changed my mind | |||
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"There is another side to the coin tho. Which is did the original message ever get read? " ^^^^^^^ This Very true...chances are it was never seen & automatically deleted | |||
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"I don’t mind a second message as I may have missed the first… But a 3rd, 4th, 5th etc is judging by my inbox, lots don’t respect it. My favourite line is “did I offend you” because I didn’t respond to their first message. I’m never sure if it’s genuine or if it’s to entice me to reply… either way it’s a huge turnoff and gets ignored." Exactly this | |||
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"Some men msg continuously... Like one after another...I don't understand how they don't get the hint. Persistence doesn't work...it actually speaks volumes of the type of person they are...they come across as needy & dramatic... " Totally! Like take the hint man!!! After 599 messages sent and basically not one acknowledged… how do they even think it’s a good idea to send the 600th? X urgh | |||
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"There is another side to the coin tho. Which is did the original message ever get read? " If the original message was not read it is not unreasonable to resend after a while on the grounds it was ignored. I always invite recipients to delete if they do not wish contact from me and then I make a private note not to contact them again, which I adhere to. | |||
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"Fab is a mixing pot of positive interactions, rejections and also being ignored/deleted. If someone deletes my message, ignores it or responds in either a positive or negative way I always try to be respectful. We’re all here looking for our own things, sometimes they align with other and sometimes they don’t. It’s just the nature of fab. " I agree with this. I don't message people anymore because I don't want rejection. | |||
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"I see a profile that attracts my attention and have a read through. Everything is looking nice and I appear to fit the bill or requirements for the persons needs/ wants. Okay let’s send them a quick message and see if we can start a ball rolling. Then it springs up. Warning you have already sent!! Now I have been on here a while and whilst I have a reasonable memory, if profile pics or names have changed… but that’s a side issue. My main question is, how many folk would ignore the warning message and continue to send. For the record I tend to respect it but I have sent a couple of messages once or twice." Don’t you see the message indicator at the top of the profile telling you when you messaged them, when they messaged you, winks, etc? That’s what we see. | |||
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"I see a profile that attracts my attention and have a read through. Everything is looking nice and I appear to fit the bill or requirements for the persons needs/ wants. Okay let’s send them a quick message and see if we can start a ball rolling. Then it springs up. Warning you have already sent!! Now I have been on here a while and whilst I have a reasonable memory, if profile pics or names have changed… but that’s a side issue. My main question is, how many folk would ignore the warning message and continue to send. For the record I tend to respect it but I have sent a couple of messages once or twice. Don’t you see the message indicator at the top of the profile telling you when you messaged them, when they messaged you, winks, etc? That’s what we see." Same! I see it. I dont message people again if ive contacted them and its gone nowhere. Whats the point?! | |||
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" Don’t you see the message indicator at the top of the profile telling you when you messaged them, when they messaged you, winks, etc? That’s what we see." You only get that with site supporter access, so if you've let it lapse or never bothered then you don't get that extra bit of useful information. | |||
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"Some men msg continuously... Like one after another...I don't understand how they don't get the hint. Persistence doesn't work...it actually speaks volumes of the type of person they are...they come across as needy & dramatic... " I've said before there needs to be a time limit after one message, say 24hrs before can send again unless there's a reply. Stops the repeat sender's sending 10 messages in half an hour and clogging up your inbox from us who just send the one | |||
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