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"Just to check...are you saying that your mental health is being affected because nobody will have sex with you?" Has he said that? No | |||
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"Just to check...are you saying that your mental health is being affected because nobody will have sex with you?" I didn't read the OP's comments that way. It was more a general concern about how people can be dismissive and brutal to other people on here. Though that's a fact for much of social media. However, the OP is a man. Women get a lot more abuse... | |||
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"Just to check...are you saying that your mental health is being affected because nobody will have sex with you?" No jeeze, I don't think he actually said that | |||
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"Just to check...are you saying that your mental health is being affected because nobody will have sex with you? I didn't read the OP's comments that way. It was more a general concern about how people can be dismissive and brutal to other people on here. Though that's a fact for much of social media. However, the OP is a man. Women get a lot more abuse... " She asked a question that's all | |||
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"OP - if you ever want to chat, my door is always open. Mental health is important - especially in men who tend not to talk about how they feel. " | |||
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"But with respect I disagree. I am not naive or stupid. Yeah maybe I'm not cut out for this I have a higher drive so I came on here. But I do find the way people treat people (probably cos I'm a single guy.. of which we are in abunfance) to be quite demoralising. And yeah I get all the alpha males will pour scorn. And many women with say man up. But I just find it surprising when the word respect is used in abundance, that it doesnt apply to.someone trying to make inroads m and always an did mean always, been polite whilst doing so" Do you have examples. Are people being nasty by PM etc? x | |||
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"Just to check...are you saying that your mental health is being affected because nobody will have sex with you? I didn't read the OP's comments that way. It was more a general concern about how people can be dismissive and brutal to other people on here. Though that's a fact for much of social media. However, the OP is a man. Women get a lot more abuse... She asked a question that's all" And he is responding to the question that is all | |||
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"Well you have surprised me. Thanks people. I was expecting ridicule and abuse. This site isnt the place for such sentiment etc. But tbh, this far my faith in human nature is slightly restored. I get as a single male we are many fold. But nevertheless when one repeatedly gets the replies one does.. after always been polite and courteous, you get to question yourself. Men put on a brave face . It's what we do. No.option. but it gets to us." Hun reply and quote xx | |||
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"Just to check...are you saying that your mental health is being affected because nobody will have sex with you? I didn't read the OP's comments that way. It was more a general concern about how people can be dismissive and brutal to other people on here. Though that's a fact for much of social media. However, the OP is a man. Women get a lot more abuse... She asked a question that's all And he is responding to the question that is all" Yeah and... | |||
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"Well you have surprised me. Thanks people. I was expecting ridicule and abuse. This site isnt the place for such sentiment etc. But tbh, this far my faith in human nature is slightly restored. I get as a single male we are many fold. But nevertheless when one repeatedly gets the replies one does.. after always been polite and courteous, you get to question yourself. Men put on a brave face . It's what we do. No.option. but it gets to us." No ridicule well done for speaking up xx | |||
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"Just to check...are you saying that your mental health is being affected because nobody will have sex with you? I didn't read the OP's comments that way. It was more a general concern about how people can be dismissive and brutal to other people on here. Though that's a fact for much of social media. However, the OP is a man. Women get a lot more abuse... She asked a question that's all And he is responding to the question that is all Yeah and..." And what? | |||
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"Just to check...are you saying that your mental health is being affected because nobody will have sex with you? I didn't read the OP's comments that way. It was more a general concern about how people can be dismissive and brutal to other people on here. Though that's a fact for much of social media. However, the OP is a man. Women get a lot more abuse... She asked a question that's all And he is responding to the question that is all Yeah and... And what?" Nowt. | |||
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"OP you need to remember there are 20 ladies to every guy on this site. If you can't Handel rejection it is not good for you mental health. But how would you feel asking some one in a bar. Do you want a drink they say yes you get the drinks in and she walks of with a friend and a free drink. We have all been there. Do you message lots of people with short messages to not get a response?" While true , I don't think this actually helps - it's a not a simple case of 'man up" and deal with it. | |||
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"OP you need to remember there are 20 ladies to every guy on this site. If you can't Handel rejection it is not good for you mental health. But how would you feel asking some one in a bar. Do you want a drink they say yes you get the drinks in and she walks of with a friend and a free drink. We have all been there. Do you message lots of people with short messages to not get a response?" Are you sure?.. I'd have guessed more like 20 guys for every lady. In any case, it helps to be reconciled to one's status of 'plankton' around here. | |||
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"But with respect I disagree. I am not naive or stupid. Yeah maybe I'm not cut out for this I have a higher drive so I came on here. But I do find the way people treat people (probably cos I'm a single guy.. of which we are in abunfance) to be quite demoralising. And yeah I get all the alpha males will pour scorn. And many women with say man up. But I just find it surprising when the word respect is used in abundance, that it doesnt apply to.someone trying to make inroads m and always an did mean always, been polite whilst doing so" I have to say I fully agree with everything you have said on here. although I would in my view if a men pours scorn he's not an alpha. It's a pup pretending to be dominant. | |||
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"My intention was not to be controversial at all. I appreciate that it comes across that I am naive and perhaps stupid. Like I say, I am on some dating sites too. And they are brutal.and harsh. It's the nature of the beast. Cant stand the heat get out of the kitchen etc etc. And too a degree I agree. But I dont get why people have to be so so harsh and dismissive and brutal (my vocabulary is bad at this time of the week so forgive me). I knew men are after sex. I know men push. I feel for the women. But all I'm saying is that us guys are just totally all about sex. " Hey, just a note to say that however you’re feeling at any given point is totally ok. A forum, I suppose is a good starting place to get reasoned views and helpful opinions on a subject matter that’s close to your heart. And my DM is open if you want to talk anything through. It doesn’t have to be brutal, I’ve really enjoyed the fun of making connections with some incredibly lovely, intelligent people and they’ve helped me to learn more than enough to respect the lifestyle. Expectations are set by your own experiences I guess. But finding this particular section of the forum feels warm and friendly. Dip your toe a little and find the right people based on conversation not necessarily on looks alone. | |||
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"My intention was not to be controversial at all. I appreciate that it comes across that I am naive and perhaps stupid. Like I say, I am on some dating sites too. And they are brutal.and harsh. It's the nature of the beast. Cant stand the heat get out of the kitchen etc etc. And too a degree I agree. But I dont get why people have to be so so harsh and dismissive and brutal (my vocabulary is bad at this time of the week so forgive me). I knew men are after sex. I know men push. I feel for the women. But all I'm saying is that us guys are just totally all about sex. Hey, just a note to say that however you’re feeling at any given point is totally ok. A forum, I suppose is a good starting place to get reasoned views and helpful opinions on a subject matter that’s close to your heart. And my DM is open if you want to talk anything through. It doesn’t have to be brutal, I’ve really enjoyed the fun of making connections with some incredibly lovely, intelligent people and they’ve helped me to learn more than enough to respect the lifestyle. Expectations are set by your own experiences I guess. But finding this particular section of the forum feels warm and friendly. Dip your toe a little and find the right people based on conversation not necessarily on looks alone. " Great post Logan. I know it's not necessarily in our nature as guys to look out for each another but when it comes down mental health we all need open up more | |||
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"OP - if you ever want to chat, my door is always open. Mental health is important - especially in men who tend not to talk about how they feel. " i totally agree, its so important. not many understand mens MH | |||
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