FabSwingers.com forum: To meet or not to meet

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

This isn’t a pity post. Just curious about when you stop worrying that you’re not getting to meet people and just start fully enjoying the chat and banter on here. It’s a mental rollercoaster at times xx

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

I've never worried about meeting people. If it happens it happens.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Do you think that it’s easier to have that mindframe as a woman on here? xx

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By *indergirlWoman
over a year ago

somewhere, someplace

I'm of the if it happens it happens mentality. If I let myself get hung up on it I'd get in a fuss over it

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

Tends to be when I’m not looking that I meet someone.

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By *inky Biscuit DunkerMan
over a year ago

Gloucestershire

Whenever I come on here these days (not so much recently) it’s mainly to have a good old laugh, natter and flirt. If someone catches my eye turn great. Otherwise I’m not that bothered

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never worried about not getting meets tbh. As has been said before, things happen when you least expect it. Just be yourself. There'll be someone that likes you for you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a single man on here without a partner i do feel the odds are stacked against me with meeting. I have learnt to enjoy the chat rooms and cams though. Perhaps i need to cam someone and at least get verified too. Unsure of similar sites to this out there that dont break the bank?

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By *ilent...BobMan
over a year ago

Shushhhhhhyourmouthville

My motivation here changes a lot. Sometimes I get interested in people's minds and just want a chat, other times I decide it's time for some sexy times and shagging.

Currently Im pretty satisfied sexually so I'm mostly here just pissing about on the forums and trying to learn about the species

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By *erfectman122Man
over a year ago

from somewhere nice

I’ve never bothered about getting a meet.. probably because I’m to picky and enjoy good conversation

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Since I've been using the forums more I've had no meets. Been 3 weeks since I last met someone.

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

I think it is about managing expectations - I come here for the forums mainly and never EXPECT to meet anybody with whom I have enough in common to take things further. Then if I do click with somebody it is a bonus.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't worry about it. I know from previous experience, it will happen when it happens

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am in full resistance mode to all talk of meeting so I am not at all bothered.

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

It's easier to just chat shit with lots of people on here and occasionally you find a gem you click with

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"It's easier to just chat shit with lots of people on here and occasionally you find a gem you click with "

Agree

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By *VineMan
over a year ago

The right place

I do sometimes wonder if it wasn’t for the forums whether I’d still be on fab. Although I’ve had the good fortune to meet some very lovely people, I’m not sure I’d keep logging on without the forums.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never cared for the forums but since find you guys it’s been great. And yes lots of lovely people to chat to and maybe connect with. And if you do it’s amazing. But not expected

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Really interesting comments. I’ve met some lovely people in the forums I’ve connected with elsewhere too, which is genuinely lovely. It’s the meet side of things that seems most difficult - I know it’s a matter of getting my head around it but how to do that is the key xx

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By *indergirlWoman
over a year ago

somewhere, someplace

"It's easier to just chat shit with lots of people on here and occasionally you find a gem you click with "

Totally this!

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"I do sometimes wonder if it wasn’t for the forums whether I’d still be on fab. Although I’ve had the good fortune to meet some very lovely people, I’m not sure I’d keep logging on without the forums. "

I definitely wouldn’t. Hundred percent

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By *affron40Woman
over a year ago

manchester

I pop back to catch up and chat rubbish and only open my filters for the odd game. Don’t need anything right now so happy to just kick back and smile.

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

Those who message me, generally have a wank and call it quits. But as I use the site mainly for the forums and club meets, I’m fine with it

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

We don’t really care about meeting people on here as it doesn’t affect our ability to have fun or go out to clubs and events.

We also know we are looking for a small niche, and are therefore not to everyones tastes.

If you let yourself get consumed by the idea that if you aren't meeting you are failing you will soon find this a hurtful experience.

As for banter, I speak to a few people off site, but rarely speak with many people on site.

I just use the forums to drop my truth nuggets and then walk away!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I definitely wouldn’t. Hundred percent "

I don’t think I would either. The community in here is generally lovely.

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By *VineMan
over a year ago

The right place

I definitely wouldn’t. Hundred percent

I don’t think I would either. The community in here is generally lovely."

And you get loads of messages too. Imagine how dull it would be for most blokes.

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

There's no one size fits all. It depends on your expectations. If you see it all as a competition you will suffer more knockbacks than you will if you have patience and don't worry about what others are doing.

Don't force it.

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

I definitely wouldn’t. Hundred percent

I don’t think I would either. The community in here is generally lovely."

Seconded!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I definitely wouldn’t. Hundred percent

I don’t think I would either. The community in here is generally lovely."

It is it’s about what you bring to the party too. And the people I like to chat with are all funny, inclusive and friendly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I definitely wouldn’t. Hundred percent

I don’t think I would either. The community in here is generally lovely.

And you get loads of messages too. Imagine how dull it would be for most blokes. "

Imagine how dull the messages are though

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

I definitely wouldn’t. Hundred percent

I don’t think I would either. The community in here is generally lovely.

It is it’s about what you bring to the party too. And the people I like to chat with are all funny, inclusive and friendly"

You do tend to click with like minded people. It’s like when people say certain people always agree with their friends and they call it lamppost pissing. No! They’re my friends because we agree on most things!

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

I definitely wouldn’t. Hundred percent

I don’t think I would either. The community in here is generally lovely.

It is it’s about what you bring to the party too. And the people I like to chat with are all funny, inclusive and friendly

That's not what lamppost pissing is Nora.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I definitely wouldn’t. Hundred percent

I don’t think I would either. The community in here is generally lovely.

It is it’s about what you bring to the party too. And the people I like to chat with are all funny, inclusive and friendly

Yeah definitely you’ll always gravitate to certain people… but I try to talk to anyone that says something interesting or funny! X

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

I definitely wouldn’t. Hundred percent

I don’t think I would either. The community in here is generally lovely.

It is it’s about what you bring to the party too. And the people I like to chat with are all funny, inclusive and friendly

That's not what lamppost pissing is Nora.

Yes It is to a certain extent

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've never worried about meeting people. If it happens it happens. "

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

"Tends to be when I’m not looking that I meet someone. "

You really need to stop walking into lampposts.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

I enjoy talking to those I have a connection with, whether that's a platonic or less so... I've got a good tribe of genuine, intelligent, dorky and warm hearted friends on here. I enjoy the chat on here and don't really think about meeting people - if it happens that's nice enough but sometimes it's just nice to switch off and read the amusing, psychophantic posts on the fora.

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By *VineMan
over a year ago

The right place

I definitely wouldn’t. Hundred percent

I don’t think I would either. The community in here is generally lovely.

It is it’s about what you bring to the party too. And the people I like to chat with are all funny, inclusive and friendly

Yeah definitely you’ll always gravitate to certain people… but I try to talk to anyone that says something interesting or funny! X "

Yes, and after a while you just get familiar with different peoples styles. It’s natural to be drawn to some and put off by others.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"Tends to be when I’m not looking that I meet someone.

You really need to stop walking into lampposts.

And pissing on them

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

"Tends to be when I’m not looking that I meet someone.

You really need to stop walking into lampposts.

And pissing on them

There's enough do that already.

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

Yes, and after a while you just get familiar with different peoples styles. It’s natural to be drawn to some and put off by others. "

I think that is a valid point - that said sometimes people do surprise me. I m saying I can agree with some forumites on virtually everything, with others only occasionally and then out of the blue, they say something really funny, wise, relevant... and I am thinking "wow" .

I try to remain open-minded about people, not just in the forums but in life. We all can be more than one thing.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

"Do you think that it’s easier to have that mindframe as a woman on here? xx"

No, it's about expectations regardless of wether you're a man or a woman.

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By *2000ManMan
over a year ago

Worthing

First day I joined.

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