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Thriving in lockdown

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I feel like I've bleated on about it enough but over the lockdowns I managed to lose 70lbs. Not gonna lie, I know being in lockdown was terrible for a lot of people in terms of both mental and physical health, but being able to focus on myself with way less distractions was an absolute godsend.

Whenever I tell people I lost weight over the past year, they often go "oh wow, and you did that over lockdown as well!" but I feel a bit guilty about accepting that praise because I honestly found it so easy.

Now everything's opened back up again I'm finding it WAY harder. My social life has picked back up which means eating out and partying more. We're able to celebrate birthdays which always means cake (most of the time I make said cake so obviously I have to eat it! ) and my motivation to exercise has gone right out the window. I've gained a little weight back (about 7lbs) and am really struggling to get it back off. It's getting me down, especially as I've worked so hard, but my willpower is at 0 at the moment.

Life is hard

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By *iBBWLondonWoman
over a year ago

London

It is…and often so unfair. But YOU are amazing! You kept it together when most were crumbling, and you took the initiative while most pottered around in their pj’s. Don’t lose the motivation to keep yourself healthy and moving; just remember how good you felt when you did have the motivation, and how fabulous you look as a result. I am totally in awe

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That’s amazing! Now you know you can do it, use that as your motivation?

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

Keep going... you've done fantastically well

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It is…and often so unfair. But YOU are amazing! You kept it together when most were crumbling, and you took the initiative while most pottered around in their pj’s. Don’t lose the motivation to keep yourself healthy and moving; just remember how good you felt when you did have the motivation, and how fabulous you look as a result. I am totally in awe "

Thank you, but I feel like I don't deserve the praise? I didn't find lockdown as tough as a lot of other people did, not because I pulled together some magical inner strength. I just didn't.

Yeah I know what you mean about the motivation. I just feel in a bit of a slump at the moment

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By *lirty-CoupleCouple
over a year ago

Bexley


"I feel like I've bleated on about it enough but over the lockdowns I managed to lose 70lbs. Not gonna lie, I know being in lockdown was terrible for a lot of people in terms of both mental and physical health, but being able to focus on myself with way less distractions was an absolute godsend.

Whenever I tell people I lost weight over the past year, they often go "oh wow, and you did that over lockdown as well!" but I feel a bit guilty about accepting that praise because I honestly found it so easy.

Now everything's opened back up again I'm finding it WAY harder. My social life has picked back up which means eating out and partying more. We're able to celebrate birthdays which always means cake (most of the time I make said cake so obviously I have to eat it! ) and my motivation to exercise has gone right out the window. I've gained a little weight back (about 7lbs) and am really struggling to get it back off. It's getting me down, especially as I've worked so hard, but my willpower is at 0 at the moment.

Life is hard "

Well done. Anything that could make the last 18 months worthwhile has to be a good thing. You'd probably not be normal if after all that, you didn't put a little back on but you can see it and want to do something about it so that's the most imporant thing. It doesn't take much to put on a few ounces which soon add up to pounds and the reverse is true so maybe try to just cut out one or two small treats you have a day or week and see what happens. Couple that with just a little more exercise and hopefully you'll soon see that weight gain slowly reduced. The best way to do it is slowly because it has time to become a lifestyle habit rather than just the result of a short period of 'starvation' which is sooooo easy to go back on.

Good luck!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is amazing

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By *ed VoluptaWoman
over a year ago

Wirral.

Wow! Amber, that is bloody amazing! Don't beat yourself up about a tiny gain.

Did you enjoy the meals & cake? Was it good to see your friends & socialise again? I bet it was! So there's the pay-off. Don't think "sod it! I've ruined it, I may as well give up!" Just accept that there will be days you indulge, so balance it with days where you watch what you eat. Be kind to yourself. What you've achieved is FANTASTIC! And you look amazing x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I feel like I've bleated on about it enough but over the lockdowns I managed to lose 70lbs. Not gonna lie, I know being in lockdown was terrible for a lot of people in terms of both mental and physical health, but being able to focus on myself with way less distractions was an absolute godsend.

Whenever I tell people I lost weight over the past year, they often go "oh wow, and you did that over lockdown as well!" but I feel a bit guilty about accepting that praise because I honestly found it so easy.

Now everything's opened back up again I'm finding it WAY harder. My social life has picked back up which means eating out and partying more. We're able to celebrate birthdays which always means cake (most of the time I make said cake so obviously I have to eat it! ) and my motivation to exercise has gone right out the window. I've gained a little weight back (about 7lbs) and am really struggling to get it back off. It's getting me down, especially as I've worked so hard, but my willpower is at 0 at the moment.

Life is hard

Well done. Anything that could make the last 18 months worthwhile has to be a good thing. You'd probably not be normal if after all that, you didn't put a little back on but you can see it and want to do something about it so that's the most imporant thing. It doesn't take much to put on a few ounces which soon add up to pounds and the reverse is true so maybe try to just cut out one or two small treats you have a day or week and see what happens. Couple that with just a little more exercise and hopefully you'll soon see that weight gain slowly reduced. The best way to do it is slowly because it has time to become a lifestyle habit rather than just the result of a short period of 'starvation' which is sooooo easy to go back on.

Good luck!!"

Thanks.

It's not that I have weekly treats as such, it's just that I'm all or nothing. When I diet I'm REALLY strict, and that's not an issue for me. It's when I go out or have a family event etc. I make a day of it and am just in that mindset of "make the most of it while I can" and turn into a fucking ravenous bear, which undoes all the hard work from dieting. I had cheat days during lockdown too, but like once per month. Now they seem to be weekly, but I'm still in that "I need to E A T" mindset for that day

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By *iBBWLondonWoman
over a year ago

London


"It is…and often so unfair. But YOU are amazing! You kept it together when most were crumbling, and you took the initiative while most pottered around in their pj’s. Don’t lose the motivation to keep yourself healthy and moving; just remember how good you felt when you did have the motivation, and how fabulous you look as a result. I am totally in awe

Thank you, but I feel like I don't deserve the praise? I didn't find lockdown as tough as a lot of other people did, not because I pulled together some magical inner strength. I just didn't.

Yeah I know what you mean about the motivation. I just feel in a bit of a slump at the moment "

Then who DOES deserve the praise? YOU exercised, YOU took the initiative to focus on you. It makes no difference whether you found it easy or difficult; you found that place in your head, picked up the reins and rode the hell out of it. Look at what you did; really look at it and try saying to yourself “I did this, all by myself, AND I found it easy. I FUCKING ROCK!!!” (heart)

FYI, I suspect you may have found your way on to a fair few more hotlists…

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By *rixieMeWoman
over a year ago

Farfarfar away

Your motivation is there, it’s just gone a little skew with everything opening up. Remember when it was just you no distractions, and how well you did? Just make sure you make time for yourself and don’t get sucked back up in to this crazy full speed life that we all seem to want back.

You’re amazing and don’t ever forget that x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Wow! Amber, that is bloody amazing! Don't beat yourself up about a tiny gain.

Did you enjoy the meals & cake? Was it good to see your friends & socialise again? I bet it was! So there's the pay-off. Don't think "sod it! I've ruined it, I may as well give up!" Just accept that there will be days you indulge, so balance it with days where you watch what you eat. Be kind to yourself. What you've achieved is FANTASTIC! And you look amazing x"

Thank you, this is good advice xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It is…and often so unfair. But YOU are amazing! You kept it together when most were crumbling, and you took the initiative while most pottered around in their pj’s. Don’t lose the motivation to keep yourself healthy and moving; just remember how good you felt when you did have the motivation, and how fabulous you look as a result. I am totally in awe

Thank you, but I feel like I don't deserve the praise? I didn't find lockdown as tough as a lot of other people did, not because I pulled together some magical inner strength. I just didn't.

Yeah I know what you mean about the motivation. I just feel in a bit of a slump at the moment

Then who DOES deserve the praise? YOU exercised, YOU took the initiative to focus on you. It makes no difference whether you found it easy or difficult; you found that place in your head, picked up the reins and rode the hell out of it. Look at what you did; really look at it and try saying to yourself “I did this, all by myself, AND I found it easy. I FUCKING ROCK!!!” (heart)

FYI, I suspect you may have found your way on to a fair few more hotlists… "

I guess... I think at the moment I'm just more annoyed with myself. But I appreciate the sentiment xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Your motivation is there, it’s just gone a little skew with everything opening up. Remember when it was just you no distractions, and how well you did? Just make sure you make time for yourself and don’t get sucked back up in to this crazy full speed life that we all seem to want back.

You’re amazing and don’t ever forget that x"

Thank you xx

Yeah I feel like it's crazy at the moment because everyone just wants to go out all the time and fill their diaries due to not being able to do anything for 18 months. I'm feeling a lot of pressure to do it too.

I actually feel self conscious at work if I'm asked what I did over the weekend and I have nothing to reply with, like people will look at me as if I have two heads because I didn't go out and do something now we're allowed to. But most of the time I enjoy just staying home and crocheting while watching shit reality TV. And I think that's why lockdown worked for me.

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By *tarflyLouWoman
over a year ago

Preston

It sounds to me as though you really found yourself and what you enjoy over lockdown, but somehow you feel as though other people will judge you for that, as though it’s not ‘good enough’ in some way and I wonder why that is. Maybe spend a little time exploring that and trying to embrace everything that makes you *you*. Try not to put yourself under pressure to fit in with others if that’s not where you’re at your happiest!

It seems as though you feel that experiencing things differently to other people around you (such as staying in and not finding lockdown difficult) means that you’re unworthy in someway, right down to praise over the efforts you made. Positive change is positive change, no matter how easy or difficult it is, and should be celebrated as such! Try and be kind to yourself, you’ve made some great changes x

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville

Good on you.

It's not easy losing weight, you no doubt feel the benefits. It sounds like you're explaining to a lot to people on how you lost it. Don't let this pressure you, as keeping it off is the most difficult bit, it's those lifestyle changes that either stick or slip. Just keep doing what you're doing. Everyone has to enjoy themselves, keep moving and eating well, it's worked up to now, if you know you've over done it one day - try and make up for it the following few days?

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