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"If not WHY not? " I’ve been to a few and found the treatment of single guys, both from the establishment and the people there, to be somewhat demeaning. I’m a fairly meek and timid guy, especially in situations where I might come off as creepy. I’d much prefer to respectfully hang bank until I’m 200% certain I’m accepted. Despite that I was treated and looked at like a wild animal and left after a short while. I dunno if I’d return to one unless it was as part of a couple | |||
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"If not WHY not? I’ve been to a few and found the treatment of single guys, both from the establishment and the people there, to be somewhat demeaning. I’m a fairly meek and timid guy, especially in situations where I might come off as creepy. I’d much prefer to respectfully hang bank until I’m 200% certain I’m accepted. Despite that I was treated and looked at like a wild animal and left after a short while. I dunno if I’d return to one unless it was as part of a couple " Damn, sorry to hear that and maybe a little apprehensive now myself I too wouldn't want to be the pushy type and possibly miss out for being unsure. Have been and enjoyed clubs as a couple though and really want to as a single... if nothing else, I enjoy the atmosphere and feel more comfortable in a swingers club as opposed to a normal night club. | |||
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"If not WHY not? " I've not had interest in going to one. | |||
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"'swingers' club?" I'll wait for your reply, cos you've signed out OP..... You've got swingers club down as an interest - so have you been or want too? Would reviews or verifications make your mind up in going or not? | |||
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"If not WHY not? I’ve been to a few and found the treatment of single guys, both from the establishment and the people there, to be somewhat demeaning. I’m a fairly meek and timid guy, especially in situations where I might come off as creepy. I’d much prefer to respectfully hang bank until I’m 200% certain I’m accepted. Despite that I was treated and looked at like a wild animal and left after a short while. I dunno if I’d return to one unless it was as part of a couple " You'd still consider swingers clubs though, seen as it's an interest you've ticked? Or does that mean something totally different to you..... I'm here to learn not to have a dig..... | |||
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"Question is who wants to take me ha " Any 'single' ladies want to take me, nudge, nudge, wink, wink. | |||
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"Me I tried to PM you, but your age filters won’t let me. Not coming on to you, I promise!" Thats what they all say ha ha ha Lifted the filters now | |||
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"I guess I havnt gone yet because as a single guy it would feel like I’m an outsider, also I’m very bad at talking to new people off the bat so going up to people would be a no. So just sitting back awkwardly would be creepy to others. I think for single guys the best bet is to go with someone so it eases the tension." Would you go to a club with another fella? | |||
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"If not WHY not? I’ve been to a few and found the treatment of single guys, both from the establishment and the people there, to be somewhat demeaning. I’m a fairly meek and timid guy, especially in situations where I might come off as creepy. I’d much prefer to respectfully hang bank until I’m 200% certain I’m accepted. Despite that I was treated and looked at like a wild animal and left after a short while. I dunno if I’d return to one unless it was as part of a couple You'd still consider swingers clubs though, seen as it's an interest you've ticked? Or does that mean something totally different to you..... I'm here to learn not to have a dig....." As my last sentence says, I’d still consider going as part of a couple | |||
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"If not WHY not? I’ve been to a few and found the treatment of single guys, both from the establishment and the people there, to be somewhat demeaning. I’m a fairly meek and timid guy, especially in situations where I might come off as creepy. I’d much prefer to respectfully hang bank until I’m 200% certain I’m accepted. Despite that I was treated and looked at like a wild animal and left after a short while. I dunno if I’d return to one unless it was as part of a couple You'd still consider swingers clubs though, seen as it's an interest you've ticked? Or does that mean something totally different to you..... I'm here to learn not to have a dig..... As my last sentence says, I’d still consider going as part of a couple " Ahh champion | |||
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"Went (and started going again now) fairly regularly. Initially as a single (not a problem at my local club which is great) and now usually with a fwb or as a chaperone on occasions. I guess not all clubs have the same vibe for single guys but you’ll never know until you just go for it. " I get what you’re saying, but ‘just going for it’ can be quite an expensive ‘suck it and see’ (excuse the pun ) for single men. It must take a lot of courage, from what I’ve seen on various threads. | |||
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"I guess I havnt gone yet because as a single guy it would feel like I’m an outsider, also I’m very bad at talking to new people off the bat so going up to people would be a no. So just sitting back awkwardly would be creepy to others. I think for single guys the best bet is to go with someone so it eases the tension. Would you go to a club with another fella? " then it’d be two single males which wouldn’t help I think but I dunno. I’d prefer going with a female as then I’d be more approachable. | |||
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"I went to one a couple of weeks ago as I’ve always been intrigued. Didn’t think it would be for me and it wasn’t. Had a good laugh though with the people I went with. " This sounds like me, I'd probably just go once just to say I tried it but I really don't think it's my kind of thing from what I've heard. | |||
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"Me! Part of me is interested to see what it would be like, but on a realistic level I don’t think I’d enjoy it if I did go " tbh I think I wouldn’t too. But I’m still intrigued in how and what goes on in there. | |||
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"I went to one a couple of weeks ago as I’ve always been intrigued. Didn’t think it would be for me and it wasn’t. Had a good laugh though with the people I went with. This sounds like me, I'd probably just go once just to say I tried it but I really don't think it's my kind of thing from what I've heard. " To be fair it wasn’t as bad as I imagined. I thought people would be wondering why I was there if I didn’t want to get involved but it really wasn’t like that at all. People were really nice and it was nothing like I thought it would be | |||
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"Yeah singletons M and F have a difficult time. If you're thinking you won't be received well, because you're on your own, I wouldn't go, it's not for you. You have to be quite confident, chatty, vivacious to be able to gain any attention. A bit like Fab really! " I didn’t want any attention. I think I was the quietest I’ve ever been on a night out! . I do agree though. I think it’s a totally different experience for couples x | |||
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"Yeah singletons M and F have a difficult time. If you're thinking you won't be received well, because you're on your own, I wouldn't go, it's not for you. You have to be quite confident, chatty, vivacious to be able to gain any attention. A bit like Fab really! I didn’t want any attention. I think I was the quietest I’ve ever been on a night out! . I do agree though. I think it’s a totally different experience for couples x" There's a guy above our posts, who's talking about not being received well if he went.... I'm throwing my post into the mix for those who haven't been.... It's not all great shakes at clubs - it's just I never see any positive, until you came along! Thank fuck for that | |||
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"Yeah singletons M and F have a difficult time. If you're thinking you won't be received well, because you're on your own, I wouldn't go, it's not for you. You have to be quite confident, chatty, vivacious to be able to gain any attention. A bit like Fab really! I didn’t want any attention. I think I was the quietest I’ve ever been on a night out! . I do agree though. I think it’s a totally different experience for couples x There's a guy above our posts, who's talking about not being received well if he went.... I'm throwing my post into the mix for those who haven't been.... It's not all great shakes at clubs - it's just I never see any positive, until you came along! Thank fuck for that " I can imagine it’s really difficult for single men. There seemed to be a lot sort of hanging around not knowing what to do with themselves. It was apparently a quieter night than normal when I went though. Word must have got round that I was going x | |||
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"Went (and started going again now) fairly regularly. Initially as a single (not a problem at my local club which is great) and now usually with a fwb or as a chaperone on occasions. I guess not all clubs have the same vibe for single guys but you’ll never know until you just go for it. I get what you’re saying, but ‘just going for it’ can be quite an expensive ‘suck it and see’ (excuse the pun ) for single men. It must take a lot of courage, from what I’ve seen on various threads. " God I was nervous the first time but still had a good experience. Over time you build up friendships and get to know the staff too. Your right - it can be expensive for a single guy but once you know people you can go as a couple (split entry) and the club I go to is byob so there’s a saving there vs a nightclub. Clubs are not going to suit many. As mentioned you do need to put the effort in to socialise and have some confidence. | |||
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"I haven't. I'm intrigued but I'm a scaredy. I wouldn't want to do anything in front of anyone either... if I even had the chance. " I'd be your chaperone. | |||
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"I haven't. I'm intrigued but I'm a scaredy. I wouldn't want to do anything in front of anyone either... if I even had the chance. I'd be your chaperone. " You'll have to hold my hand and drag me in when I have 2nd thoughts | |||
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"I haven't. I'm intrigued but I'm a scaredy. I wouldn't want to do anything in front of anyone either... if I even had the chance. I'd be your chaperone. You'll have to hold my hand and drag me in when I have 2nd thoughts " I'll throw you over my shoulder if I have too. Xx | |||
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"Never been but I'm a relative newbie and wanting to experience being with a lot of like minded people, I am however apprehensive and would hate to have a negative experience, I was wondering if it would be best to find others to at least meet up with who know you are going and at least break the ice and not feel isolated all night. Not sure how I would approach a first time club visit but feel ready for one. " There’s a Leeds social this weekend and some will go off to a club afterwards so a social event then club could be the way forward as it’ll give you chance to chat to people and get to know them. Look for organised socials K | |||
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"Going to a club as a single female and as a single Male is totally different. It’s a lot harder for guys to go in and make friends etc. I really want to but just see all the single men saying they didn’t feel welcomed puts me off. Sucks it’s like that. " Yeah don't go Alex it's not for you. Don't rely upon finding someone to hold your hand, if its difficult to converse on here...... Enjoy fab! | |||
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"Going to a club as a single female and as a single Male is totally different. It’s a lot harder for guys to go in and make friends etc. I really want to but just see all the single men saying they didn’t feel welcomed puts me off. Sucks it’s like that. Yeah don't go Alex it's not for you. Don't rely upon finding someone to hold your hand, if its difficult to converse on here...... Enjoy fab!" Thanks... | |||
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