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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Am I expecting too much from people? Or is it just acceptable now for people to plan a social and not turn up…

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ah man that sucks, sorry to hear that!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Am I expecting too much from people? Or is it just acceptable now for people to plan a social and not turn up…

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It’s not nice but it’s very common I believe. Not a lot that can be done about it.

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

It’s never acceptable to plan something and then no show and/or then ghost.

Sadly it happens all too often, and all you can do is chalk it up to experience and learn from it.

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By *annaBeStrongMan
over a year ago

wokingham

Depends

If it’s a guy then no, it’s rude

If it’s a woman then yes, she’s allowed to have a last minute change of heart

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By *our midnight manMan
over a year ago

Dublin


"Am I expecting too much from people? Or is it just acceptable now for people to plan a social and not turn up…

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Perhaps give them a negative review?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's shameful behaviour, sorry it happened OP. People should have the decency to message if they need to cancel or change their mind.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I thought it was just men that did this ! From what I hear from couples. Actually had something funny and not to far from this happen to me last night actually

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Depends

If it’s a guy then no, it’s rude

If it’s a woman then yes, she’s allowed to have a last minute change of heart "

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By *VineMan
over a year ago

The right place

It’s rude and not acceptable. But sadly it seems to happen quite a bit.

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By *uietly_KinkyMan
over a year ago

High Wycombe


"Am I expecting too much from people? Or is it just acceptable now for people to plan a social and not turn up…

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You had faith to start with?

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By *arker secrets 321Man
over a year ago

West Bromwich

Sorry u got let down m8 .chin up x

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"Depends

If it’s a guy then no, it’s rude

If it’s a woman then yes, she’s allowed to have a last minute change of heart "

. I’ve never let anyone down and never had it done to me. I’d bloody hunt them down if they did! So rude!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No your not expecting too much OP, just part and parcel of being on here unfortunately. Just move on to someone else who will show you a little more respect and don't give them a second chance to do it again. There are some great people on here, just takes some finding that's all.

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

I treat people as I would like to be treated.

I can't expect that of everyone else, but at least if I don't let them down then I can be happy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Am I expecting too much from people? Or is it just acceptable now for people to plan a social and not turn up…

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No turn up at a social, how shit!

Do you not have a plan B, incase that happens? If so, what is it

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Tbh I don’t frequent fab as if I make a connection swap numbers or a platform to chat off here I leave here and focus on that. But I’m fully aware people carry on chatting to numerous others. I don’t expect them to do different but I do expect to be given a heads up if anything changes as I have to make changes to my day too to accommodate a social. Only fair and I’m not usually bitter about it that just happens. It’s the frustration of now having made my day free for it and not even a word in reply

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Am I expecting too much from people? Or is it just acceptable now for people to plan a social and not turn up…

No turn up at a social, how shit!

Do you not have a plan B, incase that happens? If so, what is it "

My plan b is now to go to IKEA and find something to cheer me up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Am I expecting too much from people? Or is it just acceptable now for people to plan a social and not turn up…

No turn up at a social, how shit!

Do you not have a plan B, incase that happens? If so, what is it

My plan b is now to go to IKEA and find something to cheer me up "

Get one of their ice creams

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By *yronMan
over a year ago

grangemouth

Although it sucks when it happens to you, remember one thing: it must suck even more to be them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always take a book. Often the book is better than the meet !

I've also heard the idea of dog walking as a date ... as the dog always needs walk. May feel a bit too much like digging in this world tho !!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Whatever the reason there is no excuse for not being courteous.

Nothing worse than having time wasted especially when you dont have much of it.

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By *indergirlWoman
over a year ago

somewhere, someplace

There is no excuse for it, whatever the reason for backing out, unfortunately it is the downside to here

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By *jorkishMan
over a year ago

Seaforth

Regardless of gender it is rude not to show up without telling the person they can't make it for whatever reason. Everyone can change their mind but have the decency to tell the person

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By *iscreet-is-paramountMan
over a year ago

somewhere only we know.

If a woman doesn't turn up, it's because they got a better offer from a fake profile and he didn't either....

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

There’s no excuse in this day and age for people not to be able to contact you to let you know.

Were the signs there? Had the conversation started tailing off? No contact this morning?

Usually you start getting inklings.

At the end of the day, all you can do is try and make sure your red flag warnings are tight but they can never be watertight…

If it’s any consolation…you’re on our hotlist

K

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"There’s no excuse in this day and age for people not to be able to contact you to let you know.

Were the signs there? Had the conversation started tailing off? No contact this morning?

Usually you start getting inklings.

At the end of the day, all you can do is try and make sure your red flag warnings are tight but they can never be watertight…

If it’s any consolation…you’re on our hotlist

K"

We had spoken about it then buttoned done the day time and place then carried on but today nothing. And I’ll take it as a compliment hahaha I’m not usually online much so if u don’t see me online it’s because I’ve given fab a wide birth

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

The world is full of flakes, and not just in the world of swinging. We don't think it's acceptable, but clearly the people who do it think it is.

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