FabSwingers.com forum: How do you play….

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Morning you frisky lot….

So I’m curious on how people tend to play….do you like a social first? Or are you a ‘meet you at the hotel room’ type?

Do you like the ‘nervous surprise’ of seeing someone the first time when they open the door, or waiting excitedly at a bar or cafe?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always a social initially, it just gets that awkward part out of the way and no pressure

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By *offiaCoolWoman
over a year ago

Kidsgrove

At least one social first.

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By *bsinthe_boyMan
over a year ago

Luton

Social for preference, though I have chatted on here and then discovered someone was going to the same club as me and met up there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Straight to the feast

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Social first. I'm too nervous otherwise

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Always a social initially, it just gets that awkward part out of the way and no pressure "

If you were to meet at the hotel… do you think that you would feel pressured?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"At least one social first."

Is that to build more connection or just to check they are who they say they are?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Social for preference, though I have chatted on here and then discovered someone was going to the same club as me and met up there. "

A club is pretty much a social though isn’t it, as there are others there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Met at hotels, clubs and bars for the first time over the years.

I'll only socialise first if meeting 1:1 these days - but I'm less nervous to meet others at club events.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Straight to the feast

Room service? Pre ‘workout’ meal

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Social first. I'm too nervous otherwise"

Too nervous you won’t ‘connect’ or too nervous because of excitement ? Or too nervous you will have to go through with it just because you’re in the hotel room ?

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

A social first usually in a nice bar. I get excited at meeting someone new and never nervous.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Met at hotels, clubs and bars for the first time over the years.

I'll only socialise first if meeting 1:1 these days - but I'm less nervous to meet others at club events."

Is that the safety of group location? Or just because the clubs are where you roam freely :p

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By *uddly GoblinMan
over a year ago

Manchester

Generally a social first but do attend club's aswell

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"A social first usually in a nice bar. I get excited at meeting someone new and never nervous."

Are your rules that it’s just a social? Then possibly a play on the next meet?

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By *offiaCoolWoman
over a year ago

Kidsgrove

"At least one social first.

Is that to build more connection or just to check they are who they say they are?"

I seek regular meets with one man. There has to be enough connection and similar interests to meet regularly for more than sex.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Generally a social first but do attend club's aswell"

Is that just to relax together initially?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"At least one social first.

Is that to build more connection or just to check they are who they say they are?

I seek regular meets with one man. There has to be enough connection and similar interests to meet regularly for more than sex. "

Makes sense when you want to build something more

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Social first. I'm too nervous otherwise

Too nervous you won’t ‘connect’ or too nervous because of excitement ? Or too nervous you will have to go through with it just because you’re in the hotel room ? "

Just nervous

. I would never go through with anything "just because" but a refusal often offends.

I like to know I'm attracted to someone without the pressure of agreeing to get physical with them immediately.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Social first. I'm too nervous otherwise

Too nervous you won’t ‘connect’ or too nervous because of excitement ? Or too nervous you will have to go through with it just because you’re in the hotel room ?

Just nervous

. I would never go through with anything "just because" but a refusal often offends.

I like to know I'm attracted to someone without the pressure of agreeing to get physical with them immediately. "

Yeah makes sense…. I guess to make the woman feel at her most comfortable

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Haha we don't have a set of rules for this. We are happy to have a spontaneous last minute meet (if we are available), attend a social or hit the club. Any of these suits us, I'm here for the sex so bring it on

Claire

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By *ilverjagMan
over a year ago

swansea

Short social first pefered, but not always possible to ensure that they are within my comfort zone as contrary to popular belief most guys actually need to be attracted to someone to be turned on by them, and of course vice versa so as they are pleased with what they see.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

Depends how horny I am

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Haha we don't have a set of rules for this. We are happy to have a spontaneous last minute meet (if we are available), attend a social or hit the club. Any of these suits us, I'm here for the sex so bring it on

Claire "

Spontaneous type … like it

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Depends how horny I am

Haha …. Get her while she’s hot ;p

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Social first. I'm too nervous otherwise

Too nervous you won’t ‘connect’ or too nervous because of excitement ? Or too nervous you will have to go through with it just because you’re in the hotel room ?

Just nervous

. I would never go through with anything "just because" but a refusal often offends.

I like to know I'm attracted to someone without the pressure of agreeing to get physical with them immediately.

Yeah makes sense…. I guess to make the woman feel at her most comfortable "

I am the woman and if I ain't comfortable it ain't happening

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Always a social initially, it just gets that awkward part out of the way and no pressure

If you were to meet at the hotel… do you think that you would feel pressured? "

Depends how it went I guess...I'd be open to a hotel social, but I would be clear that there is no pressure

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely a social first.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve actually only had one social (other than organised group socials), the others I’ve got to know really well beforehand, and then gone straight to meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Met at hotels, clubs and bars for the first time over the years.

I'll only socialise first if meeting 1:1 these days - but I'm less nervous to meet others at club events.

Is that the safety of group location? Or just because the clubs are where you roam freely :p"

I'll always meet in a safe location, even on my own. It's the eclectic people I like under one roof, that beats a 1:1 social any day/night

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

I prefer a social first. It takes a bit of time for me to decide if I want to go further with someone and I want to be sure of that decision rather than regret it later.

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By *uddly GoblinMan
over a year ago

Manchester

"Generally a social first but do attend club's aswell

Is that just to relax together initially? "

Partially yes but also to make sure there's some form of connection/attraction for both involved plus if they don't show up not a complete waste of time

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Social first. I'm too nervous otherwise

Too nervous you won’t ‘connect’ or too nervous because of excitement ? Or too nervous you will have to go through with it just because you’re in the hotel room ?

Just nervous

. I would never go through with anything "just because" but a refusal often offends.

I like to know I'm attracted to someone without the pressure of agreeing to get physical with them immediately.

Yeah makes sense…. I guess to make the woman feel at her most comfortable

I am the woman and if I ain't comfortable it ain't happening

Ha yes I know you’re the woman… I’m saying is guys should be aiming to make women comfortable

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By *VineMan
over a year ago

The right place

Most often a social in the bar of a hotel and then decide if we want to take it further.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Straight to the feast

U fiend

go back in ur cave

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By *ookie an creamCouple
over a year ago

Fife

Few drinks so we can get to know each other abit and if all get along move on to the fun.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Always a social initially, it just gets that awkward part out of the way and no pressure

If you were to meet at the hotel… do you think that you would feel pressured?

Depends how it went I guess...I'd be open to a hotel social, but I would be clear that there is no pressure

Good to hear.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’ve actually only had one social (other than organised group socials), the others I’ve got to know really well beforehand, and then gone straight to meet. "

Same here x x

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Social first. I'm too nervous otherwise

Too nervous you won’t ‘connect’ or too nervous because of excitement ? Or too nervous you will have to go through with it just because you’re in the hotel room ?

Just nervous

. I would never go through with anything "just because" but a refusal often offends.

I like to know I'm attracted to someone without the pressure of agreeing to get physical with them immediately.

Yeah makes sense…. I guess to make the woman feel at her most comfortable

I am the woman and if I ain't comfortable it ain't happening

Ha yes I know you’re the woman… I’m saying is guys should be aiming to make women comfortable "

Oh right, I get it

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I’ve actually only had one social (other than organised group socials), the others I’ve got to know really well beforehand, and then gone straight to meet. "

As long as you’ve built what you’re happy with then I guess it doesn’t matter where you meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Generally I prefer to meet for a coffee first, though some guys I just want to meet and have them slam me against the wall...

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Met at hotels, clubs and bars for the first time over the years.

I'll only socialise first if meeting 1:1 these days - but I'm less nervous to meet others at club events.

Is that the safety of group location? Or just because the clubs are where you roam freely :p

I'll always meet in a safe location, even on my own. It's the eclectic people I like under one roof, that beats a 1:1 social any day/night

Hopefully I’ll get to experience that feeling one day

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By *ickedwillyCouple
over a year ago

Bangor

Always a social first

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I prefer a social first. It takes a bit of time for me to decide if I want to go further with someone and I want to be sure of that decision rather than regret it later."

Again… all about being comfortable

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Few drinks so we can get to know each other abit and if all get along move on to the fun."

Ah ok…. So the social can progress into a play meet… not set on just a social

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Generally I prefer to meet for a coffee first, though some guys I just want to meet and have them slam me against the wall..."

The coffee shop wall?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Generally I prefer to meet for a coffee first, though some guys I just want to meet and have them slam me against the wall...

The coffee shop wall?

I like coffee too much to get barred so maybe somewhere a little more private.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Generally I prefer to meet for a coffee first, though some guys I just want to meet and have them slam me against the wall...

The coffee shop wall?

I like coffee too much to get barred so maybe somewhere a little more private."

I’ll be sure to have the hotel booked close to the coffee shop then :p

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Happy to go with the flow on this one ! I’ve done socials, planned meets and can you cum round in five minutes meets !

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Happy to go with the flow on this one ! I’ve done socials, planned meets and can you cum round in five minutes meets ! "

Not like a builder to have availability, normally weeks before you can get 1 round :p (I joke)

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