FabSwingers.com forum: Messages from single men

By *ereforthefun1 OP Couple
over a year ago

derby

We recently turned on men being able to message us out of curiosity to see if we got messaged and I have to say I wasn’t sure what to expect but men you have surprised me. I don’t know what I was expecting but most of you that sent messages were lovely, polite and respectful. I made sure I replied to all (I apologise if I missed anyone) but I just wanted to let any newbies like ourselves don’t worry about what you may receive. I have turned single men off messaging for now as it’s not what we are looking for at the moment. Just wanted to express the the positives out of our experience.

Thanks Mrs C

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What a refreshing change.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We’re not all bad and illiterate wannabes. It’s nice to see some positivity for us sensible swingle chaps.

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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

Single guys have always been able to message us and have to say every nearly every single one of them has been polite and respectful even when we tell them we only look to meet couples.

Different story from single woman and couples we have said no to. Quite a few of them have had to be reported and blocked.

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By *ereforthefun1 OP Couple
over a year ago

derby

"What a refreshing change."

That’s why I wanted to put this post up

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By *moothdickMan
over a year ago

stoke

Very refreshing to hear… always polite even if I get told to fuck off lol

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By *ereforthefun1 OP Couple
over a year ago

derby

"Single guys have always been able to message us and have to say every nearly every single one of them has been polite and respectful even when we tell them we only look to meet couples.

Different story from single woman and couples we have said no to. Quite a few of them have had to be reported and blocked. "

I turned it off now as I like to reply to everyone and I felt mean saying no all the time

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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

I turned it off now as I like to reply to everyone and I felt mean saying no all the time

The thing is had some great conversations with single guys and got a very different perspective to Fab from it.

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

Were you not just wasting their time, if that's not what you're looking for?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have always accepted messages from single men as that's who I'm here for. And I'd say 99% of messages are kind. A good chunk of those are sexual though ("I'd like to do X to you etc") which doesn't offend me but doesn't really begin a decent conversation.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A very high percentage of messages we receive are very polite, respectful and generally a pleasure to interact with.

There's only been a few that have been idiotic.

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By *ugRollersCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle

Unfortunatley for us we’ve had the opposite response. We’ve recently had our messages open to males for around 2 months now to give them another chance and out of the 100s of messages we’ve received (hi on its own does not count as a good message) I think I can count probably 2 who came across decent. However we went to a club last night and got talking to a single male and he was lovely so it’s restored our faith but think we will stick to just meeting people in person for the single guys rather than messaging on here

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By *eah BabyCouple
over a year ago

Cheshire, Windermere ,Cumbria

We speak to more single guys than we do couples, not sure if that says more about us or more about couples on here but definitely find single guys are more communicative than couples or there’s a shortage of couples, I’d say it’s 90+% guys that message us and all have been lovely

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By *ereforthefun1 OP Couple
over a year ago

derby

"Were you not just wasting their time, if that's not what you're looking for?

I had heard many things that didn’t put single men in the best light and I thought they can’t all be that bad and wanted to know for my self. I was very clear with them straight away and still had some lovely conversations with them.

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By *aomilatteCouple
over a year ago

Midlands

We've had some shocking ones

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"We've had some shocking ones

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sorry

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Were you not just wasting their time, if that's not what you're looking for?

I’d say it was probably encouraging for the single men also to have recovered a polite reply. I think it might’ve done them a power of good. What do you think?

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By *ereforthefun1 OP Couple
over a year ago

derby

"We've had some shocking ones

That’s a shame not all bad I hope

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By *ereforthefun1 OP Couple
over a year ago

derby

"Were you not just wasting their time, if that's not what you're looking for?

I’d say it was probably encouraging for the single men also to have recovered a polite reply. I think it might’ve done them a power of good. What do you think?"

Hadn’t thought of it that way. I hope I helped someone then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i am part of a couples profile too and have been shocked at some of the banal messages we have received from single guys. treat people as you wish to be treated.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

That's my experience too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think because this site is more heavily populated by single guys more chance of getting horrendous messages from one. And to be fair I’ve heard of some awful messages sent but not just from single males…

I always find an open mind is best and always think the best of people … until proven otherwise of course!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had the odd nice message from those curious about my profile.

But most are clearly messaging as anyone in their radius and with pics.

Funnily enough I don't see that much of a difference in new messages from when I was here as a couple profile.

Replies on the other hand ...

(Tho that is understandable. OH is smoking)

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By *ereforthefun1 OP Couple
over a year ago

derby

"i am part of a couples profile too and have been shocked at some of the banal messages we have received from single guys. treat people as you wish to be treated. "

Exactly and if you can’t say anything nice don’t say anything at all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

99% of single men are respectful and nice guys. It’s the idiots that spoil it for the rest of us. I’m a single man and treat everyone with the utmost respect

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Were you not just wasting their time, if that's not what you're looking for?

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Must admit, I had the same thought. Surely that puts you in the "timewasters" category ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We've had some shocking ones

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Yes, the usual one liners.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Were you not just wasting their time, if that's not what you're looking for?

I’d say it was probably encouraging for the single men also to have recovered a polite reply. I think it might’ve done them a power of good. What do you think?

Hadn’t thought of it that way. I hope I helped someone then

Judging by how they say it’s discouraging to be ignored despite their best effort, I can only imagine how gratifying it is to receive some acknowledgment of their effort, to fee to have beenl ‘seen’ by someone.

I think that’s wonderful of you and it’s lovely to read a positive thread like this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Were you not just wasting their time, if that's not what you're looking for?

I’d say it was probably encouraging for the single men also to have recovered a polite reply. I think it might’ve done them a power of good. What do you think?"

Proof nice blokes exist! You've always got such a balanced look on things dude

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

"Were you not just wasting their time, if that's not what you're looking for?

Must admit, I had the same thought. Surely that puts you in the "timewasters" category ?"

Glad it's not just me.

Great if they're only looking for a friendly chat, but that's not what they're usually here for!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Were you not just wasting their time, if that's not what you're looking for?

Must admit, I had the same thought. Surely that puts you in the "timewasters" category ?"

Us single men are just happy to get a reply whether it's a positive or negative, if established early it's a non thanks from the lady/couple a chat is always welcome and wouldnt be considered time wasting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A single guy complimentary thread.

This is a first, isn’t it.

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By *xfordshireCoupleMFCouple
over a year ago

Nr. Oxford

We also mostly get decent messages from single guys.

Perhaps that’s because we have it set so only site supporters can message us. That rules a lot of chancers.

But no, as a whole we get good messages, most are even more than 2 lines!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Were you not just wasting their time, if that's not what you're looking for?

Must admit, I had the same thought. Surely that puts you in the "timewasters" category ?

Exactly this.

Had a few replies from ladies/couples saying “no thank you” after a brief chat and I’ve had no problem with that.

However Think us lads in general need to get out of our heads the sense that we are entitled to something back everytime. We aren’t.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well this has been a lot more positive than the usual ‘messages from men’ threads.

It’s a shame people have to suffer tactless imbeciles, but at least their poor attempts make those who do put effort in look even better by comparison.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How refreshing to read something positive about the males

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A single guy complimentary thread.

This is a first, isn’t it. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Were you not just wasting their time, if that's not what you're looking for?

Must admit, I had the same thought. Surely that puts you in the "timewasters" category ?

Exactly this.

Had a few replies from ladies/couples saying “no thank you” after a brief chat and I’ve had no problem with that.

However Think us lads in general need to get out of our heads the sense that we are entitled to something back everytime. We aren’t."
We usually try to reply politely even if we know someone hasn't read our profile, or has chosen to ignore it !

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By *ussieChrisMan
over a year ago

Walsall

This is nice to read.

I get the ladies and couples get inundated with messages from us single lads, so when I get a polite reply saying no thanks, or better yet (still waiting) those that want to go further.. Its always greatly appriciate.

This though is a whole new thing.. And it's nice to see that not everyone ignores or deletes, and does appriciate the messages they get (on the most part).

Thank you OP.

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By *heekyflickWoman
over a year ago

LINCOLN

I get some lovely respectful messages from single guys

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Were you not just wasting their time, if that's not what you're looking for?

I’d say it was probably encouraging for the single men also to have recovered a polite reply. I think it might’ve done them a power of good. What do you think?

Hadn’t thought of it that way. I hope I helped someone then

I think that’s wonderful of you and it’s lovely to read a positive thread like this."

I'm inclined to agree whole heartedly here and what Cityjeans said, a refreshing change.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Were you not just wasting their time, if that's not what you're looking for?

Must admit, I had the same thought. Surely that puts you in the "timewasters" category ?

Exactly this.

Had a few replies from ladies/couples saying “no thank you” after a brief chat and I’ve had no problem with that.

However Think us lads in general need to get out of our heads the sense that we are entitled to something back everytime. We aren’t.We usually try to reply politely even if we know someone hasn't read our profile, or has chosen to ignore it !"

It’s great that you do! I 100% appreciate it even if it’s a no.

Just saying I never expect a reply and I certainly don’t take it to heart if I don’t get a reply. I’m a big boy haha

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

We will always reply to the single guys if they are polite and don’t just send a hi message or a dick pic - they just get deleted.

It costs nothing to be nice but guys also need to understand that they are sending unsolicited messages, so whether it gets responded to is dependent on how they come across.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We recently turned on men being able to message us out of curiosity to see if we got messaged and I have to say I wasn’t sure what to expect but men you have surprised me. I don’t know what I was expecting but most of you that sent messages were lovely, polite and respectful. I made sure I replied to all (I apologise if I missed anyone) but I just wanted to let any newbies like ourselves don’t worry about what you may receive. I have turned single men off messaging for now as it’s not what we are looking for at the moment. Just wanted to express the the positives out of our experience.

Thanks Mrs C

Thank you Mrs C. ,a much appreciated and beautifully written piece .

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham

Good job I didn't message my standard faf message then

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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

"Were you not just wasting their time, if that's not what you're looking for?

No because very early on we make clear we are not looking for single guys and will never meet them. If they wish to then have a conversation after that more than happy.

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By *andm93Couple
over a year ago

st davids

A lot are very polite and respectful and super hot!

you get the odd dick head but they just get added to the block list - tbh some times it’s the guy in the couples that I end up getting pissed off at like … you should know better!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't get messages from anyone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

thank you OP.

god bless

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By *onb21Woman
over a year ago

Cardiff

"Were you not just wasting their time, if that's not what you're looking for?

Must admit, I had the same thought. Surely that puts you in the "timewasters" category ?

Glad it's not just me.

Great if they're only looking for a friendly chat, but that's not what they're usually here for!"

I thought the OP just changed who could message them and not their preferences. Maybe I misunderstood but if they just allowed messaging it's not misleading I think.

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By *ereforthefun1 OP Couple
over a year ago

derby

"Were you not just wasting their time, if that's not what you're looking for?

Must admit, I had the same thought. Surely that puts you in the "timewasters" category ?

Glad it's not just me.

Great if they're only looking for a friendly chat, but that's not what they're usually here for!

I thought the OP just changed who could message them and not their preferences. Maybe I misunderstood but if they just allowed messaging it's not misleading I think. "

Yes it was purely messaging not our preference. If you think that puts us in the time wasting category that is your opinion and you are welcome to it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

See we aren’t all that bad ! Glad to hear this x

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

I get some great messages from single men. The odd few who send the crap are easily filtered out. The high quality of messages reflects the many good people here.

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