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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

To become emotionally intelligent would that mean you will have to have gone through some sh*t?

Yes or no?

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By *lenderfoxMan
over a year ago

Leeds

Not at all

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

I'm not sure how much external factors influence it, some people are just more in-tune with emotions than others.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Not at all"
Why do you think so?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'm not sure how much external factors influence it, some people are just more in-tune with emotions than others."
I've never thought along those lines...the more in-tune idea, but it's interesting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not entirely. Its a bit like DIY. Some people are hopeless at it no matter how much experience you give them. Others can turn their hand to pretty much anything whether they've done it before or not. If you are good at regulating your emotions then you don't need to have experienced a particular situation to make a good job of getting through it.

Like DIY though, the more you experience you have the better you get. You can have a young person who is far more emotionally intelligent than an older one with lots of experiences but that young person will almost certainly be even better in 20 years time.

Mr

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"To become emotionally intelligent would that mean you will have to have gone through some sh*t?

Yes or no?"

No, that would be Emotionally Resilient.

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland


"To become emotionally intelligent would that mean you will have to have gone through some sh*t?

Yes or no?"

No, but life experience helps empathise when hearing about other people's sadness, anger etc.

Emotional intelligence is still a bit underrated for example in the world of work, although organisations are beginning to recognise the value of people's ability to read a room, to understand microaggression without retaliating etc.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Not entirely. Its a bit like DIY. Some people are hopeless at it no matter how much experience you give them. Others can turn their hand to pretty much anything whether they've done it before or not. If you are good at regulating your emotions then you don't need to have experienced a particular situation to make a good job of getting through it.

Like DIY though, the more you experience you have the better you get. You can have a young person who is far more emotionally intelligent than an older one with lots of experiences but that young person will almost certainly be even better in 20 years time.

Mr"
Some great stuff in there. I especially like the bit about regulating emotions.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"To become emotionally intelligent would that mean you will have to have gone through some sh*t?

Yes or no?

No, but life experience helps empathise when hearing about other people's sadness, anger etc.

Emotional intelligence is still a bit underrated for example in the world of work, although organisations are beginning to recognise the value of people's ability to read a room, to understand microaggression without retaliating etc. "
Thanks for that too...much to be learned here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No I don't think so. But I do think to be emotionally intelligent you also need to be very self aware.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"To become emotionally intelligent would that mean you will have to have gone through some sh*t?

Yes or no?

No, that would be Emotionally Resilient."
I like that...I would say in some situations resilience may be needed, in others better to back off or flee!

Resilience being a tool and intelligence the use of the tool?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"No I don't think so. But I do think to be emotionally intelligent you also need to be very self aware. "
Good food for thought.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"No I don't think so. But I do think to be emotionally intelligent you also need to be very self aware. Good food for thought."
Aware of possible weak or vulnerable points in our mindsets?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No I don't think so. But I do think to be emotionally intelligent you also need to be very self aware. Good food for thought. Aware of possible weak or vulnerable points in our mindsets?"

Yes... and aware of our own biases and the way we interpret things and also be aware of how our actions/ words impact others

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"No I don't think so. But I do think to be emotionally intelligent you also need to be very self aware. Good food for thought. Aware of possible weak or vulnerable points in our mindsets?

Yes... and aware of our own biases and the way we interpret things and also be aware of how our actions/ words impact others"
Thanks, powerful stuff!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Gone through some shit and coming out the other side knowing you have or need to change. Many people can go through shit ad infinitum and nothing changes for them. I think you need the potential to be emotionally intelligent in the first place. The going through shit doesnt mean you will gain it.

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

Every one has a strong to tell

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

Emotional intelligence requires empathy. Empathy requires experience. Experience does not have to be negative.

We need human experience to demonstrate emotional intelligence.

How we respond to that intelligence doesn't have to be positive.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Emotional intelligence requires empathy. Empathy requires experience. Experience does not have to be negative.

We need human experience to demonstrate emotional intelligence.

How we respond to that intelligence doesn't have to be positive.

"
Wow!

I particularly like what you said about not having to respond positively to emotional intelligence.

That's very true too!

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT


"Every one has a strong to tell"

Story *

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Gone through some shit and coming out the other side knowing you have or need to change. Many people can go through shit ad infinitum and nothing changes for them. I think you need the potential to be emotionally intelligent in the first place. The going through shit doesnt mean you will gain it. "
The potential for emotional intelligence an interesting statement...the rest is too.

Thanks.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Every one has a strong to tell

Story *"
I knew what you meant...but couldn't respond.

What makes you write that thought?

"Everyone has a story to tell"

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT


"Every one has a strong to tell

Story * I knew what you meant...but couldn't respond.

What makes you write that thought?

"Everyone has a story to tell"

"

Why couldn't you respond

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

Your dont have to go through anything

To be emotionally intelligent

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Every one has a strong to tell

Story * I knew what you meant...but couldn't respond.

What makes you write that thought?

"Everyone has a story to tell"

Why couldn't you respond "
Because I know you mainly as a humourous type (and just in case)

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT


"Every one has a strong to tell

Story * I knew what you meant...but couldn't respond.

What makes you write that thought?

"Everyone has a story to tell"

Why couldn't you respond Because I know you mainly as a humourous type (and just in case)"

Xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Your dont have to go through anything

To be emotionally intelligent "
What makes you state that?

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT


"Your dont have to go through anything

To be emotionally intelligent What makes you state that?"

Life

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

To your

OP

No

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Your dont have to go through anything

To be emotionally intelligent What makes you state that?

Life "
So life, which is something we go through makes us....or do you have another take on it?

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT


"Your dont have to go through anything

To be emotionally intelligent What makes you state that?

Life So life, which is something we go through makes us....or do you have another take on it?"

Darling what are you trying to ask

????

Speak up

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"To your

OP

No"
Thanks for this reply...and we are in mid-conversation.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Your dont have to go through anything

To be emotionally intelligent What makes you state that?

Life So life, which is something we go through makes us....or do you have another take on it?

Darling what are you trying to ask

????

Speak up "
OK...I will accept your reply to OP and leave it at that.

No need to dialogue deeper!

Can you live with that?

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT


"Your dont have to go through anything

To be emotionally intelligent What makes you state that?

Life So life, which is something we go through makes us....or do you have another take on it?

Darling what are you trying to ask

????

Speak up OK...I will accept your reply to OP and leave it at that.

No need to dialogue deeper!

Can you live with that?"

No

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Your dont have to go through anything

To be emotionally intelligent What makes you state that?

Life So life, which is something we go through makes us....or do you have another take on it?

Darling what are you trying to ask

????

Speak up OK...I will accept your reply to OP and leave it at that.

No need to dialogue deeper!

Can you live with that?

No"

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

I think you can choose to learn from experience or you can choose not to.

You can work on your self awareness,if you choose to or you can choose to blunder through life like a bull in a china shop.

To be empathetic I think you have to acknowledge there is a world outside your own experience of it.

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT


"Your dont have to go through anything

To be emotionally intelligent What makes you state that?

Life So life, which is something we go through makes us....or do you have another take on it?

Darling what are you trying to ask

????

Speak up OK...I will accept your reply to OP and leave it at that.

No need to dialogue deeper!

Can you live with that?

No "

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