FabSwingers.com forum: Threesome advice

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Me and my girl are arriving in London Tomorrow 16th

We have decide that this is the trip we make out threesome fantasy (MMF) a reality

She likes the idea of her being in the hotel room while I go to a local pub to find a guy to bring back

I have a few questions but the main one is for the men in this forum …..

What would be the best way to approach a guy in a bar about coming back to the hotel room where she is waiting?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Errr kinda weird, why doesn’t she want to come socialise and go all back together?

Lol if it was kinda something like a guy pulling me at the bar then saying, look a matemof mine is at the hotel . Let’s do a MFM

Id be intimated thinking something odd is going on. But it’s just me… and btw I’ve done my fair amount of MFM lol

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

I think it unlikely that a stranger would go back to a man's hotel room on the off chance he had a willing woman waiting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How does he know you aren't Truros answer to Armin Miewes and only want him for a tasty alternative to the cruddy twin packs of stale biscuits found on the tea and coffee tray?.

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By *nglishCharmMan
over a year ago

Midlands

Asking a man to join you back at the hotel would to me be a concern, why not take take your woman and show the dog the rabbit, hard to accept yet let's be real, Connor

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The best way would be to have her with you and socialise together. I wouldn’t believe you if you came up to me in a bar. I’d find the whole thing strange and wonder why she’s not there.

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

Definitely the easiest way for a first threesome is in a club.

Second easiest - set up a couples profile and find a man from here to meet you in the hotel bar.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The best way would be to have her with you and socialise together. I wouldn’t believe you if you came up to me in a bar. I’d find the whole thing strange and wonder why she’s not there. "

Exactly.

Also I was thinking even if he puts her on the phone to explain it’d sound dodgy as. Like they’d want to rob him or something

Definitely should take the girl and socialise like everyone else and if chemistry is there great to all back to the hotel hand in hand

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

There is no way I'd go back to a guy's hotel on the basis he had told me a woman was waiting for us there. I dread to think what I'd find! If there was a woman there at all I'd worry she was beingheld against her will and I'd find her bound and gagged waiting for guys to use her.

It sounds very creepy to me. Go and meet guys together.

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By *llaboutthewifeCouple
over a year ago

Cardiff

This is a bad idea

Does she know you are here? Open a couple profile if she is indeed really interested.

Why not post a meet and have a conversation with a guy first, boundaries need setting, likes and dislikes discussed, in my opinion anyway

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By *DW1983Man
over a year ago

Aberdeen, Leeds, Sheffield

"The best way would be to have her with you and socialise together. I wouldn’t believe you if you came up to me in a bar. I’d find the whole thing strange and wonder why she’s not there.

Exactly.

Also I was thinking even if he puts her on the phone to explain it’d sound dodgy as. Like they’d want to rob him or something

Definitely should take the girl and socialise like everyone else and if chemistry is there great to all back to the hotel hand in hand

I was just about to say exactly the same.

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By *VineMan
over a year ago

The right place

I agree with what’s been said above. Or you could arrange for a single bloke from here to meet you.

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

If you use "who's on nearby" you could hopefully find someone on Fab to approach after exchanging a few messages

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This is a bad idea

Does she know you are here? Open a couple profile if she is indeed really interested.

Why not post a meet and have a conversation with a guy first, boundaries need setting, likes and dislikes discussed, in my opinion anyway

Jo"

I was just about to post similar.

Arrange a meet through here, then you pop out to meet him if that's what does it for her.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I agree with what’s been said above. Or you could arrange for a single bloke from here to meet you. "

Probably for the best

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By *nly4funMan
over a year ago

Nottingham

"Definitely the easiest way for a first threesome is in a club.

Second easiest - set up a couples profile and find a man from here to meet you in the hotel bar. "

Exactly this.

There are loads of chaps on here who would be keen to participate - but please take note, if they don’t know what she looks like, what you’re looking for in a playmate (kink, BB/sheathed, cuck, etc.) and are still willing to come, would he be the right sort of chap.

Club is easiest. But if you’re set on going down the pub route, get a joint profile. Advertise a meet. Filter the responses. Arrange a pub meet for all three to check the chemistry and desire and then go back to the hotel.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The best way would be to have her with you and socialise together. I wouldn’t believe you if you came up to me in a bar. I’d find the whole thing strange and wonder why she’s not there.

Exactly.

Also I was thinking even if he puts her on the phone to explain it’d sound dodgy as. Like they’d want to rob him or something

Definitely should take the girl and socialise like everyone else and if chemistry is there great to all back to the hotel hand in hand

Well if he wants to know my honest opinion it screams red flags 100%

Even if it was genuine it wouldn’t be for me. I’d like to see who I’m going to have sex with and at least have a conversation, to make sure she feels mutually up for it too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you want to do this because it's her fantasy, then you need to set it up as a role play with someone you've both chatted to from this site, so the guy knows you're genuine, or more importantly that she's genuine. He will want to have seen her and talked to her first, wouldn't you?

It's just not going to happen the way you've described it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The best way would be to have her with you and socialise together. I wouldn’t believe you if you came up to me in a bar. I’d find the whole thing strange and wonder why she’s not there.

Exactly.

Also I was thinking even if he puts her on the phone to explain it’d sound dodgy as. Like they’d want to rob him or something

Definitely should take the girl and socialise like everyone else and if chemistry is there great to all back to the hotel hand in hand

Well if he wants to know my honest opinion it screams red flags 100%

Even if it was genuine it wouldn’t be for me. I’d like to see who I’m going to have sex with and at least have a conversation, to make sure she feels mutually up for it too

Very true, it does scream red flags and can’t fabricate chemistry so , good shout Tony (please tell me that Tmontana stands for Tony Montana or have I just made it all up in my blonde head of mine???

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

No way would I chat to a stranger on his own in a pub and go back to his hotel to meet his possibly nonexistent wife for an mmf!

However…I once got chatting to a mf couple in a pub and DID go back to theirs for an mmf.

The lady needs to be there,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The best way would be to have her with you and socialise together. I wouldn’t believe you if you came up to me in a bar. I’d find the whole thing strange and wonder why she’s not there.

Exactly.

Also I was thinking even if he puts her on the phone to explain it’d sound dodgy as. Like they’d want to rob him or something

Definitely should take the girl and socialise like everyone else and if chemistry is there great to all back to the hotel hand in hand

Well if he wants to know my honest opinion it screams red flags 100%

Even if it was genuine it wouldn’t be for me. I’d like to see who I’m going to have sex with and at least have a conversation, to make sure she feels mutually up for it too

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Hahaha it does, I was watching Scarface when I made this absolutely random

I might change it one day but I’ve always had it and would feel strange a different name lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Firstly. It's a big decision you have made so good luck. I guess you both have to approach it in a way that you both feel comfortable so there is no 'wrong answer' but there are some routes that might lead to better or worse experiences.

I am sure you would get takers if you approached random strangers (on your own) in a pub but you might not get someone that you are both comfortable with and meanwhile your poor partner is sat in anticipation (great if it pans out but pretty disappointing if you come back empty handed or with someone she doesn't like).

Maybe a better chance of success and getting what you both want if you try for a random pick up as a couple.

I would suggest putting an advert of here for a meet on that date. At least you get to filter the weirdos and select someone you both might be comfortable with.

Whatever happens 'good luck'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The best way would be to have her with you and socialise together. I wouldn’t believe you if you came up to me in a bar. I’d find the whole thing strange and wonder why she’s not there.

Exactly.

Also I was thinking even if he puts her on the phone to explain it’d sound dodgy as. Like they’d want to rob him or something

Definitely should take the girl and socialise like everyone else and if chemistry is there great to all back to the hotel hand in hand

Well if he wants to know my honest opinion it screams red flags 100%

Even if it was genuine it wouldn’t be for me. I’d like to see who I’m going to have sex with and at least have a conversation, to make sure she feels mutually up for it too

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Hahaha it does, I was watching Scarface when I made this absolutely random

I might change it one day but I’ve always had it and would feel strange a different name lol

I like your name

don’t change it as it’s basically you now hahaha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Agreed with most it would be suspect to think there is a lady waiting in the hotel room why would she not also be involved in the choice of a man

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Also not sure if you know but a MMF from what I go on is two bi men and a female.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Also not sure if you know but a MMF from what I go on is two bi men and a female. "

Also you would find it tough as you have a single profile and nothing of your women on there

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