FabSwingers.com forum: Is sex

By *parkle1974 OP Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

Yes I know this is a swingers site and predominantly sex is the main feature but......

Is sex really THAT important?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sex and Intimacy aren't mutually exclusive.

Sex is definitely not as important to me, as intimacy. I could have everything but sex, and still be fulfilled in the same way.

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By *ilent...BobMan
over a year ago

Shushhhhhhyourmouthville

Sometimes it's more than that others less than this. Comes in waves so to speak

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By *iBBWLondonWoman
over a year ago

London

"Sometimes it's more than that others less than this. Comes in waves so to speak

*boom-tsh*

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was in a sexless relationship for 7 yrs with a man that was ill. For me the sex part I managed to live without but being close to someone no kissing touching made it very hard . I didn't realise how much I need that in my life.

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By *parkle1974 OP Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

"Sex and Intimacy aren't mutually exclusive.

Sex is definitely not as important to me, as intimacy. I could have everything but sex, and still be fulfilled in the same way. "

Very true, I agree on the intimacy side x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me it's a physical expression of emotions be it lust or love but I have lived without and with it. I prefer with.

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By *apxxxWoman
over a year ago

North Shropshire not Wales!!!ffs & Manchester

Intimacy is far more important...kissing, stroking cuddling...I need that more than penetrative sex

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By *9alMan
over a year ago

Bridgend

yes sex is THAT important !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Intimacy is far more important...kissing, stroking cuddling...I need that more than penetrative sex

Truth

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

Yes otherwise the majority of folk wouldn’t be on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t think sex is the be all and end all. Intimacy and affection is way more important to me - cuddles, kisses, holding hands, touch, even the way someone talks to me, patience when I act in a way that could be frustrating to others, making yourself vulnerable to show and share your feelings - without these things sex is just a physical thing and doesn’t feel anywhere near as satisfying. Just my thoughts though

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By *unandfriendship4uMan
over a year ago

sheffield

From experience. I went without sex for over 3 yrs and the relationship just become a work .sleep relationship. So yes i belive it is because it brings you together. And if your open it can bring that spark back. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sex is good and when it's mutually satisfying that's great but for me I could go without if there was friendship fun and laughter

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not to me. I enjoy it but equally wouldn’t really care if I never had it again. I go through phases. I went to a club recently, I had sex. It was good but it was more about the experience.

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By *parkle1974 OP Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

I know I couldn't live without intimacy but penetrative sex I can take or leave. Just seems that some people need it....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's not *that* important... but it's ultimately why people swing... and this is a fabswingers... so...

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By *parkle1974 OP Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

"yes sex is THAT important !"

Why?

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By *parkle1974 OP Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

"It's not *that* important... but it's ultimately why people swing... and this is a fabswingers... so..."

But there are a few on here who don't meet....

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By *gent CoulsonMan
over a year ago

Secret hideaway in the pennines

I could probably live without sex, but definitely not without intimacy, years ago I lived without both and I was so miserable in myself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wait till people hear about masturbation, you can literally have sex without ever having to get ready and leave your house, saves so much time, plus your hand will never ghost or block you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's not *that* important... but it's ultimately why people swing... and this is a fabswingers... so...

But there are a few on here who don't meet...."

Yes there are. I've joined a knitting club but I've no interest in knitting, I just like wool.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

"It's not *that* important... but it's ultimately why people swing... and this is a fabswingers... so...

But there are a few on here who don't meet....

Yes there are. I've joined a knitting club but I've no interest in knitting, I just like wool."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sex is great , when the intimacy is great. To me, sex is disposable when there's no intimacy.

However, intimacy is amazing on its own.

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By *rs mischiefWoman
over a year ago

Manchester

It has to be intimacy for me, sex is good but without intimacy its just boring.. and does not turn me on..id be like the Sahara desert!

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By *JB1954Man
over a year ago

Reading

Intimacy. First get to know person. The touching , kissing and cuddling. Which hopefully leads to sex. I think sex with out intimacy ( chemistry ) between people , even on Fab, does not work. ?

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

Yes. I couldn’t be with a fella with a low sex drive. Passion within a relationship is important to me, and whilst there are other ways for intimacy etc, a good knobbing is what I enjoy.

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By *omer47Man
over a year ago

leigh

Why would you join a sex site or be a swinger if sex wasn't important to you. Of course its important

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By *alty surpriseMan
over a year ago

Uttoxeter

I love sex and i know sex is a great way of showing desire and showing someone just how sexy they are..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No. It's a waste of time

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

"Why would you join a sex site or be a swinger if sex wasn't important to you. Of course its important "

I'm on here and right now I couldn't give 2 shits if I never have sex again.

I'm perfectly satisfied having a wank when I get the urge. This time last year I wasn't even getting the urge to wank.

Assuming sex is important to everyone BECAUSE they're on this site may be detrimental to you, as your perception is way off.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

Yes for me it's pretty important and something i miss when i haven't had it for a couple of weeks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s not the be all and I be all of everything is it? I think communication and good personality have to shine through xxxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It seems to be more important to people on here from what I've gathered since being here.

Maybe some users are nymphos?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends on the gender off the person for me

For men yes totally as that’s what I am after with them

For woman no it’s not important at all I would be just as happy cuddled on the couch with a good movie and good talk or out doing something like walk along the beach or something maybe I am in the wrong place for that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why would you join a sex site or be a swinger if sex wasn't important to you. Of course its important "

Well I'm here because I enjoy reading through the forums, it's like a citizens advice bureau at times lol. I didn't come for the sex because I think it's going to be almost impossible for me to meet anyone who I can click with without going to clubs and that's not for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are many great moments where sex is concerned but include the intimacy aspect. Lying there talking, spooning in the morning, the light touches. If you gave me a choice I would choose to be close to someone over one night and never seeing them again.

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By *stbury DavenportMan
over a year ago

Nottingham

Sex is the most important thing in my life, without question.

I have not had sex in 525 days, because pandemic.

Seriously, fuck coronavirus. Ugh.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sex and Intimacy aren't mutually exclusive.

Sex is definitely not as important to me, as intimacy. I could have everything but sex, and still be fulfilled in the same way. "

This!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had a fairly sexless relationship.. it still had intimacy but I realised it was not enough.

My preference is for sex and intimacy but I’m happy with just sex and lust as well (but there still needs to be a connection)

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

Intimacy with one person, with whom I might share more than my body... including parts of my soul.

Sex... could be somebody I am attracted to, that I like, that I trust to SOME extent but not necessarily access to my inner world if that makes any sense.

If it does make sense, you deserve a bit more access

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By *heGateKeeperMan
over a year ago

Stratford

It’s not my purpose for being on here but in intimate relationships it’s important. Less so as I get older, but still a factor

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

Sex as in penetration I could go without

Sex as in physical intimacy (foreplay, kissing, cuddling, spanking etc.) then yes it is important, but not a necessity.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know you can have sex and not be a swinger, but are you really a swinger if you don't have sex?

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

"I know you can have sex and not be a swinger, but are you really a swinger if you don't have sex?"

That is an interesting question: I have had people tell me their partner had an affair but only by text/ sexting. They say it is as bad as if they had had full sex with the other, the third party. I understand that.

So if that is considered sex in the broader sense, I guess you could just be a swinger who does not consume physical sex?

I wonder what other people think - am I mad for saying that?

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