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Looks or conection ?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Curious to see where people stand. Obviously looks pay a part but would you sleep with some one just for being smoking hot.

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

Not a chance. I need that spark/connection with someone x

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By *elle xWoman
over a year ago

Doire Theas

It’s definitely more about the connection for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Connection

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Curious to see where people stand. Obviously looks pay a part but would you sleep with some one just for being smoking hot."

Connection every single time. Being sexy is what is inside not what you can see with your eyes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely connection for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Connection...absolute must...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Totally agree ladies ! Sex with a conection always seems better!

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham

With the connection, their increase. Brains are funny.

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By *heekyflickWoman
over a year ago

LINCOLN

I am obviously attracted to a certain look but if a person with a cracking personality was also there I would go with connection...

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham

With the connection, their looks increase. Brains are funny.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't find out about the connection without the looks attracting me first.

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

Humour cheeky chemistry

And connection

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Connection without a doubt. Whilst someone can be devastatingly sexy and hot, without that connection there would be no attraction for me.

Mr HH

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't find out about the connection without the looks attracting me first. "

I don't see them as an either or.

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By *batMan
over a year ago

Alicante, Spain. (Sometimes in Wales)

Connection is great, that can be attractive in it's own right.

Cracking looks would get me too, but if somebody isn't a nice person, then it's probably only ever going to be a one off.

Gbat

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

I can’t sleep with someone I don’t have an attraction to and being good looking isn’t it, there has to be so much more.

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By *nfin8yWoman
over a year ago

Newcastle-under-Lyme

Connection is essential

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By *adetMan
over a year ago

South of Ipswich

With people I meet regularly there is a connection

But being completely honest I can easily have a one off with someone I like the look of

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By *iBBWLondonWoman
over a year ago

London

Always connection, no exceptions. My spirit and funny bone don’t give a shit what your meat suit looks like.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A bit of both, I have to fancy someone but the connection is part of that. But on looks only, it's a no.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All the hot peope: “yeah connection, defo”

Everyone else: “yeah, it’s sort of whatever really. Sometimes it depends on my Mood. But generally anyone that’ll have me”

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Curious to see where people stand. Obviously looks pay a part but would you sleep with some one just for being smoking hot."

And yes absolutely. There's something really hot about catching the eye of someone in a club that you find so attractive that you just have to have them. When that is a mutual instant attraction that sex can be so hot. But that is all it is. So yes. I absolutely can have sex without that "connection".

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve got all the connection with my fella so not looking for any emotional connections from strangers, regards to swinging I just want a dam good seeing to by a hot stud/female

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Curious to see where people stand. Obviously looks pay a part but would you sleep with some one just for being smoking hot."

Yes, I would.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nice to have some sort of a connection with someone, I wouldn't sleep with someone just because they look amazing!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like a balance of looks/ attraction and personality/connection

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan
over a year ago

Den of Iniquity

100% Connection is more important as I do prefer to stay friends with people I meet so that needs to be there from the start

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

no looks, no connection, all I need is a strong and stable erection

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By *oeBiggs321Man
over a year ago

Reading

I would say you need a mixture of both could be a 10/10 but the personality of a slug

Or you could be the best person ever but if that sexual attraction isn’t there you’re stuffed

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By *rOralMan
over a year ago

Dublin


"Curious to see where people stand. Obviously looks pay a part but would you sleep with some one just for being smoking hot. "

Yes I would. But in the end if there was not connection/spark whatsoever, It wouldn’t be a second time.

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By *affron40Woman
over a year ago

manchester

I rarely fancy the more traditionally good looking guys but can be blown away by the mind. Ultimately it’s a mixture of the two never just one alone so no OP

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me the looks have to be there to start but then if there is no connection then it won’t go any further so for me it has to be both

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By *iBBWLondonWoman
over a year ago

London


"no looks, no connection, all I need is a strong and stable erection"

I think I love you!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Looks

Connections can be great at first

Then they say or do something and the connection is lost

It's too late then

You've already fucked the ugly guy you had no real connection to

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I need both physical and mental attraction

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
over a year ago

Coventry

Both but connection over looks. Also as connection grows my physical attraction tends to grow too. Maybe I have connection goggles?

(Mr)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Looks. They don't have to speak to me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Looks. They don't have to speak to me."

Duuuude … yooo!!!

Btw it has to be 50/50… I can’t do it if the looks aren’t there even if the connection is great. I can have sex with someone just on looks but after that first time it’d get boring fast I guess.

Now good looks + amazing connection = FIRE

So yeah, moral of the story, she’s a greedy bitch

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Looks. They don't have to speak to me.

Duuuude … yooo!!!

Btw it has to be 50/50… I can’t do it if the looks aren’t there even if the connection is great. I can have sex with someone just on looks but after that first time it’d get boring fast I guess.

Now good looks + amazing connection = FIRE

So yeah, moral of the story, she’s a greedy bitch "

You just need pizza

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By *izzy.miss.lizzyCouple
over a year ago

Pembrokeshire


"Curious to see where people stand. Obviously looks pay a part but would you sleep with some one just for being smoking hot."

connection matters for me.

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By *ilent...BobMan
over a year ago

Shushhhhhhyourmouthville

The c-word

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Looks. They don't have to speak to me.

Duuuude … yooo!!!

Btw it has to be 50/50… I can’t do it if the looks aren’t there even if the connection is great. I can have sex with someone just on looks but after that first time it’d get boring fast I guess.

Now good looks + amazing connection = FIRE

So yeah, moral of the story, she’s a greedy bitch

You just need pizza "

Come over u!!

(Ps: grab spicy pepperoni!!!)

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By *igmaMan
over a year ago

Yorkshire


"Curious to see where people stand. Obviously looks pay a part but would you sleep with some one just for being smoking hot."

Yes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's abit of both for me. I need to fancy the person but need to feel a connection to be able to have sex with them

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By *oubleswing2019Man
over a year ago

Colchester


"Curious to see where people stand. Obviously looks pay a part but would you sleep with some one just for being smoking hot."

No. Complete turn-off.

It implies an extreme level of artificial self-vanity, which is a red flag to me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Connection really

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I need the looks for a initial connection to start but if they haven't got the personality and aren't on the same wavelength, it's not happening. They can be the most attractive person in the world but if they have got the personality of a sideboard.. I can't let them put their penis in me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely needs to be a connection.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

Nope would rather sleep with someone that i connect with.

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By *asha86Couple
over a year ago

walsall

I need the spark/connection as it makes the whole experience more interesting and enjoyable especially if can banter xT

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

Might have done in my twenties but then I did not really know what I was looking for deep down. I made many good decisions and millions of really bad ones. Having sex with the wrong kind of people was one of the latter.... but hey, I am what I am today because of all my decisions. Or maybe despite...

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By *razzyhorseMan
over a year ago

cambridge

Attraction is far more than skin deep. Must be a spark and connection. Would be a hollow & empty experience without any.

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By *oungAtHeartCurvyCoupleCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow

Def connection helps if looking for a relationship but if for one night only looks would be enough we would all like a ride in a Ferrari even tho we know it may not suit us lol

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By *rs mischiefWoman
over a year ago

Manchester


"Curious to see where people stand. Obviously looks pay a part but would you sleep with some one just for being smoking hot."

In short nope

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

Definitely connection.

I try to laugh their clothes off.

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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

No there has to be a connection.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’d need both. Without the looks I wouldn’t try and connect.

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By *rad670Man
over a year ago

South Lakes

Connection absolutely but it's always a photo that has to initially create interest, I mean would you explore a silhouetted profile to see if there was a connection?

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By *ily WhiteWoman
over a year ago

?

It depends on the situation. In a club, I more than likely just want a good time with someone hot. For a one on one meet, probably a bit of both...I'd still say that looks are most important, but it's going to be a bit tedious if they have the personality of a wet blanket...it's not like I want to date them, but a bit of conversation makes it a much more pleasant experience.

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By *his_Kitty_ScratchesWoman
over a year ago

WSM


"I don't find out about the connection without the looks attracting me first. "

I agree, gotta have both there for it to go anywhere

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hell no. There has to be some sort of connection x

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By *W_RedMan
over a year ago

Manchester

Connection yes. But when d*unk I have been guilty of it just being about looks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Connection but there has to be an attraction to spark my interest

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By *ettaManMan
over a year ago

Kerry and Dublin

I would sleep with someone just for being smoking hot, but I would also sleep with someone bcos of the connection.

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By *sm265Woman
over a year ago

Shangri-la

I don't necessarily need a full on connection, but I certainly need to like them as a person. Doesn't matter how stunningly good looking someone is, if they have an unattractive personality or give off a vibe that doesn't appeal to me, then I don't want to have sex with them.

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

A connection would be great, but i can pick them up from the train station if necessary.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Looks to get me interested and personality to make me stay. I’m all about the pillow talk and I could talk for Ireland but if I can’t do that with you - it’s bye Felicia

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

Good personality is a must and that brings a connection

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The best way to see if you both have a spark is to chat openly before looks play a part. That’s the advantage of internet dating. Exactly why naked attraction never works.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have not felt this urge to do so but I can’t say what I’d do. I’m trying to open myself to new experiences and this may happen.

Hitherto, it doesn’t seem to be in my nature to do so without a connection first.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope. I need a connection with someone if I'm going to jump in to bed with them, no matter how hot they are.

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By *etsGo11Man
over a year ago

burton


"Nope. I need a connection with someone if I'm going to jump in to bed with them, no matter how hot they are. "

Agreed!

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By *amescoupleCouple
over a year ago

north walsham

A little of one a lot of the other.

There needs to be a little attraction whether it's physical or something in a profile that makes us say 'yeah let's see where it goes'. Then there needs to be a connection built.

Well unless we are both in a state of raging horn, then you just need to be attractive enough or at least have a pulse lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Looks attract me first to a lady but ultimately it’ll be the connection that makes me want to arrange meeting up. It will always be both that sets my mind racing.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"Curious to see where people stand. Obviously looks pay a part but would you sleep with some one just for being smoking hot."

I don't sleep with anyone I'm not sexually attracted to. I met a man who was the spitting image of Daniel Craig. I've never seen someone walk in a space where both women and men stopped to stare: he was absolutely gorgeous. When he saw me his face lit up.

I was excited until he got to me and spoke! Face and body of Daniel Craig, voice like Joe Pasquale! I couldn't get rid of him fast enough.

I made sure I always had a phone conversation after that. Good looks is not the be all for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't find out about the connection without the looks attracting me first. "

Absolutely...has to be initial attraction..but if they turn out to be a dick it wouldnt matter how good looking they were it wouldn't go any further.

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By *VineMan
over a year ago

The right place

Both obviously

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Connection is more important, but I need to be attracted too xx

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