FabSwingers.com forum: Over 40s - what advice would you give to your younger self?

By *angerous liasons OP Man
over a year ago

Outer Space

Me - don’t stress, you look great so be more confident, avoid the exciting (psychotic) blonde as it end badly, be more adventurous in every way, go and live in Canada or New Zealand, start your pension early, stay in touch with the good people, fuck and love with abandon like your life depends on it.

How about you?

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By *ougie321Man
over a year ago

Milford Haven

Anything and anyone goes it’s that simple

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By *angerous liasons OP Man
over a year ago

Outer Space

"Anything and anyone goes it’s that simple"

Hahahaa, the meaning of life.

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By *yronMan
over a year ago

grangemouth

Get out more and listen to other people.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Not a thing. I wouldn't have listened.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Learn a second language properly.

Go live in that country properly.

Laugh your ass of at Brexit result and feel smug that you live away from that shit storm.

Ask for help when you needed it.

Ask the questions you were afraid to and offer the help you could

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Please be kind to yourself, you're absolutely doing the best you can right now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Avoid relationships with men.

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By *leedsMan
over a year ago

Leeds

You can be a nice guy without being a martyr…

Take that chance

You’re an alright catch

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Be more confident and don’t worry do much

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By *harlotteBigBoobsWoman
over a year ago

Hull

There's men out there who like bigger ladies so have more confidence in myself and hating myself for been big x

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By *arakiss12TV/TS
over a year ago

Bedford

Have more sex, eat more cream cakes and don't move house.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't EVER doubt your instinct, it's there to protect you, and never be scared of asking that lady that you always had a crush on if if she wanted to fuck..life's too short.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Avoid relationships with men."

Okay I’m only 30 but this…

This i need to tattoo on my forehead

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By *ean counterMan
over a year ago

Market Harborough/ Kettering

I'm just thankfull that the internet and Fab hadn't turned up 30 years ago! I think my life would have been completely different.

My advice would be to go for that person you fancy like mad and stop dropping hints about the way you feel or you may live to regret it

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By *uvhandle20Man
over a year ago

SE London

Don't stress and work too hard, no one is going to notice it.

Enjoy life and have as much sex as possible.

I would also tell my younger self to avoid a certain lady that likes to analyse me

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By *immyinreadingMan
over a year ago

henley on thames

"Me - don’t stress, you look great so be more confident, avoid the exciting (psychotic) blonde as it end badly, be more adventurous in every way, go and live in Canada or New Zealand, start your pension early, stay in touch with the good people, fuck and love with abandon like your life depends on it.

How about you?"

All of the above.

And don’t give a fuck what other people think, whether that is “society” or what you think matters to other people, set your own priorities, your own behavioural norms, and live life your way, literally the only thing that matters

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

Stay away from the cake. A minute on the lips and a lifetime on the hips!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was always pretty down on myself (still am truth be told), so.something along the lines of;

Dont try to fit in, find people who let you in...

Have a bit more confidence in your self worth.

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By *ilver Fox 60Man
over a year ago

Southport

Absolutely nothing as I would never have believed that AIDS, university fees, 9/11, global financial crash, austerity, Brexit, Trump and a pandemic would be waiting in the wings.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Exfoliate, moisturise and wear suncream, at least SPF 30.

Get on the property ladder as soon as you can, cut toxic people out, don’t be afraid to say no, use peoples names when taking to them, they respond better.

Don’t fuck about doing Business and Finance, you hate it, go out work for yourself, don’t make other people rich, send those songs off, fuck it, you never know.

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By *arkus1812Man
over a year ago

Finedon ,

Emigrate at the earliest opportunity.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't try to change things you have no control over, and get your ass down to the gym now!

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

Put the hobnobs down

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Find a job you really enjoy and feel confident in, you're going to spend a lot of time working.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

'should of married him love'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It gets better buddy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Join the forces at 18 don't take any notice of your mother

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By *tue555Man
over a year ago

Passed Beyond Reach

Had an adventurous life experienced much so no change there. Id say just this time don't be nice to people, trust them, offer to help them when they need it, cos they'll stab you in the back at every opportunity if they think it will give them an advantage.

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By *andsCouple
over a year ago

Edin

Mine would be don’t sweat the small stuff ….

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mine would be - dont shag Sam!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm still young so I don't need to do this until I'm over 55 I reckon!

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By *eah BabyCouple
over a year ago

Cheshire, Windermere ,Cumbria

"Mine would be don’t sweat the small stuff …."

My first thoughts when I saw the post

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The bookie always wins m8, don't gamble at all ,when you stop it your life changes for the better

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I haven't got the time to type it all!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

be kind to other people

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By *iBBWLondonWoman
over a year ago

London

Don’t marry that first cunt, he isn’t what he appears.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Don’t marry that first cunt, he isn’t what he appears."

Lmfao I love it

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By *bostCouple
over a year ago

glasgow

Don’t sweat the small stuff. Spend more time with your Dad. Be more confident, you’re actually good at the shit you do.

This applies to both of our younger selves.

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By *razzyhorseMan
over a year ago

cambridge

Believe in yourself...

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

You were never the problem. She just isn't maternal and very probably fighting demons nobody knows about.

Get help though, as soon as you can because little do you realise you WILL become part of a cycle even though you don't want to be, even though you hate bullies, manipulators and liars. Not the outright open ones but the sly ones. You'll be drawn to their confidence and aura they give off as it subconsciously reminds you of her. You'll be substituting her with them, seeking their validation, trying to change for their approval, left wondering what more you could do to earn love and keep it.

Act now, or you'll pay for it later.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Two things...

Just do it

Absolutely nothing matters!

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By *ivek68Man
over a year ago

york

Do more for yourself instead of pleasing others with no thanks. And I don't mean sexual

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't work as hard as you have.

Only work as you need to enjoy the complete hedonism you love as long as it doesn't hurt anyone else.

Continue to be the person you have been in your principles...

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By *iBBWLondonWoman
over a year ago

London

"You were never the problem. She just isn't maternal and very probably fighting demons nobody knows about.

Act now, or you'll pay for it later."

Oh sweetheart.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You wont save any of them, they dont want saving. Run free, pick up that pen and your passport and Go!

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By *ooBulMan
over a year ago

Missin’ Yo’ Kissin’

Don't be scared to take risks in life. Take the jump, don't look back and if you fuck up correct it & don't repeat again.

It's always easier to take the easy way out - that's what most people do & end up not being very happy for the rest of their lives. Or living the life they could have.

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By *ohohoWoman
over a year ago

Up North

Stick to your guns. If you want to do something then do it. Stop letting others talk you out of it and convincing you that you couldn’t do it. Because damn girl!! You sure can!!!!

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham

That women actually might like you if you put yourself out there, stop wasting time.

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By *ed VoluptaWoman
over a year ago

Wirral.

Fuck more, but give a fuck less

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't have kids they cost a fortune

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Don't have kids they cost a fortune"

Oh and don't care about what people think as much

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By *affron40Woman
over a year ago

manchester

Write it down. Before you know it you’ll have forgotten all those ridiculous moments.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Fuck more, but give a fuck less

Brilliant

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By *exypetWoman
over a year ago

Stockport

Trust your instincts, listen to yourself

Don’t make life decisions based on making other people happy, do it for you

Ask for help…pride isn’t as important as your mental health

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By *enuine MikeMan
over a year ago

Guildford

Time and life is valuable, Don't dedicate too much of your life at work.

Live a little, its fine to have a girlfriend, stop looking for the perfect one/soul mate as time passes us by too quickly and before long, you'll find yourself at 45, single and sad reflecting on what could have been

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By *enuine MikeMan
over a year ago

Guildford

Trust your hunch and gut feeling.

Stop beating yourself up by not buying Bitcoin 17 years ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Invest your first bonus in Apple shares rather than splurging on a car!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tomorrow isn't promised so live life to the max, do the things you want to do , be true to yourself and you will find true happiness

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By *heekyflickWoman
over a year ago

LINCOLN

I would whisper in my younger ear To go fucking enjoy life...it's going to get better as I get older...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't worry about whatever other people think. They all have their own secrets anyway.

Also, hurt people hurt people, and pretty much everyone you meet is dealing with shit you can't see, so take a chill pill and be nice. The only time the world needs more dicks is at greedy girls.

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By *xfordshireCoupleMFCouple
over a year ago

Nr. Oxford

I’m 34 so not quite 40, but if I could go back to my 18 year old self I would tell her it’s ok to be single, I know you’re afraid to be alone but don’t settle being with a shitty guy because of it. Rent that flat by yourself and really give yourself time to discover who you are, don’t mould yourself around your partner to be what they want. You will be lonely sometimes but I promise it will be worth it. Also get that therapy you keep thinking about, you get it in the future but it would of helped so much more if you got it sooner.

Lily

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By *ausage1970Man
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

On you way up be kind as the way down can be tough and you always need friends

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