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By *ecadent_Devon OP   Man
over a year ago

Okehampton

I’ve made a whopper, a mistake, poor judgement has occurred. You see I have been enamoured of someone for a few years now, it started as all things do as a friendship, but over time, well even a stony old goat like me succumbs to feelings of the heart.

I knew/felt she didn’t feel the same so I tempered my emotions, put greater distance between us. Well they distance shortened over the last few weeks, but once again a crescendo of feelings manifest in me and so I wrote a letter. I never really intended to send it, but it was a way to put those feelings to one side, to nail them down and free them from within.

And so I put the distance between us again (in fact this thread would have been entitled, “is it okay to ghost a friend you have fallen for if you know they don’t feel the same way”, but a few days ago). But messages were sent and I told her I had written her a letter. She said nothing for a few days and I reasoned that the distance would grow wider.

However, last night she asked me whether I would send her the letter, so I have and now……. Now I know I should have not, I have put her in a terrible position I think. So….. I’m a bit daft really. Silly old goat.

I am now experimenting with how much wine it takes me to stop cringing.

Bless. I don’t really know the point of this thread, take the piss, ignore, chastise or support , I’ll just sit here and get squiffy eek!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Devon you need to write a book everything you write is like orgasmic for my feeble brain!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wine ???

Much love to you dude

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By *inkyInkedBiWoman
over a year ago

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You would have ultimately regretted it if you didn’t say how you felt.

You never know if she feels the same? - she did ask about the letter.

You’ve followed your heart and you can say you’ve been true to yourself.

If it isn’t reciprocated I hope you can still remain great friends

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

She asked you to send it so she might have guessed what was in it. Maybe it will be good news. Faint heart never won fair lady.

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

Or she might actually secretly feel the same, and magic might occur.

Women aren’t daft, when a fella says they’ve written you a letter you know they’re either telling you bad things or good. She took that risk. So did you.

This could all completely work out. And I hope it does.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You soppy bugger!

Be kind to yourself xx

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By *ecadent_Devon OP   Man
over a year ago

Okehampton


"Devon you need to write a book everything you write is like orgasmic for my feeble brain!!

"

Even with all the spelling/grammar mistakes? Aww bless you

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

At least you have got your true feelings out in the open. Whether or not they are reciprocated, that can only be a good thing. From this you will both kmow exactly where you stand.

And she did ask yo read them.

I think it's better to put yourself out there than always wonder...what if!

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By *inx_xxWoman
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

Writing a letter, written as eloquently as you wrote this thread sounds beautiful and she asked for it.

I'm invested now that you get the outcome you hope for

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle

I hoped she can read it and still be your friend after, being a grown up means you can discuss issues even if it’s to say I love you as my friend but nothing more will ever happen, maybe you know that will be the outcome so swig a few glasses down until you can un-cringe yourself

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By *eardybobMan
over a year ago

the Goldilocks Zone


"Or she might actually secretly feel the same, and magic might occur.

Women aren’t daft, when a fella says they’ve written you a letter you know they’re either telling you bad things or good. She took that risk. So did you.

This could all completely work out. And I hope it does. "

Yes yes yes! This!

Cringe not P - what will be will be, but regardless of the outcome you have been true to yourself, and honest with her, so you can truly hold your head up high.

Good luck man!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Or she might actually secretly feel the same, and magic might occur.

Women aren’t daft, when a fella says they’ve written you a letter you know they’re either telling you bad things or good. She took that risk. So did you.

This could all completely work out. And I hope it does. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You have made no mistake OP. The biggest mistake you could of made was to not send it when she asked for it. Life is about taking chances and you have taken what could be a life changing one for you.

I love the fact you write a letter rather than a long text or email.

Thank you for showing us all that romance isn’t dead. Please let us know how this progresses

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By *iBBWLondonWoman
over a year ago

London

Aw, my heart just melted reading that! Big hugs, lovely xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it's lovely, and you shared with us how you felt, either way, you had to let her know, at least when she reads the letter and makes a decision about how she feels, you will know and that's better than always thinking "but what if".. Very brave to put yourself out there sending a virtual hug and hope it's a happy outcome

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not a mistake as if you hadn’t you would always been in a state off you wouldn’t know for shour

You shot your shot

If she turns you down then you can move on and develop those feelings for someone else

Dosent mean yous still can’t be friends

But I will say if she says no it means no forever in your mind

As you don’t want to get played and picked up and dropped

Ones someone turns my shot down that shots gone for the rest off they life they had a chance they missed it

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By *ecadent_Devon OP   Man
over a year ago

Okehampton

aww you are all so lovely. It will go hideously wrong and end up as a tale of carnage, but hey! It’s another tale is it not? Now back to getting squiffy. I’ll probably put my riding breeches on back-to-front tomorrow morning.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh my days.. Can you pretend you were hacked

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By *ereforthefun1Couple
over a year ago

derby

Be true to yourself. Never regret anything as lessons are always learnt and lead us to where we should be. Everything happens for a reason

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

A word of caution: Now don’t go messaging her squiffy messages of regret for sending it etc once you’ve had some wine.

Just give space. Big news takes digesting.

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

Sounds painful

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By *ecadent_Devon OP   Man
over a year ago

Okehampton


"Oh my days.. Can you pretend you were hacked "

It was hand written . The flow of ink on paper conveys so much more than a cold hard screen ever could, don’t you think?

Please note I didn’t splash the paper with Brut before sending

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By *upersoaker3000Man
over a year ago

Belfast

This is cool. It took guts. I hope it pays off for you. Even if it doesn't, you did the right thing.

Best of luck, buddy!

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By *inAndTonic21Couple
over a year ago

Merseyside

Sounds harsh for you and it may be hard for her to read but it out in the open now so you can rest! It’s very heart felt this post

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh, I knew even stony old goats had a squishy heart somewhere!

It's sometimes something we have to do just to clear thoughts in our own minds. Embrace the cringe and be easy on yourself

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Brave I'd say.

I've done cringeworthy stuff that still wakes me up sweating and screaming at 2am.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Brave I'd say.

I've done cringeworthy stuff that still wakes me up sweating and screaming at 2am.

"

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By *ecadent_Devon OP   Man
over a year ago

Okehampton


"Brave I'd say.

I've done cringeworthy stuff that still wakes me up sweating and screaming at 2am.

"

See now that’s the ship I CAN sail

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West


"Oh my days.. Can you pretend you were hacked

It was hand written . The flow of ink on paper conveys so much more than a cold hard screen ever could, don’t you think?

Please note I didn’t splash the paper with Brut before sending "

Did you use Old Spice instead?

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By *ecadent_Devon OP   Man
over a year ago

Okehampton


"Oh my days.. Can you pretend you were hacked

It was hand written . The flow of ink on paper conveys so much more than a cold hard screen ever could, don’t you think?

Please note I didn’t splash the paper with Brut before sending

Did you use Old Spice instead? "

Hai Karate, too much?

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

Be kind to yourself op,

big boobie hugs x

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By *andsome HandMan
over a year ago

roundabout

You'll be grand, I look forward to hearing that she has feelings too.

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West


"Oh my days.. Can you pretend you were hacked

It was hand written . The flow of ink on paper conveys so much more than a cold hard screen ever could, don’t you think?

Please note I didn’t splash the paper with Brut before sending

Did you use Old Spice instead?

Hai Karate, too much? "

Not if it's from the Pound Shop

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By *ecadent_Devon OP   Man
over a year ago

Okehampton


"Oh my days.. Can you pretend you were hacked

It was hand written . The flow of ink on paper conveys so much more than a cold hard screen ever could, don’t you think?

Please note I didn’t splash the paper with Brut before sending

Did you use Old Spice instead?

Hai Karate, too much?

Not if it's from the Pound Shop "

Is there any other type of shop?

Confused of Devon

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm rooting for you bro. You did the right thing. Never be afraid to let someone know you feel like that about them. At least you will know rather than live with the what if. Unrequited love is hard, a love lost through inaction even harder.

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West


"Oh my days.. Can you pretend you were hacked

It was hand written . The flow of ink on paper conveys so much more than a cold hard screen ever could, don’t you think?

Please note I didn’t splash the paper with Brut before sending

Did you use Old Spice instead?

Hai Karate, too much?

Not if it's from the Pound Shop

Is there any other type of shop?

Confused of Devon "

Sounds like your lady friend is in excellent hands

Chicks dig those plastic flowers you know? Last forever

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By *andsome HandMan
over a year ago

roundabout

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Oh my days.. Can you pretend you were hacked

It was hand written . The flow of ink on paper conveys so much more than a cold hard screen ever could, don’t you think?

Please note I didn’t splash the paper with Brut before sending "

Omg it would make my knees go weak!! How amazing and special!

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By *ecadent_Devon OP   Man
over a year ago

Okehampton


"Oh my days.. Can you pretend you were hacked

It was hand written . The flow of ink on paper conveys so much more than a cold hard screen ever could, don’t you think?

Please note I didn’t splash the paper with Brut before sending

Omg it would make my knees go weak!! How amazing and special!

"

I’m getting a hint of sarcasm with the faint berry notes of my Beaujolais

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Oh my days.. Can you pretend you were hacked

It was hand written . The flow of ink on paper conveys so much more than a cold hard screen ever could, don’t you think?

Please note I didn’t splash the paper with Brut before sending

Omg it would make my knees go weak!! How amazing and special!

I’m getting a hint of sarcasm with the faint berry notes of my Beaujolais

"

No it was genuine lol!

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By *ecadent_Devon OP   Man
over a year ago

Okehampton


"A word of caution: Now don’t go messaging her squiffy messages of regret for sending it etc once you’ve had some wine.

Just give space. Big news takes digesting.

"

Oh I’ve never been one for pressure or d*unken messages Luna, but wise advice indeed. I think fingerprint readers on phones should be able to measure the amount of alcohol in your blood stream and refuse to open over a certain amount.

I have waited 2 years to know. If it takes another 2 years then that’s what it will be x

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By *iBBWLondonWoman
over a year ago

London


"A word of caution: Now don’t go messaging her squiffy messages of regret for sending it etc once you’ve had some wine.

Just give space. Big news takes digesting.

Oh I’ve never been one for pressure or d*unken messages Luna, but wise advice indeed. I think fingerprint readers on phones should be able to measure the amount of alcohol in your blood stream and refuse to open over a certain amount.

I have waited 2 years to know. If it takes another 2 years then that’s what it will be x

"

3xxx

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By *ettaManMan
over a year ago

Kerry and Dublin


"I’ve made a whopper, a mistake, poor judgement has occurred. You see I have been enamoured of someone for a few years now, it started as all things do as a friendship, but over time, well even a stony old goat like me succumbs to feelings of the heart.

I knew/felt she didn’t feel the same so I tempered my emotions, put greater distance between us. Well they distance shortened over the last few weeks, but once again a crescendo of feelings manifest in me and so I wrote a letter. I never really intended to send it, but it was a way to put those feelings to one side, to nail them down and free them from within.

And so I put the distance between us again (in fact this thread would have been entitled, “is it okay to ghost a friend you have fallen for if you know they don’t feel the same way”, but a few days ago). But messages were sent and I told her I had written her a letter. She said nothing for a few days and I reasoned that the distance would grow wider.

However, last night she asked me whether I would send her the letter, so I have and now……. Now I know I should have not, I have put her in a terrible position I think. So….. I’m a bit daft really. Silly old goat.

I am now experimenting with how much wine it takes me to stop cringing.

Bless. I don’t really know the point of this thread, take the piss, ignore, chastise or support , I’ll just sit here and get squiffy eek! "

I know it feels like 'the end of the world' right now. These things always do at the time but 'this too shall pass'.

'If a problem is fixable, if a situation is such that you can do something about it, then there is no need to worry. If it's not fixable, then there is no help in worrying. There is no benefit in worrying whatsoever.'

Dalai Lama XIV

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just how things go mate, "what's done is done and cannot be undone" az billy Shakespeare said, dont beat yourself up.

Btw, I hope the wine is a temporary thing and don't end up alcoholic

Put it behind you and Get on with life, at leadt you know the answer and the matter is settled, otherwise youd be haunted by what ifs

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

It’s no point dying wondering.

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

I think that is awfully brave of you and say a hearty well done.

I also agree with the poster up there ^^ who said that your friend likely knows already the gist of the letter and I hope that our instincts are right and she does feel the same.

Good luck lovely man

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh, fuck!, i think im inspired by the OP!

I went for it like evil ksneval OP and go for the kamikaze crash and burn myself!

She came on to me about 10 years ago, but turned her down, now i can't help think about her, and seeing her tonight... I going to have to ride the , i rod2e the fooking gauntlet.. Etc and so forth.. What wine should i use as comfort i end up all broken and hiding under the kitchen tabke, with my bottle of glen fidich whisky .. Eeeeee god! !

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By *ecadent_Devon OP   Man
over a year ago

Okehampton

Well since some of you were so nice and supportive I thought I would give you an update, or rather, if I am honest, the conclusion to this little saga.

It is with a heavy heart that I must say that the outcome I desired was not to be. It is worth noting that the woman in question did ask me to send the letter, once she was aware of its existence, it wasn’t unsolicited. And 12 days ago she sent a message saying the letter had been received and that she “will digest”. To which I simply replied “okay”

Since then all has been quiet and no, I have not chased. Today I have decided that enough time has passed and that there will not be a response, I accept that with both grace and, of course, a little sadness. However one cannot dwell or wallow.

To me, at least, it was worth the risk. And that I have an answer of sorts to my sleepless nights. Many would say I was foolish and that I have lost a friend, and yes, I will mourn that loss, but being true to yourself, being “brave” is sometimes the only way to quiet the nagging questions, and turn thumping heart back to stoic beat, ready, perhaps one day, to roar again.

This is not meant to be a sad post, a part of my is proud to once again have put my heart on my sleeve, to give in to hope and know the a part of me, is still a daft old romantic sod, that still believes in fairy tales.

Have a great Saturday you lovely people x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well since some of you were so nice and supportive I thought I would give you an update, or rather, if I am honest, the conclusion to this little saga.

It is with a heavy heart that I must say that the outcome I desired was not to be. It is worth noting that the woman in question did ask me to send the letter, once she was aware of its existence, it wasn’t unsolicited. And 12 days ago she sent a message saying the letter had been received and that she “will digest”. To which I simply replied “okay”

Since then all has been quiet and no, I have not chased. Today I have decided that enough time has passed and that there will not be a response, I accept that with both grace and, of course, a little sadness. However one cannot dwell or wallow.

To me, at least, it was worth the risk. And that I have an answer of sorts to my sleepless nights. Many would say I was foolish and that I have lost a friend, and yes, I will mourn that loss, but being true to yourself, being “brave” is sometimes the only way to quiet the nagging questions, and turn thumping heart back to stoic beat, ready, perhaps one day, to roar again.

This is not meant to be a sad post, a part of my is proud to once again have put my heart on my sleeve, to give in to hope and know the a part of me, is still a daft old romantic sod, that still believes in fairy tales.

Have a great Saturday you lovely people x"

I think you should take the positive that you let yourself be vulnerable and true to your feelings, you probably needed to release these thoughts to the world and to her.

Maybe it was the best way for you to also move on. Who knows, maybe you haven’t lost her as a friend, but maybe for now you need that time for yourself to move forward and close this chapter (at least romantically from your side as it was one sided)

Sending you big hugs OP! And be proud for being courageous x

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By *andsome HandMan
over a year ago

roundabout

You picked your balls up and gave it a shot. At least you're not left wondering what if OP

Fair play to you

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

I admire you...you were true to yourself and have acted with respect. I don't think that you can do more than that x

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By *iBBWLondonWoman
over a year ago

London


"Well since some of you were so nice and supportive I thought I would give you an update, or rather, if I am honest, the conclusion to this little saga.

It is with a heavy heart that I must say that the outcome I desired was not to be. It is worth noting that the woman in question did ask me to send the letter, once she was aware of its existence, it wasn’t unsolicited. And 12 days ago she sent a message saying the letter had been received and that she “will digest”. To which I simply replied “okay”

Since then all has been quiet and no, I have not chased. Today I have decided that enough time has passed and that there will not be a response, I accept that with both grace and, of course, a little sadness. However one cannot dwell or wallow.

To me, at least, it was worth the risk. And that I have an answer of sorts to my sleepless nights. Many would say I was foolish and that I have lost a friend, and yes, I will mourn that loss, but being true to yourself, being “brave” is sometimes the only way to quiet the nagging questions, and turn thumping heart back to stoic beat, ready, perhaps one day, to roar again.

This is not meant to be a sad post, a part of my is proud to once again have put my heart on my sleeve, to give in to hope and know the a part of me, is still a daft old romantic sod, that still believes in fairy tales.

Have a great Saturday you lovely people x"

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By *jorkishMan
over a year ago

Seaforth

You did the right thing

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

Also..as above, when the dust settles you may not have lost the friendship x

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Well since some of you were so nice and supportive I thought I would give you an update, or rather, if I am honest, the conclusion to this little saga.

It is with a heavy heart that I must say that the outcome I desired was not to be. It is worth noting that the woman in question did ask me to send the letter, once she was aware of its existence, it wasn’t unsolicited. And 12 days ago she sent a message saying the letter had been received and that she “will digest”. To which I simply replied “okay”

Since then all has been quiet and no, I have not chased. Today I have decided that enough time has passed and that there will not be a response, I accept that with both grace and, of course, a little sadness. However one cannot dwell or wallow.

To me, at least, it was worth the risk. And that I have an answer of sorts to my sleepless nights. Many would say I was foolish and that I have lost a friend, and yes, I will mourn that loss, but being true to yourself, being “brave” is sometimes the only way to quiet the nagging questions, and turn thumping heart back to stoic beat, ready, perhaps one day, to roar again.

This is not meant to be a sad post, a part of my is proud to once again have put my heart on my sleeve, to give in to hope and know the a part of me, is still a daft old romantic sod, that still believes in fairy tales.

Have a great Saturday you lovely people x"

A non patronising well done to you.

I see too many people saying they regret not putting themselves out there and refering to "the one that got away".

You've done it, it didn't work out you are now free (in a sense) to move forward unencumbered by doubt.

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over a year ago

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By *razzyhorseMan
over a year ago

cambridge


"Well since some of you were so nice and supportive I thought I would give you an update, or rather, if I am honest, the conclusion to this little saga.

It is with a heavy heart that I must say that the outcome I desired was not to be. It is worth noting that the woman in question did ask me to send the letter, once she was aware of its existence, it wasn’t unsolicited. And 12 days ago she sent a message saying the letter had been received and that she “will digest”. To which I simply replied “okay”

Since then all has been quiet and no, I have not chased. Today I have decided that enough time has passed and that there will not be a response, I accept that with both grace and, of course, a little sadness. However one cannot dwell or wallow.

To me, at least, it was worth the risk. And that I have an answer of sorts to my sleepless nights. Many would say I was foolish and that I have lost a friend, and yes, I will mourn that loss, but being true to yourself, being “brave” is sometimes the only way to quiet the nagging questions, and turn thumping heart back to stoic beat, ready, perhaps one day, to roar again.

This is not meant to be a sad post, a part of my is proud to once again have put my heart on my sleeve, to give in to hope and know the a part of me, is still a daft old romantic sod, that still believes in fairy tales.

Have a great Saturday you lovely people x"

You did the right thing. It's best to try & get an answer even if it's not the answer you desire.

If you hadn't there would always have been that nagging "what if?" thought sitting at the back of your mind. Trust me you don't want that...

Be proud OP of having been brave enough to take the risk. Feelings will change over time and brighter days are just over the horizon

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it's great you shared how you felt. Surely we only live once? You never know, she may return your feelings or the letter may cause her to reflect on the nature of her feelings towards you.

What have you really lost? You were going to ghost her anyway, so surely nothing is lost?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well since some of you were so nice and supportive I thought I would give you an update, or rather, if I am honest, the conclusion to this little saga.

It is with a heavy heart that I must say that the outcome I desired was not to be. It is worth noting that the woman in question did ask me to send the letter, once she was aware of its existence, it wasn’t unsolicited. And 12 days ago she sent a message saying the letter had been received and that she “will digest”. To which I simply replied “okay”

Since then all has been quiet and no, I have not chased. Today I have decided that enough time has passed and that there will not be a response, I accept that with both grace and, of course, a little sadness. However one cannot dwell or wallow.

To me, at least, it was worth the risk. And that I have an answer of sorts to my sleepless nights. Many would say I was foolish and that I have lost a friend, and yes, I will mourn that loss, but being true to yourself, being “brave” is sometimes the only way to quiet the nagging questions, and turn thumping heart back to stoic beat, ready, perhaps one day, to roar again.

This is not meant to be a sad post, a part of my is proud to once again have put my heart on my sleeve, to give in to hope and know the a part of me, is still a daft old romantic sod, that still believes in fairy tales.

Have a great Saturday you lovely people x"

Awww op my hart gose out to you at least you tryed keep your chin up

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By *uiet LightMan
over a year ago

Hove


"Well since some of you were so nice and supportive I thought I would give you an update, or rather, if I am honest, the conclusion to this little saga.

It is with a heavy heart that I must say that the outcome I desired was not to be. It is worth noting that the woman in question did ask me to send the letter, once she was aware of its existence, it wasn’t unsolicited. And 12 days ago she sent a message saying the letter had been received and that she “will digest”. To which I simply replied “okay”

Since then all has been quiet and no, I have not chased. Today I have decided that enough time has passed and that there will not be a response, I accept that with both grace and, of course, a little sadness. However one cannot dwell or wallow.

To me, at least, it was worth the risk. And that I have an answer of sorts to my sleepless nights. Many would say I was foolish and that I have lost a friend, and yes, I will mourn that loss, but being true to yourself, being “brave” is sometimes the only way to quiet the nagging questions, and turn thumping heart back to stoic beat, ready, perhaps one day, to roar again.

This is not meant to be a sad post, a part of my is proud to once again have put my heart on my sleeve, to give in to hope and know the a part of me, is still a daft old romantic sod, that still believes in fairy tales.

Have a great Saturday you lovely people x"

Good on you OP, you have conducted yourself like a gentleman, the world needs more people like you

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By *entakuruMan
over a year ago

Exeter

Hmm yeah I am in a similar situation at the moment, been spending a lot of time with someone just as friends recently, knowing that nothing would happen as she was with someone. However last weekend one of those things happened where we'd probably both had a little too much to drink and it got sexual. Now I think we might be in the 'putting a bit of distance' phase as the communication has been a little dry between us since then, doesn't help that she's working at a festival this week so I'm not sure how much of the lack of communication is down to that vs how much is avoidance. Not quite sure what to do now, I'm rather fond of her but it was a lot easier to get my head round her being totally unavailable rather than us having shagged but not being able to talk about it for whatever reason

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By *ust PeachyWoman
over a year ago

Prestonish


"You have made no mistake OP. The biggest mistake you could of made was to not send it when she asked for it. Life is about taking chances and you have taken what could be a life changing one for you.

I love the fact you write a letter rather than a long text or email.

Thank you for showing us all that romance isn’t dead. Please let us know how this progresses "

This really. Wishing you all the look in the world op!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well since some of you were so nice and supportive I thought I would give you an update, or rather, if I am honest, the conclusion to this little saga.

It is with a heavy heart that I must say that the outcome I desired was not to be. It is worth noting that the woman in question did ask me to send the letter, once she was aware of its existence, it wasn’t unsolicited. And 12 days ago she sent a message saying the letter had been received and that she “will digest”. To which I simply replied “okay”

Since then all has been quiet and no, I have not chased. Today I have decided that enough time has passed and that there will not be a response, I accept that with both grace and, of course, a little sadness. However one cannot dwell or wallow.

To me, at least, it was worth the risk. And that I have an answer of sorts to my sleepless nights. Many would say I was foolish and that I have lost a friend, and yes, I will mourn that loss, but being true to yourself, being “brave” is sometimes the only way to quiet the nagging questions, and turn thumping heart back to stoic beat, ready, perhaps one day, to roar again.

This is not meant to be a sad post, a part of my is proud to once again have put my heart on my sleeve, to give in to hope and know the a part of me, is still a daft old romantic sod, that still believes in fairy tales.

Have a great Saturday you lovely people x"

Brave and honest, at least you know

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

Oh Devon, I'm so sorry it didn't work out as we had all hoped it would for you, and I'm sure I'm not alone in hoping that once the dust has settled she will realise that losing your friendship is not what she wants.

You were so brave to put yourself out there and I do hope that your heart recovers. As you say, at least you are free of "what if". You're inspiring.

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By *ecadent_Devon OP   Man
over a year ago

Okehampton

Thank you all for your kind words, I am humbled by your empathy and compassion. Life is a series of chapters is it not? And sometimes there is a reluctance or reticence to end a chapter, the story takes an unexpected or sorrowful turn and we long to go back to the happy beginnings.

I shall hush now, wine calls, and a moment or two of reflection. But know I have valued the collective kindness expressed by the people in this thread, it too gives me courage to turn the page and wander down strange new paths x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Awww i am so glad we got an update, but disappointed for you that it wasn't the response you hoped for

.. I would say, if she is anything like me, that it takes me a while to digest, distance and then reconnect.. So all is not lost and I hope as others have said that once the dust settles the friendship will reconnect again

In the meantime, hugs xxx

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

Never stop being a romantic sod. The world needs more romance in it.

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend


"Never stop being a romantic sod. The world needs more romance in it.

"
awww so true

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