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Getting a word in edgeways

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Do you ever find yourself in group situations, either in real life or Zoom (but especially Zoom) where you struggle to get into the conversation? And you just wonder how everyone else is finding their cue to jump in and you eventually get annoyed so you cut over someone else and then feel bad? And by the time there's a natural gap the conversation has already moved on to another topic, but you actually had something really relevant to contribute?

Asking for a friend...

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By *JB1954Man
over a year ago

Reading

Bit like on forums here. Think of adding to thread. Work out what to write. Then see someone else has already posted your thoughts

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By *eardybobMan
over a year ago

the Goldilocks Zone


"Bit like on forums here. Think of adding to thread. Work out what to write. Then see someone else has already posted your thoughts "

Case point! (Was just in the process of typing the exact same)

I usually just say "this "

Dont feel bad though OP - your voice is every bit as important as everyone elses!

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

Yeah, I've got 2 mates that come up to my gaff for a couple of beers sometimes, when they get on a roll, even a chainsaw couldn't cut through their conversation

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ


"Bit like on forums here. Think of adding to thread. Work out what to write. Then see someone else has already posted your thoughts "

That happens to me quite a lot. A thread could have no comments since the last post for half an hour, or even a couple of hours, then I get gazumped by a minute or so while I'm typing my reply

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yeah, I've got 2 mates that come up to my gaff for a couple of beers sometimes, when they get on a roll, even a chainsaw couldn't cut through their conversation "

Does Brother Dave pontificate?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Bit like on forums here. Think of adding to thread. Work out what to write. Then see someone else has already posted your thoughts

Case point! (Was just in the process of typing the exact same)

I usually just say "this "

Dont feel bad though OP - your voice is every bit as important as everyone elses! "

Thank you xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Bit like on forums here. Think of adding to thread. Work out what to write. Then see someone else has already posted your thoughts "

Or you get ignored haha

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Bit like on forums here. Think of adding to thread. Work out what to write. Then see someone else has already posted your thoughts

That happens to me quite a lot. A thread could have no comments since the last post for half an hour, or even a couple of hours, then I get gazumped by a minute or so while I'm typing my reply "

Gazumped

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Yeah, I've got 2 mates that come up to my gaff for a couple of beers sometimes, when they get on a roll, even a chainsaw couldn't cut through their conversation "

YESSS I know friends like these too, especially when we go out to restaurants. I'm like "okay I'll just be here quietly eating my pasta if anyone needs me..."

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By *dam1971Man
over a year ago

Bedford

Don’t feel bad, sometimes conversations aren’t inclusive and people don’t notice that you haven’t spoken for ages.

Part of being sociable is noticing these things so everyone can contribute what they’re comfortable with. But sometimes it just doesn’t happen - not a reflection on you

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By *utmegsMan
over a year ago

Closer than you think

Getting a word in edgewise, like “fish slice”?

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By *erfectman122Man
over a year ago

from somewhere nice

Yes I’ve been totally lost on a zoom meeting

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

I avoid fast paced conversations as I can never keep up, text or vocal I tend to tune out and get distracted by something else

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *ensuallover1000Man
over a year ago

Somewhere In The Ether…

Strategic, conversational interjection loading…..

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By *uriousscouserWoman
over a year ago

Wirral

I don't do many group calls outside work. It's normally max of three of us, so it's easy to chip in.

There's one particular guy I work with who doesn't appear to need to breathe though. He talks really loudly and constantly, and will take up an entire 2 hour meeting.

Wouldn't mind, he talks complete bollocks most of the time.

Got so bad in a meeting yesterday one of the managers put him on mute, pretended he'd finished whatever he was rambling on about and asked someone else to take the floor instead.

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By *urvyBi-84Man
over a year ago

Lancs


"Do you ever find yourself in group situations, either in real life or Zoom (but especially Zoom) where you struggle to get into the conversation? And you just wonder how everyone else is finding their cue to jump in and you eventually get annoyed so you cut over someone else and then feel bad? And by the time there's a natural gap the conversation has already moved on to another topic, but you actually had something really relevant to contribute?

Asking for a friend...

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Yes, this is me in a lot of group conversations and social situations, especially with groups of people I don’t know. One of the reasons I’ve been nervous about going to a club, but I will pluck up the courage soon, haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I really want or have something to say I'd fight my way in and just say it but generally I'm happy to just sit back.

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ


"Yeah, I've got 2 mates that come up to my gaff for a couple of beers sometimes, when they get on a roll, even a chainsaw couldn't cut through their conversation

Does Brother Dave pontificate?"

Nah, these are two totally different guys

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just go off and do something else.

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By *rotic desiresWoman
over a year ago

Here and there


"Do you ever find yourself in group situations, either in real life or Zoom (but especially Zoom) where you struggle to get into the conversation? And you just wonder how everyone else is finding their cue to jump in and you eventually get annoyed so you cut over someone else and then feel bad? And by the time there's a natural gap the conversation has already moved on to another topic, but you actually had something really relevant to contribute?

Asking for a friend...

"

I'm happy enough to watch and listen - great way to learn about others without giving too much of yourself away

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I struggle to get a word in edgeways with just one person, sod doing it in group situation.

But yes it's really frustrating OP.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I struggle to get a word in edgeways with just one person, sod doing it in group situation.

But yes it's really frustrating OP. "

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By *igmaMan
over a year ago

Yorkshire

Read the standing orders!!!

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

Yeah but...

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