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By *ust Peachy OP   Woman
over a year ago

Prestonish

Hello my lovelies.

For all of four minutes I’ve just been pondering these.

I may not put this terribly well - so apologies in advance - but isn’t it curious (and rather wonderful) that two people can look at another person - and to one of them that person is completely unappealing - but to the other he/she is sex on legs?

That for some a larger lady is the height of gorgeousness - and for others only slender ladies are appealing.

That a ‘dad bod’ can send many ladies pulses racing - but some simply prefer a six pack.

And the massively diverse age ranges that people are attracted to on here. I’m definitely coming back age 98 to message all the hot guys who are apparently still interested in me!

Whilst pondering - I wonder what establishes those preferences in some of us? Is it experiences - or simply what our brain tells us is appealing to us?

Sorry if I’ve put this badly - but I’m currently finding this fascinating whilst I’m supposed to be doing the cleaning!

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

For me my choices are made through life experience x

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By *ust Peachy OP   Woman
over a year ago

Prestonish


"For me my choices are made through life experience x"

Really? That’s interesting. In what way?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dunno really. I just feel somat. Doesn’t matter how they look.

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By *ust Peachy OP   Woman
over a year ago

Prestonish


"Dunno really. I just feel somat. Doesn’t matter how they look. "

Fair enough.

So is this feeling in your brain? Or somewhere a little lower down?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Dunno really. I just feel somat. Doesn’t matter how they look.

Fair enough.

So is this feeling in your brain? Or somewhere a little lower down? "

Both I guess. Sorry if it’s vague.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't know what built my preference to be honest. It's just how I've always felt.

My preference is slim/average build. Don't know what made it that. It is just how I feel. If a woman has a hanging stomach it's an instant turn off for me. But then again some slim girls can be a turn off for me too. Don't know what to call it really.

Guess we all like what we like. As the saying goes. Not everyone is for everyone.

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By *affron40Woman
over a year ago

manchester

It’s definately a weird brain thing for me. My taste is completely diverse and usually a combination of random features with great chat. But none are anything similar to another. It’s a total mystery

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By *ust Peachy OP   Woman
over a year ago

Prestonish


"Dunno really. I just feel somat. Doesn’t matter how they look.

Fair enough.

So is this feeling in your brain? Or somewhere a little lower down?

Both I guess. Sorry if it’s vague. "

Not at all. Thanks for contributing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

First physical attraction is instinctive and sub-conscious so based in a mix of evolutionary psychology and childhood experiences that shaped our brain in early development.

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By *oudLoutishLoverWoman
over a year ago

Colchester

It is wonderful, isn’t it? Everybody is loved by somebody!

That attraction comes directly from what a man says, for me. Looks couldn’t be less important.

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By *B69Woman
over a year ago

Wiltshire

I found my choices have changed over time, what I thought I wanted and what I now like are very different, I’m sure they will change again as some experiences make you look at others differently

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By *ust Peachy OP   Woman
over a year ago

Prestonish


"I don't know what built my preference to be honest. It's just how I've always felt.

My preference is slim/average build. Don't know what made it that. It is just how I feel. If a woman has a hanging stomach it's an instant turn off for me. But then again some slim girls can be a turn off for me too. Don't know what to call it really.

Guess we all like what we like. As the saying goes. Not everyone is for everyone. "

True - but I’ve been attracted to people with very different body shapes and very diverse age groups. Not sure I could honestly explain why though!

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By *rixieMeWoman
over a year ago

Farfarfar away

Agree, also think parents have a lot to do with it. How we perceived them as children growing up.

I definitely have a ‘type’ and whether I know it or not I always seem to be drawn to them and it’s not necessarily body shape.

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By *ust Peachy OP   Woman
over a year ago

Prestonish


"It’s definately a weird brain thing for me. My taste is completely diverse and usually a combination of random features with great chat. But none are anything similar to another. It’s a total mystery "

You sound very much like me my lovely - but I do like a cute face too - I’m fickle!

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By *reamblueMan
over a year ago

London

Is it like a genetic mutation thing? We're born with inherited traits plus/minus some random shit that makes us who we are

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Getting those preferances to align when wanting to meet other couples is sooo hard.

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

If she gives me the look .. I'll be up for fun anyway

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By *ust Peachy OP   Woman
over a year ago

Prestonish


"It is wonderful, isn’t it? Everybody is loved by somebody!

That attraction comes directly from what a man says, for me. Looks couldn’t be less important."

That’s curious - and I’m slightly jealous of that in a way. I often wish I wasn’t so shallow in the looks department - it’s lead to one or two disasters along the way - but thankfully years ago now. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't know what built my preference to be honest. It's just how I've always felt.

My preference is slim/average build. Don't know what made it that. It is just how I feel. If a woman has a hanging stomach it's an instant turn off for me. But then again some slim girls can be a turn off for me too. Don't know what to call it really.

Guess we all like what we like. As the saying goes. Not everyone is for everyone.

True - but I’ve been attracted to people with very different body shapes and very diverse age groups. Not sure I could honestly explain why though! "

Fair enough.

For me I've never been one for the actually curvy figure (not a chubby girl with no curves) or slim thicc (massive ass and thighs but a slimish body) figure as they call it these days.

For me it is an initial thing. I've looked at some people and gagged and others I've had a massive urge to slap their ass haha. Never done it though. That would be wrong haha

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By *ust Peachy OP   Woman
over a year ago

Prestonish


"Getting those preferances to align when wanting to meet other couples is sooo hard.

"

I can imagine. It’s bad enough trying to get mutual attraction with one other person - must be incredibly difficult when there are 4 (or more) people involved. X

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By *ust Peachy OP   Woman
over a year ago

Prestonish


"If she gives me the look .. I'll be up for fun anyway "

Good on you my lovely!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

like you peachy depends i don't like many extremes like very big ,super skinny etc age wise been looking at my own age group as of late but seem to get on more with you older ladies and get friend zoned due age which i get last thing do make someone uncomfortable never helps when they say for example certain someone said i be round back of pub or at their place within 15 mins hahaha also peachy of topic congrats on new job and i never been to cupids yet in my own city have get myself to into gear soon

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By *ust Peachy OP   Woman
over a year ago

Prestonish


"Is it like a genetic mutation thing? We're born with inherited traits plus/minus some random shit that makes us who we are"

No idea - but I’ll ponder that one whilst I’m mopping the floors.

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By *ust Peachy OP   Woman
over a year ago

Prestonish


"like you peachy depends i don't like many extremes like very big ,super skinny etc age wise been looking at my own age group as of late but seem to get on more with you older ladies and get friend zoned due age which i get last thing do make someone uncomfortable never helps when they say for example certain someone said i be round back of pub or at their place within 15 mins hahaha also peachy of topic congrats on new job and i never been to cupids yet in my own city have get myself to into gear soon "

Well if you come along whilst I’m working you’re at least guaranteed a friendly face to chat to at the bar!

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By *affron40Woman
over a year ago

manchester


"It’s definately a weird brain thing for me. My taste is completely diverse and usually a combination of random features with great chat. But none are anything similar to another. It’s a total mystery

You sound very much like me my lovely - but I do like a cute face too - I’m fickle! "

My idea of cute is rarely my friends so it’s lovely to know we truly all do like different things!!

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By *ust Peachy OP   Woman
over a year ago

Prestonish


"Agree, also think parents have a lot to do with it. How we perceived them as children growing up.

I definitely have a ‘type’ and whether I know it or not I always seem to be drawn to them and it’s not necessarily body shape."

Possibly - though I adored my dad but don’t seek anyone who looks like him? He looked like a big cute teddy bear for a start!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Initially, its physical, but that takes no account of personality, which is what ultimately leads further if we click.

Or not, if we don't x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"like you peachy depends i don't like many extremes like very big ,super skinny etc age wise been looking at my own age group as of late but seem to get on more with you older ladies and get friend zoned due age which i get last thing do make someone uncomfortable never helps when they say for example certain someone said i be round back of pub or at their place within 15 mins hahaha also peachy of topic congrats on new job and i never been to cupids yet in my own city have get myself to into gear soon

Well if you come along whilst I’m working you’re at least guaranteed a friendly face to chat to at the bar! "
yeah you know me need someone i know help me with my anxiety with new places plus 2 points 1. you can be my wing women .2 kissing lesson waiting for my final exam

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By *ust Peachy OP   Woman
over a year ago

Prestonish


"I found my choices have changed over time, what I thought I wanted and what I now like are very different, I’m sure they will change again as some experiences make you look at others differently "

I’ve definitely found this to be true!

The oh so pretty hunks are (almost) off the table now!

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By *ust Peachy OP   Woman
over a year ago

Prestonish


"First physical attraction is instinctive and sub-conscious so based in a mix of evolutionary psychology and childhood experiences that shaped our brain in early development."

Sounds like a text book answer but makes sense - thank you!

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By *traight_no_iceMan
over a year ago

Stoke

Not because of life experiences in my case. Since my early teens I had a high sex drive (although at that time I was not in a position to explain what was happening to me. Naturally because of my young age, I was interested in older women. Even though women in their 20s and 30s grabbed my interest it was older women that I found sexier. Women in their late 40s or 50s. I remember I was fascinated with Linda Evans, having seen a topless photo of her in a newspaper. As I grew older, I continued to find more mature women attractive even now. This does not mean that I do not find attractive younger women but I do not feel that attracted to them. A few years ago (in my early 40sI was in a relationship with a woman who was 18 years older than me and it was fantastic.

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By *ust Peachy OP   Woman
over a year ago

Prestonish


"I don't know what built my preference to be honest. It's just how I've always felt.

My preference is slim/average build. Don't know what made it that. It is just how I feel. If a woman has a hanging stomach it's an instant turn off for me. But then again some slim girls can be a turn off for me too. Don't know what to call it really.

Guess we all like what we like. As the saying goes. Not everyone is for everyone. "

Absolutely - and if everyone had exactly the same tastes - most of us would never get a shag!

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By *lasphemousGirlWoman
over a year ago

Cambs

I like a good smile and great eyes over a body shape or even gender, expressive eyes always get to me x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It’s definately a weird brain thing for me. My taste is completely diverse and usually a combination of random features with great chat. But none are anything similar to another. It’s a total mystery

You sound very much like me my lovely - but I do like a cute face too - I’m fickle!

My idea of cute is rarely my friends so it’s lovely to know we truly all do like different things!! "
i thought you said i was cute

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"First physical attraction is instinctive and sub-conscious so based in a mix of evolutionary psychology and childhood experiences that shaped our brain in early development.

Sounds like a text book answer but makes sense - thank you! "

You're welcome, and I've been described as an open book before

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

I tend to go on that I've found them funny on a thread.

90% of the time it ends there, because they're busy drooling over the 6-packs, but that's life for you.

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By *ust Peachy OP   Woman
over a year ago

Prestonish


"First physical attraction is instinctive and sub-conscious so based in a mix of evolutionary psychology and childhood experiences that shaped our brain in early development.

Sounds like a text book answer but makes sense - thank you!

You're welcome, and I've been described as an open book before "

Me too - but I’m never sure if that’s a good thing or a bad thing!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't know what built my preference to be honest. It's just how I've always felt.

My preference is slim/average build. Don't know what made it that. It is just how I feel. If a woman has a hanging stomach it's an instant turn off for me. But then again some slim girls can be a turn off for me too. Don't know what to call it really.

Guess we all like what we like. As the saying goes. Not everyone is for everyone.

Absolutely - and if everyone had exactly the same tastes - most of us would never get a shag! "

I don't get a shag anyway so it wouldn't make a difference haha

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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I don't have a type aesthetically, I'm attracted to a wide range of shapes, looks in general. I know what it is that attracts me to someone but it's not physically based.

I do find it interesting how we find different things attractive - I sometimes see people that others are all over and I don't get it in the slightest. Right now a lot of very gym fit men are attracted to me and I'm not sure why at all. I'm glad we like different things, long live diversity.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

another point someone told me this at club once if i message them on here they wouldn't give me a second look but in person said it's different of course personality comes across better but happened when you look at some ones profile your unsure on think nah but bump into them at club or social and think they're not bad and your attracted to them ?

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By *annaBeStrongMan
over a year ago

wokingham

Psychologists have been trying to figure this out for a long time

The most popular idea is things that you were exposed to as a kid share similarities with what you find attractive.

So guys, look at your mum or other big female presence in your life

Girls, look at your dad or other big male presence in your life

See any similarities?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

sorry for been over dressed for another thread but still in classic shag rock n roll fashion

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By *ervent_fervourMan
over a year ago

Halifax

I need to get on the cams perhaps.

- I love watching how a face comes alive with different expressions and you see and hear mannerisms in how they move and how they speak/sound with different intonation and emphasis.

These are completely unique and can't be gleaned from pictures or words on a profile and are usually the biggest potential chemistry indicators, and if that happens then my horny horn for them invariably follows.

Probably works both ways for them too seeing as I'm hardly bleeding gods gift to sixpacks and pecs so I have always had to rely on my funny face and that brain/wit thing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fab is like a box of chocolates and we can't all like the same one's. My preferences have not changed over the years I've always been a perve. Lol

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

I like tall, dark haired men who enjoy the great outdoors and love animals. I also like men who don't swear,wears suits and have a kind heart. Quite often i have wondered if this is because they would be very much like my father was.

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By *ust Peachy OP   Woman
over a year ago

Prestonish


"another point someone told me this at club once if i message them on here they wouldn't give me a second look but in person said it's different of course personality comes across better but happened when you look at some ones profile your unsure on think nah but bump into them at club or social and think they're not bad and your attracted to them ?"

Yeah that’s happened to me a lot!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"another point someone told me this at club once if i message them on here they wouldn't give me a second look but in person said it's different of course personality comes across better but happened when you look at some ones profile your unsure on think nah but bump into them at club or social and think they're not bad and your attracted to them ?

Yeah that’s happened to me a lot! "
yeah was shaking like a leaf when we fist met and thought i was dreaming from are " lesson"

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By *ust Peachy OP   Woman
over a year ago

Prestonish


"I like tall, dark haired men who enjoy the great outdoors and love animals. I also like men who don't swear,wears suits and have a kind heart. Quite often i have wondered if this is because they would be very much like my father was."

Curious. I’m definitely not attracted to men who have my fathers physical attributes- but definitely to those who have his better personality traits. His funeral was standing room only - he was a bloody lovely man!

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By *indergirlWoman
over a year ago

somewhere, someplace

If you look at the people Ive dated/met they couldn't be more different from each other, tall,short,slim,built,bigger, dark,blonde.

I can't explain fully what it is it's just how I click with someone that makes the final choice. Probably the only factor that is the same across them is nice eyes

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By *ust Peachy OP   Woman
over a year ago

Prestonish


"Fab is like a box of chocolates and we can't all like the same one's. My preferences have not changed over the years I've always been a perve. Lol "

True - but a very ‘nice’ one (see what I did there?) - and clearly an apt name as I’ve never heard a bad word said about you!

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By *indergirlWoman
over a year ago

somewhere, someplace


"If you look at the people Ive dated/met they couldn't be more different from each other, tall,short,slim,built,bigger, dark,blonde.

I can't explain fully what it is it's just how I click with someone that makes the final choice. Probably the only factor that is the same across them is nice eyes "

And also add age isnt a thing either I've dated and met older and younger and my own age

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By *ust Peachy OP   Woman
over a year ago

Prestonish


"I need to get on the cams perhaps.

- I love watching how a face comes alive with different expressions and you see and hear mannerisms in how they move and how they speak/sound with different intonation and emphasis.

These are completely unique and can't be gleaned from pictures or words on a profile and are usually the biggest potential chemistry indicators, and if that happens then my horny horn for them invariably follows.

Probably works both ways for them too seeing as I'm hardly bleeding gods gift to sixpacks and pecs so I have always had to rely on my funny face and that brain/wit thing.

"

There are far worse things to have than brains and wit!

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By *ust Peachy OP   Woman
over a year ago

Prestonish


"Psychologists have been trying to figure this out for a long time

The most popular idea is things that you were exposed to as a kid share similarities with what you find attractive.

So guys, look at your mum or other big female presence in your life

Girls, look at your dad or other big male presence in your life

See any similarities? "

Only in the personalities I’m attracted to - definitely not in the looks department.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i know my beard can be hit and miss but never coming off as long story behind it and never change for anyone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As I don't have a 'type', I'm going to say mine is more down to my brain being a bit random and the personality of a person. Although there are some preferences that are from experience, I certainly don't want to roll in the hay with someone who looks like my ex husband

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By *ust Peachy OP   Woman
over a year ago

Prestonish


"I don't have a type aesthetically, I'm attracted to a wide range of shapes, looks in general. I know what it is that attracts me to someone but it's not physically based.

I do find it interesting how we find different things attractive - I sometimes see people that others are all over and I don't get it in the slightest. Right now a lot of very gym fit men are attracted to me and I'm not sure why at all. I'm glad we like different things, long live diversity."

Well you’re one of the most intelligent and interesting women I know on here - so it may well be that?

I get what you mean though - I’ve put weight on due to the menopause and really don’t expect to attract the gym fit types any more.

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By *ust Peachy OP   Woman
over a year ago

Prestonish


"I tend to go on that I've found them funny on a thread.

90% of the time it ends there, because they're busy drooling over the 6-packs, but that's life for you.

"

I hear ya! I’ve been turned down by quite a few guys who make my fanny flutter!

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By *olden_AdonisMan
over a year ago

london

I think my Abs are a big miss!! but great question I often ask myself?!?

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By *ust Peachy OP   Woman
over a year ago

Prestonish


"Initially, its physical, but that takes no account of personality, which is what ultimately leads further if we click.

Or not, if we don't x"

Very much so - sometimes the most beautiful of ornaments prove to be a little hollow!

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By *ust Peachy OP   Woman
over a year ago

Prestonish


"I think my Abs are a big miss!! but great question I often ask myself?!?

"

You have a gorgeous physique - but I’m sure you’ve been made aware of that many times!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I thought I didn’t have a type, but I’ve been told I totally do, which looking at it now is glaringly obvious.

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By *ust Peachy OP   Woman
over a year ago

Prestonish


"I thought I didn’t have a type, but I’ve been told I totally do, which looking at it now is glaringly obvious."

Oh? So fess up - what’s the type? - so the rest of us mere mortals can abandon all hope and sob in a corner!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think my Abs are a big miss!! but great question I often ask myself?!?

"

You think your abs what?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I thought I didn’t have a type, but I’ve been told I totally do, which looking at it now is glaringly obvious.

Oh? So fess up - what’s the type? - so the rest of us mere mortals can abandon all hope and sob in a corner! "

I’m not going there, I don’t want to piss anyone off!

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough


"I tend to go on that I've found them funny on a thread.

90% of the time it ends there, because they're busy drooling over the 6-packs, but that's life for you.

I hear ya! I’ve been turned down by quite a few guys who make my fanny flutter! "

Awwww. I'd kiss it better.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe it's seeing in others what you want to be yourself.

For a rather daft analogy - I used to avoid any porn with women larger than a size 8 in it. Don't know why, just made me feel weird. Then when I'd lost a good chunk of weight and became a little more comfortable with myself I suddenly wanted to only watch porn with thicker women. Weird

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I definitely have a type. I suppose it's developed from a mixture of attraction and also life experience.

It's both physical and mental though, I could think someone is super hot from their photos but within a few minutes of actually chatting to them in person I know they aren't for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Fab is like a box of chocolates and we can't all like the same one's. My preferences have not changed over the years I've always been a perve. Lol

True - but a very ‘nice’ one (see what I did there?) - and clearly an apt name as I’ve never heard a bad word said about you! "

Awww bless you. Thank you . Always a pleasure to see you in the club's and it was lovely to be at your Birthday meal a couple of years ago in Manchester after the MLS.It's nice to be nice.Some people seem to forget that these days

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think I have a 'type' as I seriously believe that anyone has the ability to be sexually attractive. For me, the attraction depends on current feelings or mood, rather than anything hard-wired. So, I find I'm drawn to different types of people on different days.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My type and preferences constantly change, not majorly but sometimes I’ll look at someone and think no then a few months later they seem exactly what I want but this happens only sometimes

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

I don't have a type at all. Not for age, height, body type. I'm all about the inside person. Sure there has to be some physical attraction but that is secondary.

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By *olly_chromaticTV/TS
over a year ago

Stockport

I guess that for me it could be more about emotional intelligence and compassion. For a start, anybody that is purely attracted by the physical certainly isn't going to find me attractive If there's warmth though, and conversation starts, and some level of mutual interest is found - then maybe it will occasionally develop into something more.

I suppose that I don't sound much like someone who should be on a swingers site. But then, I seem to find it easier to discuss this kind of thing here than anywhere else. Xx

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By *inkyeroticaCouple
over a year ago

Ampthill


"I wonder what establishes those preferences in some of us? Is it experiences - or simply what our brain tells us is appealing to us?"

It’s natures way of mixing up the gene pool! If only one man and one woman were attractive, we would have evolved back into the swamp!

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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"I'm glad we like different things, long live diversity.

Well you’re one of the most intelligent and interesting women I know on here - so it may well be that?

I get what you mean though - I’ve put weight on due to the menopause and really don’t expect to attract the gym fit types any more. "

Aww that's lovely, thank you!

I think that like we find people of different sizes and shapes attractive, perhaps gym types do also. And yes, you might have put on a bit of weight and I might be fat but that doesn't mean we're any less attractive. We're our own harshest critics and we should celebrate our bodies, yes work on them if we want to but also celebrate the joy they bring us and others. We're alive and beautiful, even if you don't feel that way right now Peachy, I hope you do soon.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it's about focusing on your preferences and being true to that. Everyone is different so it's not easy to generalise who prefers what.

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By *uriousscouserWoman
over a year ago

Wirral

When it comes to men I don't have a specific physical type, whereas with women I do (something I realised relatively recently).

I've no idea where my preferences come from or whether there's something deeper behind it.

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

I do not have a specific type other than they need to be intelligent, kind and have a sense of humour. Actually I think that was probably hard-wired in me when I was not even 10 years old.

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By *entleman7Man
over a year ago

Dundee

I think there is a sliding scale between preferences, fetishes, and perhaps even sexuality itself. Perhaps to do with what you imprint upon according to your personal life experiences.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hello my lovelies.

For all of four minutes I’ve just been pondering these.

I may not put this terribly well - so apologies in advance - but isn’t it curious (and rather wonderful) that two people can look at another person - and to one of them that person is completely unappealing - but to the other he/she is sex on legs?

That for some a larger lady is the height of gorgeousness - and for others only slender ladies are appealing.

That a ‘dad bod’ can send many ladies pulses racing - but some simply prefer a six pack.

And the massively diverse age ranges that people are attracted to on here. I’m definitely coming back age 98 to message all the hot guys who are apparently still interested in me!

Whilst pondering - I wonder what establishes those preferences in some of us? Is it experiences - or simply what our brain tells us is appealing to us?

Sorry if I’ve put this badly - but I’m currently finding this fascinating whilst I’m supposed to be doing the cleaning! "

I’d say experiences impact it, like you pick things you like up from different people you date… difficult one that haha

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By *iss LovelyWoman
over a year ago

Here and There

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By *iss LovelyWoman
over a year ago

Here and There

I find it fascinating too. I’m sure deep down there are reasons for all our preferences, but they feel so innate don’t they? Can’t control them.

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

Crikey that’s some pondering lady! Very true though hope you had a suitable beverage in your hand whilst doing so

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is going very deep into the subconscious mind here.

Often what we are attractive to or like/dislike about someone is a reflection of our subconscious.

There are 2 schools of thought around the subconscious mind. Jung and Freud.

Either way our past experiences that we are not aware makes this choice for us.

We also make the choice based in where we see our lives going if anywhere at all.

You will be attracted to someone of similar ambitions. This is given off in language, body language, mannerisms and appearances. All happen in a split second.

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By *olden_AdonisMan
over a year ago

london


"I think my Abs are a big miss!! but great question I often ask myself?!?

You think your abs what?"

Not everyone’s cuppa actually not most people’s cuppa!

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By *ear in the chairMan
over a year ago

yeah there

Some time ago I drew up a list of 'celebrities' I found exceptionally physically attractive (facially being first and foremost).

Non of the people I've enjoyed company with look anything like them so for me I suppose it's a gut instinct on someone's personality.

And that is the bit that hopefully lasts

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

Physical appearance has never been big on my list of preferences.

I fell in love with my wife before I ever met her, and when we finally did meet in person her physical appearance would never have changed my mind.

With how our tastes are now, we are far more interested in how they excite our brain than our loins.

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By *harisajidanWoman
over a year ago

london


"When it comes to men I don't have a specific physical type, whereas with women I do (something I realised relatively recently).

I've no idea where my preferences come from or whether there's something deeper behind it."

I’m this way too

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