FabSwingers.com forum: Nice thread.

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I've made this thread numerous times, but I'm noticing a few people twisting my words and jumping to the wrong conclusion when I'm trying to be nice and supportive.

There are definitely too many threads that turn toxic, or the people starting the thread are being a bit highly about something they didn't need to be difficult about.

Let's just have a nice, pleasant thread where you can day anything that is pleasant, be it profound or nonsensical.

I'm having a tough time in life and I come here to find friendly people

Lots of you have been absolutely wonderful to me, but there are some who feel the need to stick the knife in and twist it a few times for good measure

Be kind!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I've made this thread numerous times, but I'm noticing a few people twisting my words and jumping to the wrong conclusion when I'm trying to be nice and supportive.

There are definitely too many threads that turn toxic, or the people starting the thread are being a bit highly about something they didn't need to be difficult about.

Let's just have a nice, pleasant thread where you can day anything that is pleasant, be it profound or nonsensical.

I'm having a tough time in life and I come here to find friendly people

Lots of you have been absolutely wonderful to me, but there are some who feel the need to stick the knife in and twist it a few times for good measure

Be kind!"

Ignore all the stupid typos. I can't see my keypad properly so I just type and hope for the best!

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By *usman 199Man
over a year ago

Stockport

Good morning my friend I would never be nasty not in my nature just on for fun hope you have a great start to your week think positive and things will be good keep smiling xx

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By *rivateparts!Man
over a year ago

Walking down the only road I've ever known!

I totally agree with you.

You just stay the way you are, other people's petty judgements just shows how insecure they really are.

You have a wonderful day x

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By *VineMan
over a year ago

The right place

Kindness is sexier than sneering cynicism.

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By *hat BlokeMan
over a year ago

Harrogate

Good morning, I always prefer a kindly word and the hand of friendship over the bitter and snidy retorts that some posters are prone to posting. So I will hope everybody has a wonderful day and the sun shines on you all.

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By *aucy tiggerWoman
over a year ago

Back where I belong

It costs nothing to be nice and polite, so many are having tough times and knowing you've made someone smile is a great feeling- hugs to all xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Kindness is sexier than sneering cynicism.

It really is.

Women should lift each other up, not drag them down, for whatever reason they have.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Kindness is a two way street but it’s not covered by the Highway Code!!!!!

Tony

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't know whether this is in reference to your recent thread "adoration", where you asked people to compliment you. But in that thread, you received a mixture of compliments and also well meaning advice and offers of support, and you didn't reply to a single person.

Kindness does work both ways, I think.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't know whether this is in reference to your recent thread "adoration", where you asked people to compliment you. But in that thread, you received a mixture of compliments and also well meaning advice and offers of support, and you didn't reply to a single person.

Kindness does work both ways, I think."

Exactly

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By *tue555Man
over a year ago

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By *tue555Man
over a year ago

Passed Beyond Reach

"Kindness is sexier than sneering cynicism.

Cynicism all the way for me - I'd rather be disliked for being me than being liked for a fake persona (this is a generalisation and not directed at anyone in particular)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Kindness is sexier than sneering cynicism.

Cynicism all the way for me - I'd rather be disliked for being me than being liked for a fake persona (this is a generalisation and not directed at anyone in particular)

You’re absolutely right about being yourself, but just because people are kind, it doesn’t mean they are fake.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Everyone in this group is wonderful in their own special way

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over a year ago

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By *tue555Man
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Kindness does work both ways, I think."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In walks Barbarella! Set to stun!

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By *iddlesticksMan
over a year ago

My nan’s spare room.

Imagine the Opus song live is life but swap it to Nice is life.

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

Kindness works both ways you get what you put in

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Best not to be involved with people who are seeking validation.

It's a one way street and you will become what they are.

Depressed.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

Good morning O.P.

I'm wishing you the best of days. The kind of day that brings a smile to your face.

If I had to choose whether to be 'kind' (quotations cos kindness like all else is subjective ) or 'cynical' ( quotations cos one woman's cynicism is another woman's wisdom ) I wouldn't choose.

I'm both. I'm kind when need be not because it's a dictat from ever softening increasingly cloying , suffocating culture.

One thing I wouldn't do is argue with or try to give a lesson to or attempt some kind of playground 'I will cos I can' action against someone who has made their emotional state clear on here many times.

They'd have to be one socially emotionally inept self righteous cunt to do that and anyone who backed such posts up can only be on heat - surely.

So whilst I am not going to post a schmaltzy loved up post I do wish you success with this one Mollypop ..... May the twats stay off it and start their own thread. xxxx

Mind you i'll prob join that one.

Fear not the haters, they'd kick the crutches from under Tiny Tim if he limped.

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

I'm nice ...I like being nice ...it's nice being nice

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"I'm nice ...I like being nice ...it's nice being nice

Self recommendation O ? Does that count ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was reminded this morning about the Socratic test on stories (gossip). Maybe posters in other threads should consider this...

1. Is it true? If you don't know and are passing on heresay then question whether you should.

2. Is it good? If you are passing on bad news or bad thoughts, are they of value?

3. Is it of use? Will the story or information you have be of any positive benefit, if not then why share?

Otherwise we are likely to be passing on bad or negative information or stories that we don't know whether they are true or not, and that are unlikely to be of use or benefit to the listener/reader.

Whilst this shouldn't prohibit banter, it should avoid shaming and negativity...

just a thought

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By *urvyBi-84Man
over a year ago

Lancs

"I've made this thread numerous times, but I'm noticing a few people twisting my words and jumping to the wrong conclusion when I'm trying to be nice and supportive.

There are definitely too many threads that turn toxic, or the people starting the thread are being a bit highly about something they didn't need to be difficult about.

Let's just have a nice, pleasant thread where you can day anything that is pleasant, be it profound or nonsensical.

I'm having a tough time in life and I come here to find friendly people

Lots of you have been absolutely wonderful to me, but there are some who feel the need to stick the knife in and twist it a few times for good measure

Be kind!"

I’m learning more and more about the social side of swinging and am enjoying actually getting to know people. There are some dickheads on here, but there are also a lot of really nice, kind people too. I’m happy to be a friendly person for you or anyone to chat with, especially if you’re having a tough time in life, if it will help or make you feel better

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

Slight flaw S and S .......

I agree with the test and have done for many years ....... howeverrrrrrrrr

The type of person who 'thrives' on negative account of others or needs to diminish others in order to feel ...... just WONT or CANT see the use of following such tests.....

It's like pissing in the wind...... ( as Socrates said )

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

I say that I'd rather make you smile than make you sad.

Big Chunky hugs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im actually a kind friendly person but I dont hide from my asshole side...have a good day

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's like pissing in the wind...... ( as Socrates said )"

Were those his exact words? lol

But you are right!

Unfortunately it's like safety videos and the like, those that really need to take heed won't!

But if the rest of us can be nice that's a great start.

I also think humour is an interesting area. Much banter can be based on humour, and much humour can be based on putting down a minority... blonde or. Irish jokes.

Therefore some might joke in banter, but cause offence to the very wide and open audience on fab, and in addition we all know there are professional offence takers on here it would seem.

So maybe as well as being nice, we all need to try and "react nicely" too. Not take offence where none was intended, and may be Urr on the side of tollerance...

I wonder what Socrates had to say about tolerance...

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By *affron40Woman
over a year ago

manchester

"I was reminded this morning about the Socratic test on stories (gossip). Maybe posters in other threads should consider this...

1. Is it true? If you don't know and are passing on heresay then question whether you should.

2. Is it good? If you are passing on bad news or bad thoughts, are they of value?

3. Is it of use? Will the story or information you have be of any positive benefit, if not then why share?

Otherwise we are likely to be passing on bad or negative information or stories that we don't know whether they are true or not, and that are unlikely to be of use or benefit to the listener/reader.

Whilst this shouldn't prohibit banter, it should avoid shaming and negativity...

just a thought

Best thing I’ve read on here for an age. That’s a thread in itself

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

He said never exercise it in the Sales or a toilet queue.

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By *opinovMan
over a year ago

Point Nemo, Cumbria

How very dare you..!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's nice to be nice

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"It's like pissing in the wind...... ( as Socrates said )

Were those his exact words? lol

But you are right!

Unfortunately it's like safety videos and the like, those that really need to take heed won't!

But if the rest of us can be nice that's a great start.

I also think humour is an interesting area. Much banter can be based on humour, and much humour can be based on putting down a minority... blonde or. Irish jokes.

Therefore some might joke in banter, but cause offence to the very wide and open audience on fab, and in addition we all know there are professional offence takers on here it would seem.

So maybe as well as being nice, we all need to try and "react nicely" too. Not take offence where none was intended, and may be Urr on the side of tollerance...

I wonder what Socrates had to say about tolerance... "

'Reacting nicely' is a great point......

Far too many 'knee jerkers' cause the ructions but then ..... what would they do for a cuddle ?

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"It's like pissing in the wind...... ( as Socrates said )

Were those his exact words? lol

But you are right!

Unfortunately it's like safety videos and the like, those that really need to take heed won't!

But if the rest of us can be nice that's a great start.

I also think humour is an interesting area. Much banter can be based on humour, and much humour can be based on putting down a minority... blonde or. Irish jokes.

Therefore some might joke in banter, but cause offence to the very wide and open audience on fab, and in addition we all know there are professional offence takers on here it would seem.

So maybe as well as being nice, we all need to try and "react nicely" too. Not take offence where none was intended, and may be Urr on the side of tollerance...

I wonder what Socrates had to say about tolerance... "

well put

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You really shouldn't worry yourself about things that random strangers on the internet, who you will never even meet, have to say..it's a bit like that annoying fly..

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

"Kindness is sexier than sneering cynicism.

Cynicism all the way for me - I'd rather be disliked for being me than being liked for a fake persona (this is a generalisation and not directed at anyone in particular)

Cynicism is suffering , I’ve never met a cynic that was truly happy about their life. Kindness and generosity when it’s undeserved might seem the most ridiculous thing to do , but it build bridges and heals

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By *tue555Man
over a year ago

Passed Beyond Reach

Nice thread that turns nasty

Do people actually practice what they preach in these kinda threads and many others? just a question really

Self appointed

Long term Cynic, Professional Offence taker (Wish I did get paid), Negative poster, keyboard warrior, all around despicable person, arrogant, crusader, white knight, elitist.

Oooooops I was writing my CV

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By *tue555Man
over a year ago

Passed Beyond Reach

"Kindness is sexier than sneering cynicism.

Cynicism all the way for me - I'd rather be disliked for being me than being liked for a fake persona (this is a generalisation and not directed at anyone in particular)

You have now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You really shouldn't worry yourself about things that random strangers on the internet, who you will never even meet, have to say..it's a bit like that annoying fly.."

It really sums it all up - well for me anyway!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I was reminded this morning about the Socratic test on stories (gossip). Maybe posters in other threads should consider this...

1. Is it true? If you don't know and are passing on heresay then question whether you should.

2. Is it good? If you are passing on bad news or bad thoughts, are they of value?

3. Is it of use? Will the story or information you have be of any positive benefit, if not then why share?

Otherwise we are likely to be passing on bad or negative information or stories that we don't know whether they are true or not, and that are unlikely to be of use or benefit to the listener/reader.

Whilst this shouldn't prohibit banter, it should avoid shaming and negativity...

just a thought

This is excellent, particularly the heresay on here. Far too many people listen to others, rather than making their own judgements.

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

Unfortunately OP on here you will always get the negative Nellies/Norman's who will try and bring people down or misconstrue a comment and turn it around for their own agenda. Keep being you, never change...if strangers on here don't like it, what does it matter. This place is an escapism. It's real life that counts.

Have a good day xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Unfortunately OP on here you will always get the negative Nellies/Norman's who will try and bring people down or misconstrue a comment and turn it around for their own agenda. Keep being you, never change...if strangers on here don't like it, what does it matter. This place is an escapism. It's real life that counts.

Have a good day xx"

‘Negative nellies/ Normans’ doesn’t sound very kind.

#BeKind

You see how it’s done ?

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

Have a good day xx

‘Negative nellies/ Normans’ doesn’t sound very kind.

#BeKind

You see how it’s done ? "

That was me being kind... I could've said a lot worse.

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By *.R.MMan
over a year ago

Norfolk

Bill & Ted had to get Socrates on their excellent adventure, they then came up with their own slogan, “Be excellent to one another”

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

Disclaimer: Not all Nellie's and Norman's are negative

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

"I'm nice ...I like being nice ...it's nice being nice

Self recommendation O ? Does that count ?"
no idea...I'm just putting it out there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Eat turkey. Be happy.

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

Honestly, I find the best way to have a pleasant thread is just to post something positive and pleasant. If anyone tries to derail that just ignore them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Eat turkey. Be happy. "

Heh, vegetarian here!

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By *tue555Man
over a year ago

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"Nice thread that turns nasty

Do people actually practice what they preach in these kinda threads and many others? just a question really

Self appointed

Long term Cynic, Professional Offence taker (Wish I did get paid), Negative poster, keyboard warrior, all around despicable person, arrogant, crusader, white knight, elitist.

Oooooops I was writing my CV

Please send all complaints to;

The mews

Ivory Towers

Lofty Hights

Far Above

Or just simply PM

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Eat turkey. Be happy.

Heh, vegetarian here!

I'll eat your portion

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Eat turkey. Be happy.

Heh, vegetarian here!

I'll eat your portion

Fowl play

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Eat turkey. Be happy.

Heh, vegetarian here!

I'll eat your portion

Fowl play

No gobbles for you blossoms!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

But on the theme of niceness, if I could be anything I'd be a cloud.

So I could be one not raining on you in the winter.

The one providing exactly the correct ratio of transparency on a summers day to allow you to get tanned and be warm but not overheat or get skin cancer.

The one bandying other clouds together to create an area round you opposite to the weather conditions required for that howling cold wind we get.

And finally, that one that looks like a cock and balls when you look out of your window on a long journey and it makes you laugh and strangely aroused at the same time.

In short. If you want to be nice. Just think cloud. Simple.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Eat turkey. Be happy.

Heh, vegetarian here!

I'll eat your portion

Fowl play

No gobbles for you blossoms!

Not my plucky day

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Eat turkey. Be happy.

Heh, vegetarian here!

I'll eat your portion

Fowl play

No gobbles for you blossoms!

Not my plucky day

It's ok mate, just means you might have to spread your wings and look further afield. I've got your back mate, I believe you can fly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I was reminded this morning about the Socratic test on stories (gossip). Maybe posters in other threads should consider this...

1. Is it true? If you don't know and are passing on heresay then question whether you should.

2. Is it good? If you are passing on bad news or bad thoughts, are they of value?

3. Is it of use? Will the story or information you have be of any positive benefit, if not then why share?

Otherwise we are likely to be passing on bad or negative information or stories that we don't know whether they are true or not, and that are unlikely to be of use or benefit to the listener/reader.

Whilst this shouldn't prohibit banter, it should avoid shaming and negativity...

just a thought

a damn fine thought

*inserts round of applause GIF

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

Nice isn't always what we think it is.

Sometimes we need to hear things we'd rather not, even though they may not be nice. But in the long run its the nicest thing to do for us.

Sometimes when we are depressed or having a rough time we only want to hear positive things. And sometimes this is what is needed but it's only ever a stop gap solution. But sometimes we need friends to tell you as it is, yes it can be tough but needed. If you don't have friends to chat with about these things, maybe seeing a counselor may be of use.

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

Sending you some hugs Barb

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Don't Worry Be happy", Bobby McFerrin.

That's my contribution for today

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"Eat turkey. Be happy.

Heh, vegetarian here!

"
Vegan here or as I prefer to call myself a non meat eater.......

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"I'm nice ...I like being nice ...it's nice being nice

Self recommendation O ? Does that count ?no idea...I'm just putting it out there

I know I can see it.......

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I’m not ‘nice’. It’s a far too bland a word to describe me.

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By *hysoseriouslyMan
over a year ago

Kent

"Kindness is sexier than sneering cynicism.

It really is.

Women should lift each other up, not drag them down, for whatever reason they have. "

This! And not just women… but all humans

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"I’m not ‘nice’. It’s a far too bland a word to describe me. "

delicious ?

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

"I’m not ‘nice’. It’s a far too bland a word to describe me. "

Delectable

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By *tue555Man
over a year ago

Passed Beyond Reach

"Kindness is sexier than sneering cynicism.

It really is.

Women should lift each other up, not drag them down, for whatever reason they have.

This! And not just women… but all humans "

Yes but the reality people are only selectively nice or kind when it suits. Just the way it is

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Kindness is sexier than sneering cynicism.

It really is.

Women should lift each other up, not drag them down, for whatever reason they have.

This! And not just women… but all humans "

Yes, I stand corrected

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By *rispyDuckMan
over a year ago

Chinese Takeaway near you

"I've made this thread numerous times, but I'm noticing a few people twisting my words and jumping to the wrong conclusion when I'm trying to be nice and supportive.

There are definitely too many threads that turn toxic, or the people starting the thread are being a bit highly about something they didn't need to be difficult about.

Let's just have a nice, pleasant thread where you can day anything that is pleasant, be it profound or nonsensical.

I'm having a tough time in life and I come here to find friendly people

Lots of you have been absolutely wonderful to me, but there are some who feel the need to stick the knife in and twist it a few times for good measure

Be kind!"

Hope your Monday has been alright

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Nice isn't always what we think it is.

Sometimes we need to hear things we'd rather not, even though they may not be nice. But in the long run its the nicest thing to do for us.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Kindness is sexier than sneering cynicism.

Shit, really???

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By *ust RachelTV/TS
over a year ago

Horsham

There are so many bitter and twisted people out there, use their messages as a filter and block them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have a good day xx

‘Negative nellies/ Normans’ doesn’t sound very kind.

#BeKind

You see how it’s done ?

That was me being kind... I could've said a lot worse."

I thought this was quite supportive really

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