FabSwingers.com forum: Catching feelings

By *olmate OP Man
over a year ago

west mids

How common it is to catch feelings for someone you ve met here?

Is it a good sign or otherwise?

Opinions, please!

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By *gent CoulsonMan
over a year ago

Secret hideaway in the pennines

Depends on what you are looking for

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's how we became a couple.

Met here. Had lots of fun. Caught feels. Now we're a couple here.

Works for us! And I know at least one other couple that is the same. X

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Good for some, not good for others. To each their own.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

If its not mutual it won't go well.

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

It’s a big ‘no’ from me but it is what some actively seek.

As long as you’re both on the same page then no harm done

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

I don't think it's good or bad primarily. It just is. If everyone is happy with that then that's fair enough.

It's not that common but I think because it's more likely to be spoken about it might seem that way?

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By *olmate OP Man
over a year ago

west mids

"I don't think it's good or bad primarily. It just is. If everyone is happy with that then that's fair enough.

It's not that common but I think because it's more likely to be spoken about it might seem that way? "

You are right!

Communication is the key.

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By *olmate OP Man
over a year ago

west mids

"It’s a big ‘no’ from me but it is what some actively seek.

As long as you’re both on the same page then no harm done

How to know if you both are at same page?

Communication, right?

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By *ohohoWoman
over a year ago

Up North

It’s hard when you catch feeling for someone and it’s not reciprocated. I found it easier not to have repeat meets in the end to avoid it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Surely it depends if you're open to more than meeting for sex? And that will be unique to individuals and their situations. For me as a married woman catching feelings isn't what I'm looking for. I have my guard up and won't get that close to anyone. Its worked so far.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Catch flights, not feelings.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know plenty couples on here that met on fab . The feelings can develop if you are spending time with each other. I also have a couple of single female friends that have a strict 3 meet only rule. It saves them getting hurt as they are not looking for a relationship. It works for them and it's a good way to protect themselves from getting hurt. Each to their own I guess. It all depends what you're looking for. Sometimes you can meet the right person when you least expect it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends on how deep the feelings go OP. I know I won’t meet anyone I don’t like.

It’s liking someone as a friend catching feelings?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Depends on how deep the feelings go OP. I know I won’t meet anyone I don’t like.

It’s liking someone as a friend catching feelings?"

I don't think so. I'd say when romantic feelings are involved.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

I have some feelings for everyone I meet/have met. Wouldn’t meet them otherwise.

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By * and R cple4Couple
over a year ago

swansea

If your both single and looking for something more than great ..If not then someone will always get hurt.

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By *erfectman122Man
over a year ago

from somewhere nice

Op it’s very common… keep them feelings well hidden

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By *inger_SnapWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

I have to have certain feelings to get in bed with someone. But it's easy to seperate friendly feelings from "love" and any sort of commitment.

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By *ugRollersCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle

I think it would be easy to develop feelings if you are regularly meeting the same person all the time like the fwb thing …. I think one of the only ways to avoid that would be to not keep going with the same person/people and then you don’t get caught up in any drama etc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Depends on how deep the feelings go OP. I know I won’t meet anyone I don’t like.

It’s liking someone as a friend catching feelings?

I don't think so. I'd say when romantic feelings are involved. "

Thats a relief for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ew feelings

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"Ew feelings

Not as bad as gingernuts!

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By *affron40Woman
over a year ago

manchester

"Ew feelings

Not as bad as gingernuts!

Ooohhh ginger nuts

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ew feelings

Not as bad as gingernuts!

Ooohhh ginger nuts

I'll assume you mean the biscuits and are taking my side on this

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By *VineMan
over a year ago

The right place

I wouldn’t really want to keep seeing someone I had no feelings for. I need to like someone if I’m going to see them. That might (and has) developed into liking someone a lot. But I know where the boundaries are. It’s a bubble.

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By *affron40Woman
over a year ago

manchester

"Ew feelings

Not as bad as gingernuts!

Ooohhh ginger nuts

I'll assume you mean the biscuits and are taking my side on this

I mean both!!!!!

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"Ew feelings

Not as bad as gingernuts!

Ooohhh ginger nuts

I'll assume you mean the biscuits and are taking my side on this

I mean both!!!!!

Just to clarify I obviously meant the biscuits! From the other thread

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ew feelings

Not as bad as gingernuts!

Ooohhh ginger nuts

I'll assume you mean the biscuits and are taking my side on this

I mean both!!!!!

Just to clarify I obviously meant the biscuits! From the other thread

I get strong feels from gingernuts, and you will not take that away from me!

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"Ew feelings

Not as bad as gingernuts!

Ooohhh ginger nuts

I'll assume you mean the biscuits and are taking my side on this

I mean both!!!!!

Just to clarify I obviously meant the biscuits! From the other thread

I get strong feels from gingernuts, and you will not take that away from me! "

. We can’t take over every thread with our gingernut disagreement

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By *affron40Woman
over a year ago

manchester

"Ew feelings

Not as bad as gingernuts!

Ooohhh ginger nuts

I'll assume you mean the biscuits and are taking my side on this

I mean both!!!!!

Just to clarify I obviously meant the biscuits! From the other thread

Lies….

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By *VineMan
over a year ago

The right place

Feelings are catching???

Can I get a vacation?

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle

I think you have to have some degree of feeling for a person you meet, it depends how you deal with the situation if you feel more then they do, it doesn’t have to develop into love, a great friendship can be enough at times

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ew feelings

Not as bad as gingernuts!

Ooohhh ginger nuts

I'll assume you mean the biscuits and are taking my side on this

I mean both!!!!!

Just to clarify I obviously meant the biscuits! From the other thread

I get strong feels from gingernuts, and you will not take that away from me!

. We can’t take over every thread with our gingernut disagreement

Food derails are totally standard on a certain other kinky website I may have visited.

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By *olmate OP Man
over a year ago

west mids

Donot know where the gigernuts stuff came up, hahaha.

However, so many wonderful suggestion and POVs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think you have to have some degree of feeling for a person you meet, it depends how you deal with the situation if you feel more then they do, it doesn’t have to develop into love, a great friendship can be enough at times

The mythical connection

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh them feels!!!

They’re a pain

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If your both single and looking for something more than great ..If not then someone will always get hurt."

My biggest fear.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"Donot know where the gigernuts stuff came up, hahaha.

However, so many wonderful suggestion and POVs.

Sorry that was my fault

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was warned about catching feelings on here and had my boundaries up as totally friends only casual zone.

But as we know, no prophylactics are 100% effective

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What are these feelings you speak of?

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle

The mythical connection

You can find it, several times if you’re lucky

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

"Feelings are catching???

Can I get a vacation? "

Yeah, a holiday away from someone is a good idea so you don't catch those nasty feels.

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle

"What are these feelings you speak of?"

It’s where your brain is looking forward to seeing someone rather than just your winky

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What are these feelings you speak of?

It’s where your brain is looking forward to seeing someone rather than just your winky

Pffft, my dinkle doesn't even care these days.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What are these feelings you speak of?

It’s where your brain is looking forward to seeing someone rather than just your winky

Pffft, my dinkle doesn't even care these days."

Dinkle! That's what my mum called mine when I was little. Never ever heard it used by anyone else before. I just assumed my mum was a weirdo

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

"Depends on how deep the feelings go OP. I know I won’t meet anyone I don’t like.

It’s liking someone as a friend catching feelings?"

I become very fond of my fwbs. But its not romantic. I feel no jealousy. I am happy with what we have.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Met my ex on here. The feelings were so strong that we were monogamous our whole relationship! So think it happens often.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I met my now wife through fab what was meant to be a one off meet had us meeting socially for months long story short now married living together know our boundaries and still have fun with others works for us

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was quite adamant that I didn't want a relationship and now I'm in one. It just happens when it happens if it's going to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some of you seem to think that liking someone equates to feelings. That isn't what I take it to mean. I'm perfectly capable of liking those I meet I just don't want any romantic involvement. There's no room for those sorts of feelings. I assume that's what the OP meant.

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

The mythical connection

It’s not a myth, but it is rare. You both have to be just the right amount of messed up to still have some feelings , but not too many

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By *riar BelisseWoman
over a year ago

Delightful Bliss

Its something I need to have in poly relationships, I cannot practice tantra without serious feelings for that person, do I act in society's norms on those feelings no. I embrace and bask in them in our playtime, nothing more

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By *olmate OP Man
over a year ago

west mids

"Some of you seem to think that liking someone equates to feelings. That isn't what I take it to mean. I'm perfectly capable of liking those I meet I just don't want any romantic involvement. There's no room for those sorts of feelings. I assume that's what the OP meant. "

Well explained...

Xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The mythical connection

It’s not a myth, but it is rare. You both have to be just the right amount of messed up to still have some feelings , but not too many

Not sure if that sounds like a gift or a curse.

and how many is too many. And why nobody is concerned about not enough but too much is more thought provoking.

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