FabSwingers.com forum: Too Forward Too Soon

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I mean, anyone else feels like there are some very cheeky people who can be too forward too soon?

Like, first thing I get asked as a chat up line,

(for example) if I’m into being fisted?

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and all I want to say is

HEY, hello.. how you doing? Isn’t it beautiful today?

Instead of thinking whether I do like a WHOLE fist (or two) up my bum.

I don’t know, food for thoughts and I’m rambling

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By *erenity20Woman
over a year ago

Northampton

I get this all the time

I find it very off putting and delete or block as from their opening sentence it's clear we won't get on

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By *outhwalesbbwWoman
over a year ago

Bridgend,

Yep,I block anyone who messages me like that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can’t stand it either, I’m a person, not a thing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've never been asked anything like that, I feel left out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I often wonder if people who send messages like that are doing it on purpose or if they actually think it's a winning strategy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've never been asked anything like that, I feel left out

Swap inboxes with a woman for a day, sure you'll be glad to swap back at the end of it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I mean, anyone else feels like there are some very cheeky people who can be too forward too soon?

Like, first thing I get asked as a chat up line,

(for example) if I’m into being fisted?

…..

and all I want to say is

HEY, hello.. how you doing? Isn’t it beautiful today?

Instead of thinking whether I do like a WHOLE fist (or two) up my bum.

I don’t know, food for thoughts and I’m rambling

Yes there definitely are. Although now I’m wondering what the answer to the fisting question is.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I've never been asked anything like that, I feel left out

You can tick that off ur list

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By *gent CoulsonMan
over a year ago

Secret hideaway in the pennines

I don't think I have ever sent or received a message like that, it would definitely be a straight delete

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By *elshkinkyMan
over a year ago

south wales

"I've never been asked anything like that, I feel left out

Swap inboxes with a woman for a day, sure you'll be glad to swap back at the end of it

I did this once… was let log on to someone’s account… it was an eye opener …. No subtlety by most

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would rather people be upfront and as forward as possible with me

That way I can make the choice if they or what they offering is for me

Way I see it no point in talking for weeks/ months on end

To find out they just want a quick bang at me or in to something I am out

Truthful is always best

If they want a one night stand bang at me say so it happen at some point

If they want more then grate worth the talk

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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

We get it all the time, today got one from a couples profile. All he wanted was to see more photos and sent messages like I want to fuck that pussy.

I pointed out the irony that he was wanting more photos when they had a magnificent total of one photo themselves. They then got the hump at which point I just blocked him.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I would rather people be upfront and as forward as possible with me

That way I can make the choice if they or what they offering is for me

Way I see it no point in talking for weeks/ months on end

To find out they just want a quick bang at me or in to something I am out

Truthful is always best

If they want a one night stand bang at me say so it happen at some point

If they want more then grate worth the talk

Yeah but I think there’s being upfront and there’s just being bang on TOO forward. Like where are the manners lol

But it’s my thought anyway.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"We get it all the time, today got one from a couples profile. All he wanted was to see more photos and sent messages like I want to fuck that pussy.

I pointed out the irony that he was wanting more photos when they had a magnificent total of one photo themselves. They then got the hump at which point I just blocked him."

The worst!!!!!!!

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By *nfin8yWoman
over a year ago

Newcastle-under-Lyme

A definite turn off for me. I’m a person not a thing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I would rather people be upfront and as forward as possible with me

That way I can make the choice if they or what they offering is for me

Way I see it no point in talking for weeks/ months on end

To find out they just want a quick bang at me or in to something I am out

Truthful is always best

If they want a one night stand bang at me say so it happen at some point

If they want more then grate worth the talk

Yeah but I think there’s being upfront and there’s just being bang on TOO forward. Like where are the manners lol

But it’s my thought anyway.

Yes got to have manners and yes maybe could be right there has been a couple off messages I had that have made me think wtf was the person thinking sending that ha ha

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By *sBlueWoman
over a year ago

Up North

Yes really puts me off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'll bring food

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By *oudLoutishLoverWoman
over a year ago

Colchester

The amount of times someone refers to my 'eating my *ussy' in their introductory message is staggering.

It always makes me delete.

I don’t know if I like you, much less fancy you. Who can get aroused by some random perve just because he claims to like oral???

(Sorry. Hate the p word!)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've never been asked anything like that, I feel left out

You can tick that off ur list

Haha now officially ticked off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just had this now yes the typical eating my body parts intro with the pics, gone straight to block today, normally delete but obviously don’t get message

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I'll bring food

Ohhh u know how to really make a girl happy…. Don’t forget your dick too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'll bring food

Ohhh u know how to really make a girl happy…. Don’t forget your dick too

That is the food

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

Yes..I kmow what you mean OP...these never elicit a reply from me...lifes just too short

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Anyone had the message "Let me eat your lamb kebab" yet? I've heard from a little bird that some recieve this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Think of the time you’ve saved knowing they’re a total arse trumpet in the first message, block, delete, move on.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Think of the time you’ve saved knowing they’re a total arse trumpet in the first message, block, delete, move on. "

They just tend to go in the sea of unread messages

Im currently drowning in …

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah…

But are you into being fisted?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Yeah…

But are you into being fisted?"

A classy girl never tells

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By *arol321Woman
over a year ago

Poole

I just delete them. The ones that really annoy me though are the ones who then offer me money as if that should make a difference.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yeah…

But are you into being fisted?

A classy girl never yells

You haven’t seen the size of my fist yet

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Yeah…

But are you into being fisted?

A classy girl never yells

You haven’t seen the size of my fist yet

Was meant to say tell haha! Id probably yell after the first three knuckles lol

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

The question for me is... would you accept this in a face to face meeting , say in a pub?

If the answer is negative then I would suggest it is not acceptable in a first message.

I do get some, not too many fortunately and I delete those without response.

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By *m3232Man
over a year ago

maidenhead

It is amazing at what people will say in their first message

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

Getting a lot of those types of messages recently, especially from straight guys. The Bi guys are generally more likely to be a bit more complimentary and interested in you as a person first.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It is amazing at what people will say in their first message "

Your head would explode if you logged onto my fab lol

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By *m3232Man
over a year ago

maidenhead

"It is amazing at what people will say in their first message

Your head would explode if you logged onto my fab lol

I would so love to meet you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wow, I don’t get any messages like that, btw I don’t get many messages at all.

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By *affron40Woman
over a year ago

manchester

It’s a straight delete if it’s anything remotely rude… that conversation is for after I’ve met someone and am planning to touch them only.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

Yes get to know who i am before you decide what you want to do to me

Instablock.

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By *EAT..85Woman
over a year ago

Nottingham

At least you can rule them out straight away. I dislike the ones where you ARE having a pleasant day to day conversation and then WHAM! Will you peg me in the middle of a field while I dress up in XYZ? Erm....

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By *mily36CWoman
over a year ago

Bracknell (or anywhere beginning with B..!?)

But.... if you block everyone apart from friends you can save all the Fab admin and just hunt down what you want ...

Saves oodles of smut messages and unwanted pics

...and still plenty of fun

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By *oudLoutishLoverWoman
over a year ago

Colchester

"The question for me is... would you accept this in a face to face meeting , say in a pub?

If the answer is negative then I would suggest it is not acceptable in a first message.

I do get some, not too many fortunately and I delete those without response. "

The worst response to this is, 'well, a woman on the street isn’t showing me pics of her tits and *ussy! What did you expect?'.

Instant confirmation that he sees women on Fab as free whores, unworthy of courtesy.

Vile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"But.... if you block everyone apart from friends you can save all the Fab admin and just hunt down what you want ...

Saves oodles of smut messages and unwanted pics

...and still plenty of fun

Finally.

A women with common sense instead of complaining and moaning. She gets it.

You are a diamond

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By *mily36CWoman
over a year ago

Bracknell (or anywhere beginning with B..!?)

"But.... if you block everyone apart from friends you can save all the Fab admin and just hunt down what you want ...

Saves oodles of smut messages and unwanted pics

...and still plenty of fun

Finally.

A women with common sense instead of complaining and moaning. She gets it.

You are a diamond

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

"The question for me is... would you accept this in a face to face meeting , say in a pub?

If the answer is negative then I would suggest it is not acceptable in a first message.

I do get some, not too many fortunately and I delete those without response.

The worst response to this is, 'well, a woman on the street isn’t showing me pics of her tits and *ussy! What did you expect?'.

Instant confirmation that he sees women on Fab as free whores, unworthy of courtesy.

Vile."
Agree with you - it is not pleasant.

I get that this is not a site for cultural interest but then equally it is still a site where human beings meet. As such, a bit of mutual respect does not go amiss.

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By *andsome HandMan
over a year ago

roundabout

"I mean, anyone else feels like there are some very cheeky people who can be too forward too soon?

Like, first thing I get asked as a chat up line,

(for example) if I’m into being fisted?

…..

and all I want to say is

HEY, hello.. how you doing? Isn’t it beautiful today?

Instead of thinking whether I do like a WHOLE fist (or two) up my bum.

I don’t know, food for thoughts and I’m rambling

Sorry, I thought it was a better opening than FAF

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

Fisting

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