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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hi everyone iv been here a while but with very little success I know its tough for the single guy on here but I can't even seem to get a profile view latley even when I post a pic or a status never mind a reply to a message I always read the profile in full and try my best to personalise my message any advice would be happily received

Thanks guys and girls

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You do know that most women and a lot of couples - basically your target aydience - browse in mode, so you'll never know how many are looking at your profile.

Believe me, any that you message will definitely be having a look before considering whether to read it or not.

Are you actively looking fir people, or are you assuming that they'll find you?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I'm actively looking and sending plenty of messages 99% just get deleted straight away

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By *lenderfoxMan
over a year ago

Leeds

Go to a social and meet people in person

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm actively looking and sending plenty of messages 99% just get deleted straight away"

Yep. That sounds about right.

It happens.

It just means they've decided that you're not for them.

Don't take it so personally.

You need to re-evaluate your expectations of the site.

And then lower them.

A lot.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Read my profile and do the exact opposite!

Nothing but tumble blowing around my inbox !

But I’m committed to it now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get at least 30 views a day, probably because of my inane banter on the forums! Just treat it like a chat room and get involved, no expectations and you're sorted!

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham

Stop thinking of it as something you can unlock and complete. There is no right way or wrong way.

Just remove expectations. Use the forums. Message people who pique your interest and have a connection with.

Don't just be carpet messaging everyone within a 20 mile radius hoping for a shag.

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon


"Stop thinking of it as something you can unlock and complete. There is no right way or wrong way.

Just remove expectations. Use the forums. Message people who pique your interest and have a connection with.

Don't just be carpet messaging everyone within a 20 mile radius hoping for a shag. "

So that guy that said he was the "boss level"?

That wasn't true?

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By *r SensualMan
over a year ago

London


"Hi everyone iv been here a while but with very little success I know its tough for the single guy on here but I can't even seem to get a profile view latley even when I post a pic or a status never mind a reply to a message I always read the profile in full and try my best to personalise my message any advice would be happily received

Thanks guys and girls "

You’re probably not doing anything wrong at all but just getting lost in a sea of messages..,.

Profile views don’t always necessarily mean someone wants to engage in conversation so wouldn’t look too much into that. As said, plenty view in stealth mode as to not get the barrage of “HeY I sAw YoU cHecKeD oUt mY pRoFiLe” messages from people that they may not want to chat to….

Your best bet is to get away from the screen and get yourself to a club, social or party now the world has opened up again. That’s way to go as a single man

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By *lbinoGorillaMan
over a year ago

Redditch


"Stop thinking of it as something you can unlock and complete. There is no right way or wrong way.

Just remove expectations. Use the forums. Message people who pique your interest and have a connection with.

Don't just be carpet messaging everyone within a 20 mile radius hoping for a shag.

So that guy that said he was the "boss level"?

That wasn't true? "

He isn't

I am

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One of the sad realities of Fab is that single men are by far the largest group demographically speaking and to put it bluntly, the ladies have got plenty of choice!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks for the words of wisdom everyone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As the French would say, you were born 'sans vag'

That's your biggest mistake

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As the French would say, you were born 'sans vag'

That's your biggest mistake"

Succinctly put, sir.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi everyone iv been here a while but with very little success I know its tough for the single guy on here but I can't even seem to get a profile view latley even when I post a pic or a status never mind a reply to a message I always read the profile in full and try my best to personalise my message any advice would be happily received

Thanks guys and girls "

Lower your expectations. This is the internet, which makes it easy for folk to be very choosy. The best way is to get out and socialise. Fab on its own really isn't a guarantee to move further with this lifestyle.

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham


"Stop thinking of it as something you can unlock and complete. There is no right way or wrong way.

Just remove expectations. Use the forums. Message people who pique your interest and have a connection with.

Don't just be carpet messaging everyone within a 20 mile radius hoping for a shag.

So that guy that said he was the "boss level"?

That wasn't true? "

Except that guy. He has competed fab.

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By *oddess NailaWoman
over a year ago

London & Edinburgh

You’re profile is ok but a bit bland. I don’t get any sense of what you’re into, plus probably doesn’t help you can’t accom.

As others have said try going to socials and maybe take some sexier pics.

Yiuve only been on 10minths and there has been a pandemic going in so you prob need to lower your expectations quite a bit.

As others have said there’s not a lot of ladies on the site so it will be ably harder.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It all boils down to who and what people like ... or if it’s the right time for them as such .. I’m not expecting to find many encounters on here for many reasons , and I’m good with that ..

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