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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Why do people post this up,like surly it's a swinging site not the weather report,always feels a bit odd to me when I see updates like this or just chatting surly there's other sites for chat and other things,or is it people trying to catch people out on here ??

Just wanted to get that of my chest and wondering what other peoples thought where

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So they don’t get people asking them to meet, when they’re not looking, saves everybody’s time, pretty obvious really.

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By *tue555Man
over a year ago

Passed Beyond Reach


"Why do people post this up,like surly it's a swinging site not the weather report,always feels a bit odd to me when I see updates like this or just chatting surly there's other sites for chat and other things,or is it people trying to catch people out on here ??

Just wanted to get that of my chest and wondering what other peoples thought where "

People are here for many different reasons, cams, photos, many just want to talk dirty to someone or about someone. Guys like to see if they can still pull, girls want to see if the are still abled to be pulled.

Meeting is only one part, and then only a fraction of that part actually meet.

It is what it is

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By *affron40Woman
over a year ago

manchester

I log back in to chat on the forums. Don’t see the issue if it’s clear.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This should be interesting!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So they don’t get people asking them to meet, when they’re not looking, saves everybody’s time, pretty obvious really. "

This

A lot of people aren’t looking for anyone new either. Saves people asking to meet.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Because some people use the site to connect to people they've met on here. It's a courtesy for those who might otherwise waste their time trying to meet them.

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By *aomilatteCouple
over a year ago

Midlands

Not meeting

Please read profile

Stop sending friends requests

We deleted all our messages by pure accident, message us again

Out of messages

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I came here seeking an FWB and found one. I still enjoy chatting to people, reading the forums, and generally being a part of the community. I even still meet people occasionally for new experiences, socials or to give a veri despite not actively looking for meets.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Exactly, if I had to reply to everyone that I’m not meeting now, I’d basically be replying all day everyday.

And just because I’m logged on fab it doesn’t mean I’m looking for dick…

Drives me insane the sea of messages saying “ARE U FREE NOW?”

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It can be quite confusing at times.

There's those not meeting, yet putting in some good effort on their profile.

Then there's those that are seeking to meet and put very little effort into their profile.

The mind boggles.

In this sense though, it can be many a reason.

They have ongoing personal issues, or enough meets planned already.

There's so much more to this site than meeting for sex.

Socials, chat rooms, pictures, forums, private messages for all kinds of things like arranging meets or simply fantasizing.

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham

Fine by me. They can do what they want as long as they're not hurting others. Just move on.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading


"Why do people post this up,like surly it's a swinging site not the weather report,always feels a bit odd to me when I see updates like this or just chatting surly there's other sites for chat and other things,or is it people trying to catch people out on here ??

Just wanted to get that of my chest and wondering what other peoples thought where

People are here for many different reasons, cams, photos, many just want to talk dirty to someone or about someone. Guys like to see if they can still pull, girls want to see if the are still abled to be pulled.

Meeting is only one part, and then only a fraction of that part actually meet.

It is what it is"

Girls pull too

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading


"I came here seeking an FWB and found one. I still enjoy chatting to people, reading the forums, and generally being a part of the community. I even still meet people occasionally for new experiences, socials or to give a veri despite not actively looking for meets. "

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why do people post this up,like surly it's a swinging site not the weather report,always feels a bit odd to me when I see updates like this or just chatting surly there's other sites for chat and other things,or is it people trying to catch people out on here ??

Just wanted to get that of my chest and wondering what other peoples thought where "

Probably stops a load of hassle tbh ... A lot of people rely upon some support on social media sites. Maybe they can't get out at all - but able to chat and still be connected to a sexy site like this....

If there is someone you wanted to meet. Think about still talking to them on occasions, you never know they might change their mind.

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By *inkylipsWoman
over a year ago

Debauchery

I put this because even though I want to I cannot. I’m fed up of keep saying it. Doesn’t mean I’m not looking for when I can and for the most part I enjoy finding the right people I want to have sex with. What’s the problem with that?

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By *inkylipsWoman
over a year ago

Debauchery


"Exactly, if I had to reply to everyone that I’m not meeting now, I’d basically be replying all day everyday.

And just because I’m logged on fab it doesn’t mean I’m looking for dick…

Drives me insane the sea of messages saying “ARE U FREE NOW?” "

Exactly this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ok, sing along;

"There's things I want

There's things I think I want

There's things I've had

There's things I want to have..."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've got that at the top of my bio at the moment. I use this site how I want, and won't apologise for it.

I can be here to chat with friends, use the forums, post photos and to build connections for when I do decide to meet new people. The only reason I'm not meeting new people is because I'm busy lately and I've got a bloody awesome fwb right now who's ticking all my boxes. Doesn't mean I've got to leave the site!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Exactly, if I had to reply to everyone that I’m not meeting now, I’d basically be replying all day everyday.

And just because I’m logged on fab it doesn’t mean I’m looking for dick…

Drives me insane the sea of messages saying “ARE U FREE NOW?” "

Yep! Or "well why are you on here then?" When they've been told I'm not meeting.

I don't want or expect the Spanish inquisition because I've said I'm not meeting. It's my choice. I'm here still for my friends, to perve when I feel like it and occasionally the forum. Oh and to post pics sometimes. Why anyone is on here is really no one else's business.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve been unwell, and now I’m recovering, and I’m really bored, should I leave the site because I can’t meet at the mo?

I like using the forums, looking at pretty pictures and posting my pictures, it’s everyone’s right to use the site as they wish.

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By *oldyoudown41Man
over a year ago

caledonian

I’ve been doing it wrong the whole time I must update my bio

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By *entlemenpipMan
over a year ago

not far


"Why do people post this up,like surly it's a swinging site not the weather report,always feels a bit odd to me when I see updates like this or just chatting surly there's other sites for chat and other things,or is it people trying to catch people out on here ??

Just wanted to get that of my chest and wondering what other peoples thought where "

Everyone has reasons for havering periods where they are not meeting people especially at the moment. But it could be they have found people they can regularly see and as such do need anyone else at the time. It could be they are ill, or maybe they have found and love the party scene. This site is not 1800 find a fuck some people use this community and site for more

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"Exactly, if I had to reply to everyone that I’m not meeting now, I’d basically be replying all day everyday.

And just because I’m logged on fab it doesn’t mean I’m looking for dick…

Drives me insane the sea of messages saying “ARE U FREE NOW?”

Yep! Or "well why are you on here then?" When they've been told I'm not meeting.

I don't want or expect the Spanish inquisition because I've said I'm not meeting. It's my choice. I'm here still for my friends, to perve when I feel like it and occasionally the forum. Oh and to post pics sometimes. Why anyone is on here is really no one else's business. "

Yup.

If people can't read my profile then that's their problem. It's there for their benefit, not because it turns me on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m not ... could meet if I wanted to ... I’m a believer in fate ,things happen for a reason , certain paths cross at different points in life ... I’m just sitting back .. waiting to play my position ... I’m in no rush .... (hare v tortoise ) ..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because not everyone uses the site in the same way that you do OP.

Everyone is here for their own reasons and their own enjoyment.

Some might only be interested in the forums.

Some might still be cautious about meeting again as we emerge from this global nightmare we've been living with.

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

Anyone Is free to use fab in a way that suits them,we're only doing social meets and state this.

We like to still use the forums and stay in touch with friends though.

If people are upfront and clear about why they're here, you can easily avoid those that don't meet what you're seeking.

Miss

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Exactly, if I had to reply to everyone that I’m not meeting now, I’d basically be replying all day everyday.

And just because I’m logged on fab it doesn’t mean I’m looking for dick…

Drives me insane the sea of messages saying “ARE U FREE NOW?”

Yep! Or "well why are you on here then?" When they've been told I'm not meeting.

I don't want or expect the Spanish inquisition because I've said I'm not meeting. It's my choice. I'm here still for my friends, to perve when I feel like it and occasionally the forum. Oh and to post pics sometimes. Why anyone is on here is really no one else's business. "

Totally!!

I did have a guy say “you have been online for X amount of time, you are ALWAYS looking for dick”

Send me berserk… as I enjoy u people so much and the forum lol

And Yes, I do meet guys (I mean lol got a lot

Of photographic proof lol) , but at my own pace I guess and when I feel like I want to meet. Otherwise us girls we wouldn’t have a life apart from being sex creatures lol (according to fab people)

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

It can be for many reasons they put this...i.e a change in circumstances, health, work life balance.

Are you trying to say OP that these people should no longer be on the site??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So they don’t get people asking them to meet, when they’re not looking, saves everybody’s time, pretty obvious really. "

^^ this…… but still get messages asking to meet or when I’m free to meet

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

Their business

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

I don't think its matters what you write.

You could offer them money not to ask and they still would.

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By *sm265Woman
over a year ago

Shangri-la

I'm not meeting at the moment, my profile is very clear about that & explains that I'm purely here for the forums and to keep in touch with existing friends , but I still get multiple messages every day asking me to meet or to chat It drives me insane

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So they don’t get people asking them to meet, when they’re not looking, saves everybody’s time, pretty obvious really. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They're just playing hard to get OP. I find sending a dick pic or 7 soon gets them interested.

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By *hesblokeMan
over a year ago

Derbyshire village

Cos folks don't read profiles

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By *sBlueWoman
over a year ago

Up North


"So they don’t get people asking them to meet, when they’re not looking, saves everybody’s time, pretty obvious really. "

This^

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've got that at the top of my bio at the moment. I use this site how I want, and won't apologise for it.

I can be here to chat with friends, use the forums, post photos and to build connections for when I do decide to meet new people. The only reason I'm not meeting new people is because I'm busy lately and I've got a bloody awesome fwb right now who's ticking all my boxes. Doesn't mean I've got to leave the site!"

*high five

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By *gent CoulsonMan
over a year ago

Secret hideaway in the pennines

I'm not actively looking, I piddle around the forums, and chat with friends I have made, meet socially, if anything happens out of that it's a bonus, but as a single bloke, I have no expectations what so ever

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So they don’t get people asking them to meet, when they’re not looking, saves everybody’s time, pretty obvious really. "

^^^^^^^ This

It's just letting people know "I'm not meeting at min" plain & simple so as they're not wasting others time mailing etc...

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By *sm265Woman
over a year ago

Shangri-la

Unfortunately, even when you post status updates saying that you aren't meeting, & then say it again on your profile, there are still always people who just see that you are online and send "meet now" messages anyway. These are often the same ones who post rants about how rude it is when people don't reply to messages

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading


"They're just playing hard to get OP. I find sending a dick pic or 7 soon gets them interested. "

Shush you.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Damn soon as I posted this it turned into a busy day so totally forgot to look,fair point everyone has made totally makes sence cheers for replying people it was really interesting to read your responses

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People use fab for whatever reason, theres no set way. Some use it for that confidence boost, some use it to meet, some like myself use it for the forums and chat. Who cares really if someones not wanting to meet then so be it, find someone that does.

Most single guys seem to think its there right to fuck any women they please

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

I'm not doing new meets the moment I will when I decide I have the spare time and I want to

I'm on here for the forums and to chat to people who I have gotten to know .

Yet again though I don't see why what others do on here is anyone elses business and if someone has that on their profile or status you aren't being lead on. If you still choose to contact someone who has it and then get stroppy when they have to repeat themselves because you think you should be the exception well tough that's on you.

People use this site in a way that suits them just because it isn't what you want is irrelevant and it is easy to just ignore the profiles that are not in line with what you are looking for .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I tick every 'Looking for' box so that I get loads of mail from desperate people begging to fuck me. Then it feels great to say nooo I'm not meeting. Gives me a sense of power turning them all down.

I could easily just untick everything but that doesn't give me an ego boost or sense of superiority.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm not meeting at the moment, my profile is very clear about that & explains that I'm purely here for the forums and to keep in touch with existing friends , but I still get multiple messages every day asking me to meet or to chat It drives me insane

"

Why don't you use your filters if you don't want to chat?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So they don’t get people asking them to meet, when they’re not looking, saves everybody’s time, pretty obvious really. "
Exactly this. Why should we remove ourselves from fab, just because we choose not to meet until we feel happy to ? Why is it a problem ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like the forums and keeping in touch with friends, not looking for meets plus I can’t meet I’m in isolation but then get asked can they visit me ha so all pointless one track minds some yes

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By *sm265Woman
over a year ago

Shangri-la


"I'm not meeting at the moment, my profile is very clear about that & explains that I'm purely here for the forums and to keep in touch with existing friends , but I still get multiple messages every day asking me to meet or to chat It drives me insane

Why don't you use your filters if you don't want to chat?"
.

My filters are set pretty tight but I join in on the forums and there are times when that may involve allowing messages to get through.

I don't think it is too much to ask for people to take a few seconds to read a profile & to respect what it says.

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