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By *r easy1981 OP   Man
over a year ago

leeds

So how long you been single and why?

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By *stbury DavenportMan
over a year ago

Nottingham

Nineteen years.

"I've never met one woman who could make me stop looking at all the others."

- Lemmy

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By *rivateparts!Man
over a year ago

Walking down the only road I've ever known!

12 years, cos nobody wants me

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By *ogglesMan
over a year ago

essex and norfolk

10 years as I choose to be because no body wants me lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I chose to end my last relationship and not wanted another

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By *toC Thats MeWoman
over a year ago

Sheffield

3 years for me. Was much needed after a long term relationship. X

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By *r easy1981 OP   Man
over a year ago

leeds


"Nineteen years.

"I've never met one woman who could make me stop looking at all the others."

- Lemmy"
at least your truthful lol

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By *r easy1981 OP   Man
over a year ago

leeds


"10 years as I choose to be because no body wants me lol"
bad luck

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By *r easy1981 OP   Man
over a year ago

leeds


"I chose to end my last relationship and not wanted another "
maybe one day

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By *r easy1981 OP   Man
over a year ago

leeds


"3 years for me. Was much needed after a long term relationship. X"
always good to take a break

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

6 months!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

3-4 years for me, it ran it's course and we both stopped trying eventually.

I'm happy being single

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

I was widowed 12rs ago. Had a live in relationship for 3 yrs and have been single since. I have had the opportunity for a relationship but I've never wanted to take it.

I quite enjoy just doing me.

Never say never though

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By *r easy1981 OP   Man
over a year ago

leeds


"6 months!!"
not long then how you finding it ?

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By *r easy1981 OP   Man
over a year ago

leeds


"3-4 years for me, it ran it's course and we both stopped trying eventually.

I'm happy being single "
best way to end things most of the time it never works out like that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"6 months!! not long then how you finding it ?"

I don’t like it haha!

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By *r easy1981 OP   Man
over a year ago

leeds


"I was widowed 12rs ago. Had a live in relationship for 3 yrs and have been single since. I have had the opportunity for a relationship but I've never wanted to take it.

I quite enjoy just doing me.

Never say never though "
sorry about that and I know never say never

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By *r easy1981 OP   Man
over a year ago

leeds


"6 months!! not long then how you finding it ?

I don’t like it haha! "
why?

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By *dam1971Man
over a year ago

Bedford


"I quite enjoy just doing me. "

I’d enjoy just doing you too

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38


"I was widowed 12rs ago. Had a live in relationship for 3 yrs and have been single since. I have had the opportunity for a relationship but I've never wanted to take it.

I quite enjoy just doing me.

Never say never though sorry about that and I know never say never"

Thank you x

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38


"I quite enjoy just doing me.

I’d enjoy just doing you too "

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By *r easy1981 OP   Man
over a year ago

leeds


"I was widowed 12rs ago. Had a live in relationship for 3 yrs and have been single since. I have had the opportunity for a relationship but I've never wanted to take it.

I quite enjoy just doing me.

Never say never though sorry about that and I know never say never

Thank you x"
no problem x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A year coming up, just drifted apart while together. The spark was always there while I worked away. We are still very close friends though and I love her to bits. And getting along really helps regards to our gorgeous little daughter.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I quite enjoy just doing me.

I’d enjoy just doing you too "

Who wouldn't??

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By *ltrMan
over a year ago

sheffield

2 and a half years wife left with our fxxk buddy then she cheated on him wanted to come back to me but I was enjoying life

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By *r easy1981 OP   Man
over a year ago

leeds


"2 and a half years wife left with our fxxk buddy then she cheated on him wanted to come back to me but I was enjoying life "
well you did well pal

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By *ltrMan
over a year ago

sheffield


"2 and a half years wife left with our fxxk buddy then she cheated on him wanted to come back to me but I was enjoying life well you did well pal "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"6 months!! not long then how you finding it ?

I don’t like it haha! why?"

I don’t miss the lack of sex but I do miss the connection and love we had! Hence why I’m looking for a swinging relationship! I want the best sex but also deep connection and love. We just drifted apart but he’s a wonderful guy and we are still friends!

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

Quite a while now.... Lost count of years

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By *ilverjagMan
over a year ago

swansea

Seventeen years single, and staying that way because, lurve can seriously damage your wealth, but lust, that's a different commodity all together, and affordable. Plus, I've kinda gone off the taste of wedding cake, but we can share chocolate gateaux together anytime.

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By *r easy1981 OP   Man
over a year ago

leeds


"6 months!! not long then how you finding it ?

I don’t like it haha! why?

I don’t miss the lack of sex but I do miss the connection and love we had! Hence why I’m looking for a swinging relationship! I want the best sex but also deep connection and love. We just drifted apart but he’s a wonderful guy and we are still friends!"
well at least your still friends I hope you find what your looking for

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By *r easy1981 OP   Man
over a year ago

leeds


"Quite a while now.... Lost count of years "
4 years my self

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By *ablo minibar123Woman
over a year ago

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5 or 6 years maybe. I'm not going to start a relationship just for the sake of it, the person has to feel right and so far no one has.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because nobody wants me

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By *ust PeachyWoman
over a year ago

Prestonish

Almost 9 years ago now - after 2 ltr’s in which I allowed myself to be treated quite badly.

I don’t think my ‘happily ever after’ has one significant man in it. I think it has my kids, future grandchildren, wider family and friends - and hopefully a few close male friends who’ll lend me their penis occasionally.

I believe the assumption many have that you have to be in a committed relationship to be truly happy is bollocks, frankly!

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By *xydadbodMan
over a year ago

Milton keynes

I've been single for 4 years now. Been on a few dates but it never went anywhere. I've given up really. I'm just going to focus on me and if it comes, it comes... if not, hey ho lol

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish


"So how long you been single and why?"

5years because it suits me to be single. I am happier alone.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham


"Because nobody wants me "

Same

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

[Removed by poster at 04/08/21 07:02:03]

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

plot twist the more vocal someone is about being single on fab the more likely they are to have to a wife girlfriend fiancee husband boyfriend or fiance

the science is settled on this haha trust me

just kidding before I get the abuse

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales


"[Removed by poster at 04/08/21 07:02:03]"

My last LTR ended in 2011. I did date someone for a bit in 2019 but I don’t really count that as a relationship. We were just seeing each other.

My home life is not really conducive to a relationship really. Not without me pulling myself in different directions, and I’m not willing to to do that to myself.

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

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By *aucy tiggerWoman
over a year ago

Back where I belong

13 years for me

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By *r easy1981 OP   Man
over a year ago

leeds


"5 or 6 years maybe. I'm not going to start a relationship just for the sake of it, the person has to feel right and so far no one has."
no it’s pointless lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

8 years because I’ve not met anyone who wants anything serious

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

7 years and I've no Intention of changing that, I'm very happy with a few fwb nsa relationships instead

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"6 months!! not long then how you finding it ?

I don’t like it haha! why?

I don’t miss the lack of sex but I do miss the connection and love we had! Hence why I’m looking for a swinging relationship! I want the best sex but also deep connection and love. We just drifted apart but he’s a wonderful guy and we are still friends!"

Same btw, and she eats loads lol but I do miss that extra something you have with a guy who becomes your boyfriend.. that deep connection that obviously you don’t get even with regulars/fuck buddies.

But another side of me also can’t be fucked with the whole dynamics and the break ups that make you feel like SHIT.

So I guess I’m okay at the moment

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So how long you been single and why?"

25 years

Less hassle it seems. Especially when you hear neighbours arguing all the time.

It's probably the only decent decision that I've stuck with in life!

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By *r easy1981 OP   Man
over a year ago

leeds


"8 years because I’ve not met anyone who wants anything serious"
it’s hard out there now think this is the longest I have been single

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Coz I'm fuck ugly and a face like Seabiscuit

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

10 years through choice. Last relationship was an 8 year not serious one. Just haven't been looking and it doesn't bother me.

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By *heekyflickWoman
over a year ago

LINCOLN

12 years

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

3 years on and off. I've had a couple of short relationships in that time but I'm too busy to make any proper commitment.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

4 years. I’m enjoying my life too much and don’t want to consider anyone but myself

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By *inglenfreeMan
over a year ago

london

Widower for 7 years. Can't find anyone who wants a mature man.

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By *r easy1981 OP   Man
over a year ago

leeds


"4 years. I’m enjoying my life too much and don’t want to consider anyone but myself "
that really is the best way to be

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By *inxybWoman
over a year ago

Durham

3 years since my husband died, so 3 years single with no plans to change that anytime soon.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s been 2 years now. And I’m pretty content. Life is simpler and to be honest I don’t have time or the energy for a relationship. It’s not something I’m seeking now, but never know what’s around the corner.

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By *r easy1981 OP   Man
over a year ago

leeds

Sorry to hear that

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By *annaBeStrongMan
over a year ago

wokingham

Online dating has ruined loyalty and it feels like most women’s expectations are sky high but their personal delivery is at an all time low

So I’ve chosen to just focus on myself and what i like doing instead

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Divorce made me single! Happy to stay single now and discover life and experience new things. Freedom is a wonderful thing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

3 years officially and just taking time to enjoy a bit of me time and living on my own for the first time. Had few chances already for relationships with amazing women but I don't won't that just yet, I will one day though, I like being loved and being in love.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham


"Online dating has ruined loyalty and it feels like most women’s expectations are sky high but their personal delivery is at an all time low

So I’ve chosen to just focus on myself and what i like doing instead "

Same for the men (I get that you won't be looking from this perspective). Women need to look like goddesses, not a hair out of place and no hair in places, makeup perfect all the time gym fit bod but not too obsessed otherwise she's vain (same for men I guess), big boobs big ass but not a big belly, all The while they look like wayne slob shuffling one out to the free hour on porn channels

I know a few relationships that are so strong even though their other half isn't their standard 'type'.

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By *inkySeeKinkyDoWoman
over a year ago

'tween PontyCarlo & CasVegas in West Yorks

Too long, and because:

1. Im good enough to fuck but not to date

2. Most guys my age are emotionally unavailable and/or have an awful ex that screwed them over so they dont trust anyone

3. Im fat

4. I have a face like a bulldog chewing a wasp

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By *elshsunsWoman
over a year ago

Flintshire

5 years ... I’m a widow ...never met any one that measured up to him

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

8 or 9 years. Because men don't like not being my priority

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Online dating has ruined loyalty and it feels like most women’s expectations are sky high but their personal delivery is at an all time low

So I’ve chosen to just focus on myself and what i like doing instead "

Oh stop it!

You need to read verifications more often ....

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

A couple of years..turns out as someone else has said, I'm good enough to fuck but not good enough for a relationship. Happy being single though at the moment but who knows about the future x

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By *he Regina PhalangeWoman
over a year ago

Lanarkshire

7 years. Stayed single initially to maintain solid foundations for my three children. Their well-being is my priority and a string of ‘uncles’ being introduced to them has never been acceptable in my eyes.

Now, I’m too old and set in my ways. He would need to be something fucking special to sweep me off my feet.

That being said I would love to find my soul mate…..if he exists!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

10 month husband left me for woman he been having a year long affair with

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

2 years, tried dating after getting divorced 5 years ago but I work afternoons and apparently I have my children too much. So they come first as they should and not going to change even if it does keep me single.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"2 years, tried dating after getting divorced 5 years ago but I work afternoons and apparently I have my children too much. So they come first as they should and not going to change even if it does keep me single. "

Best dad x

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By *annaBeStrongMan
over a year ago

wokingham


"Online dating has ruined loyalty and it feels like most women’s expectations are sky high but their personal delivery is at an all time low

So I’ve chosen to just focus on myself and what i like doing instead

Same for the men (I get that you won't be looking from this perspective). Women need to look like goddesses, not a hair out of place and no hair in places, makeup perfect all the time gym fit bod but not too obsessed otherwise she's vain (same for men I guess), big boobs big ass but not a big belly, all The while they look like wayne slob shuffling one out to the free hour on porn channels

I know a few relationships that are so strong even though their other half isn't their standard 'type'.

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Agreed it’s tough for both sides these days, and it’s even worse at the lower generations

The amount of over weight single mums with no career, goals, interests or hobbies apart from smoking and drink that demand nothing short of a 9.5/10 guy is unbelievable

That’s why I’ve taken a step back and I’m just focusing on me. Got a few competitions lined up, I’ve basically got a 15% house deposit saved up with 12 months and I’m slowly expanding my social circle.

Gets lonely I won’t lie. But it beats jumping through endless hoops for someone that barely waddles through any of mine

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

2-3 years and same answer as alot of others noone want me lol

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By *affron40Woman
over a year ago

manchester

11 years. Life has had its complications and I love my own company too much to settle.

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By *ofdiamondsMan
over a year ago

Between wisbech & Kings lynn

4 years single after a 16 year relationship.

Turns out no one else wants me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"2 years, tried dating after getting divorced 5 years ago but I work afternoons and apparently I have my children too much. So they come first as they should and not going to change even if it does keep me single.

Best dad x "

Thanks but they are my children, my responsibility and I love them. Its always going to be them before myself. Its the hypocrisy of i have to quite rightly accept a womans kids being around but then getting told I have mine too often, come on really ? Think of what you've just said ! Bye bye

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Partner died 8 years ago. Been alone ever since. Nobody's interested in me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

5 years ……went sour due to him wanting to see me 24/7 (we worked at the same hospital) not giving me space, always asking what I was doing day in day out … but we get on now lol….. love being single no hassles or drama

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Online dating has ruined loyalty and it feels like most women’s expectations are sky high but their personal delivery is at an all time low

So I’ve chosen to just focus on myself and what i like doing instead

Same for the men (I get that you won't be looking from this perspective). Women need to look like goddesses, not a hair out of place and no hair in places, makeup perfect all the time gym fit bod but not too obsessed otherwise she's vain (same for men I guess), big boobs big ass but not a big belly, all The while they look like wayne slob shuffling one out to the free hour on porn channels

I know a few relationships that are so strong even though their other half isn't their standard 'type'.

Agreed it’s tough for both sides these days, and it’s even worse at the lower generations

The amount of over weight single mums with no career, goals, interests or hobbies apart from smoking and drink that demand nothing short of a 9.5/10 guy is unbelievable

That’s why I’ve taken a step back and I’m just focusing on me. Got a few competitions lined up, I’ve basically got a 15% house deposit saved up with 12 months and I’m slowly expanding my social circle.

Gets lonely I won’t lie. But it beats jumping through endless hoops for someone that barely waddles through any of mine "

I agree. Lots of men on dating sites are really poor quality, absolute wasters with no prospects.

I had my first house paid off by the time I was 32, I am now in my second and that will be paid within the next 5 years. I run two successful businesses, i still model and have brought up 6 boys on my own since their father died.

I’m motivated, work out daily and have a great circle of friends. I’m really enjoying the single life. Yet I get messages from absolute wasters telling me I should “give them a chance”. I’d rather be single for the rest of my life than settle for less. I haven’t got time for a men anyway to be honest but fuck me, it’s slim pickings.

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By *ooroo2019Woman
over a year ago

Chester

3.5 years single.

I do date periodically, but I find as I get older my tolerance for bullshit is slim to none, so I’m yet to meet anyone that doesn’t get on my nerves. Never say never though.

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By *stbury DavenportMan
over a year ago

Nottingham


"Nineteen years.

"I've never met one woman who could make me stop looking at all the others."

- Lemmy at least your truthful lol"

And much good had it done me. Hah! There's no point in lying – my intentions are pretty clear. I've never been interested in the relationship escalator.

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By *ecadent_DevonMan
over a year ago

Okehampton

Since 2009 so what’s that, 12 years

I’ve just become too selfish with my time to be the right guy for anyone now. There is one woman who I would change for in a heartbeat but she isn’t interested so I don’t lead others on into believing I am relationship material as I feel it’s dishonest.

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By *taffsladMan
over a year ago

stafford

14 years

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By *lenderfoxMan
over a year ago

Leeds

I ended my last relationship and dating in your 30s is tricky, plus I'm not in a rush to jump into a relationship

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

4 mths now again says a lot about me doesn’t it

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By *heekyflickWoman
over a year ago

LINCOLN

This thread is very eye opening ...as a woman you get a view one side...interesting to see men say the same...I've always been independent...I'm not looking for a "breadwinner" and I've no interest in having more kids...I just think it would be nice to have the companionship and share the love...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

6 years and because I don't want to be otherwise

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By *oldyoudown41Man
over a year ago

caledonian

3 years single , I work a lot and I’m very successful at what I do and coming form Ireland 10 years ago after the economic disaster and leaving the country I love behind I swore I’d never go through hardship again, so I worked my ass off and I rose to the almost top of one of England’s airports and running it , now my ex partner my proud of me but I worked all the hours I could and I felt I needed it for myself to show I could have a good and secure future but she got tired of my hours and we argued a lot about my work and it just wasn’t working out , so between work and going to the gym and living a stress free ish life I will find it hard to go back , I have my ways and it’s not for everyone

Just my two cents

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By *inkylipsWoman
over a year ago

Debauchery

5 years because I want to be. Plus the ex put me off any relationships for the foreseeable future

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

9 years.

& I much prefer things this way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This thread is very eye opening ...as a woman you get a view one side...interesting to see men say the same...I've always been independent...I'm not looking for a "breadwinner" and I've no interest in having more kids...I just think it would be nice to have the companionship and share the love..."

Exactly this for me too! My kids are grown now, I have a great job and a decent amount of disposable income so don’t require a guy to pay for me. Love my independence and like living alone but would love to meet an equally independent gent. I miss being in love!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This thread is very eye opening ...as a woman you get a view one side...interesting to see men say the same...I've always been independent...I'm not looking for a "breadwinner" and I've no interest in having more kids...I just think it would be nice to have the companionship and share the love...

Exactly this for me too! My kids are grown now, I have a great job and a decent amount of disposable income so don’t require a guy to pay for me. Love my independence and like living alone but would love to meet an equally independent gent. I miss being in love!"

Yeah, after being with a toxic leach for so long I could easily been disillusioned with relationships but all the women I have met/spoke to since and have been so nice, intelligent, independent and affectionate that I realise my ex was REALLY fucking odd. I want someone to share things with and look after. I miss someone to look after.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So how long you been single and why?"

About 18 months. I have no interest of ever being in a relationship again. Having more fun being single.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"5 years because I want to be. Plus the ex put me off any relationships for the foreseeable future "
hubby was dead lucky or stupid

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

12 months - painful but the right thing to call time

Have tried to gain confidence in meeting people/ potential partner , asked someone out for a drink recently after thinking I’d read the signs well….a huge step for me, not done since school…and kinda fell flat.

But no one died & I gave it a go . So some positive I think in there

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By *uriousscouserWoman
over a year ago

Wirral

21 years. I've had long term FWB arrangements for three or four years at a time, but I've not had a relationship since I was in my 20s.

I suit being single; these days I'm too selfish to want to do the compromising that a relationship entails.

Now if only I could find the elusive FWB!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Over 3 years now and happy as I am I like my path I’m on, don’t want the hassle pleasing others and other issues that it brings. But then again never know if struck by almighty perfect one may be swayed ha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A few years.

And I'm single because there isn't anyone I would like to be in a relationship with at this moment in time.

I like how my life is , as it is

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By *heHungStudentMan
over a year ago

Kettering

Dont want to miss out on all the uni life has to offer

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

2 years next week. Been let down and/or taken for granted in two marriages and one serious relationship. I’m not in any hurry for that to happen again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Dont want to miss out on all the uni life has to offer"

Yeah enjoy it while you can.

Best times of your life

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

20 years. I find marriage very difficult.

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By *host63Man
over a year ago

Bedfont Feltham

3 years and I had a very recent epiphany and decided I am sick of bashing my head against a brick wall so I won't be looking for another in a hurry. And enjoy and value the freedom and independence that being single gives me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

4 years. Like to march to the beat of my own drum. Not very keen on neediness lmao

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By *ustamanMan
over a year ago

weymouth

Choice at the moment, also quite busy with work and social stuff - a relationship would potentially interfere

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So how long you been single and why?"

Twelve years and counting

Because I prefer it that way

Missy x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lost my wife suddenly 4 years ago, had a couple of quick relationships but also enjoying my own company. Besides I' getting to be an ugly grumpy old man, who would want me?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because I am to awesome to share

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By *gent CoulsonMan
over a year ago

Secret hideaway in the pennines

Long enough for it not to bother me.

Why, so I don't get my heart broken again

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By *lint94Man
over a year ago

NW

Been single for a few weeks after a 3 months relationship, couldn’t stay away from fab too long

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

11 years, because there hasn't been a man yet who deserves my time and effort.

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By *unandgamegeekMan
over a year ago

Bolton

I've been single for over 4 years which will be 5 years this Christmas.

Why I'm single is because I'm not ready to settle down.

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By *indergirlWoman
over a year ago

somewhere, someplace

Nearly three years and my own choice, I'm happy as I am and how things are right now

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By *ilverjagMan
over a year ago

swansea


"Online dating has ruined loyalty and it feels like most women’s expectations are sky high but their personal delivery is at an all time low

So I’ve chosen to just focus on myself and what i like doing instead

Same for the men (I get that you won't be looking from this perspective). Women need to look like goddesses, not a hair out of place and no hair in places, makeup perfect all the time gym fit bod but not too obsessed otherwise she's vain (same for men I guess), big boobs big ass but not a big belly, all The while they look like wayne slob shuffling one out to the free hour on porn channels

I know a few relationships that are so strong even though their other half isn't their standard 'type'.

Agreed it’s tough for both sides these days, and it’s even worse at the lower generations

The amount of over weight single mums with no career, goals, interests or hobbies apart from smoking and drink that demand nothing short of a 9.5/10 guy is unbelievable

That’s why I’ve taken a step back and I’m just focusing on me. Got a few competitions lined up, I’ve basically got a 15% house deposit saved up with 12 months and I’m slowly expanding my social circle.

Gets lonely I won’t lie. But it beats jumping through endless hoops for someone that barely waddles through any of mine

I agree. Lots of men on dating sites are really poor quality, absolute wasters with no prospects.

I had my first house paid off by the time I was 32, I am now in my second and that will be paid within the next 5 years. I run two successful businesses, i still model and have brought up 6 boys on my own since their father died.

I’m motivated, work out daily and have a great circle of friends. I’m really enjoying the single life. Yet I get messages from absolute wasters telling me I should “give them a chance”. I’d rather be single for the rest of my life than settle for less. I haven’t got time for a men anyway to be honest but fuck me, it’s slim pickings."

I think that you have the game of life worked out to perfection. Contrary to popular belief, being a self made millionaire is not all about cruises, skiing and Ferraris, it's actually about staying that way! And LTR with under achievers who don't come with their CV, medical records, and their experian credit report, can be too high a risk to get involved with as it's likely to undermine a lifetimes work, but at the same time it's a case of when you are hungry you eat, when you're thirsty you drink, and when you are horny you fuck, especially when it involves someone who stimulates the mind as well as the body, and needs to be addressed. As for straight dating sites, there's not enough web space on this thread for me to paint some of the pictures from life's other side that I have encountered over the years.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ive not classed myself as being in a relationship for about 3 yrs, but have been properly free since about feb this year. Still shaking off the shackles of all that, and just begining to realise how nice it actually is to be my own person. I will at some future point want to share things with someone, but will try hard to avoid the usual pitfalls I drop in to. (Some hope, I love those red flags!)

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By *inkyInkedBiWoman
over a year ago

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Widowed 8 years. Had a teeny wouldn’t even call it a relationship a while after.

Didn’t have sex for three years as I was put off men.

Got back into the ‘swing’ of things thee years ago and enjoyed having fun. I still am, but I do miss having a partner, and seems from old fwb I’m only good enough for a shag

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

3 months single we just drifted apart still good friends tho

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By *lenderfoxMan
over a year ago

Leeds


"Widowed 8 years. Had a teeny wouldn’t even call it a relationship a while after.

Didn’t have sex for three years as I was put off men.

Got back into the ‘swing’ of things thee years ago and enjoyed having fun. I still am, but I do miss having a partner, and seems from old fwb I’m only good enough for a shag "

That's a horrible thing to tell someone

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By *inkerbell67Woman
over a year ago

Clacton on sea essex

Been single since the beginning of time lol so it feels like ,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Widowed 8 years. Had a teeny wouldn’t even call it a relationship a while after.

Didn’t have sex for three years as I was put off men.

Got back into the ‘swing’ of things thee years ago and enjoyed having fun. I still am, but I do miss having a partner, and seems from old fwb I’m only good enough for a shag "

I'll drop over and take you out on the town..have a laugh and enjoy the time...NO HIDDEN agenda !!!! ..just a good fun time...truth.

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By *urvySub87Woman
over a year ago

Near Wellingborough

5 years now. Been told that I'm not girlfriend material but hey, I'm a great shag. I miss the cuddles but it's not all bad being single I guess

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By *ustdaveHantsMan
over a year ago

chippenham


"5 years now. Been told that I'm not girlfriend material but hey, I'm a great shag. I miss the cuddles but it's not all bad being single I guess"

Well after a quick perv... I mean look at your profile I'd marry you xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Single l suppose cause l don't float anyone's boat...simple really...had met an absolutely incredible lady here on fab...l hesitated in going full on into a relationship...she moved on... rightly so...l was totally devastated..don't think l'd be able for the devastating heartbreak that arrived with it again ...

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By *lex46TV/TS
over a year ago

Near Wells

I was married for quite a while, we separated for 5 years and tried again for another year.

That didn't work, so I've been single for another 4 years and I can't see me wanting to live with someone ever again.

I remain friends with my wife (ex), we help each other out and still make sure that we're both OK. She even buys me dresses for Christmas.

I feel very lucky at times.

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By *ustdaveHantsMan
over a year ago

chippenham

Divorced 2 years and enjoying myself

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By *indergirlWoman
over a year ago

somewhere, someplace


"Widowed 8 years. Had a teeny wouldn’t even call it a relationship a while after.

Didn’t have sex for three years as I was put off men.

Got back into the ‘swing’ of things thee years ago and enjoyed having fun. I still am, but I do miss having a partner, and seems from old fwb I’m only good enough for a shag "

What an arse Hun, he doesn't deserve one more second of your thoughts, that's down right awful of him

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By *ingle Beds LassWoman
over a year ago

Bedfordshire

13 years for me... life keeps getting in the way... now the path is clear for me to find a wonderful man who will love my lumps n bumps and be amazing at all things DIY

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon


"Widowed 8 years. Had a teeny wouldn’t even call it a relationship a while after.

Didn’t have sex for three years as I was put off men.

Got back into the ‘swing’ of things thee years ago and enjoyed having fun. I still am, but I do miss having a partner, and seems from old fwb I’m only good enough for a shag "

Sweetheart that is absolutely not true.

You're so much more than that and your old fwb is a cockwomble xxx

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By *inkyInkedBiWoman
over a year ago

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"Widowed 8 years. Had a teeny wouldn’t even call it a relationship a while after.

Didn’t have sex for three years as I was put off men.

Got back into the ‘swing’ of things thee years ago and enjoyed having fun. I still am, but I do miss having a partner, and seems from old fwb I’m only good enough for a shag

What an arse Hun, he doesn't deserve one more second of your thoughts, that's down right awful of him"

Oh he’s a prime arsehole hun, long forgotten

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By *inkyInkedBiWoman
over a year ago

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"Widowed 8 years. Had a teeny wouldn’t even call it a relationship a while after.

Didn’t have sex for three years as I was put off men.

Got back into the ‘swing’ of things thee years ago and enjoyed having fun. I still am, but I do miss having a partner, and seems from old fwb I’m only good enough for a shag

Sweetheart that is absolutely not true.

You're so much more than that and your old fwb is a cockwomble xxx"

You’re right he is, though I’ve called him worse x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Been single a few years now and enjoy it overall. Work and other commitments don't leave time for developing full on relationships x

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By *indergirlWoman
over a year ago

somewhere, someplace


"Widowed 8 years. Had a teeny wouldn’t even call it a relationship a while after.

Didn’t have sex for three years as I was put off men.

Got back into the ‘swing’ of things thee years ago and enjoyed having fun. I still am, but I do miss having a partner, and seems from old fwb I’m only good enough for a shag

Sweetheart that is absolutely not true.

You're so much more than that and your old fwb is a cockwomble xxx

You’re right he is, though I’ve called him worse x "

Good he deserves it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was married for 18 years and after what can only be described as the divorce from hell (my choice) I've been happily single for 7 years, and yet again, my choice...but sooner or later beating them off with a stick is going to get boring

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Didn't meet the right one yet

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

3 years almost.

Because I was sick of being a verbal, mental and physical punching bag.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"3 years almost.

Because I was sick of being a verbal, mental and physical punching bag."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I won't go in to the reason as it could be triggering for others and I suffer ptsd from my experiences.

2 years single. Why? Loving the peace, can do what I want when I want, no police at my door all the time, can concentrate on bettering myself, have a bed to myself, no cleaning up after anyone..etc.

I'm not convinced by happily ever afters, not with a guy anyway.

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By *inglewindsormanMan
over a year ago

Bridport

Over 2 years. Partly due to looking for a cuckolding relationship and also partly due to my unfortunate short comings in the genitalia area

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By *95888Man
over a year ago

carlisle

Forever because I’m too shy

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By *BootyfulDayWoman
over a year ago

…

Just under 2 years

I don't want to deal with emotionally opening up and investing in someone right now

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By *r SensualMan
over a year ago

London

Nearly 9 years. I ended things when I went to uni, 4 years of loads of failed dating situations not going any far I learnt about fab and that changed everything! Now too busy enjoying this lifestyle to even think about pursuing a relationship

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

6 years, semi single. In a relationship of sorts but it won’t go any further than what it is.

I’m not looking as I don’t think anyone would take me on and all the baggage I come with x

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By *oloris obsequiumWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

4 months single by choice, had the whole lockdown reevaluation of life. Now doing what I want when I want

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By *reat me rightWoman
over a year ago

Rotherham

A long while - and I'm now over it!

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By *ekkatransTV/TS
over a year ago

Scarborough

Widowed, rather not be.

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By *lint94Man
over a year ago

NW

How long were you in a relationship for? I am happily single since a couple of months now

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By *illupMan
over a year ago

Stoke-on-Trent

Cancer

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By *emma HoldenTV/TS
over a year ago

Ramsey

2 years after 23 years married.

Why? You're looking right at it!

Problem is where do you find a nice accepting lady who will embrace & run with someone like me & it doesn't freak them out?

It bloody lonely but I won't compromise despite being told many times I'd have much more action & success if only I was into guys as well. While I can see what they mean, I'm wired to fancy boobs & lady bits & can't help that!

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By *lex46TV/TS
over a year ago

Near Wells

A few years now and very happy single.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Haven’t found that special one

That deserves me

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By *hubster2016Man
over a year ago

T

19 1/2 years I was cheated on she got preggers by him, then I lost my house and everything coz of her!!!

suffered commitment issues and self confidence issues (due to yo-yo weight gain/loss) ever since.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

...because I’ve yet to meet that someone special to whom I can surrender my soul to for eternity.

Maybe it’ll happen or maybe it won’t, either way am content.

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By *emma HoldenTV/TS
over a year ago

Ramsey


"19 1/2 years I was cheated on she got preggers by him, then I lost my house and everything coz of her!!!

suffered commitment issues and self confidence issues (due to yo-yo weight gain/loss) ever since. "

I can relate to this last bit. Was especially hard during covid lockdowns to control comfort eating late at night when you run out of things to do except telly & get the munchies or go to bed & groundhog days starts again. That was grim.

I know already I will have trust issues after what was done to me behind my back during the break up when you thought you knew somebody. I'm also scared I'll fuck up again & lose another relationship so maybe single is best for now & don't seek, just see what drops in my lap by fate & chance. But I do hate being on my own

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By *urio77Man
over a year ago

northampton

This post has truly broken my heart. There is a multitude of lonely souls wandering aimlessly through life due to bad experiences with the opposite sex.The behaviour that some men and women have actioned in society appalls me. Why does everyone think it’s ok to be a selfish prick and disregard the human condition. Just be nice,it’s not hard.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Perhaps too selfish or cursed

Or not working/ socially active in the correct areas

Or am I single? If I have occasional one night stands?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Great you were accepted into the community

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree oppositely,

as a male I fear the past females were out of control and were negative to mine and daughters affluent goals

Ie my faults have been the choice of females were through lust pride and greed as opposed to positive goal setting relationships…

Just so attracted to naughty ladies

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By *ornyQueerWoman
over a year ago

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2 months but don’t really want to put myself out there again. I haven’t had much luck dating. I’m dealing with ancient and depression

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By *ornyQueerWoman
over a year ago

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*anxiety

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Anxiety is overthought of the future and lack of set goals

Depression is overthought of the past and lack of friends and hobbies

The time is now and productive activities focus the mind from extraneous introspection

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Anxiety is overthought of the future and lack of set goals

Depression is overthought of the past and lack of friends and hobbies

The time is now and productive activities focus the mind from extraneous introspection "

Great advice but sometimes it ain’t that easy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Didn’t say a preacher can take his own advice

??

Moaning gets you wrinkles and creates bad vibes… yet venting frustration is important too.. like a kettle letting off steam…

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Didn’t say a preacher can take his own advice

??

Moaning gets you wrinkles and creates bad vibes… yet venting frustration is important too.. like a kettle letting off steam…

"

Very well put !!

Anymore words of wisdom?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thank you

Plenty… of answers.. require questions ?

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By *arakiss12TV/TS
over a year ago

Bedford

500 years , I'm a vampire being part of a couple just doesn't work for me, I want to be free as a bat.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Anxiety is overthought of the future and lack of set goals

Depression is overthought of the past and lack of friends and hobbies

The time is now and productive activities focus the mind from extraneous introspection

Great advice but sometimes it ain’t that easy "

Then push oneself until you achieve. It's not meant to be easy!

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London

I got divorced in 1987, single ever since. The children came first then establishing a career and now I'm not sure I could ever share all my spaces with a man.

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By *ewbie AnalystMan
over a year ago

Little Sandhurst

5 years, after a toxic relationship I have no desire to enter into another, very happy with my own company and not having to adapt to fit into someone else's expectations.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

2yrs. Covid and surgeries I guess.

I need to get out and meet people as I like being in a relationship.

Could do with getting closer to someone again soon as I’m lonely.

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By *otshot14Woman
over a year ago

nuneaton

7 yrs,coz ex cheated and don't trust having a relationship.sex is sex.but to let your guard down again for it to b broken no thanks.

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By *nimaginativeUsernameMan
over a year ago

Rochester, Kent

A few years. I’ve all but given up on a ‘happy ever after’.

Sometimes it bothers me because people are constantly amazed that I’m single. Maybe I just don’t come across as sexy or approachable.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

3years, and because I dont meet anyone really, and no one is interested!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Choice I like being on my own a lot of the time

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)


"Anxiety is overthought of the future and lack of set goals

Depression is overthought of the past and lack of friends and hobbies

The time is now and productive activities focus the mind from extraneous introspection "

I’m sorry but that’s absolute rubbish!

You clearly have no idea about mental health.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeeeaaarrrs. Because I'm a crap girlfriend and I wouldn't subject anyone to it.

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