FabSwingers.com forum: I’d ruin you….

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

What prompts men to say this in a first message? Any man care to enlighten me?

I mean, I do love a bit of ruining, but I do like to have a discussion around my limits and boundaries first?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It always makes me roll my eyes honestly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I prefer a lady to be exhausted rather than ruined

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can't think that I have ever said that

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By *nfin8yWoman
over a year ago

Newcastle-under-Lyme

That and when they go into explicit details about what they’re going to do.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It always makes me roll my eyes honestly

Me too, unless it’s from someone specific

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"That and when they go into explicit details about what they’re going to do. "

Oh yes, a whole story of what they are going to do to you

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By *batMan
over a year ago

Alicante, Spain. (Sometimes in Wales)

I guess it's a useful filter!

Gbat

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle

It’s like the “I’d bang you all night” messages, yeah cause you would

I’d prefer some sensual foreplay with lots of kissing and deep penetration, but hey if the banging line works for you then soldier on

P.s I doubt it works at all

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By *appyharryhMan
over a year ago

Burntwood

I’m not entirely certain I’d want to ruin someone, I mean I might want to do it again, can’t if it’s ruined

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It always makes me roll my eyes honestly

Me too, unless it’s from someone specific

It would get an eye roll from me whoever said it I think. I don't actually want to be sore and hurting after sex... Exhausted? Yes. Aching from the range of positions used? Yes. But actually ruined and hurting? No thanks.

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle

"I prefer a lady to be exhausted rather than ruined "

Exactly, when you just look at each other after like wowwww that was awesome

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

"That and when they go into explicit details about what they’re going to do. "

Like it's a script and I have no say in how it plays out..... Boring!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had that, so original!

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By *HaRiFMan
over a year ago

Beyond the shadows.

"What prompts men to say this in a first message? Any man care to enlighten me?

I mean, I do love a bit of ruining, but I do like to have a discussion around my limits and boundaries first?"

I have no idea , I personally try to keep my litigious activity to a minimum.

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By *rivateparts!Man
over a year ago

Walking down the only road I've ever known!

Ive never used that line.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I guess it's a useful filter!

Gbat"

Ha, yes

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"What prompts men to say this in a first message? Any man care to enlighten me?

I mean, I do love a bit of ruining, but I do like to have a discussion around my limits and boundaries first?

I have no idea , I personally try to keep my litigious activity to a minimum. "

Sounds sensible

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lack of imagination possibly lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would though.

No, I've said it to a partner but probably wouldn't go in with it as an introduction.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I would though.

No, I've said it to a partner but probably wouldn't go in with it as an introduction. "

Well, exactly

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By *lappyMan
over a year ago

Manchester

sorry you have been subjected to the ( lack of ) wisdom from Neanderthal man, hope you ( and all other female site users ) realise that not all make users are like this .. hope you have a great weekend x

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By *heltenhamBiGuyMan
over a year ago

Cheltenham

Most are just all talk and want a response as they tug their todgers over the keyboard.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What prompts men to say this in a first message? Any man care to enlighten me?

I mean, I do love a bit of ruining, but I do like to have a discussion around my limits and boundaries first?"

I'll have sex with you for 1 minute and leave you disappointed if you'd prefer that?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Lack of imagination possibly lol

Yeah most likely all talk too

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By *ssex_tomMan
over a year ago

Colchester

I always thought it that ruined was an old term for taking somebody's virginity or making them pregnant before they were walked up the aisle.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It’s like the “I’d bang you all night” messages, yeah cause you would

I’d prefer some sensual foreplay with lots of kissing and deep penetration, but hey if the banging line works for you then soldier on

P.s I doubt it works at all

Haha never happens! 40 mins and a lot of these men who claim that are done lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I prefer a lady to be exhausted rather than ruined

Exactly, when you just look at each other after like wowwww that was awesome

Shit. I don't remember that part

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town

"What prompts men to say this in a first message? Any man care to enlighten me?

I mean, I do love a bit of ruining, but I do like to have a discussion around my limits and boundaries first?"

I'm intrigued... What is it? Is it just short hand lazy speak for "I will show you a really good time?" or are there boxes to tick that constitute ruining someone? it always sounds a bit dark to me.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"What prompts men to say this in a first message? Any man care to enlighten me?

I mean, I do love a bit of ruining, but I do like to have a discussion around my limits and boundaries first?

I'm intrigued... What is it? Is it just short hand lazy speak for "I will show you a really good time?" or are there boxes to tick that constitute ruining someone? it always sounds a bit dark to me. "

It comes across as more bdsm related to me, but I could be wrong.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It always makes me roll my eyes honestly

I automatically delete if I get this as a first message

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By *onb21Woman
over a year ago

Cardiff

"It would get an eye roll from me whoever said it I think. I don't actually want to be sore and hurting after sex... Exhausted? Yes. Aching from the range of positions used? Yes. But actually ruined and hurting? No thanks."

Exactly this. To me it also seems immature/inexperienced. Like a phrase someone has picked up watching porn without understanding what it means.

It's always been the end of the conversation for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What prompts men to say this in a first message? Any man care to enlighten me?

I mean, I do love a bit of ruining, but I do like to have a discussion around my limits and boundaries first?"

I often wonder about this too. Just before I delete said messages.

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By *ionelhutzMan
over a year ago

liverpool

It's a horrible saying

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"What prompts men to say this in a first message? Any man care to enlighten me?

I mean, I do love a bit of ruining, but I do like to have a discussion around my limits and boundaries first?

I often wonder about this too. Just before I delete said messages."

Ha! Yep

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oooo god I roll my eyes every time they say it

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By *p4funCouple
over a year ago

Plymouth

Id ruin you ,,,,

No you won't,,delete,,block

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

I have used that line on a few men

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town

"What prompts men to say this in a first message? Any man care to enlighten me?

I mean, I do love a bit of ruining, but I do like to have a discussion around my limits and boundaries first?

I'm intrigued... What is it? Is it just short hand lazy speak for "I will show you a really good time?" or are there boxes to tick that constitute ruining someone? it always sounds a bit dark to me.

It comes across as more bdsm related to me, but I could be wrong.

Left in the oven too long after all the pounding, stretching and filling perhaps?

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By *oubleswing2019Man
over a year ago

Colchester

No idea OP, never having used the term myself.

I can only surmise the male is boasting in advance of their sexual prowess, and I suppose in some sense this is akin to a Silverback gorilla beating its chest as a form of dominance.

Considering a lot of men I have met have ridiculously fragile egos, I think this utterance is more to self-massage their own feelings of inadequacy.

It's a red flag saying for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hate people who want to direct the action, I like to be spontaneous always. I will oblige any sensible request of course.

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By *agpie and RavenMan
over a year ago

Leicester

I think the phrase 'ruin you' was originally meant in the way that "I'll ruin you so no other man can satisfy you" but now it's in the same basket as 'destroy that pussy' et al. These rough sex videos have ruined a whole generation of men

Frank

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

Yes i hate when the first message is things they will do to you not with you. Creepy as fuck.

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town

"I think the phrase 'ruin you' was originally meant in the way that "I'll ruin you so no other man can satisfy you" but now it's in the same basket as 'destroy that pussy' et al. These rough sex videos have ruined a whole generation of men

Frank"

See what you did there? Very clever

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It always makes me roll my eyes honestly

Me too, unless it’s from someone specific

Same ! Someone in particular, I love to hear it

First message? I don't think so sunshine

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Yes i hate when the first message is things they will do to you not with you. Creepy as fuck. "

Yes, you’d think they’d never heard of consent

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It always makes me roll my eyes honestly

Me too, unless it’s from someone specific

Same ! Someone in particular, I love to hear it

First message? I don't think so sunshine

Haha! From that particular persons, hell yes! I guess it is because your experience/imagination fills in the blanks.

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By *rSshMan
over a year ago

Poundbury

They have watched way too much porn

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By *irtydevil666Man
over a year ago

bristol

"They have watched way too much porn

Probably......

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By *.R.MMan
over a year ago

Norfolk

Lack of intelligence, unable to have a conversation maybe ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What prompts men to say this in a first message? Any man care to enlighten me?

I mean, I do love a bit of ruining, but I do like to have a discussion around my limits and boundaries first?"

They should lower expectations and say I’ll leave you mildly disappointed, then anything better than that is a bonus, the key is always to set the bar low, then the pressures off and everyone can relax.

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

Wherever the wind takes me

He’d have to be a hardy man to ruin me. But good luck to them trying

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You’d ruin me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lack of intelligence

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

But the serious answer is they’re thick as fuck and don’t know how to talk to women, they have zero self awareness and are probably still baffled that line doesn’t get the desired results, at least it saved you time finding out they’re a massive bellend before it went any further,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The only way I would ruin it or you is by cumming to quick

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"But the serious answer is they’re thick as fuck and don’t know how to talk to women, they have zero self awareness and are probably still baffled that line doesn’t get the desired results, at least it saved you time finding out they’re a massive bellend before it went any further, "

Very true

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By *inger_SnapWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

I really don't want to be ruined, I'm already broken.

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

Wherever the wind takes me

"The only way I would ruin it or you is by cumming to quick "

Sorry to divert the thread, but you have an amazing arse

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We’ll add that to the guys who say ‘hey whore’ or ‘hey slut’ in their first message!

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By *xfordshireCoupleMFCouple
over a year ago

Abingdon

"That and when they go into explicit details about what they’re going to do. "

This always makes me cringe if I’m honest.

Lily

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"We’ll add that to the guys who say ‘hey whore’ or ‘hey slut’ in their first message! "

Yes, like, really?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you need to ask then you don’t deserve to be ruined

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

"What prompts men to say this in a first message? Any man care to enlighten me?

I mean, I do love a bit of ruining, but I do like to have a discussion around my limits and boundaries first?"

Because it works in porn, and porn teaches you everything you need to know about sex.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"That and when they go into explicit details about what they’re going to do.

This always makes me cringe if I’m honest.

Lily "

Me too. Straight delete

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"If you need to ask then you don’t deserve to be ruined

I already get ruined on a regular basis so

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"What prompts men to say this in a first message? Any man care to enlighten me?

I mean, I do love a bit of ruining, but I do like to have a discussion around my limits and boundaries first?

Because it works in porn, and porn teaches you everything you need to know about sex."

Sadly, this appears to be the thinking

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

Iv had these messages

Seem aggressive

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

"They should lower expectations and say I’ll leave you mildly disappointed, then anything better than that is a bonus, the key is always to set the bar low, then the pressures off and everyone can relax. "

This always works for me

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By *uriousscouserWoman
over a year ago

Wirral

I read too many Georgian and Victorian novels, so I always imagine my ruination to involve rumours spreading that I've been seen talking to the grocer's boy without a footman present, or that my indiscreet letters to the local rake have been made public knowledge.

I certainly don't think of it as something sexy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If you need to ask then you don’t deserve to be ruined

I already get ruined on a regular basis so

Oh my Mrs

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By *xtrafun4youMan
over a year ago

Dunstable

Absolutely gross words.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"If you need to ask then you don’t deserve to be ruined

I already get ruined on a regular basis so

Oh my Mrs

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By *cottish gentMan
over a year ago

Dumbarton

Sounds like such a "I'm d*unk with my 16 year old friends thing to say"

Lol

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

"I read too many Georgian and Victorian novels, so I always imagine my ruination to involve rumours spreading that I've been seen talking to the grocer's boy without a footman present, or that my indiscreet letters to the local rake have been made public knowledge.

I certainly don't think of it as something sexy."

Harlot!

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By *uriousscouserWoman
over a year ago

Wirral

I certainly don't think of it as something sexy.

Harlot!"

*drops needlework in shock*

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

I certainly don't think of it as something sexy.

Harlot!

*drops needlework in shock*"

*readies a scarlet letter*

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Any sort of message with this in would get instantly deleted and the person blocked, same with slut or slag or any other derogatory comments, we avoid any profiles like this completely.. whats wrong with just being nice!

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

"What prompts men to say this in a first message? Any man care to enlighten me?

I mean, I do love a bit of ruining, but I do like to have a discussion around my limits and boundaries first?"

I’ve never used that term, or similar, in any message, to established friends or new. I always let the woman ‘open the door’ to the sexy talk, and what happens from there, is between us…..

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"What prompts men to say this in a first message? Any man care to enlighten me?

I mean, I do love a bit of ruining, but I do like to have a discussion around my limits and boundaries first?

I’ve never used that term, or similar, in any message, to established friends or new. I always let the woman ‘open the door’ to the sexy talk, and what happens from there, is between us…..

Which is the right approach

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What prompts men to say this in a first message? Any man care to enlighten me?"

Can't help you there. I simply have no idea why so many blokes' idea of sexy chat is metaphoric with violence (destroy that ass, pound that pussy, I'd smash that etc etc). My mind must be wired different.

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By *gent CoulsonMan
over a year ago

Secret hideaway in the pennines

I would ruin any woman. I would out them off sex for life, you would be well ruined

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By *r. SuffolkMan
over a year ago

Suffolk

I think there trying to say how good they are but it comes across as all wrong. They should read it back before sending and maybe they would realise it's not likely to impress.

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

"What prompts men to say this in a first message? Any man care to enlighten me?

I mean, I do love a bit of ruining, but I do like to have a discussion around my limits and boundaries first?

I’ve never used that term, or similar, in any message, to established friends or new. I always let the woman ‘open the door’ to the sexy talk, and what happens from there, is between us…..

Which is the right approach

I’ve had a modicum of success using this approach

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Instant delete when someone says this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I would ruin any woman. I would out them off sex for life, you would be well ruined"

You never know.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If it makes you feel better OP, I've had women say this to me.

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By *olymalelincsMan
over a year ago

southend

"What prompts men to say this in a first message? Any man care to enlighten me?

I mean, I do love a bit of ruining, but I do like to have a discussion around my limits and boundaries first?"

I'm honestly not sure what they think it will achive, personally I prefer a little disscusions and getting to know someone first

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"If it makes you feel better OP, I've had women say this to me.

How does that feel, from a male perspective?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If it makes you feel better OP, I've had women say this to me.

Me too, but the context was she'd ruin me for anyone else (and did for a while, she was a tremendous shag and I couldn't get as excited about anybody else for a good while after we split up, but hey I found my equilibrium again eventually).

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By *he Ring WraithMan
over a year ago

Bradford

"What prompts men to say this in a first message? Any man care to enlighten me?

I mean, I do love a bit of ruining, but I do like to have a discussion around my limits and boundaries first?"

I very much doubt I could ruin you so suggesting it would be futile; as for messaging suggesting what i would do to anyone surely that is NOT an opening gambit.

Or am i looking at it because no one ever sends me messages like that !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If it makes you feel better OP, I've had women say this to me.

How does that feel, from a male perspective? "

It might be meant as showing confidence or they're really into you, but it comes off more as arrogance.

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town

"What prompts men to say this in a first message? Any man care to enlighten me?

But by the pure volume of profiles and fora that use that type of language..... Makes me wonder whether it works or resonates with some folks... Not judging... But interested to know if it works for anyone and if so why the threat of physical harm is a thing...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I really don't want to be ruined, I'm already broken."

Let me get some tape and glue.

Soon have ya fixed up x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"What prompts men to say this in a first message? Any man care to enlighten me?

I’m sure, like anything it occasionally works, and if my Dom says it to me, then hell yeah, but that’s because I know him, and trust him.

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

I've been ruined before and loved it.

But anyone telling me that straight off gets short shrift.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"But by the pure volume of profiles and fora that use that type of language..... Makes me wonder whether it works or resonates with some folks... Not judging... But interested to know if it works for anyone and if so why the threat of physical harm is a thing... "

I honestly think it reflects how much men fear women (generalising wildly). What do you do when you feel fear? Go into fight or flight mode, act aggressive, threaten.

There again, I'm sure many of us have opened a conversation with something like "I think you're devastatingly attractive and sexy and I'd love to engage in mutually satisfying consensual kinky acts of love with you" and got nowhere either

Women just have better bullshit filters

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I've been ruined before and loved it.

But anyone telling me that straight off gets short shrift."

Exactly that. Perfectly put posh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Surprisingly, it may work on some women. I used to work with a guy who'd ask women, "Do you take it up your arse?" after the first drink and his success rate was ~50%. Not sure if they actually did have anal sex, but I did see him leave with the pub with a lady on his shoulder enough times to simply accept that some women don't mind such lines.

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town

"Surprisingly, it may work on some women. I used to work with a guy who'd ask women, "Do you take it up your arse?" after the first drink and his success rate was ~50%. Not sure if they actually did have anal sex, but I did see him leave with the pub with a lady on his shoulder enough times to simply accept that some women don't mind such lines.

Life's like a box of chocolates...

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By *ssex_tomMan
over a year ago

Colchester

Up there with, bashing her back doors in...

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By *heltenhamBiGuyMan
over a year ago

Cheltenham

I was ruined (financially) years ago when I got divorced, so the term makes me shudder in many ways!

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By *ssex_tomMan
over a year ago

Colchester

"I was ruined (financially) years ago when I got divorced, so the term makes me shudder in many ways!"

Did you lose everything?

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By *heltenhamBiGuyMan
over a year ago

Cheltenham

"I was ruined (financially) years ago when I got divorced, so the term makes me shudder in many ways!

Did you lose everything?"

Basically, yes!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I was ruined (financially) years ago when I got divorced, so the term makes me shudder in many ways!

Did you lose everything?

Basically, yes!"

. Sorry to hear that.

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By *heltenhamBiGuyMan
over a year ago

Cheltenham

"I was ruined (financially) years ago when I got divorced, so the term makes me shudder in many ways!

Did you lose everything?

Basically, yes!

. Sorry to hear that. "

Thanks... it was years ago, but built everything back up again and financially secure

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

its just moronic mindset talk .. schoolyard banter i guess ..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What prompts men to say this in a first message? Any man care to enlighten me?

I mean, I do love a bit of ruining, but I do like to have a discussion around my limits and boundaries first?"

I'd ruin you until the neighbours complained about the smell

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What prompts men to say this in a first message? Any man care to enlighten me?

I mean, I do love a bit of ruining, but I do like to have a discussion around my limits and boundaries first?"

I guess it just shows what a load of low life's some of us men can really be. I think the phase stinks personally. I really don't know why men use it. Best to be a little more rezpectfullnin my opinion and maybe you might get some where with the lady.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"What prompts men to say this in a first message? Any man care to enlighten me?

I mean, I do love a bit of ruining, but I do like to have a discussion around my limits and boundaries first?

I'd ruin you until the neighbours complained about the smell

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"What prompts men to say this in a first message? Any man care to enlighten me?

I mean, I do love a bit of ruining, but I do like to have a discussion around my limits and boundaries first?

I agree, ease us in gently

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By *icearmsMan
over a year ago

KIDLINGTON

I'd never use that phrase.. such a horrid use of words.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ruin" sounds like something someone would say during a business wrangle in a mediocre film.

However, after a good session, I love nothing better than to jump off the bed, point at her exhausted body, give a maniacal laugh and yell "Bow before your leader!", before running out of the room (usually before she throws something at me). Doesn't everybody?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

""Ruin" sounds like something someone would say during a business wrangle in a mediocre film.

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By *aomilatteCouple
over a year ago

Midlands

Could be worse, could be

"I'm going to destroy you" or

"I'm going to fuck the living daylights out of you"

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Could be worse, could be

"I'm going to destroy you" or

"I'm going to fuck the living daylights out of you"

I think they are all on a par really, I’m not keen on any of them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So this is where I’ve been going wrong!!!

Advice taken - I’ll now use the word “destroy” rather than “ruin”.

Thanks fabbers!!

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By *traight_no_iceMan
over a year ago

Stoke

"What prompts men to say this in a first message? Any man care to enlighten me?

I mean, I do love a bit of ruining, but I do like to have a discussion around my limits and boundaries first?"

I think it is a means of artistic expression for some people.

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple

"What prompts men to say this in a first message? Any man care to enlighten me?

I mean, I do love a bit of ruining, but I do like to have a discussion around my limits and boundaries first?

I'll have sex with you for 1 minute and leave you disappointed if you'd prefer that?

As with everything, there is a middle ground

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman
over a year ago

all loved up

"That and when they go into explicit details about what they’re going to do.

Oh yes, a whole story of what they are going to do to you

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that you usually then find all your local female friends have had the same message too

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

We all know my mind works in its own special way.

I have thoughts that they must think my gash is made of plasticine and they're gonna mash fuck out of it.

I'm all, oh

I was hoping for flowers and a piggy back to the shop

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

"That and when they go into explicit details about what they’re going to do.

Oh yes, a whole story of what they are going to do to you

that you usually then find all your local female friends have had the same message too

Oh, that original message just for you

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"We all know my mind works in its own special way.

I have thoughts that they must think my gash is made of plasticine and they're gonna mash fuck out of it.

I'm all, oh

I was hoping for flowers and a piggy back to the shop "

To buy chocolate

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

It starts to hint about the amount of time that they spend with the genders, when they're sounding like dirty chats with male mates, rather than any experience with partners.

I get the smashed, banged, ruined talk

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

"We all know my mind works in its own special way.

I have thoughts that they must think my gash is made of plasticine and they're gonna mash fuck out of it.

I'm all, oh

I was hoping for flowers and a piggy back to the shop

To buy chocolate

Rustlers burger, quality bird me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can offer penny sweets as energy boosts after I have given you an average experience, but a varied slow & sensual with a mix of ruining average treat

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What prompts men to say this in a first message? Any man care to enlighten me?

I mean, I do love a bit of ruining, but I do like to have a discussion around my limits and boundaries first?"
I think you could ruin me, id be like a boy scout with a bit of dry wood trying to make a fire lol

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By *r and Mrs GravestoneCouple
over a year ago

Tinsel Town

Had similar, such a turn on isn’t it not

One we had recently, not that we’d be any good at talking dirty, “want to stick my tongue in your pussy till you moan and lick it until it’s wet” please use some imagination

I’d be “it’s wet now get off” how good was he, got me moaning and wet within a second!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe the mentality is that the females response would be 'I bet you cant' or 'I'd like to see you try'

Which is a yes or an in for a conversation or to them fucking you. It's a bit like a goading for some rough or lots of sex, at the same time asserting their male dominance/masculinity/virility/alpha whatever you want to call it.

A feisty female might go back and say they'd outlast the guy and ruin him instead. Either way he's game on for as much sex as he can get out of it and primed the woman for it.

I could be wrong.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Maybe the mentality is that the females response would be 'I bet you cant' or 'I'd like to see you try'

A feisty female might go back and say they'd outlast the guy and ruin him instead. Either way he's game on for as much sex as he can get out of it and primed the woman for it.

I could be wrong.

Does that ever work though? That kind of thing is a huge turn off for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Maybe the mentality is that the females response would be 'I bet you cant' or 'I'd like to see you try'

A feisty female might go back and say they'd outlast the guy and ruin him instead. Either way he's game on for as much sex as he can get out of it and primed the woman for it.

I could be wrong.

Does that ever work though? That kind of thing is a huge turn off for me."

Who knows? Catch the right woman at the right time maybe it would. As I'm sure some might like it.

I think it's meant as a compliment as in they are so turned on by the woman they'd go for ages or hard enough to ruin them.

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By *herry OnatopWoman
over a year ago

Just over there

They make me laugh! I'm like, 'mate, I don't think so. I've gone hard at it with a wand on max for over 2 hours, and survived. No man could make me multiple climax in 2 minutes then keep me going for an hour or until there's no feeling. Ruined. Utterly. Blocked.'

That's how this pussy plays with little mice

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over a year ago

"They make me laugh! I'm like, 'mate, I don't think so. I've gone hard at it with a wand on max for over 2 hours, and survived. No man could make me multiple climax in 2 minutes then keep me going for an hour or until there's no feeling. Ruined. Utterly. Blocked.'

That's how this pussy plays with little mice

Get in the ring

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By *herry OnatopWoman
over a year ago

Just over there

That's how this pussy plays with little mice

Get in the ring"

Hahahaha!

You're going down ranger

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By *orbidden eastMan
over a year ago

london dodging electric scooters

Fallen angel you are brilliant

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

"Maybe the mentality is that the females response would be 'I bet you cant' or 'I'd like to see you try'

A feisty female might go back and say they'd outlast the guy and ruin him instead. Either way he's game on for as much sex as he can get out of it and primed the woman for it.

I could be wrong.

Someone i had banter with and knew pretty well and actively wanted to meet or had met previously I might take it that way, but off a random my heckles go up, my left eyebrow does it's "who the fuuuuck do you think you're talking to?' raise and I'm reaching for an invisible crowbar thinking "let's dance bitch"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's how this pussy plays with little mice

Get in the ring

Hahahaha!

You're going down ranger

Wanna bet on that.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

That's how this pussy plays with little mice

I like your style

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's how this pussy plays with little mice

I like your style

She's all talk

Dana White inked the fight deal and she failed to show

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By *herry OnatopWoman
over a year ago

Just over there

That's how this pussy plays with little mice

I like your style

She's all talk

Dana White inked the fight deal and she failed to show

One day Ranger, we'll do this

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

That's how this pussy plays with little mice

I like your style

She's all talk

Dana White inked the fight deal and she failed to show

She so isn’t

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By *herry OnatopWoman
over a year ago

Just over there

That's how this pussy plays with little mice

I like your style

She's all talk

Dana White inked the fight deal and she failed to show

She so isn’t

Thank you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's how this pussy plays with little mice

I like your style

She's all talk

Dana White inked the fight deal and she failed to show

She so isn’t

Thank you

Ok team up then.

I'll take ya both.

Remember the fab belt is on the line

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