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By *arpet man OP   Man
over a year ago

village hotel Coventry

Hi just wondering what anyone thought about about a way I thought of improving the site everybody must agree that Fab at the minute isn't working as well as it could do with many girls getting 100s if not 1000s if messages in just one night. I think some of the problem might will be the options in the search engine page . I think the categories

Couples online

Women online

TV/ts/CD online

And the new categories are just giving people access to people they don't need if you want to search for people the search engine is a great tool

I don't want to stop you being able to message people that don't live locally but I don't see any point of people looking at my profile who live over 100 miles away.

Yes I look on the hot pics page and fab the pics I think deserve it but I don't message them .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fab works perfectly well for me thank you.

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By *arpet man OP   Man
over a year ago

village hotel Coventry

What you've never sent a message and it's not even been read it seen the profile status of someone you messaged 10 minutes ago say " sorry had to bulk delete messages to many to read" ??? Lucky man

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By *ustustwo.1965Couple
over a year ago

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"What you've never sent a message and it's not even been read it seen the profile status of someone you messaged 10 minutes ago say " sorry had to bulk delete messages to many to read" ??? Lucky man"

They may have looked at your profile first.

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By *arpet man OP   Man
over a year ago

village hotel Coventry

I'd see that in who's looked at me plus the other day I spoke to someone who got 1000 messages in one night you telling me she sat and looked at 1000 profiles and never read any messages???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'd see that in who's looked at me plus the other day I spoke to someone who got 1000 messages in one night you telling me she sat and looked at 1000 profiles and never read any messages???"

Not if they are in stealth mode

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham


"I'd see that in who's looked at me plus the other day I spoke to someone who got 1000 messages in one night you telling me she sat and looked at 1000 profiles and never read any messages???"

I just looked at you. Do you see me in your looked at me section? You can stop people from seeing when you've looked at them.

Just because people don't respond to you doesnt mean the site is broken. Just means they're not interested in you.

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By *arpet man OP   Man
over a year ago

village hotel Coventry

And you think you could seriously look at 1000 I'm one night and if you look at the chat from fulkirk for to Long you might miss the Mr perfect from Stratford who you really might stand a chance of meeting

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham


"And you think you could seriously look at 1000 I'm one night and if you look at the chat from fulkirk for to Long you might miss the Mr perfect from Stratford who you really might stand a chance of meeting "

I don't really understand your point lol

Some people won't reply to you regardless of proximity. I'd rather wait months for someone I like that lives 100 miles away than fuck someone just because they live 10 miles down the road

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By *ustustwo.1965Couple
over a year ago

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"And you think you could seriously look at 1000 I'm one night and if you look at the chat from fulkirk for to Long you might miss the Mr perfect from Stratford who you really might stand a chance of meeting "

You miss the point.

Maybe they have looked at your profile in stealth mode and decided they just don't want to meet you.

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By *arpet man OP   Man
over a year ago

village hotel Coventry

No I get the point

your local and I've looked at you 100 times at least I've fabbed your pics but I don't suit you so I've never messaged you I know I don't suit everyone but I also know for fact my messages have got bulk deleted or over looked before and I really can't see ether point of the searches I mentioned I can only see the hassle they bring to people with good galleries and it's not just me saying it someone I'm very close to on here has a great gallery she a great girl and is ready to give it up we literally can't have a conversation on here I get lost in her messages to do I know it happens!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No I get the point

your local and I've looked at you 100 times at least I've fabbed your pics but I don't suit you so I've never messaged you I know I don't suit everyone but I also know for fact my messages have got bulk deleted or over looked before and I really can't see ether point of the searches I mentioned I can only see the hassle they bring to people with good galleries and it's not just me saying it someone I'm very close to on here has a great gallery she a great girl and is ready to give it up we literally can't have a conversation on here I get lost in her messages to do I know it happens!"

I see your point OP. You're saying women get too many messages, so the relevent guys who actually meet their criteria get lost among the rest, right? I get that, and I actually agree. I'm not sure how it can be fixed though.

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

I see a few messages get deleted by friends because they are lost in the haystack.

It would nice if friends messages were a different colour banner (not yellow) or mass deletion excluded people on your friends list.

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By *arpet man OP   Man
over a year ago

village hotel Coventry

I've looked at your profile and gallery I guess you may have well got into the top ten hot pics at some point and got endless messages from men with really no interest or more likely so ability to meet you I think taking away search people who are online now would be a start .

I'm glad at least sometime sees my point

At last thank you!!!!

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By *exy4youxxWoman
over a year ago

Pontefract


"No I get the point

your local and I've looked at you 100 times at least I've fabbed your pics but I don't suit you so I've never messaged you I know I don't suit everyone but I also know for fact my messages have got bulk deleted or over looked before and I really can't see ether point of the searches I mentioned I can only see the hassle they bring to people with good galleries and it's not just me saying it someone I'm very close to on here has a great gallery she a great girl and is ready to give it up we literally can't have a conversation on here I get lost in her messages to do I know it happens!

I see your point OP. You're saying women get too many messages, so the relevent guys who actually meet their criteria get lost among the rest, right? I get that, and I actually agree. I'm not sure how it can be fixed though."

Filters are the great fix I don't get hundreds of messages guess I'm just too ugly lol

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

A simple fix would be ..........

Women turn on all filters so no one can message them THEN they do the searching and messaging for who they want......

Men would still moan as the vast majority of them would never get a message and at least the searching , hoping and finger tapping keeps them busy for a while.

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

Anyone who has 100s or 1000s of messages wants and needs them so why take that away from them?

Filters are already in place and if people don't want to use them for whatever reason then there's no point moving the goalposts.

Too many people trying to change the site to suit how they want fab to work for them rather than the other way around.

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By *jorkishMan
over a year ago

Seaforth

Or maybe men and women should turn on all filters and no one talks to each other lol

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"Or maybe men and women should turn on all filters and no one talks to each other lol"

Sorted!

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By *arpet man OP   Man
over a year ago

village hotel Coventry


"A simple fix would be ..........

Women turn on all filters so no one can message them THEN they do the searching and messaging for who they want......

Men would still moan as the vast majority of them would never get a message and at least the searching , hoping and finger tapping keeps them busy for a while."

I have suggested this to a couple of ladies especially new ones finding their feet and struggling with to many messages i advise full filters and hidden profile just while they get used to it we can be very intimidating on here

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By *ustustwo.1965Couple
over a year ago

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"A simple fix would be ..........

Women turn on all filters so no one can message them THEN they do the searching and messaging for who they want......

Men would still moan as the vast majority of them would never get a message and at least the searching , hoping and finger tapping keeps them busy for a while.

I have suggested this to a couple of ladies especially new ones finding their feet and struggling with to many messages i advise full filters and hidden profile just while they get used to it we can be very intimidating on here"

Or they could just mass delete the messages that they are not interested in.

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By *arpet man OP   Man
over a year ago

village hotel Coventry


"Anyone who has 100s or 1000s of messages wants and needs them so why take that away from them?

Filters are already in place and if people don't want to use them for whatever reason then there's no point moving the goalposts.

Too many people trying to change the site to suit how they want fab to work for them rather than the other way around. "

Not sure why anyone needs a 1000 messages I saw a screen shot of someone's profile starting 3000 unread messages come on be serious they are never going to get read!!!

If your in here for a popularity or confidence boost your eating the time of the serious swingers surely!!

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham


"Anyone who has 100s or 1000s of messages wants and needs them so why take that away from them?

Filters are already in place and if people don't want to use them for whatever reason then there's no point moving the goalposts.

Too many people trying to change the site to suit how they want fab to work for them rather than the other way around.

Not sure why anyone needs a 1000 messages I saw a screen shot of someone's profile starting 3000 unread messages come on be serious they are never going to get read!!!

If your in here for a popularity or confidence boost your eating the time of the serious swingers surely!!"

Everything is a popularity thing on here. They can use the site as they see fit. Leave them alone.

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By *arpet man OP   Man
over a year ago

village hotel Coventry


"No I get the point

your local and I've looked at you 100 times at least I've fabbed your pics but I don't suit you so I've never messaged you I know I don't suit everyone but I also know for fact my messages have got bulk deleted or over looked before and I really can't see ether point of the searches I mentioned I can only see the hassle they bring to people with good galleries and it's not just me saying it someone I'm very close to on here has a great gallery she a great girl and is ready to give it up we literally can't have a conversation on here I get lost in her messages to do I know it happens!

I see your point OP. You're saying women get too many messages, so the relevent guys who actually meet their criteria get lost among the rest, right? I get that, and I actually agree. I'm not sure how it can be fixed though.

Filters are the great fix I don't get hundreds of messages guess I'm just too ugly lol "

It's you were local if chase you all day long !!!

To ugly !!!! Not in your life!!

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham


"No I get the point

your local and I've looked at you 100 times at least I've fabbed your pics but I don't suit you so I've never messaged you I know I don't suit everyone but I also know for fact my messages have got bulk deleted or over looked before and I really can't see ether point of the searches I mentioned I can only see the hassle they bring to people with good galleries and it's not just me saying it someone I'm very close to on here has a great gallery she a great girl and is ready to give it up we literally can't have a conversation on here I get lost in her messages to do I know it happens!

I see your point OP. You're saying women get too many messages, so the relevent guys who actually meet their criteria get lost among the rest, right? I get that, and I actually agree. I'm not sure how it can be fixed though.

Filters are the great fix I don't get hundreds of messages guess I'm just too ugly lol "

I don't have any filters and still. Don't get 100's 1000's messages each day

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle

If people choose not to use filters and allow 3000 people to message them then that’s not really the site’s fault is it?

The tools are there to use already

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By *UGGYBEAR2015Man
over a year ago

BRIDPORT


"Anyone who has 100s or 1000s of messages wants and needs them so why take that away from them?

Filters are already in place and if people don't want to use them for whatever reason then there's no point moving the goalposts.

Too many people trying to change the site to suit how they want fab to work for them rather than the other way around.

Not sure why anyone needs a 1000 messages I saw a screen shot of someone's profile starting 3000 unread messages come on be serious they are never going to get read!!!

If your in here for a popularity or confidence boost your eating the time of the serious swingers surely!!"

There are plenty of tools on the site ( pun intended) to prevent this from happening, if the user so wishes. If they don’t use them then either they want those messages or they can’t be bothered to use the tools available.

Find mildly amusing your assumption that you are not being replied too because your messages are lost in the crowd of time wasters.

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham


"Fab works perfectly well for me thank you."

Me too.

If you get lots of unwanted messages just block guys and search for them yourself, I really don’t see the issue.

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By *otMe66Man
over a year ago

Terra Firma

You can suggest change and leave feedback in fabswingers.com feedback, left side menu on the main forum page.

Asking what everyone thinks, will give you exactly what everyone thinks

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

Most women ( and i'm not taking that back ) most women who do the Woe is me, All these messages shit..... do it deliberately....

They could stop it but how then would they measure their beauty, their popularity ...... etc

It's hardly a USP on here.

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast


"Anyone who has 100s or 1000s of messages wants and needs them so why take that away from them?

Filters are already in place and if people don't want to use them for whatever reason then there's no point moving the goalposts.

Too many people trying to change the site to suit how they want fab to work for them rather than the other way around.

Not sure why anyone needs a 1000 messages I saw a screen shot of someone's profile starting 3000 unread messages come on be serious they are never going to get read!!!

If your in here for a popularity or confidence boost your eating the time of the serious swingers surely!!"

The very fact they showed you a screenshot answers your own question as to why they need them.

Guys use sky remotes for comparison purposes in a similar way.

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By *arpet man OP   Man
over a year ago

village hotel Coventry

Perhaps I'm just struggling to find the filter that says

"Block anyone over 50 miles away who is probably never going to meet from messaging me"

I'll shave to look harder

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By *arpet man OP   Man
over a year ago

village hotel Coventry


"You can suggest change and leave feedback in fabswingers.com feedback, left side menu on the main forum page.

Asking what everyone thinks, will give you exactly what everyone thinks "

Yes I have done and I've done to some I know in here who thought it was a good idea seems were in the minority if this forum is anything to go by !

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By *ookie46Woman
over a year ago

Deepest darkest Peru

I just set my filters and sometimes that changes depending on what I’m looking for

I’m more likely to meet people more than 50 miles away than local

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By *edantic SheilaWoman
over a year ago

Milton Keynes


"No I get the point

your local and I've looked at you 100 times at least I've fabbed your pics but I don't suit you so I've never messaged you I know I don't suit everyone but I also know for fact my messages have got bulk deleted or over looked before and I really can't see ether point of the searches I mentioned I can only see the hassle they bring to people with good galleries and it's not just me saying it someone I'm very close to on here has a great gallery she a great girl and is ready to give it up we literally can't have a conversation on here I get lost in her messages to do I know it happens!

I see your point OP. You're saying women get too many messages, so the relevent guys who actually meet their criteria get lost among the rest, right? I get that, and I actually agree. I'm not sure how it can be fixed though.

Filters are the great fix I don't get hundreds of messages guess I'm just too ugly lol

I don't have any filters and still. Don't get 100's 1000's messages each day "

Me too *sobs*

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

Filters are a marvellous thing. As for distance you can put that in a search you conduct yourself.

It is just figuring out how the site works for you with the tools available, not the site trying to please thousands of people’s wants or requirements

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By *exy4youxxWoman
over a year ago

Pontefract


"No I get the point

your local and I've looked at you 100 times at least I've fabbed your pics but I don't suit you so I've never messaged you I know I don't suit everyone but I also know for fact my messages have got bulk deleted or over looked before and I really can't see ether point of the searches I mentioned I can only see the hassle they bring to people with good galleries and it's not just me saying it someone I'm very close to on here has a great gallery she a great girl and is ready to give it up we literally can't have a conversation on here I get lost in her messages to do I know it happens!

I see your point OP. You're saying women get too many messages, so the relevent guys who actually meet their criteria get lost among the rest, right? I get that, and I actually agree. I'm not sure how it can be fixed though.

Filters are the great fix I don't get hundreds of messages guess I'm just too ugly lol

I don't have any filters and still. Don't get 100's 1000's messages each day "

You can come join me in my corner

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By *exy4youxxWoman
over a year ago

Pontefract


"No I get the point

your local and I've looked at you 100 times at least I've fabbed your pics but I don't suit you so I've never messaged you I know I don't suit everyone but I also know for fact my messages have got bulk deleted or over looked before and I really can't see ether point of the searches I mentioned I can only see the hassle they bring to people with good galleries and it's not just me saying it someone I'm very close to on here has a great gallery she a great girl and is ready to give it up we literally can't have a conversation on here I get lost in her messages to do I know it happens!

I see your point OP. You're saying women get too many messages, so the relevent guys who actually meet their criteria get lost among the rest, right? I get that, and I actually agree. I'm not sure how it can be fixed though.

Filters are the great fix I don't get hundreds of messages guess I'm just too ugly lol

I don't have any filters and still. Don't get 100's 1000's messages each day Me too *sobs* "

You can come join too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fab works perfectly. Not my issue if people don't set filters properly. Tools are there to help improve your fab experience.

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough


"No I get the point

your local and I've looked at you 100 times at least I've fabbed your pics but I don't suit you so I've never messaged you I know I don't suit everyone but I also know for fact my messages have got bulk deleted or over looked before and I really can't see ether point of the searches I mentioned I can only see the hassle they bring to people with good galleries and it's not just me saying it someone I'm very close to on here has a great gallery she a great girl and is ready to give it up we literally can't have a conversation on here I get lost in her messages to do I know it happens!

I see your point OP. You're saying women get too many messages, so the relevent guys who actually meet their criteria get lost among the rest, right? I get that, and I actually agree. I'm not sure how it can be fixed though.

Filters are the great fix I don't get hundreds of messages guess I'm just too ugly lol

I don't have any filters and still. Don't get 100's 1000's messages each day Me too *sobs*

You can come join too "

Any room for a fatty?

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham


"No I get the point

your local and I've looked at you 100 times at least I've fabbed your pics but I don't suit you so I've never messaged you I know I don't suit everyone but I also know for fact my messages have got bulk deleted or over looked before and I really can't see ether point of the searches I mentioned I can only see the hassle they bring to people with good galleries and it's not just me saying it someone I'm very close to on here has a great gallery she a great girl and is ready to give it up we literally can't have a conversation on here I get lost in her messages to do I know it happens!

I see your point OP. You're saying women get too many messages, so the relevent guys who actually meet their criteria get lost among the rest, right? I get that, and I actually agree. I'm not sure how it can be fixed though.

Filters are the great fix I don't get hundreds of messages guess I'm just too ugly lol

I don't have any filters and still. Don't get 100's 1000's messages each day

You can come join me in my corner "

Yay!!

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By *xhib12Man
over a year ago

Blyth


"No I get the point

your local and I've looked at you 100 times at least I've fabbed your pics but I don't suit you so I've never messaged you I know I don't suit everyone but I also know for fact my messages have got bulk deleted or over looked before and I really can't see ether point of the searches I mentioned I can only see the hassle they bring to people with good galleries and it's not just me saying it someone I'm very close to on here has a great gallery she a great girl and is ready to give it up we literally can't have a conversation on here I get lost in her messages to do I know it happens!

I see your point OP. You're saying women get too many messages, so the relevent guys who actually meet their criteria get lost among the rest, right? I get that, and I actually agree. I'm not sure how it can be fixed though.

Filters are the great fix I don't get hundreds of messages guess I'm just too ugly lol

I don't have any filters and still. Don't get 100's 1000's messages each day

You can come join me in my corner "

Could be a very popular corner... maybe you should set some filters

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi just wondering what anyone thought about about a way I thought of improving the site everybody must agree that Fab at the minute isn't working as well as it could do with many girls getting 100s if not 1000s if messages in just one night. I think some of the problem might will be the options in the search engine page . I think the categories

Couples online

Women online

TV/ts/CD online

And the new categories are just giving people access to people they don't need if you want to search for people the search engine is a great tool

I don't want to stop you being able to message people that don't live locally but I don't see any point of people looking at my profile who live over 100 miles away.

Yes I look on the hot pics page and fab the pics I think deserve it but I don't message them .

"

Anyway ......

I think the 'who's online categories' could improve by areas... Id like to speak to people in real time, rather than the delay and hoping to catch them at the right time....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We never get what we want though. Just because you think you are right for a person doesnt mean you are. 1 message or a 1000 messages a night, you still may not get through.

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By *exy4youxxWoman
over a year ago

Pontefract


"No I get the point

your local and I've looked at you 100 times at least I've fabbed your pics but I don't suit you so I've never messaged you I know I don't suit everyone but I also know for fact my messages have got bulk deleted or over looked before and I really can't see ether point of the searches I mentioned I can only see the hassle they bring to people with good galleries and it's not just me saying it someone I'm very close to on here has a great gallery she a great girl and is ready to give it up we literally can't have a conversation on here I get lost in her messages to do I know it happens!

I see your point OP. You're saying women get too many messages, so the relevent guys who actually meet their criteria get lost among the rest, right? I get that, and I actually agree. I'm not sure how it can be fixed though.

Filters are the great fix I don't get hundreds of messages guess I'm just too ugly lol

I don't have any filters and still. Don't get 100's 1000's messages each day Me too *sobs*

You can come join too

Any room for a fatty? "

There is room for everyone xx

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By *exy4youxxWoman
over a year ago

Pontefract


"No I get the point

your local and I've looked at you 100 times at least I've fabbed your pics but I don't suit you so I've never messaged you I know I don't suit everyone but I also know for fact my messages have got bulk deleted or over looked before and I really can't see ether point of the searches I mentioned I can only see the hassle they bring to people with good galleries and it's not just me saying it someone I'm very close to on here has a great gallery she a great girl and is ready to give it up we literally can't have a conversation on here I get lost in her messages to do I know it happens!

I see your point OP. You're saying women get too many messages, so the relevent guys who actually meet their criteria get lost among the rest, right? I get that, and I actually agree. I'm not sure how it can be fixed though.

Filters are the great fix I don't get hundreds of messages guess I'm just too ugly lol

I don't have any filters and still. Don't get 100's 1000's messages each day

You can come join me in my corner

Could be a very popular corner... maybe you should set some filters "

Lol might need roadblocks

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By *arpet man OP   Man
over a year ago

village hotel Coventry


"

Anyway ......

I think the 'who's online categories' could improve by areas... Id like to speak to people in real time, rather than the delay and hoping to catch them at the right time...."

Good idea constructive too!.... Very strange!!!

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By *xhib12Man
over a year ago

Blyth


"No I get the point

your local and I've looked at you 100 times at least I've fabbed your pics but I don't suit you so I've never messaged you I know I don't suit everyone but I also know for fact my messages have got bulk deleted or over looked before and I really can't see ether point of the searches I mentioned I can only see the hassle they bring to people with good galleries and it's not just me saying it someone I'm very close to on here has a great gallery she a great girl and is ready to give it up we literally can't have a conversation on here I get lost in her messages to do I know it happens!

I see your point OP. You're saying women get too many messages, so the relevent guys who actually meet their criteria get lost among the rest, right? I get that, and I actually agree. I'm not sure how it can be fixed though.

Filters are the great fix I don't get hundreds of messages guess I'm just too ugly lol

I don't have any filters and still. Don't get 100's 1000's messages each day

You can come join me in my corner

Could be a very popular corner... maybe you should set some filters

Lol might need roadblocks "

As long as I can have a pass to get through

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By *arpet man OP   Man
over a year ago

village hotel Coventry


"We never get what we want though. Just because you think you are right for a person doesnt mean you are. 1 message or a 1000 messages a night, you still may not get through. "

I spend more time looking at profiles and thinking that they are right for for me but shame I'm not right for them then I try hard to resist sending them a message don't want to add to the problem that I think needs fixing!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We never get what we want though. Just because you think you are right for a person doesnt mean you are. 1 message or a 1000 messages a night, you still may not get through.

I spend more time looking at profiles and thinking that they are right for for me but shame I'm not right for them then I try hard to resist sending them a message don't want to add to the problem that I think needs fixing!!!"

Resist, resist it all

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By *arpet man OP   Man
over a year ago

village hotel Coventry

See managed to resist messaging you it's hard though!!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Anyway ......

I think the 'who's online categories' could improve by areas... Id like to speak to people in real time, rather than the delay and hoping to catch them at the right time....

Good idea constructive too!.... Very strange!!!"

Pmsl

I have my moments

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi just wondering what anyone thought about about a way I thought of improving the site everybody must agree that Fab at the minute isn't working as well as it could do with many girls getting 100s if not 1000s if messages in just one night. I think some of the problem might will be the options in the search engine page . I think the categories

Couples online

Women online

TV/ts/CD online

And the new categories are just giving people access to people they don't need if you want to search for people the search engine is a great tool

I don't want to stop you being able to message people that don't live locally but I don't see any point of people looking at my profile who live over 100 miles away.

Yes I look on the hot pics page and fab the pics I think deserve it but I don't message them .

"

The only reason some get hundreds or thousands of messages is because they don't use the filters

Missy x

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By *arpet man OP   Man
over a year ago

village hotel Coventry

Still l find it hard to believe that when I send a message someone would think I won't read the message I'll check out his profile instead. The problem might not effect everyone but I speak to a lot on here who it does effect send the just don't frequent the forums!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Still l find it hard to believe that when I send a message someone would think I won't read the message I'll check out his profile instead. The problem might not effect everyone but I speak to a lot on here who it does effect send the just don't frequent the forums!!"

I don't read messages until I've looked at the profile, if it doesn't appeal, I delete unread. I've also met people from 100+ miles away and will do again. Distance doesn't phase me if I like a person.

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By *heekyflickWoman
over a year ago

LINCOLN

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By *heekyflickWoman
over a year ago

LINCOLN

Exactly as above...use the tools as they were designed and the site works as intended

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By *aucy tiggerWoman
over a year ago

Back where I belong

I have made friends with people who live over 100 miles away and one is a regular fwb.

It's up to individuals who they want to communicate with and distance doesn't come into it.

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon


"Still l find it hard to believe that when I send a message someone would think I won't read the message I'll check out his profile instead. The problem might not effect everyone but I speak to a lot on here who it does effect send the just don't frequent the forums!!

I don't read messages until I've looked at the profile, if it doesn't appeal, I delete unread. I've also met people from 100+ miles away and will do again. Distance doesn't phase me if I like a person.

"

Exactly this....

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By *ockosaurusMan
over a year ago

Warwick

Hmm... I kind of see what you mean.

I wonder if just adding profile filters and sorting options to the messages section would help?

Then when viewing messages the user could (if the wanted) toggle them to focus on closer users or whatever options they choose first.

Basically, help people see and respond to the messages from users that are most relevant to them first, without the need to block the least relevant.

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By *ockosaurusMan
over a year ago

Warwick


"Hmm... I kind of see what you mean.

I wonder if just adding profile filters and sorting options to the messages section would help?

Then when viewing messages the user could (if the wanted) toggle them to focus on closer users or whatever options they choose first.

Basically, help people see and respond to the messages from users that are most relevant to them first, without the need to block the least relevant. "

I just don't think it's the most needed thing though and there are plenty of higher priority things the the site should be fixing first.

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down


"Still l find it hard to believe that when I send a message someone would think I won't read the message I'll check out his profile instead. The problem might not effect everyone but I speak to a lot on here who it does effect send the just don't frequent the forums!!"

When I get a new message and I have filters tight so I don't get that many I will check out a profile before I even open the message to see if the profile appeals to me.Then I may or may not depending on what the profile is like read the message and answer . If I get an idea from what I can read that the message is a faf etc then I won't even open it.

I at one point did answer all messages and then realised I was spending more time answering people I had no interest in than actually enjoying my time on here so as time went on I became more particular about who I answer.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think the search system could do with an upgrade for so many reasons expressed over the years.

I hope it's the next change they make

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By *opinovMan
over a year ago

Point Nemo, Cumbria

A huge improvement would be if people stopped posting their phone/chat requests in the Stories & Fantasies forum.

How about they post them in the Meets & Parties forum instead or, better still, create a Chat Requests forum?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There's introductions

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By *arpet man OP   Man
over a year ago

village hotel Coventry


"Hmm... I kind of see what you mean.

I wonder if just adding profile filters and sorting options to the messages section would help?

Then when viewing messages the user could (if the wanted) toggle them to focus on closer users or whatever options they choose first.

Basically, help people see and respond to the messages from users that are most relevant to them first, without the need to block the least relevant. "

I'm not wanting to block people from messaging I just think theirs lots of fake profiles on here who just want to perv and chat and you can't stop that but who's online function means they can just message all those with no intension of meeting yes the locals would still have the idiots message them but they would only have locals message them not everyone meaning they get less junk mail.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham


"Hmm... I kind of see what you mean.

I wonder if just adding profile filters and sorting options to the messages section would help?

Then when viewing messages the user could (if the wanted) toggle them to focus on closer users or whatever options they choose first.

Basically, help people see and respond to the messages from users that are most relevant to them first, without the need to block the least relevant.

I'm not wanting to block people from messaging I just think theirs lots of fake profiles on here who just want to perv and chat and you can't stop that but who's online function means they can just message all those with no intension of meeting yes the locals would still have the idiots message them but they would only have locals message them not everyone meaning they get less junk mail. "

Where in the rules of fab does it state you HAVE to meet people? Is there a quota of meets per annum we need to hit?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'd see that in who's looked at me plus the other day I spoke to someone who got 1000 messages in one night you telling me she sat and looked at 1000 profiles and never read any messages???"

Have you stopped to think when she said 1000,s of messages what she really had is 10

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Add a broader Contacts option, people who you don't want to share pics with but to allow for easier connection between you, with categories of Contacts, such as club buddies, local social get togethers, you'd name the categories yourself and could be merged with your hotlist.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There is a section of the forum especially for feedback.

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

Just one improvement for me and it’s a box that you select yes or no when you join that says ‘Are you a twat?’ Would make things a hell of a lot easier on here

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

If you block someone local to you ..can their interminable updates not be displayed all the time so you can see what other people are up to without ploughing through their musings,rantings and boring pictures

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By *arpet man OP   Man
over a year ago

village hotel Coventry


"Hmm... I kind of see what you mean.

I wonder if just adding profile filters and sorting options to the messages section would help?

Then when viewing messages the user could (if the wanted) toggle them to focus on closer users or whatever options they choose first.

Basically, help people see and respond to the messages from users that are most relevant to them first, without the need to block the least relevant.

I'm not wanting to block people from messaging I just think theirs lots of fake profiles on here who just want to perv and chat and you can't stop that but who's online function means they can just message all those with no intension of meeting yes the locals would still have the idiots message them but they would only have locals message them not everyone meaning they get less junk mail.

Where in the rules of fab does it state you HAVE to meet people? Is there a quota of meets per annum we need to hit?! "

Errrrr think as it's a swinging site is set up as a site to help swingers meet other swingers be a bit if a waste if not . Yes I know I don't intend to meet everyone I message but if I never intended on meeting anyone I'd be one of those timewasters and I think they are you main problem! I'm just trying to think of ways I can filter them out a little !!

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham


"A simple fix would be ..........

Women turn on all filters so no one can message them THEN they do the searching and messaging for who they want......

Men would still moan as the vast majority of them would never get a message and at least the searching , hoping and finger tapping keeps them busy for a while."

This fix is in action for many

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

OP suggesting that the site doesn’t work because women get messages and cannot cope with them enough to be able to filter out who they may be possibly interested in meeting is quite condescending I feel.

Our inboxes are ours to manage. If we ignore, delete or bulk delete it is because not of the messages have sparked our interest

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe there could be a note that says "reads most messages", "responds to some messages", etc to help set expectations. That's the best I can think of here as a filter. Or something that indicates how many messages they have received in the last 24hrs and how many are unopen.

Or people can just suck up this isn't work and people can do what they want when they want.

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By *arpet man OP   Man
over a year ago

village hotel Coventry


"OP suggesting that the site doesn’t work because women get messages and cannot cope with them enough to be able to filter out who they may be possibly interested in meeting is quite condescending I feel.

Our inboxes are ours to manage. If we ignore, delete or bulk delete it is because not of the messages have sparked our interest :-"

I never said it doesn't work I said it makes it harder for genuine people to communicate the fact that you day you might have to bulk delete proves it , I know you wouldn't want to delete a message from Mr perfect would you and how does a message spark interest if you've not read it ?? Your inboxes are also there because someone programed then a certain way I'm just suggesting a difference to make it easier. Hopefully for everyone apart from those who want to send endless messages out and never meet!!

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By *arpet man OP   Man
over a year ago

village hotel Coventry


"Maybe there could be a note that says "reads most messages", "responds to some messages", etc to help set expectations. That's the best I can think of here as a filter. Or something that indicates how many messages they have received in the last 24hrs and how many are unopen.

Or people can just suck up this isn't work and people can do what they want when they want.

"

Now that's a good idea!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why isn’t fab working well OP?

Or are you just not getting messages and meets?

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By *arpet man OP   Man
over a year ago

village hotel Coventry


"There is a section of the forum especially for feedback. "

Thanks have already left feedback there I really just hoped that a few would get behind it and help,it seems I'm one of the only ones finding this a problem oh and the several that I spoke to before I started the topic!

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

..

It works well for me so no complaints here

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By *arpet man OP   Man
over a year ago

village hotel Coventry


"It works well for me so no complaints here "

Of course it does I've just browsed your gallery!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hmm... I kind of see what you mean.

I wonder if just adding profile filters and sorting options to the messages section would help?

Then when viewing messages the user could (if the wanted) toggle them to focus on closer users or whatever options they choose first.

Basically, help people see and respond to the messages from users that are most relevant to them first, without the need to block the least relevant.

I'm not wanting to block people from messaging I just think theirs lots of fake profiles on here who just want to perv and chat and you can't stop that but who's online function means they can just message all those with no intension of meeting yes the locals would still have the idiots message them but they would only have locals message them not everyone meaning they get less junk mail.

Where in the rules of fab does it state you HAVE to meet people? Is there a quota of meets per annum we need to hit?! "

I would love that can you imagine the final week and how many people who have to meet just to meet their quota!! it would Be one big orgy

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By *arpet man OP   Man
over a year ago

village hotel Coventry


"Why isn’t fab working well OP?

Or are you just not getting messages and meets? "

I'm getting messages and meets but even conversations with a couple of female friends on here get difficult because they get to many messages and in the last week I've seen profile statuses stating "had to bulk delete all messages sorry if we didn't read yours" this really shouldn't need to happen should it??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hmm... I kind of see what you mean.

I wonder if just adding profile filters and sorting options to the messages section would help?

Then when viewing messages the user could (if the wanted) toggle them to focus on closer users or whatever options they choose first.

Basically, help people see and respond to the messages from users that are most relevant to them first, without the need to block the least relevant.

I'm not wanting to block people from messaging I just think theirs lots of fake profiles on here who just want to perv and chat and you can't stop that but who's online function means they can just message all those with no intension of meeting yes the locals would still have the idiots message them but they would only have locals message them not everyone meaning they get less junk mail.

Where in the rules of fab does it state you HAVE to meet people? Is there a quota of meets per annum we need to hit?!

I would love that can you imagine the final week and how many people who have to meet just to meet their quota!! it would Be one big orgy "

Orgy ... Or sausage party !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe a tab where it alerts you to forum threads your on or following?

So many new threads pop up it’s hard to keep track some times

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By *arpet man OP   Man
over a year ago

village hotel Coventry

Anyone who thinks it works well should look at "hornyteensub" her status is saying she has over 8000 messages I can see why but it means your message is not getting to her no matter how much she wants to read it !!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Anyone who thinks it works well should look at "hornyteensub" her status is saying she has over 8000 messages I can see why but it means your message is not getting to her no matter how much she wants to read it !!!"

What makes you think she wants to read your message?

Message filters exist.

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By *annaBeStrongMan
over a year ago

wokingham


"Anyone who thinks it works well should look at "hornyteensub" her status is saying she has over 8000 messages I can see why but it means your message is not getting to her no matter how much she wants to read it !!!"

That’s not a site functionality problem

That’s a 1000:1 men to women ratio problem

No amount of coding will fix that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you've got something you want to address about the site itself, you'd be better off putting it here instead.

https://m.fabswingers.com/forum/feedback

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down


"Anyone who thinks it works well should look at "hornyteensub" her status is saying she has over 8000 messages I can see why but it means your message is not getting to her no matter how much she wants to read it !!!"

She keeps her filters open of she has that many messages like so many on here. The site works perfectly well for her as she obviously wants to get a load of messages .Just because she doesn't want to read them all or reply to the majority does not mean the site doesn't work for her.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They need to fix my inbox. I still can’t receive messages.

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

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By *ld StrumpetWoman
over a year ago

Telford


"Most women ( and i'm not taking that back ) most women who do the Woe is me, All these messages shit..... do it deliberately....

They could stop it but how then would they measure their beauty, their popularity ...... etc

It's hardly a USP on here.

Exactly!! You can narrow all

The nonsense right down to almost what it is you want and then take it from there.

"

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By *entBarryUKMan
over a year ago

Ashford

Still waiting for the phone app.....

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By *edheadjMan
over a year ago

High Wycombe

Dedicated phone app would be good.

Niche one from me, but I'd like it of the site could stop people deleting and then reuploading the same video every day just to try and get hits.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham


"Still waiting for the phone app....."

What would a phone app give you that the mobile site doesn't?

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham


"Anyone who thinks it works well should look at "hornyteensub" her status is saying she has over 8000 messages I can see why but it means your message is not getting to her no matter how much she wants to read it !!!

That’s not a site functionality problem

That’s a 1000:1 men to women ratio problem

No amount of coding will fix that "

It's not even that. It's a poor admin/excuse problem lol

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By *2000ManMan
over a year ago

Worthing

I'd like a notification if someone replies to your forum post by quoting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Anyone who thinks it works well should look at "hornyteensub" her status is saying she has over 8000 messages I can see why but it means your message is not getting to her no matter how much she wants to read it !!!

That’s not a site functionality problem

That’s a 1000:1 men to women ratio problem

No amount of coding will fix that

It's not even that. It's a poor admin/excuse problem lol "

Everyone is happy when men pay £5 every month to send messages that might be read

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By *arpet man OP   Man
over a year ago

village hotel Coventry

I didn't message her i don't live close enough to her to actually meet her !

So I fabbed her pics and that was my way of showing my appreciation.

I do chat to people and send messages and comments on pics, statuses and profiles but very rarely out of my meet boundaries.

I'd hate to think because I'd dribbled on to a lady in Leeds she skipped a message from someone local who could actually meet her !!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Upon receiving message you should have 2 buttons "block" "reply"

Saves time going onto that person's profile if they are not for you

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