FabSwingers.com forum: Subdrop

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Any sub knows that with the highs come the inevitable lows ... i suffer from subdrop badly and it can take 2/3 days to fully feel what is normal to me.

Does anyone have any tips , suggestions of things that help them when they are struggling

Thank you in advance

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Any sub knows that with the highs come the inevitable lows ... i suffer from subdrop badly and it can take 2/3 days to fully feel what is normal to me.

Does anyone have any tips , suggestions of things that help them when they are struggling

Thank you in advance "

Oh I know this feeling. It’s awful but good aftercare helps reduce it for me. A proper cuddle and chat almost like a debrief helps that and making plans for next time so you have something to look forward to.

I don’t have a Dom at the min so not getting this feeling sucks.

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

Create a safe space.

Remember a time where you felt safe, warm, wanted and happy.

Create a trigger you can fire that takes you to your safe space (could be a time with your partner).

The memories do balance the hormonal effect of drop.

It helps if an other helps you to build your safe space.

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

Mine can last days also, to me it's like the worst hangover in the world ever.

For me personally I found a glass of orange juice the next morning helps. Also drink plenty throughout the day.

Debrief the following day also helped as it kind of put a full stop to the scene for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Any sub knows that with the highs come the inevitable lows ... i suffer from subdrop badly and it can take 2/3 days to fully feel what is normal to me.

Does anyone have any tips , suggestions of things that help them when they are struggling

Thank you in advance "

I find talking to my Dom helps, he always supports me through them.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

You need to slowly restore that endorphin/oxytocin tank that's been wiped.

First, try and remember it's not a permanent state. That sounds really patronising but sometimes it doesn't feel like you'll get back to you. You will.

Organise little things that boost you. Like seeing a friend, having a long phone call with them. Cuddles from loved ones. Eat food that makes you happy and truly enjoy doing so, whether that's a square of chocolate or a slab/whole cake. Jogging and yoga are good, they are gentle exercises that give you a bit of an adrenaline rush and also help you be mindful and get out of your head a bit.

Talk to your Dom, try and plan (if possible) when you'll next see them so you have something to look forward to. If that's not possible, plan other things that bring you joy. I'm a planner so love organising things and having things to look forward to.

Chat about the scene, what you enjoyed so you can think about the memories. Just talk to that person in general. It gives you a fuzzy feeling to do so and that helps.

Have a hot bath and soak and listen to music. Something cathartic can help you feel less like a pressure cooker of sad. Watch films, have a manicure. Self care but dial it up to a 13 and do things that bring you real joy. Like watching Loki purely for the hair flip on his knees scene.

I'm not really sub, not sure what I am blah blah blah but I've had the drop and the above helped me a lot. It's very individualistic but I hope you find something that works for you OP. And most of all you're kind to yourself.

P.S I didn't know Doms could have drops too, rather naive huh?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Any sub knows that with the highs come the inevitable lows ... i suffer from subdrop badly and it can take 2/3 days to fully feel what is normal to me.

Does anyone have any tips , suggestions of things that help them when they are struggling

Thank you in advance "

I found a really good article by Jennifer Bene which explains what happens to your body, the reason why a subdrop occurs and some tips. I find understanding the reason why, helps me focus and tailor the care I need. Pretty much follows the tips already given; hope it helps. Elle x

https://jenniferbene.com/2016/12/ask-me-anything-what-is-sub-drop/

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thank you for your suggestions.

I went for a walk to a cafe an had a hot drink and cake with a friend. Getting out has helped.

Drinking lots of water and now going to snuggle in bed and watch a movie with my feline friends.

New lingerie arrived today so ive tried on and I've taken lots of pics so Sir can look but not touch as he is out this afternoon...if im suffering ,light teasing will make him suffer too lol

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

"You need to slowly restore that endorphin/oxytocin tank that's been wiped.

First, try and remember it's not a permanent state. That sounds really patronising but sometimes it doesn't feel like you'll get back to you. You will.

Chat about the scene, what you enjoyed so you can think about the memories. Just talk to that person in general. It gives you a fuzzy feeling to do so and that helps.

P.S I didn't know Doms could have drops too, rather naive huh? "

Communication, contact, rest, relaxation, recuperation.

But above all, there is no one true way, its what works for you.

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