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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

If you are going through a bad time I caution you not to read.

I had a close friend who was gay. He never had to tell me I knew he was, didn't matter to me he was a great guy. Loved galleries, fancy restaurants art on the walls type how always had a tan and did look good.

I would be the one he would call to cry down the phone too when the boyfriend had upset him or the washing machine didn't work.

Women loved him and would always give him a cuddle when we were out together they loved his high pitched voice when he got excited over a little dog or some fancy tight jeans.

Recently he called me in a right state, his partner had abused him and beat him on a few occasions which I didn't know about till he broke down on the phone.

So immediately I made a few calls and I put a deposit on a flat then got a team of guys to go round and get his stuff.

Took him to a private doctor to have him checked over and tests done.

He seemed to be brighter and me being me started to get him to unpack everything and start putting his new flat together.

I left late after we had dinner and it was all looking good.

Then. Now this is where you need to exercise caution.

I was training at Sandhurst and told there were police wanting to speak to me.

And it's funny you can tell on people's faces what they are going to say before they have said it.

Yesterday I got a letter.

It sort of explained why, the road he decided to take. How he couldn't face things anymore.

It said that I was the only one who stood by ready to help regardless and that he loved me for just accepting him for who he was.

So people. Whatever is going on in your world, someone does love you, will help you.

Reach out don't worry about being a pest or not because someone is busy.

I will not reply to this thread.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *ofdiamondsMan
over a year ago

Coningsby

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By *herry OnatopWoman
over a year ago

Just over there

Heart breaking

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

So sorry to hear this OP.

I hope you take some comfort in his words.

I know exactly how he felt xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So sorry for your loss,OP. Hard to add much more. x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh pat I’m so sorry for your loss but what a great friend he had in you by the sounds of it. Sending you a big busty missy cuddle! Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh mate I’m so sorry, losing a friend like this is tragic.

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

My heart goes out to you OP.

I am so very sorry for the loss of your friend and the circumstances x

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

So sorry for your loss. You were there for him. That would have meant a lot x

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By *lasphemouscoupleCouple
over a year ago

Cambridgeshire

So so sorry for your loss.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So sorry to hear that. You couldn’t have done any more

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Gutted for you OP, so sorry x

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

There is no words that can console you. Have been in your shoes and it's heartbreaking. Try not to dwell on what you could have done differently or what did you miss. You loved them for who they were and they knew it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Very difficult to read.

My sincere condolences to you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So sorry

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

So sorry for your loss Patrick.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you are going through a bad time I caution you not to read.

I had a close friend who was gay. He never had to tell me I knew he was, didn't matter to me he was a great guy. Loved galleries, fancy restaurants art on the walls type how always had a tan and did look good.

I would be the one he would call to cry down the phone too when the boyfriend had upset him or the washing machine didn't work.

Women loved him and would always give him a cuddle when we were out together they loved his high pitched voice when he got excited over a little dog or some fancy tight jeans.

Recently he called me in a right state, his partner had abused him and beat him on a few occasions which I didn't know about till he broke down on the phone.

So immediately I made a few calls and I put a deposit on a flat then got a team of guys to go round and get his stuff.

Took him to a private doctor to have him checked over and tests done.

He seemed to be brighter and me being me started to get him to unpack everything and start putting his new flat together.

I left late after we had dinner and it was all looking good.

Then. Now this is where you need to exercise caution.

I was training at Sandhurst and told there were police wanting to speak to me.

And it's funny you can tell on people's faces what they are going to say before they have said it.

Yesterday I got a letter.

It sort of explained why, the road he decided to take. How he couldn't face things anymore.

It said that I was the only one who stood by ready to help regardless and that he loved me for just accepting him for who he was.

So people. Whatever is going on in your world, someone does love you, will help you.

Reach out don't worry about being a pest or not because someone is busy.

I will not reply to this thread."

Really sorry for your loss, you were an amazing friend to him

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So sorry for your loss OP sending hugs x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So sorry for your loss OP sending hugs x"

Not all heroes wear capes...may your friend rest in peace x

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

Oh nooo heart breaking

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

Reading this is hard but

OP what a Decent guy guy are x

I would do the same xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hard to read that, with all the past tenses being used I could tell where it was going. You're a good guy and it must be heartbreaking for you, and really hard to share that. I hope your message reaches someone in need.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you are going through a bad time I caution you not to read.

I had a close friend who was gay. He never had to tell me I knew he was, didn't matter to me he was a great guy. Loved galleries, fancy restaurants art on the walls type how always had a tan and did look good.

I would be the one he would call to cry down the phone too when the boyfriend had upset him or the washing machine didn't work.

Women loved him and would always give him a cuddle when we were out together they loved his high pitched voice when he got excited over a little dog or some fancy tight jeans.

Recently he called me in a right state, his partner had abused him and beat him on a few occasions which I didn't know about till he broke down on the phone.

So immediately I made a few calls and I put a deposit on a flat then got a team of guys to go round and get his stuff.

Took him to a private doctor to have him checked over and tests done.

He seemed to be brighter and me being me started to get him to unpack everything and start putting his new flat together.

I left late after we had dinner and it was all looking good.

Then. Now this is where you need to exercise caution.

I was training at Sandhurst and told there were police wanting to speak to me.

And it's funny you can tell on people's faces what they are going to say before they have said it.

Yesterday I got a letter.

It sort of explained why, the road he decided to take. How he couldn't face things anymore.

It said that I was the only one who stood by ready to help regardless and that he loved me for just accepting him for who he was.

So people. Whatever is going on in your world, someone does love you, will help you.

Reach out don't worry about being a pest or not because someone is busy.

I will not reply to this thread."

You had me teary reading this, I’m so sorry for the loss, truly. And you have been an amazing shoulder for your friend and sound like a good man… I’m so sorry he couldn’t see other solutions x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So sorry for your loss. Sending you love and strength xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

mwah xxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry to hear this. Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

? such a great friend he had in you! I hope he found the peace which he craved...

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

So sorry to read this. Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My sincere condolences to you and your friend.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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Sorry to read this and your loss OP, xx

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By *LiamMan
over a year ago

Midlands

Stay strong brother, lost a friend but gained and angel

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By *agicfingers1Man
over a year ago

near Brighton

So sorry to read this OP

You sound like a top guy and wish there were more like you in the world.

I have been through a tough mental time recently and it took one hell of a lot for me to admit it. Being a big rugby looking kind of guy I've always been there for others but bottled all my emotions up.

Luckily I've got good mates similar to you around me and things are going in the right direction

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