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By *rivervader OP   Man
over a year ago

bolton

This is just a random question don’t burn me but it gets me that folk want a face pic or will delete when they don’t show their face either. I prefer to get to know a person b4 u scare them with that plus ur face pic could be used in a hack

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

Half of your face is already on display

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

Also some people don't want to get to know people they aren't attracted to. You're not forced to send one. You have a choice.

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By *rivervader OP   Man
over a year ago

bolton


"Half of your face is already on display "

Yea that’s true but they want full face I just don’t get it

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By * Lexi xWoman
over a year ago

stockport

I wouldn’t get to know someone I’m potentially shagging without seeing them….. it’s all about attraction for me.

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By *an4funMan
over a year ago

london


"Half of your face is already on display

Yea that’s true but they want full face I just don’t get it"

They have to decide if they are attracted to you or not. A full face pic helps them make that decision

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By * Lexi xWoman
over a year ago

stockport


"Half of your face is already on display

Yea that’s true but they want full face I just don’t get it"

Surely you do get it…… attraction is big for some people. I’d even go as far to say most people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Also some people don't want to get to know people they aren't attracted to. You're not forced to send one. You have a choice. "

This . You can choose what to do.

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford


"Half of your face is already on display

Yea that’s true but they want full face I just don’t get it"

I need to see full face early on otherwise could b wasting their time/my time because if not attracted to someone then nothing is gonna happen x

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By *aresseTV/TS
over a year ago

Liverpool


"This is just a random question don’t burn me but it gets me that folk want a face pic or will delete when they don’t show their face either. I prefer to get to know a person b4 u scare them with that plus ur face pic could be used in a hack"

To me the answer is simple . If you have a clear face picture where you’re clearly clothed and doing something non sexual just put it on your other social media , Facebook Instagram Twitter etc . You don’t even necessarily need to put it up on here but can send it with messages and that way in the unlikely event that someone who knows you spots the picture you just say it must have got stolen from your other social media ?

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

Imagine spending ages chatting to someone, then they send a face picture and it shows a handlebar moustache. Imagine you have a fear of handlebar moustaches. Imagine how disappointed you’d be that you’d spent ages chatting to this person only to find they were not for you.

A face pic at the start would have sorted that.

Some don’t send for discretion straight off, that’s fine, but I’d expect a face pic to be needed to be exchanged sooner rather than later if you intend to meet someone.

If just on here to chat or whatnot then that’s more understandable a reason not to send.

You don’t have to send, but then you need to accept that this will discount you from chatting to some folk.

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By *rivervader OP   Man
over a year ago

bolton


"Half of your face is already on display

Yea that’s true but they want full face I just don’t get it

Surely you do get it…… attraction is big for some people. I’d even go as far to say most people."

I’m not saying you don’t show ur face just not in the first message

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never respond if people do not send their face pictures upfront

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By *affron40Woman
over a year ago

manchester

Then their preferences don’t match your preferences so it’s not a match

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Would you walk up to a girl in the street and where a balaclava if you were trying to chat to her and her to know her?

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By *rivervader OP   Man
over a year ago

bolton


"Imagine spending ages chatting to someone, then they send a face picture and it shows a handlebar moustache. Imagine you have a fear of handlebar moustaches. Imagine how disappointed you’d be that you’d spent ages chatting to this person only to find they were not for you.

A face pic at the start would have sorted that.

Some don’t send for discretion straight off, that’s fine, but I’d expect a face pic to be needed to be exchanged sooner rather than later if you intend to meet someone.

If just on here to chat or whatnot then that’s more understandable a reason not to send.

You don’t have to send, but then you need to accept that this will discount you from chatting to some folk.

"

My thoughts exactly on the second txt yes but when you say can u send me one they refuse that’s what I don’t get I understand they want to see you but it works both ways

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By *rivervader OP   Man
over a year ago

bolton

Y is nobody getting the question. They ask for a face pic without showing there’s so if u ask they refuse so then why send yours b4 then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Half of your face is already on display

Yea that’s true but they want full face I just don’t get it

Surely you do get it…… attraction is big for some people. I’d even go as far to say most people.

I’m not saying you don’t show ur face just not in the first message "

Why not? Mutual attraction is a big thing for me . I send a couple of recent clear face pics and a full body shot in my first message . I don't tend to send a first message much these days but like the same back if we get chatting.

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By * Lexi xWoman
over a year ago

stockport


"Half of your face is already on display

Yea that’s true but they want full face I just don’t get it

Surely you do get it…… attraction is big for some people. I’d even go as far to say most people.

I’m not saying you don’t show ur face just not in the first message "

When did I say that you said that???

My question to you is what’s the point in getting to know someone that your not attracted to in a sexual way??

Complete waste of time.

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

It's not blind date!

I just mostly have my face on view. Means that if someone isn't a fan they can avoid messaging in the first place.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

People ask us for face pictures quite a lot. We only ever send them just before we meet. If anybody doesn't like that we just don't meet them.

We only ever do what we feel comfortable with having learned the hard way when we first started out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Y is nobody getting the question. They ask for a face pic without showing there’s so if u ask they refuse so then why send yours b4 then"

A lot of guys do send face pics with messages, those that don't I'll ask after a couple of messages if I'm interested. I'll only send mine if I like them though, I don't promise I'll send mine if they do so that's their choice to send.

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By * Lexi xWoman
over a year ago

stockport


"Half of your face is already on display

Yea that’s true but they want full face I just don’t get it

Surely you do get it…… attraction is big for some people. I’d even go as far to say most people.

I’m not saying you don’t show ur face just not in the first message

Why not? Mutual attraction is a big thing for me . I send a couple of recent clear face pics and a full body shot in my first message . I don't tend to send a first message much these days but like the same back if we get chatting. "

Because you have contradicted yourself.

It’s 2 completely different subjects.

1- why do people need a face pic to see if they want to fuck someone?

2 - the hypocrisy of people that demand face pics and do not show theirs…..

So to answer your questions.

I need attraction and if someone doesn’t put a pic in the first message I would ignore and delete.

People that demand face pics without showing them I wouldn’t give the time of day.

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By * Lexi xWoman
over a year ago

stockport

Another thing….. my face don’t lie.

If I did get to know someone and finally met without seeing them and I wasn’t attracted my face would say it all even if I was trying to be subtle. Who wants that awkwardness????

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By *rivervader OP   Man
over a year ago

bolton


"Half of your face is already on display

Yea that’s true but they want full face I just don’t get it

Surely you do get it…… attraction is big for some people. I’d even go as far to say most people.

I’m not saying you don’t show ur face just not in the first message

Why not? Mutual attraction is a big thing for me . I send a couple of recent clear face pics and a full body shot in my first message . I don't tend to send a first message much these days but like the same back if we get chatting.

Because you have contradicted yourself.

It’s 2 completely different subjects.

1- why do people need a face pic to see if they want to fuck someone?

2 - the hypocrisy of people that demand face pics and do not show theirs…..

So to answer your questions.

I need attraction and if someone doesn’t put a pic in the first message I would ignore and delete.

People that demand face pics without showing them I wouldn’t give the time of day. "

Like yourself u are showing face pic so yes I would send you one in the first txt if I did because I know ur real if that makes sense?

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

We prefer to swap them early on,

Otherwise could be a waste of time if there's no attraction.

Then it gets awkward saying no thanks for either party

Miss

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Time is precious, dont want to waste anyones, i generally dont reply with one of I'm not interested, when I have i get repeated messages trying to change my mind which can become agressive and abusive.

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax


"Y is nobody getting the question. They ask for a face pic without showing there’s so if u ask they refuse so then why send yours b4 then"

You don't have to send them one op, you could choose to stop the chat. People can ask for what they want, but you can also refuse

Miss

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Plus i dont just want a face i want an upto date 3 montus ir less, full body clothed, laying down on a bed or sofa or obscured face is also a no. Trust me you'll thank me, turning up and being turned away is not a pleasant experience for either of us

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Imagine spending ages chatting to someone, then they send a face picture and it shows a handlebar moustache. Imagine you have a fear of handlebar moustaches. Imagine how disappointed you’d be that you’d spent ages chatting to this person only to find they were not for you.

A face pic at the start would have sorted that.

Some don’t send for discretion straight off, that’s fine, but I’d expect a face pic to be needed to be exchanged sooner rather than later if you intend to meet someone.

If just on here to chat or whatnot then that’s more understandable a reason not to send.

You don’t have to send, but then you need to accept that this will discount you from chatting to some folk.

"

This. I have face pics on my profile.

If someone chatting to me doesn't want to send a face pic that's ok.

Just don't expect the conversation to carry on regardless of how hot you think you are.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Then don't message or send those people anything then... It's fairly simple

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I only send a face pic prior to a meet. If we don’t find each other attractive - we don’t meet.

I also video call to make sure (both of us) are genuine.

It would be foolish and risky for me to send my face out randomly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Y is nobody getting the question. They ask for a face pic without showing there’s so if u ask they refuse so then why send yours b4 then"

Don't ask for face pics and don't send any face pics then. Just go with flow, then if you get chatting to someone you can take it from there. Don't go jumping through hoops just to get a 'meet'. You'll just get annoyed with it

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By *lice MaliceWoman
over a year ago

The Facility


"Would you walk up to a girl in the street and where a balaclava if you were trying to chat to her and her to know her?

"

This can be arranged, yes?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Totally agree! Most don't want to prod the fire if there is a dodgy ornament on the mantelpiece

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Face pic definitely...

Helps the police track Down any skullduggery that any perpetrator may be guilty of.

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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

Dont want a face pic immediately but will ask early on in the conversation, we want to know there is an attraction it also a small part of our process of making sure somebody is genuine.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I never respond if people do not send their face pictures upfront"

That's fair as you have your face out there; it's the ones who demand one up front but aren't prepared to do the same. Tbh they usually come with a whole host of other demands so we tend to give those profiles a wide birth...each to their own Elle x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Dont want a face pic immediately but will ask early on in the conversation, we want to know there is an attraction it also a small part of our process of making sure somebody is genuine. "

Exactly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Half of your face is already on display

Yea that’s true but they want full face I just don’t get it"

I don’t want to have sex with someone I don’t fancy. It’s that simple. If you went up to someone in a bar to chat them up, you wouldn’t have a bag over your head would you?

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

The worse thing is chatting to someone for ages then seeing their face and it does nothing for me.

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By *rivervader OP   Man
over a year ago

bolton


"I never respond if people do not send their face pictures upfront

That's fair as you have your face out there; it's the ones who demand one up front but aren't prepared to do the same. Tbh they usually come with a whole host of other demands so we tend to give those profiles a wide birth...each to their own Elle x"

Thanx somebody why actually gets the question

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By *izzy.miss.lizzyCouple
over a year ago

Pembrokeshire


"This is just a random question don’t burn me but it gets me that folk want a face pic or will delete when they don’t show their face either. I prefer to get to know a person b4 u scare them with that plus ur face pic could be used in a hack"

I only send full face pics when a meet is on the cards and I won't meet anyone who I haven't seen a picture of first.

I skip past profiles with no pics, doesn't have to be a full face one, but something to go on like body type is at least a clue to attraction or no attraction.

Any amount of smooth talk counts for zero if there is no idea what the chatter looks like.

Old pics don't cut it either lol, nothing worse than seeing somebody in their prime turn up looking ancient.

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford


"The worse thing is chatting to someone for ages then seeing their face and it does nothing for me.

"

I know then u have the dilemma of what to say as would never want to offend someone x

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough


"The worse thing is chatting to someone for ages then seeing their face and it does nothing for me.

I know then u have the dilemma of what to say as would never want to offend someone x"

Ask them to put a paper bag over their head.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This is just a random question don’t burn me but it gets me that folk want a face pic or will delete when they don’t show their face either. I prefer to get to know a person b4 u scare them with that plus ur face pic could be used in a hack

I only send full face pics when a meet is on the cards and I won't meet anyone who I haven't seen a picture of first.

I skip past profiles with no pics, doesn't have to be a full face one, but something to go on like body type is at least a clue to attraction or no attraction.

Any amount of smooth talk counts for zero if there is no idea what the chatter looks like.

Old pics don't cut it either lol, nothing worse than seeing somebody in their prime turn up looking ancient.

"

When you politely decline and say just not for me, and they ask if they can try and persuade you…. I hate awkwardness hard to know what to do for the best sometimes! Ignore, or respond, be polite and risk being ask the dreaded, But Why? Too much of a people pleaser I think!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Everyone has a right to do what suits them, so if sharing your face isn’t what you want to do, then don’t! But equally, others your chatting with have the same right to block etc if they want to see who they’re talking too x

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By *izzy.miss.lizzyCouple
over a year ago

Pembrokeshire


"When you politely decline and say just not for me, and they ask if they can try and persuade you…. I hate awkwardness hard to know what to do for the best sometimes! Ignore, or respond, be polite and risk being ask the dreaded, But Why? Too much of a people pleaser I think!"

It is difficult if you care about other peoples' feelings it's true, so yeah, challenging to say no if you aren't up for it sometimes, but I guess we just have to accept there will be a level of rejection on here from some at times, we can't all be attractive to everyone all of the time. Have to find ways of gently saying can we just be friends? or something like that.

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

We ask for face pics fairly early on and will also send ours. As if we don’t find the person attractive, it really doesn’t matter how good their chat is - it’s not happening!

Why spend hours endlessly chatting to then establish there’s no attraction. That’s what I don’t get.

Do you expect people to think ‘well I don’t fancy him but I’ve sent 20 messages to him now, so I’ll feel bad not having sex with him now’

K

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford


"The worse thing is chatting to someone for ages then seeing their face and it does nothing for me.

I know then u have the dilemma of what to say as would never want to offend someone x

Ask them to put a paper bag over their head. "

Pmsl!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just seems to be the way it goes on here. We’ll send a face pic when we want to, not when it’s demanded and if others aren’t happy with that it’s their prerogative to move on and we don’t get in a bunch about it. We usually know from the first two or three messages whether we have the same vibe and if the messages don’t hit it off, there’s no point it going any further. Don’t think we’ve ever sent first to a single guy though . It’s just too easy to move on to the next. Single males - they send first. Couples - whoever wants to first. Single females - usually us first but not always. Think it’s fair that whoever sends the first intro message sends first. Might be overthinking this haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Also some people don't want to get to know people they aren't attracted to. You're not forced to send one. You have a choice. "
This!! Stops the endless messaging, however we have met people we wouldn't of normally been attracted to on here at clubs and had a great time x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I never respond if people do not send their face pictures upfront

That's fair as you have your face out there; it's the ones who demand one up front but aren't prepared to do the same. Tbh they usually come with a whole host of other demands so we tend to give those profiles a wide birth...each to their own Elle x

Thanx somebody why actually gets the question "

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By *ovelaughliveCouple
over a year ago

Oldham

If we are interested then we will send a face pic but will delete it after its been seen

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By *olmateMan
over a year ago

west mids


"This is just a random question don’t burn me but it gets me that folk want a face pic or will delete when they don’t show their face either. I prefer to get to know a person b4 u scare them with that plus ur face pic could be used in a hack

To me the answer is simple . If you have a clear face picture where you’re clearly clothed and doing something non sexual just put it on your other social media , Facebook Instagram Twitter etc . You don’t even necessarily need to put it up on here but can send it with messages and that way in the unlikely event that someone who knows you spots the picture you just say it must have got stolen from your other social media ?"

Very nice tip

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The worse thing is chatting to someone for ages then seeing their face and it does nothing for me.

"

Exactly why I don't respond to no face, when I am looking to meet... Really pisses me off considering my face is always visible

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By *man79Man
over a year ago

newry dundalk. warrenpoint

I like my face

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