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Overcoming social anxieties

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By *unandgamegeek OP   Man
over a year ago

Bolton

Whoelse used to have social anxieties and managed to overcome them?

I think when it came to meeting new people at a club, I would be afraid that nobody would like me and that if I tried to join in a conversation, they would tell me to go away. I'm sure I'm not the only one who used to feel like this.

Over the past four years, I've realised that everyone is always friendly and willing to talk to you. It may have been scary making the first move but it helped me gain new friends and overcome my anxieties.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I suffer from social anxiety! I’m introverted and I’m not entirely in my element in groups. But I fought the anxiety and went to a club by myself last week and it was fine! I get dry mouth though when I’m anxious so made sure to drink plenty.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm very much an introvert in my spare time, have been for many years, but over recent year or two, I've pretty much come out of my shell. My job, which requires alot of social and interpersonal qualities has helped me overcome and sort of anxiety with talking to strangers.

It can feel overwhelming, but they are just people, people with their own anxietys, worries, and insecurities of their own, probably.

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

Just go for it, I pretty much feel like that every time I go on a social, but I must come across ok!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm incredibly shy and anxious, and constantly afraid of being a nuisance. It's such a difficult thing to get past.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I suffer from social anxiety! I’m introverted and I’m not entirely in my element in groups. But I fought the anxiety and went to a club by myself last week and it was fine! I get dry mouth though when I’m anxious so made sure to drink plenty. "

Brave, see you had it in you all along

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By *sBlueWoman
over a year ago

Up North

Me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm an introvert, this doesn't mean I can't talk to others or enjoy meeting new people, but it does exhaust me somewhat and I need my own space the day after. Sometimes I even escape parties for 20 minutes to just be alone, re energise, and then go back for more.

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By *unandgamegeek OP   Man
over a year ago

Bolton


"I'm an introvert, this doesn't mean I can't talk to others or enjoy meeting new people, but it does exhaust me somewhat and I need my own space the day after. Sometimes I even escape parties for 20 minutes to just be alone, re energise, and then go back for more. "

There was one time where I nearly left an event early at a club but a friend saw me about to leave and noticed I was upset so she came into the changing room, calmed me down and gave me a comforting hug. I ended up staying and enjoyed the rest of the evening.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally I use a human shield which is normally my wife to overcome my social anxiety but the other day I was in the big city with my youngest and we came across a record shop/bar but I bottled going in because I didn’t know the lay out of the place!!

Tony

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Best advice I got was to not worry about being interesting, just be interested. Listen and show an interest.

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By *heGateKeeperMan
over a year ago

Stratford

Go to a Fab social

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had had anxiety problems for a while, but thankfully I've got my mojo back and I'm back to my old ways of literally talking to anyone in a bar or club. I've had some fun nights recently after going for "one pint"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m an introvert and having the confidence to approach people even in a club is sometimes a challenging experience

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Are some of you on autism spectrum? Might explain some of how you feeling

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Are some of you on autism spectrum? Might explain some of how you feeling"

Not autism but I suspect ADHD! My sons just been diagnosed with it at 19!

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

I'm worried about that and being fat

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By *unandgamegeek OP   Man
over a year ago

Bolton


"Are some of you on autism spectrum? Might explain some of how you feeling"

I do have Asperger's Syndrome which is a mild form of autism.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm worried about that and being fat"

Plenty of fun, interesting, bigger girls out there. Weight would never stop me chatting to someone x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm always nervous. Because I care! .

Giggles and my general chaotic behaviour mask it well.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I suffer from social anxiety! I’m introverted and I’m not entirely in my element in groups. But I fought the anxiety and went to a club by myself last week and it was fine! I get dry mouth though when I’m anxious so made sure to drink plenty. "

That’s amazing. Would love to hear more of this story. X

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By *annaBeStrongMan
over a year ago

wokingham

Fake it till you make it

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By *unandgamegeek OP   Man
over a year ago

Bolton


"Fake it till you make it "

Why fake it?

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