FabSwingers.com forum: Do single men get messaged?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Question, do anything of uou single guys get messaged by woman first or you putting in all the work and messaging them first?

I don't mind messaging people that catch my eye or I find sexy but don't get anything first.

Just curious if it's just a minority of us or happens a lot.

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By *stbury DavenportMan
over a year ago

Nottingham

I have received first messages from women.

Okay, it's usually because they've clicked "Reply privately" by accident when they were aiming for "Reply in forum", but that counts, right?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I have received first messages from women.

Okay, it's usually because they've clicked "Reply privately" by accident when they were aiming for "Reply in forum", but that counts, right? "

I don't even get mistakes lol

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By *icearmsMan
over a year ago

KIDLINGTON

Backing put as I thought it was about massages...

Will wait for that thread to appear.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've messaged several men first, usually because I like their forum chat and I want to talk to them.

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

Yes maybe 2-3 a month, it’s much more direct and straightforward when they do !

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

I often message male forumites privately but have never sent a first message to any other man. I have sent a couple of winks though.

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

Yes all my messages now are initiated by women as I haven't sent a first contact message in 18 months.

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By *gent CoulsonMan
over a year ago

Secret hideaway in the pennines

I've had a couple of first messages from women, but it is very rare

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By *attoo manMan
over a year ago

Rhyl

Not getting any messages happens a lot.

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

Yes, I’ve had opening messages from women. Sometimes as a result of one of my forum comments, sometimes just right out of the blue! Posting pics helps too

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Ok interesting stuff, should interact more on forums then maybe

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By *ilverjagMan
over a year ago

swansea

I get messages very often from women, and couples, mostly West of Bristol, and South of Birmingham I must add, who have invariably read, and digested the profile, looked at my verifications, and see that I can tick a lot of boxes for a lot of people. In my experience it seems that only the shallow brigade pass you by without winking at least, and most of guys can probably wouldn't want their attention in the first place.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ok interesting stuff, should interact more on forums then maybe "

I find the forums are best for initiating chats. Profiles could say anything, but forums show your interests and personality more

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I used to get messaged sometimes when I had a single guy profile. But I'm incredibly good looking so it was to be expected. The standard of women messaging me was fairly low so I didn't often reply.

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

I message men first.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I live in hope

I see loads on the forums I’m hoping I can connect with even if a chat is as far as it goes, nothing wrong with just friendly conversation and having forum friends

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By *ungry 4 youMan
over a year ago

Near you

I get some messages. More so now I have veris on account. I think it makes it easier when they see that

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By *acDreamyMan
over a year ago

Wirral

Rarely. I get lots fro men though!

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By *drian HardthrobMan
over a year ago

Worcester

It's not an everyday occurrence but it does happen from time to time and very much appreciated

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope, I’ve had a couple (and I mean a couple) of messages about forum posts, but otherwise I don't get messages from Ladies, or Couples for that matter. I can’t remember a Lady looking at my profile either, unless I’ve looked at hers first.

Not complaining though, I know my place!

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By *ora 123Man
over a year ago

Basildon

I have been messaged a couple of times by ladies. This is rare though. Probably as I’m crap as forum chat. Mmmmmm thoughts

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Once. In the winter

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By *gent CoulsonMan
over a year ago

Secret hideaway in the pennines

"I message men first."
bugger, did you spell my name correctly, I didn't get it

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By *LiamMan
over a year ago

Midlands

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By *LiamMan
over a year ago

Midlands

Yes I've had a few

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By *revaunanceCouple
over a year ago

Exeter

We sometimes initiate the conversation, although not often.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

On the account I have which I've superimposed my face onto a body with a six pack and massive cock, yeah I get loads.

With my genuine account (this one) I don't get many.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I message guys first

But only if I am looking for instashag or meet at the weekend or something obviously I talking pre covid

As we’re come out off this and going back to normal things should pick up agein

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes.

I never message anyone unless its a 'friend' or a forum game

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By *zlakMan
over a year ago

Norwich

Yes i have had a few messages from women first.

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By *angerous123Man
over a year ago

Leeds

Sometimes yeah, it's winks more than anything though.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks for the input and experience you lot have with this

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By *dul147Man
over a year ago

Whitehaven

No lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes a few had one today, But mostly it’s guys offering to suck my straight guy cock

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve had a few messages that weren’t prompted.

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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

As a couple we regularly get messaged by single females (very well verified before I say the next bit).

If we are being completely honest the standard of message is poor, usually starts with hi, nothing wrong with that but from there on in it deteriorates till we give up.

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By *igmaMan
over a year ago

Yorkshire

Yes they do.

They’re normally the more forward straight talking types that I prefer to deal with on here!

Most women send winks but some do send approach messages.

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By *annaBeStrongMan
over a year ago

wokingham

Every time I’ve been messaged by a female I reply, my message gets lost in their inbox and they never get back to me

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By *dquestCouple
over a year ago

Peterborough

We've messaged single guys first on three occasions

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By *oldyoudown41Man
over a year ago

caledonian

Yes I’ve been messaged by a few genuine ladies

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As a couple we regularly get messaged by single females (very well verified before I say the next bit).

If we are being completely honest the standard of message is poor, usually starts with hi, nothing wrong with that but from there on in it deteriorates till we give up. "

I’m glad it’s not just us…

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By *ecadent_DevonMan
over a year ago

Okehampton

Yes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It does happen, but not very often.

The thing is, given the high ratio of men to women on fab, the ladies really don't need to make the first move.

Most of them are too inundated with messages

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was messaged other day for first time. We had a great sexy chat. Pays to be on the forums as people get to know you and your personality which helps

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It doesn't happen very often, but it did happen yesterday.

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By *reamblueMan
over a year ago

London

Nope, I don't think I've ever been messaged first by a woman

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By *rowser79Man
over a year ago

Cork

I’ve gotten a few as a result of posting on the forums. Have gotten them from women in a different country but the conversations were good!

As for getting messaged from women because they fancy me……..not gonna happen on here with so much competition!

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

I've messaged single men first before. In fact that is how most of my meets with single men have happened.

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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

"As a couple we regularly get messaged by single females (very well verified before I say the next bit).

If we are being completely honest the standard of message is poor, usually starts with hi, nothing wrong with that but from there on in it deteriorates till we give up.

I’m glad it’s not just us…"

It like they expect us to do all the work and should be grateful for them having messaged us in the first place.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep, mostly from the forums but do get the odd message and wink when I upload a new picture too. I've pretty much stopped messaging first unless it for a forum game

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As a couple we regularly get messaged by single females (very well verified before I say the next bit).

If we are being completely honest the standard of message is poor, usually starts with hi, nothing wrong with that but from there on in it deteriorates till we give up. "

Yeah I get what you mean. I've had it with some females and couples who have messaged first where I'm having to try and come up with the conversation topics. As soon as the 1 or 2 word answers are more consistent, I know it's not going anywhere

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

"As a couple we regularly get messaged by single females (very well verified before I say the next bit).

If we are being completely honest the standard of message is poor, usually starts with hi, nothing wrong with that but from there on in it deteriorates till we give up.

I’m glad it’s not just us…"

I lose interest if I receive the dreaded “lol x” reply…….

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By *r SensualMan
over a year ago

London

"Question, do anything of uou single guys get messaged by woman first or you putting in all the work and messaging them first?

I don't mind messaging people that catch my eye or I find sexy but don't get anything first.

Just curious if it's just a minority of us or happens a lot."

Yes I’ve received a few messages from women first but as already said that’s mainly been through forum posts….

See and notice what the trend is here to pick up in order get more messages or replies from the lovely ladies of fab

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By *errocaWoman
over a year ago

Shropshire

"Question, do anything of uou single guys get messaged by woman first or you putting in all the work and messaging them first?

I don't mind messaging people that catch my eye or I find sexy but don't get anything first.

Just curious if it's just a minority of us or happens a lot."

I'm not afraid of sending the first message to a guy I like the look of. So no, it's not uncommon.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not often and when I do it’s mostly from the forums.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get messaged fairly regularly. However a majority of them is from couples who want me for either a threesome of for the husband to watch me with the wife.

Not my cup of tea. I prefer one 2 one

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

Yes they do. The majority (bar one) of the men I've met I have messaged first. I think that sometimes men aren't very approachable and you can be put off messaging them. I also think the vast majority of women prefer to wait for men to message first, more of an ego boost that way.

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

"As a couple we regularly get messaged by single females (very well verified before I say the next bit).

If we are being completely honest the standard of message is poor, usually starts with hi, nothing wrong with that but from there on in it deteriorates till we give up.

I've had this with men, women and couples. It's pretty depressing really. Though it's brilliant when you get the opposite with someone and you click so well that you end up bouncing off each other and the conversation flows so freely and easily with decent length messages from both sides without it feeling forced or anything.

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By *acDreamyMan
over a year ago

Wirral

"I've messaged single men first before. In fact that is how most of my meets with single men have happened. "

Actually, some of my best chats started with a message received. I think it works better as they are less defensive! X

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By *ewforestguyMan
over a year ago

England

Not as often as I'd like.

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By *ionelhutzMan
over a year ago

liverpool

"Question, do anything of uou single guys get messaged by woman first or you putting in all the work and messaging them first?

I don't mind messaging people that catch my eye or I find sexy but don't get anything first.

Just curious if it's just a minority of us or happens a lot."

Very rarely but it has happened.

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By *ionelhutzMan
over a year ago

liverpool

"I have received first messages from women.

Okay, it's usually because they've clicked "Reply privately" by accident when they were aiming for "Reply in forum", but that counts, right? "

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By *ambo1450Man
over a year ago

Newport

I’ve had a few, and I mean a few. It’s a shame, I’m good looking, hilarious, hung like a bear and fantastically wealthy. If you want to know which one is a lie, message me

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By *ionelhutzMan
over a year ago

liverpool

"As a couple we regularly get messaged by single females (very well verified before I say the next bit).

If we are being completely honest the standard of message is poor, usually starts with hi, nothing wrong with that but from there on in it deteriorates till we give up.

Its amazing the amount of people who cannot hold a conversation

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By *lassy_but_sassyWoman
over a year ago

Birmingham

I've messaged some first yeah, why not! Kinda big headed to just sit back expecting everyone to contact you, if I like someone I'll wink or message!

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By *j321Man
over a year ago

Huddersfield

Had a couple from women mainly men that message

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By *rivervaderMan
over a year ago

bolton

I ain’t that lucky I just get abuse

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As a couple we regularly get messaged by single females (very well verified before I say the next bit).

If we are being completely honest the standard of message is poor, usually starts with hi, nothing wrong with that but from there on in it deteriorates till we give up.

Except in person, we have yet to experience the latter. Most profiles advertise connection and great chat is important however then go on to demonstrate that they have neither. It's a tad difficult to find something to bounce off from 'lol' 'yup' 'you'.

When the words they reply with start extending past 3 letters I almost rejoice at the glimmer of hope

Elle x

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By *r TriomanMan
over a year ago

Chippenham Malmesbury area

"I've messaged several men first, usually because I like their forum chat and I want to talk to them.

That's the beauty of the forums Kitty, it exposes peoples character far better than any profile ever could (not always positively but on the whole...).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope, out of shape. So wouldn’t be on their radar.

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

i message guys... occasionally

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Had a few

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have had one message from a woman. It was a single liner, not even a hello. It got a single line reply.

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By *hristopherd999Man
over a year ago

Brentwood

I think I did have one once!

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle

I’ve messaged guys in the past, I was a bit more confident then, I just look at their lovely pictures now instead

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had a few when all the other men were watching the football.

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By *tew008Man
over a year ago

edinburgh

Did have one once but it was due to the forum’s, other than that, nope

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

"As a couple we regularly get messaged by single females (very well verified before I say the next bit).

If we are being completely honest the standard of message is poor, usually starts with hi, nothing wrong with that but from there on in it deteriorates till we give up.

When the words they reply with start extending past 3 letters I almost rejoice at the glimmer of hope

Elle x"

Oh bless you. Yes when someone gives you nothing to go off its impossible and I give up very quickly. I guess I've been fortunate though to have some very engaging conversations.

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By *orthampton jamesMan
over a year ago

Northampton

Hello all, any ladies like to message me, feel free

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A few, it absolutely stuns me when I get a message that's not a reply or a guy wanting me to cum down their throat at the drop of a hat!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get messaged a few times a week.

Only thing is they never seem to respond after my initial reply

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By *otsossieMan
over a year ago

Chesterfield

I do get messages. I figure women get enough spam.

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By *inger_SnapWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

Very occasionally, maybe in response to a status they've posted.

Sometimes I'll just wink and leave the balls in their court.

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

Yes from time to time. I actually got one yesterday.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have always had to post first, and very occasionally get a reply. Nobody has ever messaged me first. We are the unwanted here on fab

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By *ulldog_71Man
over a year ago

Sedgefield

I have received messages from a couple of women, got one from an absolute stunner recently never been so (pleasantly) surprised in my life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As a couple we regularly get messaged by single females (very well verified before I say the next bit).

If we are being completely honest the standard of message is poor, usually starts with hi, nothing wrong with that but from there on in it deteriorates till we give up.

When the words they reply with start extending past 3 letters I almost rejoice at the glimmer of hope

Elle x

Oh bless you. Yes when someone gives you nothing to go off its impossible and I give up very quickly. I guess I've been fortunate though to have some very engaging conversations. "

Thank you; what confuses me is 9 times out 10 they initiated the conversation - the mind boggles

We see the humour in it all and if I can be honest it is a great filter; if they can't or don't feel they need to make the effort outside of the bedroom, then they are hardly likely to make the effort in it and how dull would that be for all? Well, it certainly would be for me/us

Elle x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have received messages from a couple of women, got one from an absolute stunner recently never been so (pleasantly) surprised in my life."

How wonderful

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By *hocCock1Man
over a year ago

Southampton

Yea it happens,just not daily

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By *JB1954Man
over a year ago

Reading

I have had messages from females / couples mostly from wink sent. Most now are messages again from females , did have one couple sending friend invite or message from me posting on forums. I send very few messages now as out if most age ranges

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Probably 90% of the men I've spoken to privately on Fab in the last 18 months have been as a result of me messaging them first

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not often and when I do it’s mostly from the forums. "

I’ll add to this. It’s rare for me to get a first message and even when I send a message it’s rare to get a reply.

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By *uietly_KinkyMan
over a year ago

High Wycombe

Very rarely, in my case, and never because they're interested in meeting. Usually it's a comment on something I've said in the forum, and my replies typically don't elicit a response.

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By *uriousscouserWoman
over a year ago

Wirral

If I see someone who catches my eye I will send a message.

I think it feels like it never happens in part because women are less likely to copy and paste the same message to every male profile in a 50 mile radius. I send maybe three messages on average in a week, because there are only three profiles that really appeal and I've not previously messaged.

Compare that to some of the guys who are literally carpet-bombing hundreds of messages, and it's easy to believe it never happens because it's comparatively so rare.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get the odd first message now and then. It's nice when that happens as I don't really send that many messages out tbh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Occasionally I get a message from the forums....maybe 1 or 2 a week if I'm lucky

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By *renzMan
over a year ago

Between Chichester and Havant

It's not something that happens regularly but I do receive them.

I had one the other day complimenting me on my origin story on my profile.

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