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By *icearms OP   Man
over a year ago

KIDLINGTON

Do you ever see someone on here that you really like the look of, get on well with in the forums, but never take that next step because you think they are out of your league and you'd have no chance?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep, every day haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, I don't believe in leagues

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

naver understood this, have a go, nothing to loose

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By *icearms OP   Man
over a year ago

KIDLINGTON


"naver understood this, have a go, nothing to loose"

I guess its the whole they are so popular or so good looking part that makes you doubt yourself. Almost like you could never see them noticing you.

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By *rMojoRisinMan
over a year ago

Sheffield

Every time I look in the mirror!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, and on the 20th anniversary of me leaving my husband I arranged a hotel meet with him. He was amazing. Stunning looking and a real fantasy figure. But also very down to earth and human, I think when you put someone on a pedestal

you lose sight of that. I haven't seen him since as it was one perfect memory I don't want to taint.

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull


"Do you ever see someone on here that you really like the look of, get on well with in the forums, but never take that next step because you think they are out of your league and you'd have no chance?

"

You're a long time dead my friend, just ask them, trying never hurt anyone.

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

No never! No one is above anyone else we all equal in my eyes! Go for it u never know and as they say beauty is in the eye of the beholder! Who is attractive to one may not b to another! X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's a toxic mindset. If you get on with somebody and have enough in common to enjoy chatting then go for it.

People who think they're out of your league probably aren't worth the bother though.

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

There are lovely ladies out of my area

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No I believe if people look down at me and think I’m not good enough for them. Then they aren’t the person for me either.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, leagues don’t exist, it’s all about chemistry and connection

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think that about most of the younger guys i engage with from an age perspective!

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By *orksRockerMan
over a year ago

Bradford

All. The. Time.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

All the time

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By *ust_FlynnMan
over a year ago

St Neots


"Do you ever see someone on here that you really like the look of, get on well with in the forums, but never take that next step because you think they are out of your league and you'd have no chance?

"

Shoot your shot OP what’s there too loose? Even if it’s a no at least you know then you can focus on the friendship or move on. Might even be a yes and the start of something awesome

E xx

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By *ilverjagMan
over a year ago

swansea

I can never understand leagues in the swinging world. Natural selection obviously exists when you are considering a long term relationship, although I am told on very good authority that there are a few people on here who are too insecure to want to approach certain people as they may face rejection, and I know for a fact that there are couples on here where the guy won't allow his partner to indulge herself with certain fellas as she might become too attached to him. I've always described swinging as, the grand leveler of all human greatness. It doesn't matter what your station in life is. If you are the chairman of an international corporation, and you can't get it up, then you are poor as a church mouse, and the guy that can repeat is far more loaded so to speak however he gets by in the outside world. Like minded people shouldn't ever feel that they are out of anyone's league.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham


"I can never understand leagues in the swinging world. Natural selection obviously exists when you are considering a long term relationship, although I am told on very good authority that there are a few people on here who are too insecure to want to approach certain people as they may face rejection, and I know for a fact that there are couples on here where the guy won't allow his partner to indulge herself with certain fellas as she might become too attached to him. I've always described swinging as, the grand leveler of all human greatness. It doesn't matter what your station in life is. If you are the chairman of an international corporation, and you can't get it up, then you are poor as a church mouse, and the guy that can repeat is far more loaded so to speak however he gets by in the outside world. Like minded people shouldn't ever feel that they are out of anyone's league. "

I'm not sure what any of what you've just posted has to do with leagues to be honest.

Do you just fuck anything with no consideration for attraction?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope, message? Whats the worst that could happen?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No.

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By *urulovesnylonMan
over a year ago

Harrow

All the time!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"naver understood this, have a go, nothing to loose

I guess its the whole they are so popular or so good looking part that makes you doubt yourself. Almost like you could never see them noticing you. "

Being "popular" on the forum doesn't equate to being a goddess. Although some think so

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By *olarbear73Man
over a year ago

Glasgow

No, never.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No, leagues don’t exist, it’s all about chemistry and connection "

What she said ^

I used to have the "league" view the one day I had a simple epiphany that we're all just strangers on the internet.

If I shoot my shot and get rejected it doesn't actually matter. Apart from a message or two I've not invested anything. I'm not losing any money or belongings. No one else on the site knows/cares because everyone's doing their own thing.

The only thing that's hurt is my ego but that's the root of most problems here anyway.. Person gets rejected, ego hurt, sends abuse. Person doesn't get any messages for the first 2 weeks on the site, ego hurt, starts a shouty forum thread, deletes account before they even get into it. Take ego out of the question and the site/world is a better place.

Rejection is water off a ducks back in this arena OP but there's plenty more fish in the sea. You've got nothing to lose by striking up a conversation. Relax, have a laugh and a chat and see where it takes you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am realistic but if you don't buy a ticket you can't win the raffle. Or more accurately the lottery

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No not really

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan
over a year ago

Den of Iniquity


"No, leagues don’t exist, it’s all about chemistry and connection

What she said ^

I used to have the "league" view the one day I had a simple epiphany that we're all just strangers on the internet.

If I shoot my shot and get rejected it doesn't actually matter. Apart from a message or two I've not invested anything. I'm not losing any money or belongings. No one else on the site knows/cares because everyone's doing their own thing.

The only thing that's hurt is my ego but that's the root of most problems here anyway.. Person gets rejected, ego hurt, sends abuse. Person doesn't get any messages for the first 2 weeks on the site, ego hurt, starts a shouty forum thread, deletes account before they even get into it. Take ego out of the question and the site/world is a better place.

Rejection is water off a ducks back in this arena OP but there's plenty more fish in the sea. You've got nothing to lose by striking up a conversation. Relax, have a laugh and a chat and see where it takes you "

I was going to comment but this explains just about everything anyway so , this ^

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Aim for the stars you might go through the roof.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

ALL THE FRIGGIN TIME.

We find people attractive. I have a type (well several).

Hubby definitely has a type.

But why would they be interested in a pair of aging goths??

We have confidence issues

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do you ever see someone on here that you really like the look of, get on well with in the forums, but never take that next step because you think they are out of your league and you'd have no chance?

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Constantly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A lot of women get bored with conventionally good looking men that society has told them to fancy and seek someone more interesting and quirky looking, this is where I come in.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If anything I think is this person in my league, but then I think about the FA cup and all the upsets that happened to so called big teams, so I give them a chance.

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By *rabness92Man
over a year ago

Netherlands

I personally think it has something to do with you’re confidence, maybe that’s something you could work on? Learn to love and accept who you are

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By *ancer36Woman
over a year ago

Stirling

No, never actually

I don’t believe in the mindset of leagues, I’m confident in my own appearance and appreciate I’m not going to be everyone’s cup of tea nor do I want to be.

I think it’s all about confidence, how you come across and that chemistry/click you just have with some people that’s either there or isn’t

I certainly don’t see anyone as better than me and I don’t think I’m better than anyone, just go with the flow x

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By *rabness92Man
over a year ago

Netherlands


"No, never actually

I don’t believe in the mindset of leagues, I’m confident in my own appearance and appreciate I’m not going to be everyone’s cup of tea nor do I want to be.

I think it’s all about confidence, how you come across and that chemistry/click you just have with some people that’s either there or isn’t

I certainly don’t see anyone as better than me and I don’t think I’m better than anyone, just go with the flow x"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not really in terms of league.

I'll read people's profiles and conclude I'm not going to be attractive to them or I'm not what they are looking for. (Hopefully that's not the same thing..?)

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By *ust RachelTV/TS
over a year ago

Horsham

I know my place.

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham


"I personally think it has something to do with you’re confidence, maybe that’s something you could work on? Learn to love and accept who you are "

Yeah I does, I can relate to that when I was younger and it used to stop me doing all kinds of things. I guess along the way I got confident but I wouldn’t say I love myself , insecurity is always there below the surface, I just take risks and do things that make me uncomfortable because life has taught me that’s how you get results

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

No

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"No "

Although to add to that, I don’t believe in leagues but I do sometimes think if they’re really fit and good looking they probably meet loads of people so I don’t bother as that’s not what I want.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do you ever see someone on here that you really like the look of, get on well with in the forums, but never take that next step because you think they are out of your league and you'd have no chance?

"

Haha yes a lot! And it happened also I met some gorgeous guys and thought .. fuck me I’m punching above my weight here lolol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I understand this feeling, I felt this way about a few of the forum men when I first joined, as they seemed so popular with everyone. I just messaged them anyway and now we're friends.

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By *tingly ByronMan
over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot


"Do you ever see someone on here that you really like the look of, get on well with in the forums, but never take that next step because you think they are out of your league and you'd have no chance?

"

Every.

Goddamn.

Fucking.

Day.

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By *indergirlWoman
over a year ago

somewhere, someplace

Every!

Single!

Day!

Bite the bullet and message sometimes you may be surprised... Sometimes you'll just make a great friend like I have with some x

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

Yes. The people I like are way out of my league. Way, way out.

But that's my lack of self confidence and belief talking.

So I pull on my big girl bra (because pants are not exactly a staple in my life) and I send a message if I want to. If they send a message first I tend to have a minor heart attack and assume they sent it to the wrong person.

And actually.... these people who are way out of my league, some of them thought the same about me. Some of them actually want to meet me.

And a couple of them have given me the absolute best times and most wonderful friends I've ever had.

So my advice, take the chance. Even if it doesn't work out how you want, you'll have done it. I do know that the fear of rejection is horrible, and can make you feel worse, but if they're good people they'll be kind. And if not, screw them.

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By *wist my nipplesCouple
over a year ago

North East Scotland, mostly

Nope.

I remember when I first joined the forums, there was a super handsome popular guy I really fancied. So I messaged him saying "hey, I like your chat and I think you're hot" (but a bit more eloquently) and we got chatting, now we're really good friends. The stars have not yet aligned for a meet but there's no rush If I think of fab as a social arena rather than an all you can eat buffet it takes the pressure off interactions. Chat with people you like, see where it goes. No hurry.

Mrs TMN x

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By *indergirlWoman
over a year ago

somewhere, someplace


"naver understood this, have a go, nothing to loose

I guess its the whole they are so popular or so good looking part that makes you doubt yourself. Almost like you could never see them noticing you.

Being "popular" on the forum doesn't equate to being a goddess. Although some think so "

This! The times I've had the popular, elite, royalty (how the hell they conclude that I don't know) comment in messages I just giggle and reply don't be stupid! I'm the most down to earth person and don't see myself the way others do, ask anyone I talk to on here I couldn't be further from that tag

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By *tingly ByronMan
over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot

See appalling looking profile.

Check biog. Interesting.

Check interests. Same.

Check photos. Very attractive.

Check veris. All mid 30's, gym fit, 6 pack, long hair, big cock.

Yup, out of my league. If she seems to have a "type" and I'm not it, why bother the poor woman.

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By *eah BabyCouple
over a year ago

Cheshire, Windermere ,Cumbria

No because you never know what one person finds attractive in someone

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By *enrydarrenMan
over a year ago

Harrow Weald


"Yep, every day haha"

Same lol

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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Occasionally when I'm feeling a bit crap about myself and how I look (period time), then yes, I think how could this person possibly be interested in me?

And then I give my head a wobble and remember that I'm actually pretty darn epic and I'm intelligent and sporadically witty. And another person isn't better than me or in a different league because they are more conventionally attractive - that's absurd. Besides people are attracted to all sorts and some just happen to like a precocious chubby mixed race woman.

So yes, definitely say fuck it. Talk to people without expectations because you want to. Don't overthink it and do enjoy it.

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon


"naver understood this, have a go, nothing to loose

I guess its the whole they are so popular or so good looking part that makes you doubt yourself. Almost like you could never see them noticing you.

Being "popular" on the forum doesn't equate to being a goddess. Although some think so

This! The times I've had the popular, elite, royalty (how the hell they conclude that I don't know) comment in messages I just giggle and reply don't be stupid! I'm the most down to earth person and don't see myself the way others do, ask anyone I talk to on here I couldn't be further from that tag"

You're a twonk. A popular and elite royal twonk. But I love you.

Now gimme back my crown

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By * Lexi xWoman
over a year ago

stockport

Nope

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

If they are on the hotlist then your issue will be getting your message read as they will tell you they get hundreds of messages a day. So send the message but have no expectation of a reply.

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By *rad670Man
over a year ago

South Lakes

I used to think this all the time and still sometimes do but I have been proven wrong a couple of times recently by just making contact anyway. In my experience on here people who you think are out of your league don't think like that, others who obviously love themselves and put themselves out of everyone's league will be having a very boring time on here.

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By *implynaughty1Couple
over a year ago

stockport

No why would you we are all here for fun and naughty fun you take a chance if it happens ace if not there loss we are all just as good as every one else no one should think otherwise mrs m a##

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes. The people I like are way out of my league. Way, way out.

But that's my lack of self confidence and belief talking.

So I pull on my big girl bra (because pants are not exactly a staple in my life) and I send a message if I want to. If they send a message first I tend to have a minor heart attack and assume they sent it to the wrong person.

And actually.... these people who are way out of my league, some of them thought the same about me. Some of them actually want to meet me.

And a couple of them have given me the absolute best times and most wonderful friends I've ever had.

So my advice, take the chance. Even if it doesn't work out how you want, you'll have done it. I do know that the fear of rejection is horrible, and can make you feel worse, but if they're good people they'll be kind. And if not, screw them."

Awww I want to give you a hug!!! I feel the exact same things some time x so I get you! X

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By *tingly ByronMan
over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot


"naver understood this, have a go, nothing to loose

I guess its the whole they are so popular or so good looking part that makes you doubt yourself. Almost like you could never see them noticing you.

Being "popular" on the forum doesn't equate to being a goddess. Although some think so "

Ain't that the truth.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Confidence, being funny and articulate has served me well when it comes to this.

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By *ersey GirlCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow

not at any point

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By *gent CoulsonMan
over a year ago

Secret hideaway in the pennines

No, I felt like that then a wise person told me you have nothing to lose and everything to gain, if you say something, if it is a negative response, you know where you stand.

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

No because I tend not to meet guys from the forums.

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By *ilverjagMan
over a year ago

swansea


"I can never understand leagues in the swinging world. Natural selection obviously exists when you are considering a long term relationship, although I am told on very good authority that there are a few people on here who are too insecure to want to approach certain people as they may face rejection, and I know for a fact that there are couples on here where the guy won't allow his partner to indulge herself with certain fellas as she might become too attached to him. I've always described swinging as, the grand leveler of all human greatness. It doesn't matter what your station in life is. If you are the chairman of an international corporation, and you can't get it up, then you are poor as a church mouse, and the guy that can repeat is far more loaded so to speak however he gets by in the outside world. Like minded people shouldn't ever feel that they are out of anyone's league.

I'm not sure what any of what you've just posted has to do with leagues to be honest.

Do you just fuck anything with no consideration for attraction? "

Perhaps this is due to your interpretation of what I just posted.

In answer to your second question, no I don't just fuck anything because I can afford to be selective. Also I mentioned on another thread that the biggest erogenous zone in the human body is the brain, if you don't stimulate that, nothing else is going to happen. Even if a woman looks like she has stepped off the cover of Vogue magazine, if I don't actually fancy her, she has more chance of raising The Titanic, than what makes me smile, as I dry myself down whilst looking in the mirror, after taking a shower. I don't consider leagues to be a measure of physical attraction.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I do, x

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By *stbury DavenportMan
over a year ago

Nottingham

There are loads of women on here who'd never want anything to do with the likes of me. I try anyway, though; nothing ventured, nothing gained.

(Obviously I don't make an approach if I don't fit their criteria. I don't want to bother anyone.)

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

The last time I felt someone was "out of my league" and felt nervous meeting was my last solo meet on 24 November 2013...he's still here!

The last 15 months should have highlighted how short life is: don't waste opportunities, nothing ventured and all that!

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


"Do you ever see someone on here that you really like the look of, get on well with in the forums, but never take that next step because you think they are out of your league and you'd have no chance?

"

If you’re already engaging via the forums, what do you have to lose by asking to meet for a friendly chat over a brew?

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By *sBlueWoman
over a year ago

Up North

Yes

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


"No because I tend not to meet guys from the forums."

I’m so pleased I never use the forums……

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By *urchoicenowCouple
over a year ago

Ashford

Yes we do. Stupid we know but that's how it is. We also get nervous about people with loads of experience

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

I don't really talk to people from the forums, but I don't consider anyone to be out of my league.

Anyone can get desperate enough to fuck a fat bird now and then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not sure ‘out of my league’ is the right sentiment for me, but I do look at a lot of profiles and think they’ll not be interested do gong bother messaging

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds


"No because I tend not to meet guys from the forums.

I’m so pleased I never use the forums…… "

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By *LiamMan
over a year ago

Midlands

I'm champions league anyway

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

If you're saying some people are out of your league, what league do you consider the people you do contact to be in?

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By *ensual-dominant-passionMan
over a year ago

sheffield

Nope not at all.., look at Jay z and Beyoncé lol

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By *gent CoulsonMan
over a year ago

Secret hideaway in the pennines

I have a thing for a certain person on here, it took me ages to pluck up the courage to come out and say something directly. She is absolutely stunning, and yes I did feel I was punching above my weight big style, but I took the plunge, and it turns out she is just a normal person. Due to one thing or another, nothing has come of it, except being a friend and being there if she needs. I respect this woman completely, I admire her strength, and I hope that she will be a friend for life

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Kind of, I never start speaking to people from the forums with the expectation of things going further. I have been surprised with some of the people who have messaged me as I have thought they were far too attractive for me but as we get on so well, I have found it hard to push to meet in case they don't see me in that way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope as there is no leagues on fab

That’s what makes fab so grate is in you can meet people from all walks off life that you wouldn’t normally meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No not really "

You're soooo out of my league

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

Hasn't happened yet. I feel like that feels arrogant to say but it's more that people are just people and we all like different things. The worst they can say is thanks but no thanks and that isn't a reflection on your value, it's just difference in tastes. If they're unpleasant in their rejection then is it someone you would want to meet anyway?

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By *indergirlWoman
over a year ago

somewhere, someplace


"Yes. The people I like are way out of my league. Way, way out.

But that's my lack of self confidence and belief talking.

So I pull on my big girl bra (because pants are not exactly a staple in my life) and I send a message if I want to. If they send a message first I tend to have a minor heart attack and assume they sent it to the wrong person.

And actually.... these people who are way out of my league, some of them thought the same about me. Some of them actually want to meet me.

And a couple of them have given me the absolute best times and most wonderful friends I've ever had.

So my advice, take the chance. Even if it doesn't work out how you want, you'll have done it. I do know that the fear of rejection is horrible, and can make you feel worse, but if they're good people they'll be kind. And if not, screw them."

ps the crown's mine now I licked it

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By *oldyoudown41Man
over a year ago

caledonian

It’s like ground hog day

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon


"Yes. The people I like are way out of my league. Way, way out.

But that's my lack of self confidence and belief talking.

So I pull on my big girl bra (because pants are not exactly a staple in my life) and I send a message if I want to. If they send a message first I tend to have a minor heart attack and assume they sent it to the wrong person.

And actually.... these people who are way out of my league, some of them thought the same about me. Some of them actually want to meet me.

And a couple of them have given me the absolute best times and most wonderful friends I've ever had.

So my advice, take the chance. Even if it doesn't work out how you want, you'll have done it. I do know that the fear of rejection is horrible, and can make you feel worse, but if they're good people they'll be kind. And if not, screw them.

ps the crown's mine now I licked it "

Well if that's how we define ownership....

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

No

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By *urchoicenowCouple
over a year ago

Ashford


"If you're saying some people are out of your league, what league do you consider the people you do contact to be in?

"

We tend not to initiate contact.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fab the only place you can be a 4

And get fucked hard by 10s

Living the dream

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would say everyone, but that won’t stop me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are all different but I wouldnt say we are in different leagues.

Message and see if they bite.

The forum is a good way to build a connection. Just remember to try and stand out. As you know there's a lot of people trying to get noticed.

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

No. The only thing that stops me from wanting or trying to take things further is a lack of mutual interests.

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle

I don’t think in term of leagues, I see it more as a “he wouldn’t be interested in me” kind of thing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I feel every one that like is out of my league, which is why I never msg anyone first..is what it is.

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By *elle xWoman
over a year ago

Doire Theas

I would never look at someone and say they are out of my league but I do look at people and think nah they would never ever be interested in me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Totally...we get messages or winks from couples who look absolutely georgeous with fantastic bodies..I look down at my wobbly bits and know I (mrs) would feel totally inadequate and self conscious if we ever met face to face so don't engage with them. I would hate for someone to meet us and feel dissappointed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I feel every one that like is out of my league, which is why I never msg anyone first..is what it is."

Seriously with a body like that at 50????

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, I'm quite confident in myself. I'm not a stereotypical 'classic' male but I'm amazing in my own way.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

We don't fit with people's criteria on age, preferences etc so we're not compatible with some we find attractive. It doesn't make them out of our league though. We wouldn't meet people we didn't personally find attractive though but we don't place them in leagues

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By *tew008Man
over a year ago

edinburgh

Don’t really consider myself that desirable, so don’t message.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You shouldn’t feel inadequate or put off to put yourself out there. People have many attractions to people it’s not always about looks.

A turn on for a stunning person might be the other persons mind or the turn on for a average person might be someone who is their complete opposite. Yes looks are the first thing you see but when you use your other attributes such as hood conversation or a personality clash then these are the deciding factors….

Take the plunge

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By *VineMan
over a year ago

The right place

I am in a league of my own!

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

I used to think i was invisible to women so it was never about leagues and more about visibility.

Now I know I'm not but I view everyone as equals and don't put anyone on a pedestal.

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By *Marvel-Man
over a year ago

In The Gym

Yes. When I know someone's going to be mega popular I don't bother. As your message will be within thousands. So the chance of it being read is slim to none.

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By *ixedDevilMan
over a year ago

Bootyville

Nope. I'm confident in the way I look. If I see something I like, i'll go for it and i'll try get it..

The worst possible outcome is being rejected. But seriously who cares?

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By *estcountryDadBodMan
over a year ago

Exeter

Almost hourly

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds


"I feel every one that like is out of my league, which is why I never msg anyone first..is what it is."

You are kidding??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I have felt that way. But I shot my shot anyway and I always would if I was interested in someone. What's the worst thay could happen? They say no and hurt my ego? Oh well! At least I tried.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I feel every one that like is out of my league, which is why I never msg anyone first..is what it is.

You are kidding??"

Not at all. Haven't seen my face I could be really ugly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Said it once and I'm saying it again

Poor judgement will always lead to disappointment

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get more disappointed when someone is clearly in my league but doesn't read my message (yes I know you get millions, so I don't hate you for it) X

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds


"I feel every one that like is out of my league, which is why I never msg anyone first..is what it is.

You are kidding??

Not at all. Haven't seen my face I could be really ugly "

It's not all about looks

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By *olly4Woman
over a year ago

Newcastle

Nope, don't believe in leagues. Better to ask than to wonder what if.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I feel every one that like is out of my league, which is why I never msg anyone first..is what it is.

Seriously with a body like that at 50????

"

Just good genetics, plenty of great bodies on here much better

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Nope, don't believe in leagues. Better to ask than to wonder what if."

Absolutely

I swear by living this way

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

Nothing ventured, nothing gained …

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I feel every one that like is out of my league, which is why I never msg anyone first..is what it is.

You are kidding??

Not at all. Haven't seen my face I could be really ugly "

I agree with your statement about not messaging.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No. If I like I message. Eventually.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No. If I like I message. Eventually. "

Sometimes I'm just waiting for a good reason..

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales


"Do you ever see someone on here that you really like the look of, get on well with in the forums, but never take that next step because you think they are out of your league and you'd have no chance?

"

Yes, but I know my limitations. I’m a people watcher and you can usually tell who someone has their eye on.

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By *gent CoulsonMan
over a year ago

Secret hideaway in the pennines

There really isn't such a thing as leagues, there are just people who attract more attention than others, there are groups in the forums who know each other well, and it's those that stand out more, strip away the banter and they are just normal people

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By *ougie321Man
over a year ago

Milford Haven

A league is for winning also promotion, always been a winner myself. Suppose a lot of relegated guys on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I would never look at someone and say they are out of my league but I do look at people and think nah they would never ever be interested in me "

Are you joking

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By *ocothumpaMan
over a year ago

Herts


"Do you ever see someone on here that you really like the look of, get on well with in the forums, but never take that next step because you think they are out of your league and you'd have no chance?

You're a long time dead my friend, just ask them, trying never hurt anyone."

Soo true. In the 90s meet this girl..stunning I was dumbstruck…she was a bit flaky but we ended up having some typical teenage fun. Next time I saw her she was presenting a TV Show.

I get turned down more by those who are “in my league “ than those “out of my league” and I’m Division One!

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By *inger_SnapWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

No such thing as leagues, we're all just people

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By *tew008Man
over a year ago

edinburgh


"I would never look at someone and say they are out of my league but I do look at people and think nah they would never ever be interested in me "

same, don’t really look at it in leagues but I’d never message you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is exactly what it is criteria that people put on their bio puts people off engagement.

I was talking about this the other day on another forum what people put on the bio may not actually be what they are looking for.

That's why I dont put size, colour/race or turn off on my bio. Because tbh it's about both physical and mental combined. Some one may like super hot but cant hold a convo. Where someone maybe a average looking woman but has a really deep mind that i connect with.

Never say never.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No. Nobody is out of my league. I'm just out of their preferences, or vice versa. I'll never think that someone is too good for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love when a women feels that she is out of my league, then I fuck her in ways no man ever has

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Plenty of people here are out of ours

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

I did a one point but after attracting some very beautiful ladies I no longer believe in leagues

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By *indergirlWoman
over a year ago

somewhere, someplace


"I would never look at someone and say they are out of my league but I do look at people and think nah they would never ever be interested in me "

This!

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By *LiamMan
over a year ago

Midlands


"Fab the only place you can be a 4

And get fucked hard by 10s

Living the dream "
dream chaser

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Fab the only place you can be a 4

And get fucked hard by 10s

Living the dream dream chaser "

More a dream maker

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By *.R.MMan
over a year ago

Norfolk

Yes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes.

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By *r naughty1Man
over a year ago

Bexley

Gotta aim high sometimes right

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No not really

You're soooo out of my league "

Shush you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No not really

You're soooo out of my league

Shush you "

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By *orbidden eastMan
over a year ago

london dodging electric scooters

Yes indeed but this is not the Euros. I play in the World Cup so need no need for leagues

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is not a brag, but encouragement for others ...

I am seeing someone who has often been described by others as "out of their league".

So how did I do it? I tried. As they say, nothing ventured, nothing gained. If you give up before you start, then you've lost already. Have a go. You may get rejected. It's not anything personal. Take the view: some will, some won't, so what, next!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My league is the SPFL i'm miles away!!!

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By *reya73Woman
over a year ago

Whitley Bay

Hmm possibly.. For me it's mostly that they are out of reach.. As in too far away.

But the way I see it is really there's no such thing. We're all worthy of love and attraction.

AND

what if the 'out of league' people are missing out! It's like deciding for them before anyone has even had a chance to make their own choice!

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham

I'd be lying if I said no. I don't tend to think in terms of leagues, just that they wouldn't me interested in little old me.

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By *.R.MMan
over a year ago

Norfolk

I have actual been told this, that I am out of their league

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By *rMrsBrightsideCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle

Yes and even if they do message me then I still don’t believe they are actually interested in me.

Kx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do see some as out of my league, but there's also the old joke that the boy who puts a girl on a pedestal doesn't knock her off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well Ginge is Premeier league while I'm more mid table National League South, but I'm currently holding my own and it looks like a cupupset is on the cards

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By *akjourneyMan
over a year ago

Weston

I did this once on a dating app and we ended up together for 4mths.

Crazy thing was we both thought we had punched to high!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What if the people that regarded as out of peoples leagues don't get messages and don't well and wonder what they're doing wrong?????

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As regards the " out of your league " thinking...never let that decision be yours...if they dont reply etc..then they've made that decision...sometimes the lady you deem way outta your league could be the most boring unimaginative sexual meet ever.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not being conceited but I don't think any women is "out of my league", nor do I think anybody is for anybody else.

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By *ave1963MexboroughMan
over a year ago

Mexborough

I thought that when I first started swinging many years ago. Then one evening when I was at a party with my then girlfriend, a lady who I would have considered to be out of my league came over and mounted me!

It taught me a valuable lesson that attraction is about more than looks.

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By *asilyled1Man
over a year ago

ogmore valley

No one is out of my league whether they think they’re better than me or not enough. If a woman thinks she’s too good for me without getting to know me then I’m quite happy for her to pass me by.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not out of my league - I'm too funny for that.

But I've thought some people I'm attracted to, wouldn't be attracted to me. So I just, do nothing

Prime example last weekend at a club, I ran into someone on my hotlist - we chatted a lot and got on well. I dont make the first most because I'm too chicken if I'm not 100% sure and, as I didn't know what his face looked like, I didn't know it was him. Wasn't until the next day he messaged and I genuinely face palmed.

Oops.

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

Naaaaah.

I'm premier league.

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By *B69Woman
over a year ago

Wiltshire

I don’t think there are leagues but I do over think things if I get a message from a very good looking man

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough


"I don’t think there are leagues but I do over think things if I get a message from a very good looking man"

Sorry, I won't do it again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, I usually tell them, at some point... I either make a friend or an arse out of meself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have done, but more so because we’re friends too. If I didn’t know the person I probably would just go for it

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Interesting points of view

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I feel every one that like is out of my league, which is why I never msg anyone first..is what it is.

Seriously with a body like that at 50????

Just good genetics, plenty of great bodies on here much better"

Very true

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By *inkylipsWoman
over a year ago

Debauchery

All the time, even some people who message me especially couples I’m like there is no way I’m in the same league especially in the flesh. This is why I like to chat first before I see a face pic

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"All the time, even some people who message me especially couples I’m like there is no way I’m in the same league especially in the flesh. This is why I like to chat first before I see a face pic "

You are one of the most beautiful women I've seen on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"All the time, even some people who message me especially couples I’m like there is no way I’m in the same league especially in the flesh. This is why I like to chat first before I see a face pic

You are one of the most beautiful women I've seen on here. "

This, I imagine more people think they are out of your league.

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By *ucidBreezeMan
over a year ago

rdg

Oh definitely. Most of the time you already know they won't give you the time of day. But I feel that also might be an age thing. Could be wrong...is it just me????

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"All the time, even some people who message me especially couples I’m like there is no way I’m in the same league especially in the flesh. This is why I like to chat first before I see a face pic "

I understand this feeling, especially couples who message. I look at the wife and she's loads hotter than me, then wonder why the husband is wanting to downgrade?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"All the time, even some people who message me especially couples I’m like there is no way I’m in the same league especially in the flesh. This is why I like to chat first before I see a face pic

I understand this feeling, especially couples who message. I look at the wife and she's loads hotter than me, then wonder why the husband is wanting to downgrade? "

Because kitty

Looks ain't everything

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"All the time, even some people who message me especially couples I’m like there is no way I’m in the same league especially in the flesh. This is why I like to chat first before I see a face pic

I understand this feeling, especially couples who message. I look at the wife and she's loads hotter than me, then wonder why the husband is wanting to downgrade? "

You always play yourself down kitty.

God knows why girl

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A friend on here told me once that “leagues are for football and have nothing to do with attraction.”

I’ve taken that thought and lived by it since. X

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By *ucidBreezeMan
over a year ago

rdg


"All the time, even some people who message me especially couples I’m like there is no way I’m in the same league especially in the flesh. This is why I like to chat first before I see a face pic

I understand this feeling, especially couples who message. I look at the wife and she's loads hotter than me, then wonder why the husband is wanting to downgrade? "

Looks are the least of it. In my opinion it's more being on the same wavelength

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Oh definitely. Most of the time you already know they won't give you the time of day. But I feel that also might be an age thing. Could be wrong...is it just me????"

I disagree majority of women iv been with where intact these women you'd think wouldn't give me a second glance

Blowing there minds sexually was a delight

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