FabSwingers.com forum: Have i done something

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Not entirely fussed on the matter as i have a million more important things going on than using this site, but i'm a little confused

I've had this for about 6 months now and i haven't recieved a single message, or a reply, now understandably us males can come across a bit of a shady bunch, not all of us but a large number tend to make all of us look a bunch of dicks haha, but do dudes ever get sent a message first? If not, what am i doing wrong? How can i step my game up?

Much appreciated

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By *ememberTheNameMan
over a year ago

barnsley

"Not entirely fussed on the matter as i have a million more important things going on than using this site, but i'm a little confused

Much appreciated"

Advice from another Male ....

Put some personality into it

I haven’t read the dictionary

but imagine it’s a boring read I’m not putting you down but the dictionary would be more appealing so far .

Mix it up drop a few one line jokes and it only says what you’re looking for not what you bring to the party

I don’t mean like jelly and ice cream I mean like what can you offer a lady or couple

Hope you take this light heartedly and your luck changes

All the breast

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

Not being entirely fussed could be part of your problem if your profile and messages project a similar attitude.

You get out what you put in and saying that other guys ruin it for the rest of us is a lazy way of saying it's someone else's fault.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Not entirely fussed on the matter as i have a million more important things going on than using this site, but i'm a little confused

Much appreciated

Advice from another Male ....

Put some personality into it

I haven’t read the dictionary

but imagine it’s a boring read I’m not putting you down but the dictionary would be more appealing so far .

Mix it up drop a few one line jokes and it only says what you’re looking for not what you bring to the party

I don’t mean like jelly and ice cream I mean like what can you offer a lady or couple

Hope you take this light heartedly and your luck changes

All the breast

This is worded perfectly and helps a lot, thanks bud!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

as said above, you get out what you put in

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I didn't and don't find it easy or successful with messages on here but since men are extremely small fish in a very large pond you've got to persevere and must, must read people's profile thoroughly.

Good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

dress up like a woman; your 'who looked at me' will go through the fuckin' roof!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"dress up like a woman; your 'who looked at me' will go through the fuckin' roof!

must try this!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"dress up like a woman; your 'who looked at me' will go through the fuckin' roof!

must try this!"

Oh I did so Giggle

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"dress up like a woman; your 'who looked at me' will go through the fuckin' roof!

It also shows you have a sense of humour!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Firstly your age (too young by miles, for us)

Then the first thing we see "420 friendly".

Instant no thank you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

With the age range you are looking for wouldn't you have more luck on T inder?

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By *rivervaderMan
over a year ago

bolton

"Firstly your age (too young by miles, for us)

Then the first thing we see "420 friendly".

Instant no thank you.

I have the same problem I’m old and not into 420

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By *viatrixWoman
over a year ago

Redhill

I think that in 3 years I have messaged about 3 guys first. I just don’t have to...

Men who just sit there waiting for a first message are in for a long wait... bring a drink and a magazine..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm awful at striking up conversation so had no success on here. I then started joining in the forums and relaxing more. From 1 thread I was active on, I messaged one person and another messaged me. I am unlikely to meet either because of distance but we chat a lot. Just be you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Totally agree. There will be very few females and couples who are going to have the need or time to look at and message guys unless they are looking for something very specific. Your going to have to do the hard work. Work on the profile make it show your personality and wants and if you message make sure it shows you are interested in the person you are messaging. Also dont take any no replies to heart. Everyone is allowed to be selfish on here and wait for what they want. Good luck.

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By *r easy1981Man
over a year ago

leeds

My profile is not that good I am not to good with words I am more of a people person get your self to the clubs men seem to do a lot better there

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By *orkshrCplCouple
over a year ago

Ripon

"Not entirely fussed on the matter as i have a million more important things going on than using this site, but i'm a little confused

Much appreciated"

The 420 friendly is an instant no from us. Wouldn't read further

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"dress up like a woman; your 'who looked at me' will go through the fuckin' roof!

This actually made me giggle, I didn't notice it was you at all!!

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By *ust RachelTV/TS
over a year ago

Crawley Down

"Firstly your age (too young by miles, for us)

Then the first thing we see "420 friendly".

Instant no thank you.

Some people block profiles with that on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Certain things are off putting... The 420 friendly title. The "I didn't fuck around in college so I need to catch up" comment, jeez that's off putting. And also the "kinky shit" - makes you sound like you've no idea.

Just a few tips x

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

"Certain things are off putting... The 420 friendly title. The "I didn't fuck around in college so I need to catch up" comment, jeez that's off putting. And also the "kinky shit" - makes you sound like you've no idea.

Just a few tips x"

And the fact that most of that has been added since starting this thread

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"dress up like a woman; your 'who looked at me' will go through the fuckin' roof!

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

choosing the wrong women to message?

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

Personally i need to see more photos and wouldn't anyways as I don't like meeting smokers

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By *itsAndTangentsCouple
over a year ago

Plymouth

Key for us is being a bit different and imaginative with it.

We like a profile that stands out as the effort put into it generally tends to translate well into actual conversation with that person.

A boring profile tends to lead to a boring conversation

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To me you sound as young as your age. Sex, drugs, parties......

Nothing wrong with that, its just not what I seek.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"To me you sound as young as your age. Sex, drugs, parties......

Nothing wrong with that, its just not what I seek."

I thought the same his profile sounds like a proper youngster, but then his age range is up to 30 so maybe appropriate for some his own age I guess

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Think you need to put more effort in with your profile plus 420 will put most off

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Understandably some of you are a little older, different things work for different people, i can only respect that, thanks for the feedback, whether it was condescending or not, it helped

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"To me you sound as young as your age. Sex, drugs, parties......

Nothing wrong with that, its just not what I seek.

I thought the same his profile sounds like a proper youngster, but then his age range is up to 30 so maybe appropriate for some his own age I guess"

Oh yes, it wasn't a criticism, just how it read to me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"dress up like a woman; your 'who looked at me' will go through the fuckin' roof!

I fucking love this, nearly made me spit out my porridge ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You also are not verified or don’t pay and some people set filters for this to filter out the time wasters

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"dress up like a woman; your 'who looked at me' will go through the fuckin' roof!

I fucking love this, nearly made me spit out my porridge ?? "

Can't be wasting porridge!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And then he was gone…. Poooof like smoke

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You lot scared him off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Make sure you completely read profiles and see if you have similar interests and mindset as the people your contacting, also remember how many massages they receive, couples and single ladies mailboxes must be mind numbing to read sometimes we either stand out or just blend in unfortunately. Spend more time on the forums and you’ll soon connect with decent people if your a decent bloke

Good luck OP

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"dress up like a woman; your 'who looked at me' will go through the fuckin' roof!

I fucking love this, nearly made me spit out my porridge ??

Can't be wasting porridge!!!

I know, I did say nearly so didn't waste.

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By *gent CoulsonMan
over a year ago

Secret hideaway in the pennines

I get that you are a young man, but in truth from a competing single guys perspective, it's pretty bland, it doesn't really say who you are, you choice of words and phrases don't really set you apart from anyone else, it doesn't zing, there is no spark if creativity or personality

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"dress up like a woman; your 'who looked at me' will go through the fuckin' roof!

That stament is so true lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"And then he was gone…. Poooof like smoke "

UNLOS?

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By *gent CoulsonMan
over a year ago

Secret hideaway in the pennines

"And then he was gone…. Poooof like smoke

UNLOS?"
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By *ojobinksMan
over a year ago

swindon

It’s definitely difficult but as a lot say there’s a lot of guys on here so you will just have to bide your time and just have fun and message the right ones and I’m sure your luck will change, just think positive and you will find one x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Understandably some of you are a little older, different things work for different people, i can only respect that, thanks for the feedback, whether it was condescending or not, it helped

It helped? Does that mean you have had a reply already?

There are those on here who will get your vibe completely and you'll be exactly what they are looking for; it takes time and a little bit of effort reading through profiles and identifying a similar mind set. You'll get a feel of who is more likely to respond and what type of message will work for them. Luckily, most profiles dictate in varying forms of eloquence, what they expect in a message

Failing that, try cuckold evenings at a club. Dress to impress and bring your best chat focusing on the couples and females without falling into the budding up with the other single men trap and coming across as lads lads lads.

You'll meet people and build up a reputation and hopefully some flattering verifications; whether that's a good or bad one is up to you

The very best of luck

Elle x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All the kind souls still spilling in but he has done a runner

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"And then he was gone…. Poooof like smoke

UNLOS? user no longer on site"

I knew what it meant but it’s funny that he’s gone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Must of arranged a meet and be about due to turn up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"And then he was gone…. Poooof like smoke "

He'll reappear like a phoenix rising from the ashes...and dressed like a woman

Elle x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Understandably some of you are a little older, different things work for different people, i can only respect that, thanks for the feedback, whether it was condescending or not, it helped

It helped? Does that mean you have had a reply already?

You'll meet people and build up a reputation and hopefully some flattering verifications; whether that's a good or bad one is up to you

The very best of luck

Elle x "

...and he's gone. I'll copy and paste this into notes and save it for the next one

Elle x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Must of arranged a meet and be about due to turn up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"And then he was gone…. Poooof like smoke

He'll reappear like a phoenix rising from the ashes...and dressed like a woman

Elle x"

Haha yes Elle, may even come back with a partner who is never available as she is out collecting money trees :p xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"And then he was gone…. Poooof like smoke

He'll reappear like a phoenix rising from the ashes...and dressed like a woman

Elle x

Haha yes Elle, may even come back with a partner who is never available as she is out collecting money trees :p xx"

Hahaha most certainly x

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