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By *urlyCatz OP   Woman
over a year ago

Blackpool

Any ideas would be gratefully received. When the happy pills no longer make you happy and you can't see your way out and you have no one to talk to and nowhere to go. Answers on a postcard please

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By *lassy_but_sassyWoman
over a year ago

Birmingham

Talk to us, are you ok? My inbox is open xx

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By *ofdiamondsMan
over a year ago

Coningsby

We all have bad days hun. I had a big wobble a few months ago so upped my dose and opened up to a few mates. All OK now.

If you want to chat I'm more than happy to help x

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By *ecadent_DevonMan
over a year ago

Okehampton

There are many ways to deal with sorrow OP, however you must find the right one for you as your context is unique to you.

But….. to overcome anything in this life you must first try to understand what it is that takes you to the foot of that mountain. We can only make things right, when we accept or change the things that make it wrong.

Good luck, but the answer to your sorrow always lies within and not without. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Happy pills work best in combination with a good therapist. One withou8t the other only really tackles half of it. x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

....plus what decandant says obviously. x

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By *izzy.miss.lizzyCouple
over a year ago

Pembrokeshire


"Any ideas would be gratefully received. When the happy pills no longer make you happy and you can't see your way out and you have no one to talk to and nowhere to go. Answers on a postcard please"

Always here for non-judgemental chats if you would like.

Hope you are gonna feel better soon xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s great that you’re here. It’s great that you’re reaching out and it’s amazing to see people offering help but please, please speak to a professional too.

We’ll help all we can but nothing can’t beat someone who trained in this and above all , you are needed and wanted even if you can’t see it right now xx

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By *urlyCatz OP   Woman
over a year ago

Blackpool


"Happy pills work best in combination with a good therapist. One withou8t the other only really tackles half of it. x "

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By *gent CoulsonMan
over a year ago

Secret hideaway in the pennines


"Any ideas would be gratefully received. When the happy pills no longer make you happy and you can't see your way out and you have no one to talk to and nowhere to go. Answers on a postcard please"
if you want to chat, I'm happy to listen. I have been through some dark moments this year, even with the happy pills. Worst mistake I made was not talking to anyone, and just bottling it up. Drop me a PM if you want to

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By *oldyoudown41Man
over a year ago

caledonian

Definitely talk to someone even if it’s a total stranger

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By *inger_SnapWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

Depends on the cause of the problem, I was wrongly told chemical imbalance for years, was actually vitamin deficiency! If you have any questions about that, please pm me.

I follow a very simple protocol of supplements now and feel so much better.

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

Can you access talking therapy via your dr or work?

Also Dr to see if meds need tweaking/changing.

Samaritans are there 24/7 if you need to vent.

MIND website has easy to read info/signposting and support groups/blogs from people in similar situations.

Crisis team at your local hospital if things feel really bleak.

Hug of support to you OP.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Samaritans, they really do listen x

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By *rMojoRisinMan
over a year ago

Sheffield

Mental health drugs aren’t a cure, they’re used to suppress the symptoms and, hopefully to help you have the headspace to deal with the underlying issues causing said symptoms.

Therapy, therapeutic relationship, friendships, meaningful activity, these are the things that really get you on the road to recovery.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Mental health drugs aren’t a cure, they’re used to suppress the symptoms and, hopefully to help you have the headspace to deal with the underlying issues causing said symptoms.

Therapy, therapeutic relationship, friendships, meaningful activity, these are the things that really get you on the road to recovery. "

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One day at a time, focus on today.

Do something small but nice for yourself, go for a walk, have a bath, listen to some music (something you like)

Talk to someone, a stranger or therapist where’s there’s no judgment or involvement

Tomorrow is a new day

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Talking to a stranger or a friend, or anyone will help dont keep it bottled up inside. My inbox is always open if you wish to unload x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Messaged x

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By *rivervaderMan
over a year ago

bolton


"Any ideas would be gratefully received. When the happy pills no longer make you happy and you can't see your way out and you have no one to talk to and nowhere to go. Answers on a postcard please"

I’m to chat if u like never give up hope there is always somebody there for you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Any ideas would be gratefully received. When the happy pills no longer make you happy and you can't see your way out and you have no one to talk to and nowhere to go. Answers on a postcard please"

Talking has helped me in the past, even to strangers sometimes and just take small steps maybe…good luck

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By *immyinreadingMan
over a year ago

henley on thames


"Any ideas would be gratefully received. When the happy pills no longer make you happy and you can't see your way out and you have no one to talk to and nowhere to go. Answers on a postcard please"

It’s hard to see clearly when you are not in a good place. When you dig your way out and look back it’s easy to see an easier road to recovery but when you’re in the middle of it it’s hard to see two feet in front of you.

But your own realisation that things aren’t going well is actually a positive step.

Lots of people on here will listen and support, share our own experiences etc, we are just well-meaning amateurs but if it helps to share or to ask questions fire ahead.

But as several people have said, start speaking to a professional. Just do it! Not tomorrow, do something about it today.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Been there, done that. One thing I definitely DON'T recommend is crawling to the bottom of a bottle. I did and. It took me seven years, one divorce and the love of a truly amazing man to get me out.. Approaching three years sober.

Youve made the most important step.. You've identified you have a problem. That's the biggy. Now, "simply" follow through. Piece of paper and attack it like any other problem. Write done the problem and list solutions. Professional help, talking to strangers, nothing is off the table. Hell, I had a friend that was close to the "ultimate" solution... She's now a motivational speaker.. You've done the hardest part. Admitting things aren't right. Now get out there, flip this upside down and own it. Use it for good.

Our Inbox is always open to talk.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Any ideas would be gratefully received. When the happy pills no longer make you happy and you can't see your way out and you have no one to talk to and nowhere to go. Answers on a postcard please"

I don't have a postcard or any answers but you do have people you can talk to, my inbox is open anytime, no matter how it may feel right now you're not alone. You can also have a massive hug from me (((())))

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Did anyone hear from the OP?? Am a little worried about her x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Happy pills are only a temporary fix op, speak to those around you along with a doctor etc

Hope your feeling better soon

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

I know it sounds like a joke when you're low but good nutrition, hydration, plenty of sleep, as much excercise as you can manage, relaxation techniques, etc. Omega 3 is really great for the brain and the brain literally needs to recover. It's certainly not a quick fix or the ultimate solution to all your problems but slowly over time it can be really important alongside everything else in my experience. Don't be ashamed to "cheat" on the nutrition aspect if you're not up for cooking. I know it can be expensive but it's okay to buy premade or preprepared if it helps you eat better and as you get more energy over time you can increase how much work goes into the food but don't worry about that too soon. If you're starting off with dried fruit, nuts and babybels as food to pick on as that's all you're up to that's okay if the alternative is you either don't eat or eat foods that provide poor nutrition.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe go to dr and try a different medication, a lot of it is trial and error and sometimes it can take years to find the right type and dosage, it cam

Make all the difference x as others have said the basics, diet excercise, social interaction etc, but ironically they are the last thing we care about when we’re in that dark hole. Catch 22, hope the phase passes soon for you xx

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By *urlyCatz OP   Woman
over a year ago

Blackpool

Thanks all for replying, truly, thanks. Some people just don't deserve it, that's me. Sorry

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough


"Thanks all for replying, truly, thanks. Some people just don't deserve it, that's me. Sorry"

Are you feeling any better now?

PM me if you want to chat. (Just chat).

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan
over a year ago

Den of Iniquity


"Thanks all for replying, truly, thanks. Some people just don't deserve it, that's me. Sorry"

Will you stop saying you don't deserve it , you're an ace gal and you know I'm here

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By *izzy.miss.lizzyCouple
over a year ago

Pembrokeshire


"Thanks all for replying, truly, thanks. Some people just don't deserve it, that's me. Sorry"

No need to apologize.

Just hope you feel better xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thanks all for replying, truly, thanks. Some people just don't deserve it, that's me. Sorry"

Yes you do, you dont have to earn compassion, most will give it freely, recieving it can be harder. I'm sure you have given support now it's time to reveive it. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thanks all for replying, truly, thanks. Some people just don't deserve it, that's me. Sorry"

We are all worthy, but sometimes we have to let ourselves be helped x

You are not alone OP and you don't have to do this all by yourself x

There are some really good suggestions above - if you need help to talk them through or consider them I'm available to chat

Midnight x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm where you are. Don't ask me though, I'm using really unhealthy coping mechanisms to survive each day.

My inbox is open to you *hugs*

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You know a great way of looking at this is to imagine your friend has reached out for advice - what would you say to them?

Now treat yourself with the same respect, care and compassion

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By *ooo wet tight hornyWoman
over a year ago

lancashire


"Any ideas would be gratefully received. When the happy pills no longer make you happy and you can't see your way out and you have no one to talk to and nowhere to go. Answers on a postcard please"

Remember there are always people to chat to and listen on here...take each day by day...always remember when you are having good days then have a bad day then that bad day will feel worst...I live in your area so pm me if you wanna catch up or just even chat via here...Big hugs OP..you done well reaching out.

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