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By *r easy1981 OP   Man
over a year ago

leeds

I seem to do a lot better in clubs than I do on here don’t get it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You don't get why peoples barriers are down at clubs than on here?

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By *heekyFlirtyCoupleCouple
over a year ago

Stockport

Yep. We don’t often talk to single guys on here as we prefer meeting couples. And although we don’t play with single guys in clubs we always chat to them while at the bar etc as we like the social side of swinging. Easier to chat to people face to face than start a conversation that isn’t going anywhere on here!

Mrs J x

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By *r easy1981 OP   Man
over a year ago

leeds


"You don't get why peoples barriers are down at clubs than on here?

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ok I get your point lol

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By *r easy1981 OP   Man
over a year ago

leeds


"Yep. We don’t often talk to single guys on here as we prefer meeting couples. And although we don’t play with single guys in clubs we always chat to them while at the bar etc as we like the social side of swinging. Easier to chat to people face to face than start a conversation that isn’t going anywhere on here!

Mrs J x"
face to face is much better

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

in a club you dont tend to get so many dreamers like on here, its easy to be a swinger from behind a keyboard, going to a club requires effort

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

May I just say - one of your verifications express that your pictures don't do you justice.

Have you ever considered showcasing different styles of pics - other than the seated position with cap?

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By *r easy1981 OP   Man
over a year ago

leeds


"in a club you dont tend to get so many dreamers like on here, its easy to be a swinger from behind a keyboard, going to a club requires effort"
very true

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By *r easy1981 OP   Man
over a year ago

leeds


"May I just say - one of your verifications express that your pictures don't do you justice.

Have you ever considered showcasing different styles of pics - other than the seated position with cap?"
I know just find them easy

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By *stbury DavenportMan
over a year ago

Nottingham


"I seem to do a lot better in clubs than I do on here don’t get it"

I'm the same. In clubs, I punch well above my weight. On here, I'm invisible.

This initially puzzled me; I'm way more eloquent, concise and expressive in writing than I am in person.

After I thought about it for a bit, though, it started to make sense. On here, there's no way to tell a serious and reliable partner from all the liars, chancers and fantasists. They don't usually go to clubs, though, so by getting off my arse and putting myself out there, I'm immediately cutting out all that noise in a way that's just not possible online.

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By *r easy1981 OP   Man
over a year ago

leeds


"I seem to do a lot better in clubs than I do on here don’t get it

I'm the same. In clubs, I punch well above my weight. On here, I'm invisible.

This initially puzzled me; I'm way more eloquent, concise and expressive in writing than I am in person.

I get it it’s very hard for men on here to I do understand why there is a lot of them that give us a bad name

After I thought about it for a bit, though, it started to make sense. On here, there's no way to tell a serious and reliable partner from all the liars, chancers and fantasists. They don't usually go to clubs, though, so by getting off my arse and putting myself out there, I'm immediately cutting out all that noise in a way that's just not possible online.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

also since lockdown, there are alot more people on here, all looking for instshag, so now clubs are opening it seperates those that want to from those that think they want to, i see sites like ttthis becoming more about keeping intouch with people, not so much meeting like before

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By *stbury DavenportMan
over a year ago

Nottingham


"also since lockdown, there are alot more people on here, all looking for instshag, so now clubs are opening it seperates those that want to from those that think they want to, i see sites like ttthis becoming more about keeping intouch with people, not so much meeting like before"

This has been true the whole time I've been on here. People think Fab is non-monogamous Tinder, when it's really Facebook for people who go swinging. It's a social network, not a matching app.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Horses for courses. Bigger and different range of competition here and different amounts and types of effort required.

A single man here must generally follow the key tips of profile content design and effort input, as well as investment of lots of effort to get established here, typically taking a year or more during healthy times. Some people are better at online interaction.

You now have all the thousands of men who started during the last 18 months, competing with you, whilst many people are still cautious of meeting. Having appropriate expectations in important as is attention on the right things that will almost certainly be needed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I seem to do a lot better in clubs than I do on here don’t get it

I'm the same. In clubs, I punch well above my weight. On here, I'm invisible.

This initially puzzled me; I'm way more eloquent, concise and expressive in writing than I am in person.

After I thought about it for a bit, though, it started to make sense. On here, there's no way to tell a serious and reliable partner from all the liars, chancers and fantasists. They don't usually go to clubs, though, so by getting off my arse and putting myself out there, I'm immediately cutting out all that noise in a way that's just not possible online.

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I think it’s a lot to do with the fact that there’s too much competition on fab and also, when you meet in clubs people are there to look for sex there and then. So of course you are gonna get some ahah

Last but not least, I think it’s because most people do look better in person as you can see a real person in front of you, the height, how they act, etc.

I always think I’m attracted to a lot more people in person than I am if I see just photos.

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
over a year ago

Coventry

We tend to just use clubs to hook up. At a club there's no messing around. You meet people face to face and soon get an idea if there is attraction and chemistry (not so easy on line). If there is your in a time and space to take it further. If not you can both move on and hopefully all parties something that does work.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In a club you are in close proximity to people that are there to play. If you message someone from half way across the country and do not match what they are looking for then its a non starter.

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

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You’re a good looking fella and I’m sure you can let your personality shine through in a club you could just focus on the clubs if that works best for you OP

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By *den-Valley-coupleCouple
over a year ago

Cumbria


"I seem to do a lot better in clubs than I do on here don’t get it"

80% of people are full of shit club filler that out..

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By *igmaMan
over a year ago

Yorkshire


"You don't get why peoples barriers are down at clubs than on here?

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There can often be too many barriers on here though! Too many to put you off in the other direction.

….but then a chance meeting with the same person in a club environment could lead to a totally different story

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By *aeganaWoman
over a year ago

birmingham

I find I can relax more in a club which I never thought I would say. When I go chams I feel like it's a pub in my undies hehe. Love the more social side of it x

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