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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I’m interested to hear about your boundaries.

Do you struggle to set them, or are you really good at it, and do you have advice.

How are you when other people set boundaries with you, do you find this harder?

They can be physical, verbal, virtual boundaries, in or our of the bedroom, with friends, family or people on here.

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By *ily WhiteWoman
over a year ago

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I'm very clear about my boundaries in all walks of life, and don't struggle to articulate them.

I like to know other people's boundaries, and will ask what they are if they're not forthcoming.

I also understand that there often needs to be compromise if they don't align, and will happily have a conversation to discuss where each of us can amend things so that they are harmonious.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The ideal boundaries are the unspoken ones- a close friend, partner or family member who understands where yours are and vice versa. When you have this, value it !

With more casual relationships (like on Fab?) I think the best advice is to be verbally clear and honest about them from day one. They may still be crossed occasionally by bad timing or misunderstandings but if they're repeatedly crossed then time to say goodbye.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'm very clear about my boundaries in all walks of life, and don't struggle to articulate them.

I like to know other people's boundaries, and will ask what they are if they're not forthcoming.

I also understand that there often needs to be compromise if they don't align, and will happily have a conversation to discuss where each of us can amend things so that they are harmonious. "

That’s great, and so good to have clear communication around them.

What do you do if someone resists boundaries you out in place?

As always, this is an invitation to answer, no need to

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"The ideal boundaries are the unspoken ones- a close friend, partner or family member who understands where yours are and vice versa. When you have this, value it !

With more casual relationships (like on Fab?) I think the best advice is to be verbally clear and honest about them from day one. They may still be crossed occasionally by bad timing or misunderstandings but if they're repeatedly crossed then time to say goodbye."

Perfect. I agree with that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Whatever the context boundaries are really important. It doesn’t mean these have to be rigid but communicating them is key. If boundaries move, or alter within whatever parameters it needs to be discussed with the other.

In sexual terms these can very much depend upon the who, when and where the boundaries are fluid…communication….always comes back to this be it verbal or non verbally…

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By *ancer36Woman
over a year ago

Stirling

Communication and respect are key when outlining boundaries, I have some which are unwavering and that will never change and I have some which with the right person and an open discussion may change. What I don’t deal well with is when someone disrespects my boundaries or almost try’s to force me to discard them when I feel this way it be an automatic end to whatever the arrangement was between us.

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By *ily WhiteWoman
over a year ago

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"I'm very clear about my boundaries in all walks of life, and don't struggle to articulate them.

I like to know other people's boundaries, and will ask what they are if they're not forthcoming.

I also understand that there often needs to be compromise if they don't align, and will happily have a conversation to discuss where each of us can amend things so that they are harmonious.

That’s great, and so good to have clear communication around them.

What do you do if someone resists boundaries you out in place?

As always, this is an invitation to answer, no need to "

To a certain extent it depends on the boundary in question, whether it's hard or more fluid - I have very few hard boundaries, but where they are in play the other people affected will be aware that if they're crossed then I will just walk away and never look back. It's up to them if they choose to cross it or not.

The more fluid ones are fluid for a reason, people and relationships are constantly evolving, to me it's just just about keeping those lines of communication open, understanding what changes are happening and why, and discussing moving boundaries to accommodate those changes.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'm very clear about my boundaries in all walks of life, and don't struggle to articulate them.

I like to know other people's boundaries, and will ask what they are if they're not forthcoming.

I also understand that there often needs to be compromise if they don't align, and will happily have a conversation to discuss where each of us can amend things so that they are harmonious.

That’s great, and so good to have clear communication around them.

What do you do if someone resists boundaries you out in place?

As always, this is an invitation to answer, no need to

To a certain extent it depends on the boundary in question, whether it's hard or more fluid - I have very few hard boundaries, but where they are in play the other people affected will be aware that if they're crossed then I will just walk away and never look back. It's up to them if they choose to cross it or not.

The more fluid ones are fluid for a reason, people and relationships are constantly evolving, to me it's just just about keeping those lines of communication open, understanding what changes are happening and why, and discussing moving boundaries to accommodate those changes. "

Could not agree more with the last paragraph. I love the fluidity of evolving and changing boundaries within the dynamic I have, because I’m secure that I will be listened to and respected.

Respect to you just walking away, I’m still working on my boundaries, and I find it hard at times.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Whatever the context boundaries are really important. It doesn’t mean these have to be rigid but communicating them is key. If boundaries move, or alter within whatever parameters it needs to be discussed with the other.

In sexual terms these can very much depend upon the who, when and where the boundaries are fluid…communication….always comes back to this be it verbal or non verbally… "

I agree, with all of this. Communication is the key isn’t it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Communication and respect are key when outlining boundaries, I have some which are unwavering and that will never change and I have some which with the right person and an open discussion may change. What I don’t deal well with is when someone disrespects my boundaries or almost try’s to force me to discard them when I feel this way it be an automatic end to whatever the arrangement was between us.

X"

Sounds the best way to be

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