FabSwingers.com forum: I make no apoligies!!

By *rivateparts! OP Man
over a year ago

Walking down the only road I've ever known!

I've screwed up as a Man,

as a Father,

as a Boyfriend,

as a Son,

as a Friend,

as a lover,

simply because...

I don't always do or say the "right things".

I have a smart mouth, I have secrets, I have scars , because I have a history and I have lived an amazing , varied, exciting, scary and full life.

Some people love me,

some people like me,

some people might hate me, or not want me around.

I have done good in my life.

I have done bad in my life.

I may even be crazy, random and silly. I may be scared, hurt and messed up , I will not pretend to be someone I am not. I am who I am. You can love me or you can hate me. That's your choice and only yours.

But if I love you, I do it with my whole heart, and I will make no apologies for the way I am. If I do not like you, I promise that you will know that too.

I AM ME... And I will not change it for the world.

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By *annaBeStrongMan
over a year ago

wokingham

Probably the most toxic mindset to come out of the last 5-10 years is this idea of “I’m me and I ain’t changing for no one”

If you’re a shitty person. Change.

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By *awpleasureMan
over a year ago

Sutton Coldfield

I make lots of apologies. I have made mistakes because I'm human!

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan
over a year ago

Den of Iniquity

Well said dude yes.

Me too, I've screwed up in many aspects of life but it's made me who I am now so agreed 100% PP

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By *rivateparts! OP Man
over a year ago

Walking down the only road I've ever known!

"Probably the most toxic mindset to come out of the last 5-10 years is this idea of “I’m me and I ain’t changing for no one”

If you’re a shitty person. Change. "

You just carry on as you are, you're doing a grand job

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Probably the most toxic mindset to come out of the last 5-10 years is this idea of “I’m me and I ain’t changing for no one”

If you’re a shitty person. Change. "

You may now be my favourite person on the Internet

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

We’ve all made mistakes PP, part of being human, important to remember them and learn from them

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By *uffolksubWoman
over a year ago

Brandon

"Probably the most toxic mindset to come out of the last 5-10 years is this idea of “I’m me and I ain’t changing for no one”

If you’re a shitty person. Change.

You may now be my favourite person on the Internet

I was just about to type the same thing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Probably the most toxic mindset to come out of the last 5-10 years is this idea of “I’m me and I ain’t changing for no one”

If you’re a shitty person. Change. "

I appreciate that, shows maturity x

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Probably the most toxic mindset to come out of the last 5-10 years is this idea of “I’m me and I ain’t changing for no one”

If you’re a shitty person. Change. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Probably the most toxic mindset to come out of the last 5-10 years is this idea of “I’m me and I ain’t changing for no one”

If you’re a shitty person. Change. "

Oooof

Wasn't expecting that!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Probably the most toxic mindset to come out of the last 5-10 years is this idea of “I’m me and I ain’t changing for no one”

If you’re a shitty person. Change.

You just carry on as you are, you're doing a grand job

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m me is a good thing… but saying you won’t change for anyone isn’t. I’ve missed being the old me, the one that always helps others and always wants to make people happy, safe and protected. But also the old me never stopped and dealt with my own trauma. It caught up with me recently. 27 years of trauma of losing loved ones, death of friends on military ops. And to many suicides of close friends. So the me I am now is learning to deal with talking to others and not being scared to open up to strangers. I’ve never been a bad person but I’ve been treated as one many times in my military and Private military career always from people who don’t know me. But it doesn’t mean I haven’t hurt people I should have been trying to make happy. So because if that I do want to change for the better.but I will be me again. Just a better one that knows my limits on

Be proud of who you are now PP, accept your faults and learn from them.

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

"I’m me is a good thing… but saying you won’t change for anyone isn’t. I’ve missed being the old me, the one that always helps others and always wants to make people happy, safe and protected. But also the old me never stopped and dealt with my own trauma. It caught up with me recently. 27 years of trauma of losing loved ones, death of friends on military ops. And to many suicides of close friends. So the me I am now is learning to deal with talking to others and not being scared to open up to strangers. I’ve never been a bad person but I’ve been treated as one many times in my military and Private military career always from people who don’t know me. But it doesn’t mean I haven’t hurt people I should have been trying to make happy. So because if that I do want to change for the better.but I will be me again. Just a better one that knows my limits on

Be proud of who you are now PP, accept your faults and learn from them. "

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By *ancer36Woman
over a year ago

Stirling

I am me, I would never change myself to fit in with another persons ideals or requirements I have the maturity to recognise faults within myself and strive to improve them but I’m never going to do that for the benefit of someone else. I’m either accepted as I am, warts and all or not all, I wasn’t made to fit in someone else’s box x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get where you are coming from, I do.

For myself, I can be stubborn in the heat of the moment, but will own my mistakes and appologise when I am wrong. I am a flawed individual, but hopefully (albeit slowly), learn and adapt and improve.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Be proud of who you are now PP, accept your faults and learn from them. "

Great post

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I am me, I would never change myself to fit in with another persons ideals or requirements I have the maturity to recognise faults within myself and strive to improve them but I’m never going to do that for the benefit of someone else. I’m either accepted as I am, warts and all or not all, I wasn’t made to fit in someone else’s box x"

Exactly and you’re an amazing person…

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

if you havnt done anything wrong.

do not apologize.

do not let the mob shout you down because you do not agree with them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Probably the most toxic mindset to come out of the last 5-10 years is this idea of “I’m me and I ain’t changing for no one”

If you’re a shitty person. Change. "

Totally agree

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By *den-Valley-coupleCouple
over a year ago

Cumbria

Like a snake, I like to change my skin every 8 to 10/years so I have room to grow as what can not grow is dead,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Be proud of who you are now PP, accept your faults and learn from them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've recently had a thought process on how I should be after being hurt.

I was considerate, compassionate, thoughtful, helpful and more.

I was being me, being nice , and came out 2nd (possibly 3rd or 4th lol) best to people who turned out to be absolute pricks.

Those instances make you doubt yourself and think , should I just act the way they others did?

But I'll stay as I am, content in the knowledge I wasn't a prick lol

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By *wist my nipplesCouple
over a year ago

North East Scotland, mostly

I think there's a big difference between making changes in your life because you want to, or changing to fit in with others/what you think others want. It's rarely black and white.

I also think self-acceptance, knowing your strengths and weaknesses, is very empowering and I can see that expressed as "I am me". That doesn't make me a good person or a shitty person, because none of us is as straightforward as that. It makes me human.

Mrs TMN x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think there's a big difference between making changes in your life because you want to, or changing to fit in with others/what you think others want. It's rarely black and white.

Mrs TMN x"

Exactly this :l

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm amazing to the people I care about....the rest? That depends on them x

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

"I think there's a big difference between making changes in your life because you want to, or changing to fit in with others/what you think others want. It's rarely black and white.

Mrs TMN x"

I agree.

Far better put than the opening post which seems a bit like a self obsessed live laugh love sort of thing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Screwing up is human.

Learning from mistakes we've made makes us better people.

It's those who think they're never wrong who really have issues.

I'm proud that I am flawed

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

Insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results.

If you are happy with your (FAB) life don’t change.

If you aren’t then change things to improve it.

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By *issyEMWoman
over a year ago

Nearly

You should’ve put that shit in public it make you looks like .... defo nothing to be proud

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Be proud of who you are now PP, accept your faults and learn from them. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I feel like ( online at least, and maybe with family ) that nearly everything I say or do seems to be wrong. For some I can never do anything right, and I'm an awful human being.

However, I know that everything I say comes from a good place even if it's blunt. I try my best to be a kind and supportive human being and that's all I can do.

I have lots of flaws, but nobody is perfect. We are all just a work in progress and there's always aomeone we can learn from.

You've got to accept yourself before anyone else will accept you and that's something im trying to work on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You should’ve put that shit in public it make you looks like .... defo nothing to be proud "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Probably the most toxic mindset to come out of the last 5-10 years is this idea of “I’m me and I ain’t changing for no one”

If you’re a shitty person. Change. "

I don't always agree with things you post but this is spot on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think there's a big difference between making changes in your life because you want to, or changing to fit in with others/what you think others want. It's rarely black and white.

Mrs TMN x"

Yes, and I think this is exactly what the OP was doing. I guess it's the difference between saying "I know I make mistakes and try to be better but this is who I am' and 'I don't care how my behavoir affects others, if they don't like it, tough'

I don't agree with not changing to suit others. If her ladyship told me that there was something I did that upset or hurt her, perhaps made her feel insecure I would absolutely consider changing. It may be a part of me I was unwilling to change and we would need to talk but the option of change would always be there on the table.

Mr.

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

An honest and open post PP.... well done for having the chutzpah to rock it.

For me, I'm just me. I have changed to suit others all my life and it's done nothing but cause me pain, mentally and physically. So these days I don't. I'll be open and honest and speak my mind, and it breaks my heart if that does hurt someone I care for. But for my own sanity I can't be anything but honest with myself and others now.

15 years ago I married a man I didn't love because I didn't have the balls to be honest. I was stuck in that misery for 5 years. And I spent almost 7 of the years since then in an abusive relationship because I didn't have the balls to be honest and ask for support from a friend.

So now, this is me. I'm fiercely loyal to those I love but I'll never not speak my mind again. I can and will change if my behaviour is hurtful, and I'm always open to having a discussion about my behaviour, as without that we cannot always see where we have gone wrong and grow from it. But I won't cower away from my own feelings any more.

Like me or leave me, that's your choice.

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By *_elia DominaTV/TS
over a year ago

Edinburgh (She/Her)

Simples: everyday is a school day.

The key is to listen to what you are being taught and grow as an individual.

Those who don't are left behind.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"An honest and open post PP.... well done for having the chutzpah to rock it.

Like me or leave me, that's your choice."

Good post. I guess there is a fine line between being true to yourself and your values on the one hand and not caring how you affect those around you on the other. Sometimes these ideas can clash too. I walked away from my marriage because she refused to consider change in fact genuinely believed she wasn't able to - an idea I disagreed with as I didn't think our problems were caused by what she thought. In that situation I had spent years trying to accept the status quo for the sake of love and it completely broke us both in the end.

Like you, I have learned that I need to be more open and honest about who I am and what I need but I still would only ever say take me or leave me as a very last resort, not an opening statement.

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"An honest and open post PP.... well done for having the chutzpah to rock it.

Like me or leave me, that's your choice.

Like you, I have learned that I need to be more open and honest about who I am and what I need but I still would only ever say take me or leave me as a very last resort, not an opening statement.

As would I. It is a last resort, and usually a defence mechanism to hide the hurt that someone would walk away.

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By *inkyeroticaCouple
over a year ago

Ampthill

"If you’re a shitty person. Change. "

If everyone adopted this mindset, the world would be much nicer place for everybody!

Well said that man!

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By *wist my nipplesCouple
over a year ago

North East Scotland, mostly

"I think there's a big difference between making changes in your life because you want to, or changing to fit in with others/what you think others want. It's rarely black and white.

Mrs TMN x

Mr.

There is always a balance to strike in a relationship, I take your point. I was meaning when it's all one way. Advocating for your wants and needs isn't selfish, although it sometimes feels that way. Open and reciprocal communication is key. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think of it as "change" as I wouldn't change myself to suit others or fit in. I see it as "evolving". I learn from mistakes and try not to make them again (unless they were fun).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think there's a big difference between making changes in your life because you want to, or changing to fit in with others/what you think others want. It's rarely black and white.

Mrs TMN x

Mr.

It can feel selfish and can be very hard to do when you are used to putting the needs of others first.

Absolutely agree communication is key - real communication that involves listening to each other, not just hearing what we think the other is saying.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think there's a big difference between making changes in your life because you want to, or changing to fit in with others/what you think others want. It's rarely black and white.

Mrs TMN x

I agree.

Far better put than the opening post which seems a bit like a self obsessed live laugh love sort of thing.

I expect it’s one of those you see on Facebook.

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By *aucy tiggerWoman
over a year ago

Back where I belong

We've all made mistakes, we've all done wrong, we're all flawed- it's what makes us human.

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By *iger4uWoman
over a year ago

In my happy place

OP you messed up your spelling too...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Probably the most toxic mindset to come out of the last 5-10 years is this idea of “I’m me and I ain’t changing for no one”

If you’re a shitty person. Change. "

This 100

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Probably the most toxic mindset to come out of the last 5-10 years is this idea of “I’m me and I ain’t changing for no one”

If you’re a shitty person. Change.

You just carry on as you are, you're doing a grand job

I don’t think he was talking about himself.

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town

"OP you messed up your spelling too... "

But I'm not gonna change it for anybody!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Struggling to understand why anyone would be proud of that, these are the exactly people I avoid, life’s to short.

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

For some reason people seem to take pride in being the immovable object in life. It’s not a weakness to recognise that you need to learn things or grow.

We’re all still cookie dough, anyone who says that they’re a complete human is either lying or deluded

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By *uciyassMan
over a year ago

sheffield

Don’t change for no one. Besides I think your alright pp. got a bigger cock than me but hey what am I to do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As my Status.

we are all made from the same clay. just fired in different furnaces

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham

"Probably the most toxic mindset to come out of the last 5-10 years is this idea of “I’m me and I ain’t changing for no one”

If you’re a shitty person. Change. "

Bravo.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If someone is happy within their skin and they're not actually doing anything illegally why should they change?

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

I saw it more as a kind of poem, stating that the person had reached a point in their life when they could see the mistakes they had made but also they know that they are not all bad.

I think they are saying they won't apologise for the whole person that they are but they have recognised where they went wrong.

They are asking to be accepted as a human being with all their faults.

I do not necessarily see that as a shitty person, I am sure there are other people with similar narratives who would not have the balls to acknowledge their faults?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've screwed up as a Man,

as a Father,

as a Boyfriend,

as a Son,

as a Friend,

as a lover,

simply because...

I don't always do or say the "right things".

I have a smart mouth, I have secrets, I have scars , because I have a history and I have lived an amazing , varied, exciting, scary and full life.

Some people love me,

some people like me,

some people might hate me, or not want me around.

I have done good in my life.

I have done bad in my life.

But if I love you, I do it with my whole heart, and I will make no apologies for the way I am. If I do not like you, I promise that you will know that too.

I AM ME... And I will not change it for the world.

You’re a good man pp x

I’ve changed so much in many ways, I’ve been the one that’s been hurt, but everyday I’m healing.

I’m far from perfect, but this is the me that I am now. X

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By *rivateparts! OP Man
over a year ago

Walking down the only road I've ever known!

Glad I found out how cynical some people are on here.

I found it on FB and some of it ring true but not all I'm proud of who I am, yeah I've fucked up and so has everyone one else.

My fault is I give people the benefit of doubt.

You need to get your own house in order before judging other's.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Probably the most toxic mindset to come out of the last 5-10 years is this idea of “I’m me and I ain’t changing for no one”

If you’re a shitty person. Change. "

I concur.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've screwed up as a Man,

as a Father,

as a Boyfriend,

as a Son,

as a Friend,

as a lover,

simply because...

I don't always do or say the "right things".

I have a smart mouth, I have secrets, I have scars , because I have a history and I have lived an amazing , varied, exciting, scary and full life.

Some people love me,

some people like me,

some people might hate me, or not want me around.

I have done good in my life.

I have done bad in my life.

But if I love you, I do it with my whole heart, and I will make no apologies for the way I am. If I do not like you, I promise that you will know that too.

I AM ME... And I will not change it for the world.

You can't be anyone else and you cant grow and learn without experiences and reflection. Wear the scars of life as the markers of growth... me 2021

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

"Glad I found out how cynical some people are on here.

I found it on FB and some of it ring true but not all I'm proud of who I am, yeah I've fucked up and so has everyone one else.

My fault is I give people the benefit of doubt.

You need to get your own house in order before judging other's."

I agree! ANd even then... why would you need to judge other people harshly? What benefit does it offer?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lyrics from Tom macdonald song?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Glad I found out how cynical some people are on here.

I found it on FB and some of it ring true but not all I'm proud of who I am, yeah I've fucked up and so has everyone one else.

My fault is I give people the benefit of doubt.

You need to get your own house in order before judging other's.

I agree! ANd even then... why would you need to judge other people harshly? What benefit does it offer? "

It’s in others people’s benefit to judge others harshly to make themselves feel taller sad but true.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I saw it more as a kind of poem, stating that the person had reached a point in their life when they could see the mistakes they had made but also they know that they are not all bad.

I think they are saying they won't apologise for the whole person that they are but they have recognised where they went wrong.

They are asking to be accepted as a human being with all their faults.

I do not necessarily see that as a shitty person, I am sure there are other people with similar narratives who would not have the balls to acknowledge their faults? "

I agree, accept I saw it as accepting themselves

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By *rivateparts! OP Man
over a year ago

Walking down the only road I've ever known!

"Glad I found out how cynical some people are on here.

I found it on FB and some of it ring true but not all I'm proud of who I am, yeah I've fucked up and so has everyone one else.

My fault is I give people the benefit of doubt.

You need to get your own house in order before judging other's.

I agree! ANd even then... why would you need to judge other people harshly? What benefit does it offer?

It’s in others people’s benefit to judge others harshly to make themselves feel taller sad but true. "

I was thinking exactly the same.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Glad I found out how cynical some people are on here.

I found it on FB and some of it ring true but not all I'm proud of who I am, yeah I've fucked up and so has everyone one else.

My fault is I give people the benefit of doubt.

You need to get your own house in order before judging other's.

I agree! ANd even then... why would you need to judge other people harshly? What benefit does it offer?

It’s in others people’s benefit to judge others harshly to make themselves feel taller sad but true. "

Only those who wont wear heels

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Glad I found out how cynical some people are on here.

I found it on FB and some of it ring true but not all I'm proud of who I am, yeah I've fucked up and so has everyone one else.

My fault is I give people the benefit of doubt.

You need to get your own house in order before judging other's.

I agree! ANd even then... why would you need to judge other people harshly? What benefit does it offer?

It’s in others people’s benefit to judge others harshly to make themselves feel taller sad but true.

Only those who wont wear heels"

Haha nice answer

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Glad I found out how cynical some people are on here.

I found it on FB and some of it ring true but not all I'm proud of who I am, yeah I've fucked up and so has everyone one else.

My fault is I give people the benefit of doubt.

You need to get your own house in order before judging other's.

I agree! ANd even then... why would you need to judge other people harshly? What benefit does it offer?

It’s in others people’s benefit to judge others harshly to make themselves feel taller sad but true.

Only those who wont wear heels

Haha nice answer

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