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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

When someone publicly presents themselves one way when in actual fact behind the scenes they are the complete opposite.

For me, it's a case of be you, people either value and respect that or they don't. But when someone presents an image, says what they think others want to hear to make them socially acceptable , to fit in and you know otherwise what then...hmmm

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When someone publicly presents themselves one way when in actual fact behind the scenes they are the complete opposite.

For me, it's a case of be you, people either value and respect that or they don't. But when someone presents an image, says what they think others want to hear to make them socially acceptable , to fit in and you know otherwise what then...hmmm"

We all present an image....its an image based site if your talking about this place? X

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

I'm inclined to look at what people do as well as what they say and if the two differ I avoid them as far as possible

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

I take people at face value, talking shite on the forums is basically what I do most of the time. If the connection goes to pm, then we tend to find out a little bit more about each other

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham

If I didn't present an image I'd probably be in jail by now. We all have to conform our personalities for work, society etc.

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

I'm different with different people.

That's how I roll.

I don't do it to deceive anyone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

you didnt see me....

right!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm different with different people.

That's how I roll.

I don't do it to deceive anyone. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It takes too much energy to act out like that in my opinion!

I’m happy to roll with it. It requires far less effort!

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By *affron40Woman
over a year ago

manchester

Not much you can do. It’s such a common thing online and especially so when trying to present a positive image for others. It can be infuriating to watch.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"I'm different with different people.

That's how I roll.

I don't do it to deceive anyone. "

Me too. I think most people are

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When someone publicly presents themselves one way when in actual fact behind the scenes they are the complete opposite.

For me, it's a case of be you, people either value and respect that or they don't. But when someone presents an image, says what they think others want to hear to make them socially acceptable , to fit in and you know otherwise what then...hmmm"

You cant dictate how other people are, so in answer to what then, I step away from it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some people allow their ego to represent them rather than their true self.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When someone publicly presents themselves one way when in actual fact behind the scenes they are the complete opposite.

For me, it's a case of be you, people either value and respect that or they don't. But when someone presents an image, says what they think others want to hear to make them socially acceptable , to fit in and you know otherwise what then...hmmm"

Fab life. So many disingenuous folk. Also lots of nice people. Much like the real world really.

I guess it's just a case of learning.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"When someone publicly presents themselves one way when in actual fact behind the scenes they are the complete opposite.

For me, it's a case of be you, people either value and respect that or they don't. But when someone presents an image, says what they think others want to hear to make them socially acceptable , to fit in and you know otherwise what then...hmmm

Fab life. So many disingenuous folk. Also lots of nice people. Much like the real world really.

I guess it's just a case of learning."

O I clocked it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Some people allow their ego to represent them rather than their true self. "

Not so much ego, more jekyl amd hyde

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When someone publicly presents themselves one way when in actual fact behind the scenes they are the complete opposite.

For me, it's a case of be you, people either value and respect that or they don't. But when someone presents an image, says what they think others want to hear to make them socially acceptable , to fit in and you know otherwise what then...hmmm

Fab life. So many disingenuous folk. Also lots of nice people. Much like the real world really.

I guess it's just a case of learning.

O I clocked it. "

I didn't mean to seem patronising if I came across that way. You're in the south, so if it's someone from the forum I could probably guess out of 5 people is all.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"When someone publicly presents themselves one way when in actual fact behind the scenes they are the complete opposite.

For me, it's a case of be you, people either value and respect that or they don't. But when someone presents an image, says what they think others want to hear to make them socially acceptable , to fit in and you know otherwise what then...hmmm

Fab life. So many disingenuous folk. Also lots of nice people. Much like the real world really.

I guess it's just a case of learning.

O I clocked it.

I didn't mean to seem patronising if I came across that way. You're in the south, so if it's someone from the forum I could probably guess out of 5 people is all."

No you didn't

No noone in the south that I've come across

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When someone publicly presents themselves one way when in actual fact behind the scenes they are the complete opposite.

For me, it's a case of be you, people either value and respect that or they don't. But when someone presents an image, says what they think others want to hear to make them socially acceptable , to fit in and you know otherwise what then...hmmm

Fab life. So many disingenuous folk. Also lots of nice people. Much like the real world really.

I guess it's just a case of learning.

O I clocked it.

I didn't mean to seem patronising if I came across that way. You're in the south, so if it's someone from the forum I could probably guess out of 5 people is all."

Oooh you can't leave us hanging like that!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not sure about jekyll & hyde, but speaking for myself I can be quite shy in person, depite getting nekkid sometimes on here..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When someone publicly presents themselves one way when in actual fact behind the scenes they are the complete opposite.

For me, it's a case of be you, people either value and respect that or they don't. But when someone presents an image, says what they think others want to hear to make them socially acceptable , to fit in and you know otherwise what then...hmmm"

Maybe they have changed

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

People will always do and say what they need to achieve their objectives. That's why you don't take anything at face value but try to get to know them better. Unless of course you just want a quick shag.

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

Actions speak louder than words. I tend to avoid as those are the ones who seem to be followed by drama x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'm not sure about jekyll & hyde, but speaking for myself I can be quite shy in person, depite getting nekkid sometimes on here.."

No sweetie, not that sort. More the smile sweetly whilst pinching you real hard

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When someone publicly presents themselves one way when in actual fact behind the scenes they are the complete opposite.

For me, it's a case of be you, people either value and respect that or they don't. But when someone presents an image, says what they think others want to hear to make them socially acceptable , to fit in and you know otherwise what then...hmmm

Fab life. So many disingenuous folk. Also lots of nice people. Much like the real world really.

I guess it's just a case of learning.

O I clocked it.

I didn't mean to seem patronising if I came across that way. You're in the south, so if it's someone from the forum I could probably guess out of 5 people is all.

Oooh you can't leave us hanging like that!! "

1. ScarletSeduction

2. ClemFandango

3. Lib.

4. Wothisface

5. Wotsherface

Nailed it.

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds


"I'm not sure about jekyll & hyde, but speaking for myself I can be quite shy in person, depite getting nekkid sometimes on here..

No sweetie, not that sort. More the smile sweetly whilst pinching you real hard "

Oh plenty of those around..never mind the pinch, it's the knife in your back that you have to watch out for!

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By *iger4uWoman
over a year ago

In my happy place

Had a social last week where the key board personality was the only one available to him.

Half a drink and painful one word answers to my chat.

Waste of time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm not sure about jekyll & hyde, but speaking for myself I can be quite shy in person, depite getting nekkid sometimes on here..

No sweetie, not that sort. More the smile sweetly whilst pinching you real hard

Oh plenty of those around..never mind the pinch, it's the knife in your back that you have to watch out for! "

It is like a playground sometimes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been tolder I'm a lot nicer in real life.

I was obviously dissapointed, but it's probably true.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"People will always do and say what they need to achieve their objectives. That's why you don't take anything at face value but try to get to know them better. Unless of course you just want a quick shag. "

Jeez no! Defo don't want to shag them haha!

I don't take things at face value, well not this kind of stuff, I generally get a good read on people, amd theres some you just steer clear of

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By *agicfingers1Man
over a year ago

near Brighton

I'm just plain old me. I'm honest in what I say and do. My stance is.... you either like me or you don't but I ain't going portrait myself as something I'm not. I not clever enough to be something I'm not

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds


"I'm not sure about jekyll & hyde, but speaking for myself I can be quite shy in person, depite getting nekkid sometimes on here..

No sweetie, not that sort. More the smile sweetly whilst pinching you real hard

Oh plenty of those around..never mind the pinch, it's the knife in your back that you have to watch out for!

It is like a playground sometimes."

100% agreed.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'm not sure about jekyll & hyde, but speaking for myself I can be quite shy in person, depite getting nekkid sometimes on here..

No sweetie, not that sort. More the smile sweetly whilst pinching you real hard

Oh plenty of those around..never mind the pinch, it's the knife in your back that you have to watch out for! "

Well i thought that, but its far more covert than a knife lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"When someone publicly presents themselves one way when in actual fact behind the scenes they are the complete opposite.

For me, it's a case of be you, people either value and respect that or they don't. But when someone presents an image, says what they think others want to hear to make them socially acceptable , to fit in and you know otherwise what then...hmmm

Fab life. So many disingenuous folk. Also lots of nice people. Much like the real world really.

I guess it's just a case of learning.

O I clocked it.

I didn't mean to seem patronising if I came across that way. You're in the south, so if it's someone from the forum I could probably guess out of 5 people is all.

Oooh you can't leave us hanging like that!!

1. ScarletSeduction

2. ClemFandango

3. Lib.

4. Wothisface

5. Wotsherface

Nailed it."

Dont forget whatsamacallit, oojamaflip and matey

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds


"I'm not sure about jekyll & hyde, but speaking for myself I can be quite shy in person, depite getting nekkid sometimes on here..

No sweetie, not that sort. More the smile sweetly whilst pinching you real hard

Oh plenty of those around..never mind the pinch, it's the knife in your back that you have to watch out for!

Well i thought that, but its far more covert than a knife lol"

Some make it blatantly obvious but when called out they are the first to spout "be kind"

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I've been tolder I'm a lot nicer in real life.

I was obviously dissapointed, but it's probably true. "

Well hello Mr half face, or should i call you the Phantom? that wasn't there before was it?

I think it's a lovely suprise when someone is nicer than you initially thought. It's like a little secret sometimes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i had a driver years ago who was also a famous tv presenter, good driver, when he was younger, i remember having a debrief with him after qually once, we talked for over an hour about the car, we left the office in the truck to go to the garage and we were mobed by tv crews, he was a different person, found that strange.

on tv he always can over as a very nice guy, in real life he was a cock

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading


"People will always do and say what they need to achieve their objectives. That's why you don't take anything at face value but try to get to know them better. Unless of course you just want a quick shag.

Jeez no! Defo don't want to shag them haha!

I don't take things at face value, well not this kind of stuff, I generally get a good read on people, amd theres some you just steer clear of "

For sure but luckily that's easy enough to do. I believe most people here are decent but there's a few who can be very cutting. I don't know if it's an utter lack of text or someone pisses in their wheaties every single morning. In the end all you can do is just bypass them completely. And it helps to be unpopular enough that you never hear what anyone says behind your back.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Had a social last week where the key board personality was the only one available to him.

Half a drink and painful one word answers to my chat.

Waste of time. "

O no! I don't even think I give one word answers in mt sleep!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'm not sure about jekyll & hyde, but speaking for myself I can be quite shy in person, depite getting nekkid sometimes on here..

No sweetie, not that sort. More the smile sweetly whilst pinching you real hard

Oh plenty of those around..never mind the pinch, it's the knife in your back that you have to watch out for!

It is like a playground sometimes."

Playgrounds can be fun! I do like the swings

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Aren't we all just all things to all men?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'm not sure about jekyll & hyde, but speaking for myself I can be quite shy in person, depite getting nekkid sometimes on here..

No sweetie, not that sort. More the smile sweetly whilst pinching you real hard

Oh plenty of those around..never mind the pinch, it's the knife in your back that you have to watch out for!

Well i thought that, but its far more covert than a knife lol

Some make it blatantly obvious but when called out they are the first to spout "be kind""

Sadly I can't call them out. It's against the rules. I checked

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"People will always do and say what they need to achieve their objectives. That's why you don't take anything at face value but try to get to know them better. Unless of course you just want a quick shag.

Jeez no! Defo don't want to shag them haha!

I don't take things at face value, well not this kind of stuff, I generally get a good read on people, amd theres some you just steer clear of

For sure but luckily that's easy enough to do. I believe most people here are decent but there's a few who can be very cutting. I don't know if it's an utter lack of text or someone pisses in their wheaties every single morning. In the end all you can do is just bypass them completely. And it helps to be unpopular enough that you never hear what anyone says behind your back. "

Haha! It's non of my buisness what others think of me, although they tried that one too

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

As I said if rules get broken report.

I'll close this now

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