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"I don't understand why do some people in general act so rude and entitled whether it's in a shop, a public place or even in your own home. Whatever happened to using manners and talking like an actual adult? It saddens me that rude, entitled people would rather stomp, scream and shout like a child to get their own way. What's worse is some of these people would resort to violence or even stealing to get what they want. Has anyone here ever encountered people like that?" Welcome to the forums, I’m sure there will be a few along to behave exactly as you describe shortly. | |||
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"We cannot ever control other people's behaviour - the only thing we can control is how we respond. We have options of ignoring or being rude in return, we could respond in a way that takes the wind out of their sale and perhaps we can try to understand why they are behaving in that way. Sometimes we can achieve remarkable results and people come to their senses. Whatever we choose, however we behave in response is our choice. Personally (And I am definitely not a sain - I just feel sooo much better when I have responded in a calm way and managed to de-escalate. "*** definitely not a saint  | |||
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"We cannot ever control other people's behaviour - the only thing we can control is how we respond. We have options of ignoring or being rude in return, we could respond in a way that takes the wind out of their sale and perhaps we can try to understand why they are behaving in that way. Sometimes we can achieve remarkable results and people come to their senses. Whatever we choose, however we behave in response is our choice. Personally (And I am definitely not a sain - I just feel sooo much better when I have responded in a calm way and managed to de-escalate. "This is right. We cannot do anything to control others all you can do is make sure you uphold the standard | |||
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"I don't understand why do some people in general act so rude and entitled whether it's in a shop, a public place or even in your own home. Whatever happened to using manners and talking like an actual adult? It saddens me that rude, entitled people would rather stomp, scream and shout like a child to get their own way. What's worse is some of these people would resort to violence or even stealing to get what they want. Has anyone here ever encountered people like that?" Are you an Empath, OP? It may well be that you attract narcissists like a moth to a flame. It’s not nice meeting entitled people but, I do find it fascinating why they act that way! It can be linked to childhood trauma and not having their basic needs met as an infant. Or, it may be they were spoiled rotten in their early years, and when they come to realise this isn’t how society is, they act out, much like a toddler having a tantrum and become manipulative! Worth googling schemas! Really interesting - but I hope you don’t come across too many people like that! X | |||
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"I don't understand why do some people in general act so rude and entitled whether it's in a shop, a public place or even in your own home. Whatever happened to using manners and talking like an actual adult? It saddens me that rude, entitled people would rather stomp, scream and shout like a child to get their own way. What's worse is some of these people would resort to violence or even stealing to get what they want. Has anyone here ever encountered people like that? Are you an Empath, OP? It may well be that you attract narcissists like a moth to a flame. It’s not nice meeting entitled people but, I do find it fascinating why they act that way! It can be linked to childhood trauma and not having their basic needs met as an infant. Or, it may be they were spoiled rotten in their early years, and when they come to realise this isn’t how society is, they act out, much like a toddler having a tantrum and become manipulative! Worth googling schemas! Really interesting - but I hope you don’t come across too many people like that! X" Luckily, I have not encountered many entitled people apart from the odd one or two but that's about it. I've seen many Youtube videos on entitled people which is appalling on how they behave. I completely agree that their sense of entitlement possibly stems from their own childhoods and how they were raised. | |||
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"They are around every corner of life OP, best to ignore and stick to your values. Reacting to them just feeds their entitled egos more by giving them the attention they crave " I completely agree.  | |||
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"I don't understand why do some people in general act so rude and entitled whether it's in a shop, a public place or even in your own home. Whatever happened to using manners and talking like an actual adult? It saddens me that rude, entitled people would rather stomp, scream and shout like a child to get their own way. What's worse is some of these people would resort to violence or even stealing to get what they want. Has anyone here ever encountered people like that?" It's simple. They think they are right in what they do. Vic | |||
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"I don't understand why do some people in general act so rude and entitled whether it's in a shop, a public place or even in your own home. Whatever happened to using manners and talking like an actual adult? It saddens me that rude, entitled people would rather stomp, scream and shout like a child to get their own way. What's worse is some of these people would resort to violence or even stealing to get what they want. Has anyone here ever encountered people like that?" Yes. They are who they are. Whether you meet them in work, in a shop, in your group of friends, in your family. You will work out ways of dealing or not dealing with people who exhibit such traits. It really doesn't do to judge them too harshly. Just go and be yourself somewhere else. More often than not they are suffering too. | |||
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"It’s not very nice, but often behaviour like this comes from a place of pain or misunderstanding. Sometimes we need to listen and understand, rather than judge and shame I think. " | |||
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"I don't understand why do some people in general act so rude and entitled whether it's in a shop, a public place or even in your own home. Whatever happened to using manners and talking like an actual adult? It saddens me that rude, entitled people would rather stomp, scream and shout like a child to get their own way. What's worse is some of these people would resort to violence or even stealing to get what they want. Has anyone here ever encountered people like that? Are you an Empath, OP? It may well be that you attract narcissists like a moth to a flame. It’s not nice meeting entitled people but, I do find it fascinating why they act that way! It can be linked to childhood trauma and not having their basic needs met as an infant. Or, it may be they were spoiled rotten in their early years, and when they come to realise this isn’t how society is, they act out, much like a toddler having a tantrum and become manipulative! Worth googling schemas! Really interesting - but I hope you don’t come across too many people like that! X Luckily, I have not encountered many entitled people apart from the odd one or two but that's about it. I've seen many Youtube videos on entitled people which is appalling on how they behave. I completely agree that their sense of entitlement possibly stems from their own childhoods and how they were raised." Not entirely | |||
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"I don't understand why do some people in general act so rude and entitled whether it's in a shop, a public place or even in your own home. Whatever happened to using manners and talking like an actual adult? It saddens me that rude, entitled people would rather stomp, scream and shout like a child to get their own way. What's worse is some of these people would resort to violence or even stealing to get what they want. Has anyone here ever encountered people like that? Are you an Empath, OP? It may well be that you attract narcissists like a moth to a flame. It’s not nice meeting entitled people but, I do find it fascinating why they act that way! It can be linked to childhood trauma and not having their basic needs met as an infant. Or, it may be they were spoiled rotten in their early years, and when they come to realise this isn’t how society is, they act out, much like a toddler having a tantrum and become manipulative! Worth googling schemas! Really interesting - but I hope you don’t come across too many people like that! X Luckily, I have not encountered many entitled people apart from the odd one or two but that's about it. I've seen many Youtube videos on entitled people which is appalling on how they behave. I completely agree that their sense of entitlement possibly stems from their own childhoods and how they were raised. Not entirely" True as some people that act rude and entitled are probably not like that all the time and could just be having a bad day. | |||
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"Plus...... Those are not the only characteristics they have.... At least two that I know and wouldn't part with are decent , generous people. No one is perfect. Their goodness must outweigh their least attractive traits or i'd not stick around. Sometimes the chatterers could do with mirrors. " Wise words Granny | |||
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"It's pathetic and embarrassing. I tend just to ignore and don't feed the childish behaviour." This! | |||
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"Plus...... Those are not the only characteristics they have.... At least two that I know and wouldn't part with are decent , generous people. No one is perfect. Their goodness must outweigh their least attractive traits or i'd not stick around. Sometimes the chatterers could do with mirrors. Wise words Granny " She's good at those isn't she?
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"I don't understand why do some people in general act so rude and entitled whether it's in a shop, a public place or even in your own home. Whatever happened to using manners and talking like an actual adult? It saddens me that rude, entitled people would rather stomp, scream and shout like a child to get their own way. What's worse is some of these people would resort to violence or even stealing to get what they want. Has anyone here ever encountered people like that? Are you an Empath, OP? It may well be that you attract narcissists like a moth to a flame. It’s not nice meeting entitled people but, I do find it fascinating why they act that way! It can be linked to childhood trauma and not having their basic needs met as an infant. Or, it may be they were spoiled rotten in their early years, and when they come to realise this isn’t how society is, they act out, much like a toddler having a tantrum and become manipulative! Worth googling schemas! Really interesting - but I hope you don’t come across too many people like that! X Luckily, I have not encountered many entitled people apart from the odd one or two but that's about it. I've seen many Youtube videos on entitled people which is appalling on how they behave. I completely agree that their sense of entitlement possibly stems from their own childhoods and how they were raised. Not entirely True as some people that act rude and entitled are probably not like that all the time and could just be having a bad day." I meant it's not entirely down to their parents. Despite a lot of faux psychology on the internet it's more than likely your peer group that influence your behaviours once you've been an adult for some years. Your parents give you your genes and your personality NOT your awful fucking behaviour. Now I know that kids learn from watching their parents but they leave their parents and spend more years with others. Freinds in school, teachers, college, university , work ....... No .... if YOU ( not you literally ) are a cunt take responsibility for it ..... CHANGE or don't change but DONT blame your bloody mother. You're an adult. | |||
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"I don't understand why do some people in general act so rude and entitled whether it's in a shop, a public place or even in your own home. Whatever happened to using manners and talking like an actual adult? It saddens me that rude, entitled people would rather stomp, scream and shout like a child to get their own way. What's worse is some of these people would resort to violence or even stealing to get what they want. Has anyone here ever encountered people like that? Are you an Empath, OP? It may well be that you attract narcissists like a moth to a flame. It’s not nice meeting entitled people but, I do find it fascinating why they act that way! It can be linked to childhood trauma and not having their basic needs met as an infant. Or, it may be they were spoiled rotten in their early years, and when they come to realise this isn’t how society is, they act out, much like a toddler having a tantrum and become manipulative! Worth googling schemas! Really interesting - but I hope you don’t come across too many people like that! X Luckily, I have not encountered many entitled people apart from the odd one or two but that's about it. I've seen many Youtube videos on entitled people which is appalling on how they behave. I completely agree that their sense of entitlement possibly stems from their own childhoods and how they were raised. Not entirely True as some people that act rude and entitled are probably not like that all the time and could just be having a bad day. I meant it's not entirely down to their parents. Despite a lot of faux psychology on the internet it's more than likely your peer group that influence your behaviours once you've been an adult for some years. Your parents give you your genes and your personality NOT your awful fucking behaviour. Now I know that kids learn from watching their parents but they leave their parents and spend more years with others. Freinds in school, teachers, college, university , work ....... No .... if YOU ( not you literally ) are a cunt take responsibility for it ..... CHANGE or don't change but DONT blame your bloody mother. You're an adult. " But some don't see or believe they are being a cunt or acting cuntish therfore won't take or accept responsibility. | |||
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"I don't understand why do some people in general act so rude and entitled whether it's in a shop, a public place or even in your own home. Whatever happened to using manners and talking like an actual adult? It saddens me that rude, entitled people would rather stomp, scream and shout like a child to get their own way. What's worse is some of these people would resort to violence or even stealing to get what they want. Has anyone here ever encountered people like that? Are you an Empath, OP? It may well be that you attract narcissists like a moth to a flame. It’s not nice meeting entitled people but, I do find it fascinating why they act that way! It can be linked to childhood trauma and not having their basic needs met as an infant. Or, it may be they were spoiled rotten in their early years, and when they come to realise this isn’t how society is, they act out, much like a toddler having a tantrum and become manipulative! Worth googling schemas! Really interesting - but I hope you don’t come across too many people like that! X Luckily, I have not encountered many entitled people apart from the odd one or two but that's about it. I've seen many Youtube videos on entitled people which is appalling on how they behave. I completely agree that their sense of entitlement possibly stems from their own childhoods and how they were raised. Not entirely True as some people that act rude and entitled are probably not like that all the time and could just be having a bad day. I meant it's not entirely down to their parents. Despite a lot of faux psychology on the internet it's more than likely your peer group that influence your behaviours once you've been an adult for some years. Your parents give you your genes and your personality NOT your awful fucking behaviour. Now I know that kids learn from watching their parents but they leave their parents and spend more years with others. Freinds in school, teachers, college, university , work ....... No .... if YOU ( not you literally ) are a cunt take responsibility for it ..... CHANGE or don't change but DONT blame your bloody mother. You're an adult. But some don't see or believe they are being a cunt or acting cuntish therfore won't take or accept responsibility." I know but they should leave their mum alone  | |||
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"Plus...... Those are not the only characteristics they have.... At least two that I know and wouldn't part with are decent , generous people. No one is perfect. Their goodness must outweigh their least attractive traits or i'd not stick around. Sometimes the chatterers could do with mirrors. " Wise words Granny | |||
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"I don't understand why do some people in general act so rude and entitled whether it's in a shop, a public place or even in your own home. Whatever happened to using manners and talking like an actual adult? It saddens me that rude, entitled people would rather stomp, scream and shout like a child to get their own way. What's worse is some of these people would resort to violence or even stealing to get what they want. Has anyone here ever encountered people like that? Are you an Empath, OP? It may well be that you attract narcissists like a moth to a flame. It’s not nice meeting entitled people but, I do find it fascinating why they act that way! It can be linked to childhood trauma and not having their basic needs met as an infant. Or, it may be they were spoiled rotten in their early years, and when they come to realise this isn’t how society is, they act out, much like a toddler having a tantrum and become manipulative! Worth googling schemas! Really interesting - but I hope you don’t come across too many people like that! X Luckily, I have not encountered many entitled people apart from the odd one or two but that's about it. I've seen many Youtube videos on entitled people which is appalling on how they behave. I completely agree that their sense of entitlement possibly stems from their own childhoods and how they were raised. Not entirely True as some people that act rude and entitled are probably not like that all the time and could just be having a bad day. I meant it's not entirely down to their parents. Despite a lot of faux psychology on the internet it's more than likely your peer group that influence your behaviours once you've been an adult for some years. Your parents give you your genes and your personality NOT your awful fucking behaviour. Now I know that kids learn from watching their parents but they leave their parents and spend more years with others. Freinds in school, teachers, college, university , work ....... No .... if YOU ( not you literally ) are a cunt take responsibility for it ..... CHANGE or don't change but DONT blame your bloody mother. You're an adult. But some don't see or believe they are being a cunt or acting cuntish therfore won't take or accept responsibility. I know but they should leave their mum alone "True. I don't believe the crap that it stems from the parents. | |||
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"I don’t think this is a very pleasant thread. Lots of undercurrents going on in here. " I was about to say the same. Can’t we just talk about the original post?! Not blaming anyone lol just genuinely interested having studied personality disorders. Bye guys! | |||
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"I don’t think this is a very pleasant thread. Lots of undercurrents going on in here. " My thoughts too Babs......which is why my first post said I was going back for a head count...... | |||
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"As children we aren’t responsible for the emotional issues our parents cause, as adults we absolutely are. " Philip Larkin had it right. They fuck you up your mum and dad. They don’t mean to, but they do. | |||
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"As children we aren’t responsible for the emotional issues our parents cause, as adults we absolutely are. Philip Larkin had it right. They fuck you up your mum and dad. They don’t mean to, but they do. " I always like that poem. He's a writer though, not a psychologist , scientist or anthropologist or family expert. I often wonder if he wrote .... Ye should pay double the tax Ye people should To keep the tories nice and fat And if thee don't plump them up Then thee is just a twat ..... Would he be quoted so often and with such assurance. | |||
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"Manners and respect cost nothing as long as its mutual. " While this would be lovely - it does not reflect reality. I think we should act in a respectful manner irrespective of how we are being treated tbh. I cannot make my behaviour dependent on that of other people because that means I relinquish responsibility for my behaviour. Besides, sometime people do not realise they are being rude. Furthermore, we cannot make a rude person change their behaviour. Perhaps by modelling UNCONDITIIONAL positive behaviour they have a chance to see that there is actually another way. Does not always work - I know. Does not stop me from trying (most days ) | |||
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"Manners and respect cost nothing as long as its mutual. While this would be lovely - it does not reflect reality. I think we should act in a respectful manner irrespective of how we are being treated tbh. I cannot make my behaviour dependent on that of other people because that means I relinquish responsibility for my behaviour. Besides, sometime people do not realise they are being rude. Furthermore, we cannot make a rude person change their behaviour. Perhaps by modelling UNCONDITIIONAL positive behaviour they have a chance to see that there is actually another way. Does not always work - I know. Does not stop me from trying (most days )"If we judge others by our own standards we will always be dissappointed. I am always respectful and mannerly to everyone I come across. And luckily for me most people reciprocate. However if there is obvious rudeness towards me or someone I'm with then all bets are off. | |||
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"Manners and respect cost nothing as long as its mutual. While this would be lovely - it does not reflect reality. I think we should act in a respectful manner irrespective of how we are being treated tbh. I cannot make my behaviour dependent on that of other people because that means I relinquish responsibility for my behaviour. Besides, sometime people do not realise they are being rude. Furthermore, we cannot make a rude person change their behaviour. Perhaps by modelling UNCONDITIIONAL positive behaviour they have a chance to see that there is actually another way. Does not always work - I know. Does not stop me from trying (most days )
If we judge others by our own standards we will always be dissappointed.
I am always respectful and mannerly to everyone I come across. And luckily for me most people reciprocate. However if there is obvious rudeness towards me or someone I'm with then all bets are off.
"In an ideal world. But there's just so many people who just don't give a fuck about anyone or anything. It's not that they don't realise that it upsets others,they just don't give a fuck. Look at all the pictures of rubbish left behind at beaches and beauty spot's. I think they are perfectly aware of their actions but just don't care.its not just one or two it's hundreds of thousands of people! | |||
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"Scottishgent and Jools/Brains - as a human being I feel the same anger and frustration as you when confronted with rude people, I really do. And I am not always able to be forgiving and tolerant, I have my days!!! But I am saying that if we treat them "eye for an eye" we are making our behaviour a condition of theirs. Surely that means we no longer take responsibility for our behaviour? It is a bit like when kids say to their mum/ teacher.... He/she "made me do that! Surely as adults we could take a step back and act differently (at least try?) " Thats why I chose to ignore and not feed into their pathetic behavior | |||
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"Scottishgent and Jools/Brains - as a human being I feel the same anger and frustration as you when confronted with rude people, I really do. And I am not always able to be forgiving and tolerant, I have my days!!! But I am saying that if we treat them "eye for an eye" we are making our behaviour a condition of theirs. Surely that means we no longer take responsibility for our behaviour? It is a bit like when kids say to their mum/ teacher.... He/she "made me do that! Surely as adults we could take a step back and act differently (at least try?) Thats why I chose to ignore and not feed into their pathetic behavior " I agree and it is absolutely what I do when I cannot muster patience/ kindness etc on that day! | |||
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"Scottishgent and Jools/Brains - as a human being I feel the same anger and frustration as you when confronted with rude people, I really do. And I am not always able to be forgiving and tolerant, I have my days!!! But I am saying that if we treat them "eye for an eye" we are making our behaviour a condition of theirs. Surely that means we no longer take responsibility for our behaviour? It is a bit like when kids say to their mum/ teacher.... He/she "made me do that! Surely as adults we could take a step back and act differently (at least try?) " The more of your posts I read, the more I like you - even if you do believe in the stars 
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"Scottishgent and Jools/Brains - as a human being I feel the same anger and frustration as you when confronted with rude people, I really do. And I am not always able to be forgiving and tolerant, I have my days!!! But I am saying that if we treat them "eye for an eye" we are making our behaviour a condition of theirs. Surely that means we no longer take responsibility for our behaviour? It is a bit like when kids say to their mum/ teacher.... He/she "made me do that! Surely as adults we could take a step back and act differently (at least try?) " You get me wrong. I avoid confrontation at all costs my points are observations from the area I live in, perhaps there's more rude people here I don't know. I won't seek people out. There's no need it's everywhere. You cannot deny that this behaviour isn't everywhere as it is, you only have to look at news reports of said littering. I can't go and stand in the middle of a beach and call them all out . However In my life I always try to be polite and respectful to everyone I meet,I respect the environment and people around me. Maybe it's because I don't go around with my eyes shut (that's not a dig at anyone btw)my wife literally misses everything as that's her way. Maybe I do come across as angry and bitter but perhaps that's justified perhaps it's not. I am by my own admittance a glass is half empty kind of person so I do tend to look at the negative side of things. | |||
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"Scottishgent and Jools/Brains - as a human being I feel the same anger and frustration as you when confronted with rude people, I really do. And I am not always able to be forgiving and tolerant, I have my days!!! But I am saying that if we treat them "eye for an eye" we are making our behaviour a condition of theirs. Surely that means we no longer take responsibility for our behaviour? It is a bit like when kids say to their mum/ teacher.... He/she "made me do that! Surely as adults we could take a step back and act differently (at least try?) The more of your posts I read, the more I like you - even if you do believe in the stars
The problem with "if you disrespect me I'll disrespect you" is that it only takes one party to misread or misunderstand the other and then it escalates.
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"Manners and respect cost nothing as long as its mutual. While this would be lovely - it does not reflect reality. I think we should act in a respectful manner irrespective of how we are being treated tbh. I cannot make my behaviour dependent on that of other people because that means I relinquish responsibility for my behaviour. Besides, sometime people do not realise they are being rude. Furthermore, we cannot make a rude person change their behaviour. Perhaps by modelling UNCONDITIIONAL positive behaviour they have a chance to see that there is actually another way. Does not always work - I know. Does not stop me from trying (most days )
If we judge others by our own standards we will always be dissappointed.
I am always respectful and mannerly to everyone I come across. And luckily for me most people reciprocate. However if there is obvious rudeness towards me or someone I'm with then all bets are off.
In an ideal world.
But there's just so many people who just don't give a fuck about anyone or anything.
It's not that they don't realise that it upsets others,they just don't give a fuck.
Look at all the pictures of rubbish left behind at beaches and beauty spot's.
I think they are perfectly aware of their actions but just don't care.its not just one or two it's hundreds of thousands of people!"I'm making myself sound like a right piece of work lol. I fully understand that people can have bad days, personal problems, or things that can be misunderstood. I don't bite easily, It would need to be something overtly rude to cause me to react. I look at it as standing up for myself and thoughts I'm with. | |||
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"Scottishgent and Jools/Brains - as a human being I feel the same anger and frustration as you when confronted with rude people, I really do. And I am not always able to be forgiving and tolerant, I have my days!!! But I am saying that if we treat them "eye for an eye" we are making our behaviour a condition of theirs. Surely that means we no longer take responsibility for our behaviour? It is a bit like when kids say to their mum/ teacher.... He/she "made me do that! Surely as adults we could take a step back and act differently (at least try?) You get me wrong. I avoid confrontation at all costs my points are observations from the area I live in, perhaps there's more rude people here I don't know. I won't seek people out. There's no need it's everywhere. You cannot deny that this behaviour isn't everywhere as it is, you only have to look at news reports of said littering. I can't go and stand in the middle of a beach and call them all out . However In my life I always try to be polite and respectful to everyone I meet,I respect the environment and people around me. Maybe it's because I don't go around with my eyes shut (that's not a dig at anyone btw)my wife literally misses everything as that's her way. Maybe I do come across as angry and bitter but perhaps that's justified perhaps it's not. I am by my own admittance a glass is half empty kind of person so I do tend to look at the negative side of things." Thanks for that - You know I think we are actually quite aligned. The example of the littered beach: It brings my blood to boiling point when I see that grown up people find it ok to leave their litter behind for others to pick it up. It really does. And there is no real excuse why people do. I think accepting it is probably not the right way. Standing in the middle and shouting at them isn't either for we are not the beach police. We cannot make them pick it up or not litter in the first place. So what options do we have? | |||
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" I'm making myself sound like a right piece of work lol. I fully understand that people can have bad days, personal problems, or things that can be misunderstood. I don't bite easily, It would need to be something overtly rude to cause me to react. I look at it as standing up for myself and thoughts I'm with. " This made me chuckle - actually I did not think of you as a right piece of work lol - but thanks for clarifying. | |||
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" I'm making myself sound like a right piece of work lol. I fully understand that people can have bad days, personal problems, or things that can be misunderstood. I don't bite easily, It would need to be something overtly rude to cause me to react. I look at it as standing up for myself and thoughts I'm with. This made me chuckle - actually I did not think of you as a right piece of work lol - but thanks for clarifying. "Xx | |||
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"I think some of it could come from 'autistic brain' almost. People struggle with social norms and how they process information and come across really badly to people when really they are probably just a bit comfused by it all, and then even more so by peoples reactions to them can can make them cross or protective of themselves and it just becomes a worsening cycle. " Yes I think so to x | |||
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"I don't understand why do some people in general act so rude and entitled whether it's in a shop, a public place or even in your own home. Whatever happened to using manners and talking like an actual adult? It saddens me that rude, entitled people would rather stomp, scream and shout like a child to get their own way. What's worse is some of these people would resort to violence or even stealing to get what they want. Has anyone here ever encountered people like that?" We see it a lot on here. | |||
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"I don't understand why do some people in general act so rude and entitled whether it's in a shop, a public place or even in your own home. Whatever happened to using manners and talking like an actual adult? It saddens me that rude, entitled people would rather stomp, scream and shout like a child to get their own way. What's worse is some of these people would resort to violence or even stealing to get what they want. Has anyone here ever encountered people like that?" Theyre probably having a bad day, week, month.... Having patients, waiting for those to get 'over it' is key for the rest who unfortunately, have to endure it on a regular basis. Interesting to watch though, from the side lines.....  | |||
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"I think some of it could come from 'autistic brain' almost. People struggle with social norms and how they process information and come across really badly to people when really they are probably just a bit comfused by it all, and then even more so by peoples reactions to them can can make them cross or protective of themselves and it just becomes a worsening cycle. " | |||
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"One persons rude is another persons.................. What is rude ? Just because YOU think a certain type of behaviour was rude - doesn't mean it was. I know someone who thinks most things are rude if they are not going their own way. I never EVER see myself as being rude but i'm sure there are people who have judged me that way , poor misguided souls ... ( I think it's them ) "An Italian friend of mine was shopping at a market - she drew a crowd with what was considered her rude behaviour. SHe had no idea why people thought she was rude. She was being vivacious, full of life, impatient... and by her own description a "normal Italian shopping at a market" She is a lovely, warm, kind-hearted woman who would never deliberately be rude. | |||
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