FabSwingers.com forum: Just not

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I'm just not feeling like I want to meet anyone at all, I'm feeling alot like,,,,, what's the point ?

What's happening to me ?

This is actually a genuine thread

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

If you feel down them meeting people can only be good.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well done op I see some progress is being made

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

You won't be the only one OP

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve gone through stages like that where I’ve not wanted to meet, I think it’s perfectly normal. A lot of factors can alter our moods, stress, tiredness, self confidence so many things…

I actually found meeting again got me back on track

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

It might be a phase, it might not be. Sometimes it's good to just take a step back and do things that make you happy, even if it doesn't involve meeting people.

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

I feel same

On our couple profile I'd only meet socially too.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I've been feeling this way for a while, long before lock down, I'm unimpressed by sj many different things that I used to be

It's like ok you've got an amazing body, but I'm more concerned about wtf I'm making for tea

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Then I'm feeling like, you've got to be offering me something extra different for me to put my shoes on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm just not feeling like I want to meet anyone at all, I'm feeling alot like,,,,, what's the point ?

What's happening to me ?

This is actually a genuine thread "

I was like this until I figured out I needed more!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Then I'm feeling like, you've got to be offering me something extra different for me to put my shoes on "

And you were doing so well there op

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

I get like this if i haven't had enough time to myself. So i take a fortnights break from ALL social engagements. I am then usually raring to go after that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Defo feel the same OP

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sadly I feel the same too OP

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

"I've been feeling this way for a while, long before lock down, I'm unimpressed by sj many different things that I used to be

It's like ok you've got an amazing body, but I'm more concerned about wtf I'm making for tea

For a few just the amazing body or face will do, for others they need more.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Then I'm feeling like, you've got to be offering me something extra different for me to put my shoes on "

Nobodys turned round and said, this isn't the place for you ..

So all good

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Then I'm feeling like, you've got to be offering me something extra different for me to put my shoes on

Nobodys turned round and said, this isn't the place for you ..

So all good

Why would they?

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

You won’t be alone OP.

Can I ask is it anyone or just sexual meets?

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By *uzzy NavelWoman
over a year ago

so near and yet so far....

Sooo, if there is something good for tea, you’d go out?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"You won’t be alone OP.

Can I ask is it anyone or just sexual meets? "

Both really

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes just the routines of whats for tea, is the laundry done is enough. Sort of survival mode with not much left over for anything creative or fun. But still we keep going.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Sooo, if there is something good for tea, you’d go out?

Not what I meant lol

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By *olymalelincsMan
over a year ago

southend

Y9ur not alone in this op I think it can happen to us all and at some point will, if you are feeling like that take a break from it, just take some time to yourself, chat to friends relax a bit and take the pressure off for a while meeting isn't the be all and end all, the world and everyone in it has gone through and exceptional time this year aswell so just tale some time to stop and breath.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Y9ur not alone in this op I think it can happen to us all and at some point will, if you are feeling like that take a break from it, just take some time to yourself, chat to friends relax a bit and take the pressure off for a while meeting isn't the be all and end all, the world and everyone in it has gone through and exceptional time this year aswell so just tale some time to stop and breath."

Don't really have friends, I call them acquaintances

I trust very few

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Life has its ups and downs OP. I hope you are not feeling too bad. A bit of advice, when you are feeling low and are at the very bottom remember there is only one way you can go and that is up!

Take a break , chill and relax. Things will come together

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

Not sure if this helps but... most thinking people (I am not talking about education but just thinking) have times when they question the meaning... the point of things. And that can feel... in itself a bit depressing.

It does pass... and it helps talking to people as you do in here, OP!

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By *lbinoGorillaMan
over a year ago

Redditch

I go through this on a semi-regular basis, and when I do I stay away from here. Sometimes for weeks at a time, but eventually I feel better again and venture forth again.

I'm sure you'll be OK in the long run, OP

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By *uzzy NavelWoman
over a year ago

so near and yet so far....

Most on here would give honest and sage advice and be a source of entertainment/ideas for a fabulous tea/dinner….

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I wouldn't say I'm feeling down with it, just working out in my head whether or not I can be bothered putting my shoes on for disappointment

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By *affron40Woman
over a year ago

manchester

Been sat like that for some time OP… it’s tough x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Then I'm feeling like, you've got to be offering me something extra different for me to put my shoes on

Nobodys turned round and said, this isn't the place for you ..

So all good

Why would they?"

Cos you sound so down and defeated - like you've had enough....

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

"You won’t be alone OP.

Can I ask is it anyone or just sexual meets?

Both really"

Can understand this. Do you have an interest in something that would get you out and about at least away from the routine? Example I like photography and I get outside looking for different things to shoot, I don’t have to interact with anyone for it, but does help break up the norm and a sense of achievement at a good shot

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I wouldn't say I'm feeling down with it, just working out in my head whether or not I can be bothered putting my shoes on for disappointment

If meets are always disappointing, is it possible you're not meeting the right people? Perhaps there's a compatibility issue?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Then I'm feeling like, you've got to be offering me something extra different for me to put my shoes on

Nobodys turned round and said, this isn't the place for you ..

So all good

Why would they?

Cos you sound so down and defeated - like you've had enough....

I genuinely feel like I'm completely done, im not sure it's a phase either as I'm feeling completely different to how I have previously

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Then I'm feeling like, you've got to be offering me something extra different for me to put my shoes on

And you were doing so well there op "

Exactly. Wtf. No one owes you anything. Boils my blood with statements like that. You really have crashed and burned when as previous states you were doing so well.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I wouldn't say I'm feeling down with it, just working out in my head whether or not I can be bothered putting my shoes on for disappointment

If meets are always disappointing, is it possible you're not meeting the right people? Perhaps there's a compatibility issue?"

Physically they're right

Mentally , let's say I'd rather have tea with a pride of lions

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Then I'm feeling like, you've got to be offering me something extra different for me to put my shoes on

And you were doing so well there op

Exactly. Wtf. No one owes you anything. Boils my blood with statements like that. You really have crashed and burned when as previous states you were doing so well. "

I'm confused ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Then I'm feeling like, you've got to be offering me something extra different for me to put my shoes on

Nobodys turned round and said, this isn't the place for you ..

So all good

Why would they?

Cos you sound so down and defeated - like you've had enough....

I genuinely feel like I'm completely done, im not sure it's a phase either as I'm feeling completely different to how I have previously

There's some good ideas on this thread.... maybe they can inspire you

Hope so hun, it's shit feeling low xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Then I'm feeling like, you've got to be offering me something extra different for me to put my shoes on

Nobodys turned round and said, this isn't the place for you ..

So all good

Why would they?

Cos you sound so down and defeated - like you've had enough....

You need to make the effort to go out and join groups. Church. Places to meet people noe restrictions have been relaxed etc. No o e is going to cone to you and you need to seize the day. Make. Every day a can do with attitude. Wake up. Dust yourself down and go out in the real world. It's not easy but it's a start and you will enjoy and love it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I wouldn't say I'm feeling down with it, just working out in my head whether or not I can be bothered putting my shoes on for disappointment

If meets are always disappointing, is it possible you're not meeting the right people? Perhaps there's a compatibility issue?

Physically they're right

Mentally , let's say I'd rather have tea with a pride of lions

Then you aren't compatible are you? Better not to judge the person for just being them. If you don't like them, don't meet them?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Then I'm feeling like, you've got to be offering me something extra different for me to put my shoes on

Nobodys turned round and said, this isn't the place for you ..

So all good

Why would they?

Cos you sound so down and defeated - like you've had enough....

Is that for me?

Oh I'm ok sweet, I've just had a social....

Just thinking about the OP.

The guys nice, I like him

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've been feeling this way for a while, long before lock down, I'm unimpressed by sj many different things that I used to be

It's like ok you've got an amazing body, but I'm more concerned about wtf I'm making for tea

Sorry you’re not feeling as uobeat as you’d like OP. But what you describe..,, sounds a bit like “middle age” to me. Could be wrong but sounds familiar. Hope you bounce back soon and feel ‘yourself’ again (and no that’s bot intended to be a naughty pun!).

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By *erfectman122Man
over a year ago

from somewhere nice

Do you know what I feel the same

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I wouldn't say I'm feeling down with it, just working out in my head whether or not I can be bothered putting my shoes on for disappointment

If meets are always disappointing, is it possible you're not meeting the right people? Perhaps there's a compatibility issue?

Physically they're right

Mentally , let's say I'd rather have tea with a pride of lions

Then you aren't compatible are you? Better not to judge the person for just being them. If you don't like them, don't meet them?"

I don't feel iv ever been compatible mentally with anyone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sounds to me like you've focussed life too much on sex for its own sake (your previous posts certainly sounded like that) and you've come to realise maybe there's a bit more to life than shagging, and looked into a void where meaning should be.

I could be talking out of my arse but that's how it looks from here.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Sounds to me like you've focussed life too much on sex for its own sake (your previous posts certainly sounded like that) and you've come to realise maybe there's a bit more to life than shagging, and looked into a void where meaning should be.

I could be talking out of my arse but that's how it looks from here."

Kind of, although I think it's more a case of there's always been something missing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I could be talking out of my arse but that's how it looks from here.

Kind of, although I think it's more a case of there's always been something missing

Mind if I ask a personal Q? Ever been married or in a LTR, like true love, all that? And if so, what put you off it and into swinging?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I could be talking out of my arse but that's how it looks from here.

Kind of, although I think it's more a case of there's always been something missing

Mind if I ask a personal Q? Ever been married or in a LTR, like true love, all that? And if so, what put you off it and into swinging? "

Iv never been married, iv been in a few ltr that involved love

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

You know, it sometimes happens to a lot of us.

Try to worry about it...it will more than likely pass x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"You know, it sometimes happens to a lot of us.

Try to worry about it...it will more than likely pass x

I'm not worrying about it, I've kind of got the not arsed feeling going on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

find a gloryhole and get over it

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

"You know, it sometimes happens to a lot of us.

Try to worry about it...it will more than likely pass x

I'm not worrying about it, I've kind of got the not arsed feeling going on "

Oh ok....that's good then.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If you feel down them meeting people can only be good. "

Agreed, not necessarily for fun. But socials may help you get out of the rut

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Perhaps you are currently not looking for more than you have and are actually content with thinking about what's for tea.

When 'life' becomes routine why is that, nearly, always seen as a negative? Perhaps those looking to break the routine and always striving for more 'experiences' are the ones searching for something and feeling like there is something 'missing'.

I would say not to overthink it OP (accept it) and take pleasure in the routine - sometimes you just need to slow down.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm just not feeling like I want to meet anyone at all, I'm feeling alot like,,,,, what's the point ?

What's happening to me ?

This is actually a genuine thread "

I'm actually impressed it is a genuine thread and not a dick-swinger. I was beginning to wonder if there was more to you than just the world's most powerful penis

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

I've been like it a year now and don't see any lights beginning to flicker.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've been feeling this way for a while, long before lock down, I'm unimpressed by sj many different things that I used to be

It's like ok you've got an amazing body, but I'm more concerned about wtf I'm making for tea

Are you feeling depressed in general? You've seemed for a while to have some underlying sadness.

Sending virtual hugs. Xx

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

I think sometimes in life you need to hit the pause button and take time out to reflect on what you really want from it - the things you thought you wanted might pale into the distance or that reflection might strengthen your resolve to achieve them, and sometimes that takes time to muddle through and get straight in your head.

Also if you have other things going on like work or family stuff that distract your attention they can have an effect too.

Keeping yourself occupied and trying not to dwell too much can help - for me I've found my daily hour and a half walks have been a great "head clearer" in many ways, they're my time to either lose myself in music or work thoughts through or sometimes both.

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

The heat or lost your mojo after the past crazy year.

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By *inger_SnapWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

"Then I'm feeling like, you've got to be offering me something extra different for me to put my shoes on "

Cake always works for me

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Then I'm feeling like, you've got to be offering me something extra different for me to put my shoes on

Cake always works for me"

Cake has its uses

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"The heat or lost your mojo after the past crazy year. "

I don't really know as it's a different feeling that iv been used to

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I'm a single dad, most women have ran a mile already,

I'm unable to make any type of plans without the possibility of me not being able to make plans happen,

Iv no idea what I want anymore

Being an half decent stable dad is my main priority

Iv found that alot of women don't like being less of a priority in life to a fellas kids

The struggle is real eh lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I've been getting excited over new hoovers and washing machines

Think I'm more feminine than I'd first thought

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry to hear that.chin up

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

"I'm a single dad, most women have ran a mile already,

I'm unable to make any type of plans without the possibility of me not being able to make plans happen,

Iv no idea what I want anymore

Being an half decent stable dad is my main priority

Iv found that alot of women don't like being less of a priority in life to a fellas kids

The struggle is real eh lol

There are women out there who appreciate this. M had a daughter before I met him as did I. However, my ex and I have a decent relationship with regards to our kids and we put them first always and decided to put a structured routine in for them.

Ms ex however, is not of the same mindset. She dictate when M could see his child, if she knew we had plans she'd let him see the child then and if he said he had plans she'd go mental and say he didn't love his child. This made our relationship hard to establish I can't lie.

But to me Ms daughter was his top priority and I've never kicked off if wanted to see her. It did come to ahead eventually had he had to take her to court to sort what days he had her, because it was unfair on his child and on him.

What my long rambling post means, there are women out there who understand kids come first.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've been getting excited over new hoovers and washing machines

Think I'm more feminine than I'd first thought

Is it a shark hoover

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I'm a single dad, most women have ran a mile already,

I'm unable to make any type of plans without the possibility of me not being able to make plans happen,

Iv no idea what I want anymore

Being an half decent stable dad is my main priority

Iv found that alot of women don't like being less of a priority in life to a fellas kids

The struggle is real eh lol

What my long rambling post means, there are women out there who understand kids come first. "

I'm thinking that is what puts me off, all iv experienced so far are very jealous toxic women

The idea makes my skin crawl

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

If a woman or man does not respect the fact that children come first, no matter what then I wouldn't want to know them x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"If a woman or man does not respect the fact that children come first, no matter what then I wouldn't want to know them x"

That's why I dumped her

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

"If a woman or man does not respect the fact that children come first, no matter what then I wouldn't want to know them x

That's why I dumped her

And you did the right thing. And anyone who would put a partner etc before their kids are another no no

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"If a woman or man does not respect the fact that children come first, no matter what then I wouldn't want to know them x

That's why I dumped her

And you did the right thing. And anyone who would put a partner etc before their kids are another no no "

Totally agree, that reason is part reason why my kids are with me now and have been for nearly 4 year

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"If a woman or man does not respect the fact that children come first, no matter what then I wouldn't want to know them x

That's why I dumped her

And you did the right thing. And anyone who would put a partner etc before their kids are another no no

Totally agree, that reason is part reason why my kids are with me now and have been for nearly 4 year

Because a man was clearly more important

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I am in no way defending blokes, they 2 can be arse holes, I know because iv been 1

In my experience ( there's lots )

Women act a good act, smile in your face whilst stabbing you in the back, jealousy and envy

In my experience women are very toxic

No I'm not taring everyone with the same brush

My walls high

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

"I'm a single dad, most women have ran a mile already,

I'm unable to make any type of plans without the possibility of me not being able to make plans happen,

Iv no idea what I want anymore

Being an half decent stable dad is my main priority

Iv found that alot of women don't like being less of a priority in life to a fellas kids

The struggle is real eh lol

What my long rambling post means, there are women out there who understand kids come first.

I'm thinking that is what puts me off, all iv experienced so far are very jealous toxic women

The idea makes my skin crawl "

If anyone male or female can't see that kids are your top priority they aren't worth knowing.

I think as long as you're upfront about your time commitments at the start no prospective partner can complain.

I'm not saying that having a partner with kids isn't hard it is. Especially if the ex is toxic and tries to get the child to hate the new partner. Been there it's hard I can't lie. But there are women who understand and get it, especially of they have children of their own. Don't give up hope.

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By *arkus1812Man
over a year ago

Finedon ,

With the Covid restrictions and my ongoing health issues I became depressed with the situation.

My daughter, who is aware I am on Fab, suggested looking in the world outside of Fab, I did, It worked, I have met someone close to my own age and it seems to be working well.

Fab is great, but there is life outside of it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"With the Covid restrictions and my ongoing health issues I became depressed with the situation.

My daughter, who is aware I am on Fab, suggested looking in the world outside of Fab, I did, It worked, I have met someone close to my own age and it seems to be working well.

Fab is great, but there is life outside of it."

Aww that's brilliant!

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