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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

When does just calling someone out, or providing clarity over something, become mansplaining?

If one man “states the bleeding obvious” to another man, is it mansplaining? If he does it to a woman, is it the same? What if a woman does it to a man? Is it womansplaining?

Help me out. I need to understand

Peace, love and plants

X

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By *LiamMan
over a year ago

Midlands

You confused me. I'm out

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"You confused me. I'm out"

See how easily it’s done?

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By *igmaMan
over a year ago

Yorkshire

Whenever it suits….

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By *adyJayneWoman
over a year ago

Burnleyish (She/They)


"When does just calling someone out, or providing clarity over something, become mansplaining?

If one man “states the bleeding obvious” to another man, is it mansplaining? If he does it to a woman, is it the same? What if a woman does it to a man? Is it womansplaining?

Help me out. I need to understand

Peace, love and plants

X

"

It's generally, when a man, without prompting or request, explains a topic to a woman.

It's often accompanied with an air of superiority and an assumption (on the part of the man) that he knows more than the woman he's explaining too.

I have worked in male dominated environments all my life, I've seen and experienced it probably as many 4 or 5 times a day.

Colleague 1 (a man) asks collegue 2 (also a man) to do a task. No instructions, no 'advice' on how to do it... Just "oh Jack, will you do x".

Colleague 1 then asks collegue 3 (a woman) to do the same job. That request goes more like... "Jill, can you do x? You need to make sure you follow step 1, step 2, step 3... Now step 4 is a little tricky, you have to take the dohicky and put it in the subflange so the flux capacitor lights up. You might struggle with that"

Jill is the one who designed the process and wrote the manual...

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By *ethnmelvCouple
over a year ago

Cardiff


"When does just calling someone out, or providing clarity over something, become mansplaining?

If one man “states the bleeding obvious” to another man, is it mansplaining? If he does it to a woman, is it the same? What if a woman does it to a man? Is it womansplaining?

Help me out. I need to understand

Peace, love and plants

X

It's generally, when a man, without prompting or request, explains a topic to a woman.

It's often accompanied with an air of superiority and an assumption (on the part of the man) that he knows more than the woman he's explaining too.

I have worked in male dominated environments all my life, I've seen and experienced it probably as many 4 or 5 times a day.

Colleague 1 (a man) asks collegue 2 (also a man) to do a task. No instructions, no 'advice' on how to do it... Just "oh Jack, will you do x".

Colleague 1 then asks collegue 3 (a woman) to do the same job. That request goes more like... "Jill, can you do x? You need to make sure you follow step 1, step 2, step 3... Now step 4 is a little tricky, you have to take the dohicky and put it in the subflange so the flux capacitor lights up. You might struggle with that"

Jill is the one who designed the process and wrote the manual... "

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"When does just calling someone out, or providing clarity over something, become mansplaining?

If one man “states the bleeding obvious” to another man, is it mansplaining? If he does it to a woman, is it the same? What if a woman does it to a man? Is it womansplaining?

Help me out. I need to understand

Peace, love and plants

X

It's generally, when a man, without prompting or request, explains a topic to a woman.

It's often accompanied with an air of superiority and an assumption (on the part of the man) that he knows more than the woman he's explaining too.

I have worked in male dominated environments all my life, I've seen and experienced it probably as many 4 or 5 times a day.

Colleague 1 (a man) asks collegue 2 (also a man) to do a task. No instructions, no 'advice' on how to do it... Just "oh Jack, will you do x".

Colleague 1 then asks collegue 3 (a woman) to do the same job. That request goes more like... "Jill, can you do x? You need to make sure you follow step 1, step 2, step 3... Now step 4 is a little tricky, you have to take the dohicky and put it in the subflange so the flux capacitor lights up. You might struggle with that"

Jill is the one who designed the process and wrote the manual... "

Isn’t that just condescending in general? Or is it because men tend to only be condescending towards women? I’ve seen plenty of examples where men have condescended other men - is that mansplaining too?

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By *adyJayneWoman
over a year ago

Burnleyish (She/They)


"When does just calling someone out, or providing clarity over something, become mansplaining?

If one man “states the bleeding obvious” to another man, is it mansplaining? If he does it to a woman, is it the same? What if a woman does it to a man? Is it womansplaining?

Help me out. I need to understand

Peace, love and plants

X

It's generally, when a man, without prompting or request, explains a topic to a woman.

It's often accompanied with an air of superiority and an assumption (on the part of the man) that he knows more than the woman he's explaining too.

I have worked in male dominated environments all my life, I've seen and experienced it probably as many 4 or 5 times a day.

Colleague 1 (a man) asks collegue 2 (also a man) to do a task. No instructions, no 'advice' on how to do it... Just "oh Jack, will you do x".

Colleague 1 then asks collegue 3 (a woman) to do the same job. That request goes more like... "Jill, can you do x? You need to make sure you follow step 1, step 2, step 3... Now step 4 is a little tricky, you have to take the dohicky and put it in the subflange so the flux capacitor lights up. You might struggle with that"

Jill is the one who designed the process and wrote the manual...

Isn’t that just condescending in general? Or is it because men tend to only be condescending towards women? I’ve seen plenty of examples where men have condescended other men - is that mansplaining too? "

Some people are just generally all round condescending. That's who they are (I mean I probably call them dicks).

As I tried to explain above mansplaining is when that condescension is only targeted towards women.

It's when someone will not explain, to my male peer, how to do something. However in the very next sentence will give me intricate minute detail on how to do it (without me asking him to).

Him there by assuming based purely on my perceived gender that I am unlikely to know the task. Even though it's literally my job.

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

Crikey! There’s more to life ….. get a grip

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Crikey! There’s more to life ….. get a grip "

Mam

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

I tend to laugh at it when it happens. Last time it happened was at a builders yard. Dressed as I normally do in a dress, so to be fair not normal yard attire.

Polite man came up to me asked if I needed help, responded no thank you I'm good. Then he asked what I wanted, said I was putting up a fence and said thank you and walked away. He then tried to tell me what supplies I needed and how to put up a fence. At this point I was a bit annoyed as I said I didn't need help I knew what i was doing. So had to tell him I grew up on a farm and I knew what I was doing. To be fair he did then appologise and made a comment I wasn't the typical looking customer.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I believe it is when a woman feels that she is being condescended to at least in part because she is a woman.

It is subjective and therefore allows men who don't want to believe it's real to explain why it isn't and women who want to believe it is prevalent to see it everywhere - confirmation bias will ensure that the beliefs of both sides are upheld.

As with most things, the truth probably lies somewhere in the middle. If we all made more of an effort to see the world through other peoples eyes it would both happen,and be claimed to have happened, less often.

Mr

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The other version is womansplaiming when your partner goes around re-arranging everything you've hung on the washing line because you're a man and don't have a clue

Mr

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A lot of communication is non-verbal, which means a lot is assumed and we normally do a pretty good job.

Two mature people having a conversation will be able to correct each other while also listening for corrections from the other person.

Mansplaining is less about what is said, or how, but a refusal either to listen to feedback or assertively (politely) correct the other.

It's not much different from someone who just expects their partner to know what they want, by mind-reading or f***ing magic, and then gets angry having communicated nothing of their desires.

In other words, there's a 50:50 chance that the person complaining of mansplaining is the one at fault.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When does just calling someone out, or providing clarity over something, become mansplaining?

If one man “states the bleeding obvious” to another man, is it mansplaining? If he does it to a woman, is it the same? What if a woman does it to a man? Is it womansplaining?

Help me out. I need to understand

Peace, love and plants

X

It's generally, when a man, without prompting or request, explains a topic to a woman.

It's often accompanied with an air of superiority and an assumption (on the part of the man) that he knows more than the woman he's explaining too.

I have worked in male dominated environments all my life, I've seen and experienced it probably as many 4 or 5 times a day.

Colleague 1 (a man) asks collegue 2 (also a man) to do a task. No instructions, no 'advice' on how to do it... Just "oh Jack, will you do x".

Colleague 1 then asks collegue 3 (a woman) to do the same job. That request goes more like... "Jill, can you do x? You need to make sure you follow step 1, step 2, step 3... Now step 4 is a little tricky, you have to take the dohicky and put it in the subflange so the flux capacitor lights up. You might struggle with that"

Jill is the one who designed the process and wrote the manual... "

Even worse when a man explains to a woman about her body and he isn’t medically qualified.

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land


"The other version is womansplaiming when your partner goes around re-arranging everything you've hung on the washing line because you're a man and don't have a clue

Mr"

I may or may not do this, when he's not looking

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

I had a boss who used to kind of mansplain everything to me. I was responsible for a multi million pound monthly spend on mechanical parts in which I consistently achieved a 95% service ratio. However every time he explained about a new or different part to me he would describe it on terms of nail varnish or mascara as if I couldn't possibly understand it if it referred to an actual machine part. Did he explain things to my male colleagues in these terms? Of course he didn't, that would have been patronising now, wouldn't it

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By *hetalkingstoveMan
over a year ago

London


"

Isn’t that just condescending in general? Or is it because men tend to only be condescending towards women? I’ve seen plenty of examples where men have condescended other men - is that mansplaining too? "

Men can be condescending towards other men, of course.

'Mansplaining' is just expressing the observation that men are much more likely to assume women don't know what they're talking about than other men.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The other version is womansplaiming when your partner goes around re-arranging everything you've hung on the washing line because you're a man and don't have a clue

Mr

I may or may not do this, when he's not looking "

See, women are worse. At least us men believe you ladies intelligent enough to learn and worth taking the time to educate. When it's the other way around ladies seem to think men are helpless creatures who need things doing for them. A woman doesn't 'splain anything, she just says give it here and let me do it properly

Mr

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land


"The other version is womansplaiming when your partner goes around re-arranging everything you've hung on the washing line because you're a man and don't have a clue

Mr

I may or may not do this, when he's not looking

See, women are worse. At least us men believe you ladies intelligent enough to learn and worth taking the time to educate. When it's the other way around ladies seem to think men are helpless creatures who need things doing for them. A woman doesn't 'splain anything, she just says give it here and let me do it properly

Mr"

That's because you lot never listen

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The other version is womansplaiming when your partner goes around re-arranging everything you've hung on the washing line because you're a man and don't have a clue

Mr

I may or may not do this, when he's not looking

See, women are worse. At least us men believe you ladies intelligent enough to learn and worth taking the time to educate. When it's the other way around ladies seem to think men are helpless creatures who need things doing for them. A woman doesn't 'splain anything, she just says give it here and let me do it properly

Mr

That's because you lot never listen "

Lol this really made me laugh!

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham

It's just women and their inferiority complex. They like to think they know everything, but they don't like it when they don't, and they don't like it even more so when a man does and he has to explain it to them.

*Runs and dives for cover. Invisibility cloak activated.

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land


"It's just women and their inferiority complex. They like to think they know everything, but they don't like it when they don't, and they don't like it even more so when a man does and he has to explain it to them.

*Runs and dives for cover. Invisibility cloak activated. "

That is brave fighting talk

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland


"The other version is womansplaiming when your partner goes around re-arranging everything you've hung on the washing line because you're a man and don't have a clue

Mr

I may or may not do this, when he's not looking

See, women are worse. At least us men believe you ladies intelligent enough to learn and worth taking the time to educate. When it's the other way around ladies seem to think men are helpless creatures who need things doing for them. A woman doesn't 'splain anything, she just says give it here and let me do it properly

Mr

That's because you lot never listen

Lol this really made me laugh!

"

Me, too - and I have learnt something new today. What one of my colleagues does (and it comes from a good place) is mansplaining. What I do qualifies as tolerating it, as it comes from that good heart and he is such a nice bloke.!

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham


"It's just women and their inferiority complex. They like to think they know everything, but they don't like it when they don't, and they don't like it even more so when a man does and he has to explain it to them.

*Runs and dives for cover. Invisibility cloak activated.

That is brave fighting talk "

Either that or I've just committed fabicide.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The other version is womansplaiming when your partner goes around re-arranging everything you've hung on the washing line because you're a man and don't have a clue

Mr

I may or may not do this, when he's not looking

See, women are worse. At least us men believe you ladies intelligent enough to learn and worth taking the time to educate. When it's the other way around ladies seem to think men are helpless creatures who need things doing for them. A woman doesn't 'splain anything, she just says give it here and let me do it properly

Mr

That's because you lot never listen "

Pretty much what her ladyship said tbh. Of course we don't listen, if we've not explained it to you first how could you possibly know enough to tell us?

Mr

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land


"The other version is womansplaiming when your partner goes around re-arranging everything you've hung on the washing line because you're a man and don't have a clue

Mr

I may or may not do this, when he's not looking

See, women are worse. At least us men believe you ladies intelligent enough to learn and worth taking the time to educate. When it's the other way around ladies seem to think men are helpless creatures who need things doing for them. A woman doesn't 'splain anything, she just says give it here and let me do it properly

Mr

That's because you lot never listen

Pretty much what her ladyship said tbh. Of course we don't listen, if we've not explained it to you first how could you possibly know enough to tell us?

Mr"

Your lovely lady is undoubtedly always right. And if she reads this thread you're going to be trouble haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The other version is womansplaiming when your partner goes around re-arranging everything you've hung on the washing line because you're a man and don't have a clue

Mr

I may or may not do this, when he's not looking

See, women are worse. At least us men believe you ladies intelligent enough to learn and worth taking the time to educate. When it's the other way around ladies seem to think men are helpless creatures who need things doing for them. A woman doesn't 'splain anything, she just says give it here and let me do it properly

Mr

That's because you lot never listen

Pretty much what her ladyship said tbh. Of course we don't listen, if we've not explained it to you first how could you possibly know enough to tell us?

Mr

Your lovely lady is undoubtedly always right. And if she reads this thread you're going to be trouble haha "

I honestly think she believes that to be true so she'll be happy to have you confirm it.

Mr

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The other version is womansplaiming when your partner goes around re-arranging everything you've hung on the washing line because you're a man and don't have a clue

Mr

I may or may not do this, when he's not looking

See, women are worse. At least us men believe you ladies intelligent enough to learn and worth taking the time to educate. When it's the other way around ladies seem to think men are helpless creatures who need things doing for them. A woman doesn't 'splain anything, she just says give it here and let me do it properly

Mr

That's because you lot never listen

Lol this really made me laugh!

"

Hey, I'm feeling ganged up on. This is bordering on bullying

Mr

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The other version is womansplaiming when your partner goes around re-arranging everything you've hung on the washing line because you're a man and don't have a clue

Mr

I may or may not do this, when he's not looking

See, women are worse. At least us men believe you ladies intelligent enough to learn and worth taking the time to educate. When it's the other way around ladies seem to think men are helpless creatures who need things doing for them. A woman doesn't 'splain anything, she just says give it here and let me do it properly

Mr

That's because you lot never listen

Lol this really made me laugh!

Hey, I'm feeling ganged up on. This is bordering on bullying

Mr"

Not at all reflective.

Men try to explain in simple terms why they believe we do not understand

We simply do it ourselves

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The other version is womansplaiming when your partner goes around re-arranging everything you've hung on the washing line because you're a man and don't have a clue

Mr

I may or may not do this, when he's not looking

See, women are worse. At least us men believe you ladies intelligent enough to learn and worth taking the time to educate. When it's the other way around ladies seem to think men are helpless creatures who need things doing for them. A woman doesn't 'splain anything, she just says give it here and let me do it properly

Mr

That's because you lot never listen

Lol this really made me laugh!

Hey, I'm feeling ganged up on. This is bordering on bullying

Mr

Not at all reflective.

Men try to explain in simple terms why they believe we do not understand

We simply do it ourselves "

I reckon us guys could learn a lot from that.

Mr

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

Why weren't you in my house Will .... You could have witenessed wholly explanatory examples.......

Him. Just stop the film a minute.

Me. ( stops the film )

Him. Can you explain to me what's happened so far so that I can see if you think the same as me.

Me ( thinking he needed clarity ) sure..blah blah blah blah blah blah and so forth.

Him. Well done !!

Me. What ???

( and there then ensued some heating discussion about arrogant pricks )

There have been many more. Believe me .. he really thought I wouldn't get the science film cos I is a lady !

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"I tend to laugh at it when it happens. Last time it happened was at a builders yard. Dressed as I normally do in a dress, so to be fair not normal yard attire.

Polite man came up to me asked if I needed help, responded no thank you I'm good. Then he asked what I wanted, said I was putting up a fence and said thank you and walked away. He then tried to tell me what supplies I needed and how to put up a fence. At this point I was a bit annoyed as I said I didn't need help I knew what i was doing. So had to tell him I grew up on a farm and I knew what I was doing. To be fair he did then appologise and made a comment I wasn't the typical looking customer. "

I get it in D.I.Y shops all the time.

Wait till you are my age and they think you are senile too ...... it's a fucking hoot ... until I'm nasty.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"When does just calling someone out, or providing clarity over something, become mansplaining?

If one man “states the bleeding obvious” to another man, is it mansplaining? If he does it to a woman, is it the same? What if a woman does it to a man? Is it womansplaining?

Help me out. I need to understand

Peace, love and plants

X

It's generally, when a man, without prompting or request, explains a topic to a woman.

It's often accompanied with an air of superiority and an assumption (on the part of the man) that he knows more than the woman he's explaining too.

I have worked in male dominated environments all my life, I've seen and experienced it probably as many 4 or 5 times a day.

Colleague 1 (a man) asks collegue 2 (also a man) to do a task. No instructions, no 'advice' on how to do it... Just "oh Jack, will you do x".

Colleague 1 then asks collegue 3 (a woman) to do the same job. That request goes more like... "Jill, can you do x? You need to make sure you follow step 1, step 2, step 3... Now step 4 is a little tricky, you have to take the dohicky and put it in the subflange so the flux capacitor lights up. You might struggle with that"

Jill is the one who designed the process and wrote the manual...

Even worse when a man explains to a woman about her body and he isn’t medically qualified."

Or how to apply make up or even funnier .... why they shouldn't bother.

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland


"I tend to laugh at it when it happens. Last time it happened was at a builders yard. Dressed as I normally do in a dress, so to be fair not normal yard attire.

Polite man came up to me asked if I needed help, responded no thank you I'm good. Then he asked what I wanted, said I was putting up a fence and said thank you and walked away. He then tried to tell me what supplies I needed and how to put up a fence. At this point I was a bit annoyed as I said I didn't need help I knew what i was doing. So had to tell him I grew up on a farm and I knew what I was doing. To be fair he did then appologise and made a comment I wasn't the typical looking customer.

I get it in D.I.Y shops all the time.

Wait till you are my age and they think you are senile too ...... it's a fucking hoot ... until I'm nasty."
This.... I would pay to see! Best entertainment since .... whoever!

When do the tickets go on sale?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The other version is womansplaiming when your partner goes around re-arranging everything you've hung on the washing line because you're a man and don't have a clue

Mr

I may or may not do this, when he's not looking

See, women are worse. At least us men believe you ladies intelligent enough to learn and worth taking the time to educate. When it's the other way around ladies seem to think men are helpless creatures who need things doing for them. A woman doesn't 'splain anything, she just says give it here and let me do it properly

Mr"

Pegs. You're meant to use pegs, not make it look like the washing basket exploded over the line. I did all my own pegging out

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"I tend to laugh at it when it happens. Last time it happened was at a builders yard. Dressed as I normally do in a dress, so to be fair not normal yard attire.

Polite man came up to me asked if I needed help, responded no thank you I'm good. Then he asked what I wanted, said I was putting up a fence and said thank you and walked away. He then tried to tell me what supplies I needed and how to put up a fence. At this point I was a bit annoyed as I said I didn't need help I knew what i was doing. So had to tell him I grew up on a farm and I knew what I was doing. To be fair he did then appologise and made a comment I wasn't the typical looking customer.

I get it in D.I.Y shops all the time.

Wait till you are my age and they think you are senile too ...... it's a fucking hoot ... until I'm nasty."

, .

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land


"I tend to laugh at it when it happens. Last time it happened was at a builders yard. Dressed as I normally do in a dress, so to be fair not normal yard attire.

Polite man came up to me asked if I needed help, responded no thank you I'm good. Then he asked what I wanted, said I was putting up a fence and said thank you and walked away. He then tried to tell me what supplies I needed and how to put up a fence. At this point I was a bit annoyed as I said I didn't need help I knew what i was doing. So had to tell him I grew up on a farm and I knew what I was doing. To be fair he did then appologise and made a comment I wasn't the typical looking customer.

I get it in D.I.Y shops all the time.

Wait till you are my age and they think you are senile too ...... it's a fucking hoot ... until I'm nasty."

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

If I have to explain anything to anybody, whether it be male or female, they're usually non the wiser at the end of it anyway

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"If I have to explain anything to anybody, whether it be male or female, they're usually non the wiser at the end of it anyway "

same!

I usually tell them to look bon YouTube

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

My favourite example of people assuming old persons are senile was during a meeting with bank personnel. They explained very carefully to me that internet banking was now a thing and proceeded to show me, as if by magic a presentation of their insurance products on their tablet. Half way through the screen went blank.

"It's out of charge" said I.

Look of disbelief crosses bank persons face, it can't be they tell me while wiggling the cable and shaking their tablet. I said several times that they needed to plug it in but nope they went and checked with colleagues if anyone else had problems, maybe they'd lost signal. Eventually they went and got a charger...guess what? It was out of charge .

This was a woman.

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland


"My favourite example of people assuming old persons are senile was during a meeting with bank personnel. They explained very carefully to me that internet banking was now a thing and proceeded to show me, as if by magic a presentation of their insurance products on their tablet. Half way through the screen went blank.

"It's out of charge" said I.

Look of disbelief crosses bank persons face, it can't be they tell me while wiggling the cable and shaking their tablet. I said several times that they needed to plug it in but nope they went and checked with colleagues if anyone else had problems, maybe they'd lost signal. Eventually they went and got a charger...guess what? It was out of charge .

This was a woman. "

I love these golden moments!

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"My favourite example of people assuming old persons are senile was during a meeting with bank personnel. They explained very carefully to me that internet banking was now a thing and proceeded to show me, as if by magic a presentation of their insurance products on their tablet. Half way through the screen went blank.

"It's out of charge" said I.

Look of disbelief crosses bank persons face, it can't be they tell me while wiggling the cable and shaking their tablet. I said several times that they needed to plug it in but nope they went and checked with colleagues if anyone else had problems, maybe they'd lost signal. Eventually they went and got a charger...guess what? It was out of charge .

This was a woman.

I love these golden moments! "

Me too. I didn't give them my business. They weren't listening to me in that small detail what hope was there that they'd listen at other times.

I think mansplaining is a thing but everyone makes assumptions about what people will understand based on their own preconceived notions

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ


"If I have to explain anything to anybody, whether it be male or female, they're usually non the wiser at the end of it anyway

same!

I usually tell them to look bon YouTube "

It would be easier to train a Parrot to recite some of the explanations that I have given to certain people, cos nothing seems to sink in

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"If I have to explain anything to anybody, whether it be male or female, they're usually non the wiser at the end of it anyway

same!

I usually tell them to look bon YouTube

It would be easier to train a Parrot to recite some of the explanations that I have given to certain people, cos nothing seems to sink in "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The other version is womansplaiming when your partner goes around re-arranging everything you've hung on the washing line because you're a man and don't have a clue

Mr

I may or may not do this, when he's not looking

See, women are worse. At least us men believe you ladies intelligent enough to learn and worth taking the time to educate. When it's the other way around ladies seem to think men are helpless creatures who need things doing for them. A woman doesn't 'splain anything, she just says give it here and let me do it properly

Mr

That's because you lot never listen

Pretty much what her ladyship said tbh. Of course we don't listen, if we've not explained it to you first how could you possibly know enough to tell us?

Mr

Your lovely lady is undoubtedly always right. And if she reads this thread you're going to be trouble haha

I honestly think she believes that to be true so she'll be happy to have you confirm it.

Mr"

Frida he informed me about this thread before I stumbled across his bravery

NBVN x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Men, just in case you’re not sure if you’re mansplaining to a woman here is an easy guide:

Did she ask you explain it to her ?

Yes- probably not mansplaining.

No - you’re mansplaining, probably best to shut up.

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

If you usume you know more because she's a woman, it's mansplaining. If she's actually an expert/authority on the subject and you feel the need to explain it to her, it's mansplaining. If you're talking about woman's issues and you're explaining it to a woman, it's mansplaining. Otherwise you're just an arrogant tosser .

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land


"The other version is womansplaiming when your partner goes around re-arranging everything you've hung on the washing line because you're a man and don't have a clue

Mr

I may or may not do this, when he's not looking

See, women are worse. At least us men believe you ladies intelligent enough to learn and worth taking the time to educate. When it's the other way around ladies seem to think men are helpless creatures who need things doing for them. A woman doesn't 'splain anything, she just says give it here and let me do it properly

Mr

That's because you lot never listen

Pretty much what her ladyship said tbh. Of course we don't listen, if we've not explained it to you first how could you possibly know enough to tell us?

Mr

Your lovely lady is undoubtedly always right. And if she reads this thread you're going to be trouble haha

I honestly think she believes that to be true so she'll be happy to have you confirm it.

Mr

Frida he informed me about this thread before I stumbled across his bravery

NBVN x"

Haha that's because he was clearly running scared

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By *acksLamentMan
over a year ago

Wales

I can't help but think that if I tried to explain mansplaining to somebody it would just sound like I was mansplaining.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I can't help but think that if I tried to explain mansplaining to somebody it would just sound like I was mansplaining."

Life is such a bitter irony sometimes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love a good long mansplanation in my areas of high intellect. I just take it to the next level!

However if it was anything DIY related I have not got a scooby and I’m slightly turned on by a guy that knows his stuff and coaches me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I tend to laugh at it when it happens. Last time it happened was at a builders yard. Dressed as I normally do in a dress, so to be fair not normal yard attire.

Polite man came up to me asked if I needed help, responded no thank you I'm good. Then he asked what I wanted, said I was putting up a fence and said thank you and walked away. He then tried to tell me what supplies I needed and how to put up a fence. At this point I was a bit annoyed as I said I didn't need help I knew what i was doing. So had to tell him I grew up on a farm and I knew what I was doing. To be fair he did then appologise and made a comment I wasn't the typical looking customer. "

This! ^ accept i wouldn't bother showing him that ive got this.

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By *hatYorkLadMan
over a year ago

York

Ladies - mansplaining is when a man explains something to you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ladies - mansplaining is when a man explains something to you

Unnecessarily so... like telling you how to put your trousers on

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By *ethnmelvCouple
over a year ago

Cardiff


"If you usume you know more because she's a woman, it's mansplaining. If she's actually an expert/authority on the subject and you feel the need to explain it to her, it's mansplaining. If you're talking about woman's issues and you're explaining it to a woman, it's mansplaining. Otherwise you're just an arrogant tosser . "

Nicely put

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you usume you know more because she's a woman, it's mansplaining. If she's actually an expert/authority on the subject and you feel the need to explain it to her, it's mansplaining. If you're talking about woman's issues and you're explaining it to a woman, it's mansplaining. Otherwise you're just an arrogant tosser . "

Good job I never bother explaining myself.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

There was a recent example in the media, of the Chair of Olympic Committee apparently “mansplained” to the Brisbane Premier.

What I saw was a the chair of the Olympic committee setting out a clear expectation about who will attend an event that’s costa $75-100 million Australian dollars to host. And I think he was right, especially after the Premier was recoded a saying she’d not attend.

So the question is, would he have done the same if the Premier were a man? I don’t know John Coates, but I suspect he’d be as belligerent with anyone shirking their employment responsibilities. There’s no doubt he’s a dinosaur and a bully, but he’s been labelled a sexist for “mansplaining”.

Is it though ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This tweet sums up mansplaining perfectly by a woman:

‘thinking about the time I said I was distantly related to Marie curie and a guy said ‘it’s pronounced Mariah Carey!’

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham

In the old days they were called 'know it alls'. These days there has to be a gender divide element to it.

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