FabSwingers.com forum: Things you hate about Fab, Part 02

By *stbury Davenport OP Man
over a year ago

Nottingham

I killed the last thread. It feels like we weren't done, so here's a continuation.

Here's a new thing I hate about Fab: Getting a notification that you've had a new wink, only to check the list and find that you haven't at all. I'm just not into tease and denial!

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By *ememberTheNameMan
over a year ago

barnsley

Stories and fantasy section someone starts a story and then puts shall I continue

Get in the bin you thirsty rascal !

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By *stbury Davenport OP Man
over a year ago

Nottingham

I’m going to stick my neck out, and tell you my least-favourite thing about Fab:

The patently false assertion that the gender imbalance isn’t an issue, and that “Fab’s what you make it.”

No. Just no, no, no.

You have the photos of Adonis, the profile text of Shakespeare, and an introductory message worthy of Cyrano de Bergerac…

… but the recipient has received 1,100 FAF one-liners in the last twenty-four hours, can’t even physically see yours because the inbox can’t display that many, and quite understandably deletes the whole lot unread.

Some things really are just out of your hands, and pretending that they’re not serves no helpful purpose. Pure just-world fallacy.

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By *zlakMan
over a year ago

Norwich

Timewasters and people without manners!!

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By *nly4funMan
over a year ago

Nottingham

The thing I both love and hate about Fab is the twats. The ones that below to a lady, lovely. The others should just feck off.

Shame the site admins don’t kick people out for twattish behaviour. It’s hard to be heard above the noise!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hate is too strong a word, I don't take it that seriously.

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By *stbury Davenport OP Man
over a year ago

Nottingham

The fact that Fab's blocking function doesn't actually block people.

In the nearly twenty-one years I've been online, it's literally the only forum I've ever seen that doesn't have this pre-2000-level-of-basic functionality.

"It would make threads confusing!" people cry. No other forum I've ever been on has a problem with it. Just this one. It's baffling.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

1 liner first ever msgs

"wanna fk now" or very similar with a very close up dick-pic attached

Like seriously do these people honestly think a Female is gonna meet an online stranger just like that...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dislike how easily people with no or unstable self esteem are manipulated into sex with strangers.

Also dislike the fact people can over inflate their success… and their failures in here too… or maybe that’s just a wide spread digital issue?!.

I also dislike that there’s no aftercare for anyone who contracts hiv from playing with prep safe peeps in here.

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By *urora1912Woman
over a year ago

Norfolk East anglia

"Stories and fantasy section someone starts a story and then puts shall I continue

Get in the bin you thirsty rascal !

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By *urora1912Woman
over a year ago

Norfolk East anglia

Time wasters

People who ghost

Rudeness

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By *stbury Davenport OP Man
over a year ago

Nottingham

The fact that quotes appear as greyed-out text, rather than in a box, and don't display the username of the person you're quoting.

Again, every other forum I've been on since 2000 has this. Just not Fab. This is *way* more confusing than blocked people actually being blocked.

There are even forums where the boxed-out quotes partially collapse, saving everyone a massive amount of scrolling.

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By *hrough the looking gla55Couple
over a year ago

Epsom

I dislike that we had to block single guys

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

"I’m going to stick my neck out, and tell you my least-favourite thing about Fab:

The patently false assertion that the gender imbalance isn’t an issue, and that “Fab’s what you make it.”

No. Just no, no, no.

You have the photos of Adonis, the profile text of Shakespeare, and an introductory message worthy of Cyrano de Bergerac…

Some things really are just out of your hands, and pretending that they’re not serves no helpful purpose. Pure just-world fallacy.

My thing I hate is people buying in to the fact that women get 1100 a day and use that as an excuse

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

"I dislike how easily people with no or unstable self esteem are manipulated into sex with strangers.

Also dislike the fact people can over inflate their success… and their failures in here too… or maybe that’s just a wide spread digital issue?!.

I also dislike that there’s no aftercare for anyone who contracts hiv from playing with prep safe peeps in here."

After care in what way?

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

"The fact that Fab's blocking function doesn't actually block people.

In the nearly twenty-one years I've been online, it's literally the only forum I've ever seen that doesn't have this pre-2000-level-of-basic functionality.

"It would make threads confusing!" people cry. No other forum I've ever been on has a problem with it. Just this one. It's baffling. "

Sorry it seems like I'm picking on your points here.....

Another thing u hate is people (not you) not being able to just be adults and simply ignoring each other if they don't get along.

I do understand that in some instances the issues between people are more than just disliking one another but for the most part the request to completely block people on the forums is based on a childish 'I dint like what they say' reasoning.

Also, I'd imagine it would lead to an awful lot of slagging off if you knew the other party couldn't read it. Plus those quoting what has been said would make the posts visible anyway.

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By *2000ManMan
over a year ago

Worthing

There is no indication (pm) if someone replies (quotes) one of your forum posts.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Profiles that are way too long, it’s like reading a short story. And majority of it is don’t do this, we don’t like this. Fucking hell just chill out and fun

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

That you can’t verify people if you have connected to thier WiFi, understand why but it’s so annoying, harem WiFi is so useful when out and about

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By *otsossieMan
over a year ago

local, but not too local

"There is no indication (pm) if someone replies (quotes) one of your forum posts."

Quoting in general is broken.

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

"There is no indication (pm) if someone replies (quotes) one of your forum posts.

Quoting in general is broken.

And you can just make quotes up"

Really !?

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By *tue555Man
over a year ago

Passed Beyond Reach

"The fact that Fab's blocking function doesn't actually block people.

In the nearly twenty-one years I've been online, it's literally the only forum I've ever seen that doesn't have this pre-2000-level-of-basic functionality.

"It would make threads confusing!" people cry. No other forum I've ever been on has a problem with it. Just this one. It's baffling. "

If you block people in the forums as in chat all that it ends up doing is all is allow people to slate others behind their backs more easily and others sniggering like junior school kids.

It is bad enough now with side swipes, underhanded comments, PMs and WhatApp groups against people they know nothing about. Can you imaging what it be like if you could exclude people from seeing your posts - it would be a hatefest more than it is now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I dislike how easily people with no or unstable self esteem are manipulated into sex with strangers.

Also dislike the fact people can over inflate their success… and their failures in here too… or maybe that’s just a wide spread digital issue?!.

I also dislike that there’s no aftercare for anyone who contracts hiv from playing with prep safe

peeps in here.

After care in what way? "

A swingers Newly contracted hiv section wouldn’t go amiss imo… because when people do get hiv from playing with people in here… they go onto medication… and they remain in here.

I would also love to see proper info on Prep… yes it protects the individual taking it… as long as they keep up with their daily doses… if they don’t they’re a risk to others.

Also taking prep doesn’t stop sti/std transference.

I went to my third swingers venue event a couple of years ago and basically 2 people there that are hardened swingers got sti’s from sharing a guy (they didn’t know they had shared until symptoms showed).

Two of them were on prep and the other not… yet they all got the same std.

I wish people wouldn’t put the health and value of their own lives into other people’s hands who actually don’t give two fucks about them or what happens to them… sex is a very selfish past time for the most part.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

"I dislike how easily people with no or unstable self esteem are manipulated into sex with strangers.

Also dislike the fact people can over inflate their success… and their failures in here too… or maybe that’s just a wide spread digital issue?!.

I also dislike that there’s no aftercare for anyone who contracts hiv from playing with prep safe

peeps in here.

After care in what way?

A swingers Newly contracted hiv section wouldn’t go amiss imo… because when people do get hiv from playing with people in here… they go onto medication… and they remain in here.

I would also love to see proper info on Prep… yes it protects the individual taking it… as long as they keep up with their daily doses… if they don’t they’re a risk to others.

Also taking prep doesn’t stop sti/std transference.

Two of them were on prep and the other not… yet they all got the same std.

Actually I do agree that a sexual health information board would be a great addition to the forums.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Such a problematic issue… I am sure discrimination is going to be a default reaction… nonetheless it’s a fact of life in here and I think, as individuals it would be better to support people for the long term x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One or two word replies which just totally ends the conversation..

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By *reamblueMan
over a year ago

London

You know the box in the search page that says "I'm the age they're looking for"?

Well if they had one that says "I'm the ethnicity they're looking for" it would also save a lot of time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My biggest hatred of late, I suppose this isn’t strictly fab. People seem to be able to rattle off a thousand things they hate but couldn’t rattle off 5 things that actually make them happy

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By * and M lookingCouple
over a year ago

Worcester

Admins double standards.

I get a forum ban when I post something in the forums and it allegedly offends some cherub.

Then when we report someone for a tyrade of abuse in a PM, they do absolutely nothing???

They should keep everything the same for everyone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Admins double standards.

I get a forum ban when I post something in the forums and it allegedly offends some cherub.

Then when we report someone for a tyrade of abuse in a PM, they do absolutely nothing???

They should keep everything the same for everyone."

I think it might have something to do with there being way more individual to individual issues than there are person to group issues.

Let’s fac it, organising us lot or any large number of human beings is a bloody ball ache… very good at complaining us lot as well as expecting someone else to sort crap out on our behalf…

Haha I wouldn’t want to organise large groups of peeps anyways… must be very annoying dealing with problems each and every single day?!

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By *stbury Davenport OP Man
over a year ago

Nottingham

When someone you've had on your hotlist finally shows their face, and you have to quietly remove them from your hotlist.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"When someone you've had on your hotlist finally shows their face, and you have to quietly remove them from your hotlist.

You’re not shallow at all then…. haha….

I would like to point out this is why a lot of women demand face pics… haha too many bad memories of dashed fantasies

haha x

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By *not123Couple
over a year ago

sp1

People not reading our profile then can be insulted by our situation or ask to meet me on my own

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The amount of womens profiles that state "please no abusive messages".

It makes me sad that we have to state this.

I've removed most of my profile text due to getting abuse for simply stating what I do and don't like.

Things need to change.

These little incels need a real man to boot them around and teach them how to respect women.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The amount of womens profiles that state "please no abusive messages".

It makes me sad that we have to state this.

I've removed most of my profile text due to getting abuse for simply stating what I do and don't like.

Things need to change.

These little incels need a real man to boot them around and teach them how to respect women."

Or they just need all the women in here to block them so they learn the lesson the hard way lol

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By *oeBiggs321Man
over a year ago

Reading

This has probably been said a million times already but people who speak to you for ages, arrange a meet / social and let you down then ghost

Like why?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The trolls who feel it necessary to pass comment on my stories, they ruin it for myself and everyone who appreciates the stories! It seems to be getting more frequent, which is why I haven’t posted a story for some time.

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