FabSwingers.com forum: Have you ever been stuck.....

By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

following on the post about first social meets, I am curious who has been on a first meet and felt a bit stuck.

I mean wanting to get out but worrying about how to do so without causing offense?

Not just fabs but in general.

What did you do? How did you get out of the situation?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

nah i gab away and talk to anyone even if dont like them but probably been that one that other people want to get away from but feel stuck haha

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By *ools and the brainCouple
over a year ago

couple, us we him her.

"following on the post about first social meets, I am curious who has been on a first meet and felt a bit stuck.

I mean wanting to get out but worrying about how to do so without causing offense?

Not just fabs but in general.

What did you do? How did you get out of the situation? "

Only once.

The guy was cracking to talk to online but in person or was like trying to get blood out of a stone.

He just sat there and Hardly said a word.

After about half hour we did the pre arranged secret signal for let's get going

Said it was nice to meet him and left, after paying the bar bill!

Fucker didn't even offer to buy a drink but was happy for me to pay for 3 drinks.

Tight git.

Actually that happens more often than you think guy's regularly don't buy a drink.

Even had a guy go and get his own drink.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never. I've been on dates where it's obvious the other person was like "I'm totally not envisioning sex with this bloke" and I'm perceptive enough to pick up on that and just think what the hell, let's have a conversation anyway. I can talk the back leg of a donkey but also listen if somebody is speaking with a bit of passion and not just making small talk, so even dates that went nowhere were their own small success.

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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

"nah i gab away and talk to anyone even if dont like them but probably been that one that other people want to get away from but feel stuck haha "

That made me chuckle

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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

"following on the post about first social meets, I am curious who has been on a first meet and felt a bit stuck.

I mean wanting to get out but worrying about how to do so without causing offense?

Not just fabs but in general.

What did you do? How did you get out of the situation?

Only once.

The guy was cracking to talk to online but in person or was like trying to get blood out of a stone.

He just sat there and Hardly said a word.

After about half hour we did the pre arranged secret signal for let's get going

Said it was nice to meet him and left, after paying the bar bill!

Fucker didn't even offer to buy a drink but was happy for me to pay for 3 drinks.

Tight git.

Actually that happens more often than you think guy's regularly don't buy a drink.

Even had a guy go and get his own drink.

Wow - sounds like very different ideas of a meet!!

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By *affron40Woman
over a year ago

manchester

I had one date where the guy was just bizarre, can’t quite put my finger on it but he seemed really bitter and he was definitely older than his photo.. I felt uncomfortable but felt I had to stay out for a few hours to be polite.. the evening was horrible. After that I only did really casual one hour coffees. It really put me off meeting new people.

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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

"Never. I've been on dates where it's obvious the other person was like "I'm totally not envisioning sex with this bloke" and I'm perceptive enough to pick up on that and just think what the hell, let's have a conversation anyway. I can talk the back leg of a donkey but also listen if somebody is speaking with a bit of passion and not just making small talk, so even dates that went nowhere were their own small success.

I would never walk away from an arranged meet and would at least stay for a drink and make some conversation.

I can usually find something I like about a person, even if I do not fancy them or want to meet them again.

If I feel I want to leave I will say so but I try and do it kindly. Does not always work though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No. I'm a bit bolshy like that. I have just left before now.

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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

"I had one date where the guy was just bizarre, can’t quite put my finger on it but he seemed really bitter and he was definitely older than his photo.. I felt uncomfortable but felt I had to stay out for a few hours to be polite.. the evening was horrible. After that I only did really casual one hour coffees. It really put me off meeting new people. "

That sounds not just a bit creepy and I can totally understand you are now looking for short meets!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes, I tell a meet that I've got to get home because I forgot about my tesco order being delivered.

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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

"No. I'm a bit bolshy like that. I have just left before now. "

Maybe it is a matter of managing expectations as somebody said in the other thread?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Funniest one was with a woman who was very into hotwifing (I discovered once we'd started chatting) and was genuinely only looking for a bull. God knows why she agreed to meet me because that hadn't been discussed at all, but anyway we had a good laugh and chat that ended in us comparing the likely sexual prowess and staying power of every man in the bar

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No. I'm a bit bolshy like that. I have just left before now.

Maybe it is a matter of managing expectations as somebody said in the other thread? "

Yeah I think. I never promise anything and don't really expect anything from here. So I feel no qualms about leaving if it isn't right for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A long time ago, when I had a bigger circle of young, free and single friends, I gave a few a lift home after a day out and the last person I dropped off was a female friend, had been since school. She asked me out, which surprised me, but I politely refused, dressing up, you're not my cuppa, sort of thing. She refused to accept my answer and demanded I give a better reason and refused to get out of the car. I was pleading to go by the end,after about 20mins she finally got out. Still the most uncomfortable experience of my life

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

I got a friend to ring me and then pick me up.

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

"Sometimes, I tell a meet that I've got to get home because I forgot about my tesco order being delivered. "

Brilliant! I'm going to use that one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I lied. It was getting uncomfortable and I didnt know what else to do. Still not happy with myself about it.

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