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My new sexual partner is too big for me – what can I do?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Read this article today and thought it important to share.

"Some men with atypically large penises struggle to find women who can accommodate them, but it is not certain that your friend falls into this category. After a long period of abstinence – and most likely hormonal diminution – some women do experience some vaginal atrophy that restricts penetration with a penis of any size.

Consider experimenting with gentle self-penetration once you are aroused through masturbation (use lubrication); this may help you understand your current genital physiology. But most likely, if you want to receive penetration comfortably again, it would be wise to consult a sexual medicine professional who may be able to help. Typical treatments include hormone therapy, sex therapy and vaginal dilation."

Pamela Stephenson

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By *inger_SnapWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

Abstinence of how long?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Abstinence of how long? "

Article just says a long period, I think a year would be a very long period.

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By *rMojoRisinMan
over a year ago

Sheffield

She reports 11 years!

I would imagine some of it will be mental after such a long period.

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

I recently had sex with someone I've seen a few times and he felt much bigger than usual.

Maybe my vagina shrunk

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I think age is also a factor but not necessarily the only factor.

I know from chatting to a lot of guys they don't believe they can be too big but it's real and does affect women a lot. It can cause pain to ripping. Certainly as we age and especially during menopause, the drop in estrogen makes us much less able to get wet and also the link g of the vagina becomes thinner and prone to ripping.

Products that not only moisturise but also repair and thicken the vagina wall, are available in plenty.

It's a subject not often touched upon but a very important one.

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By *rMojoRisinMan
over a year ago

Sheffield


"I recently had sex with someone I've seen a few times and he felt much bigger than usual.

Maybe my vagina shrunk "

Did you put it on a 60 degree wash?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I recently had sex with someone I've seen a few times and he felt much bigger than usual.

Maybe my vagina shrunk "

It's a possibility, but as long as it's not painful, keeping it up will get you back to normal. Personally at my age I can't recommend a bit of lube enough!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I recently had sex with someone I've seen a few times and he felt much bigger than usual.

Maybe my vagina shrunk

Did you put it on a 60 degree wash? "

Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Or perhaps he genuinely just has a massive dong, likes to pull up to the bumper and knocks the back wall out of the garage.

I know vajayjays are legendarily tough but cervixes less so and I've known at least one woman who didn't like her husband's large cock (mine was a nice fit apparently, which is the one and only time I get to brag about a dead average 5.5")

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Or perhaps he genuinely just has a massive dong, likes to pull up to the bumper and knocks the back wall out of the garage.

I know vajayjays are legendarily tough but cervixes less so and I've known at least one woman who didn't like her husband's large cock (mine was a nice fit apparently, which is the one and only time I get to brag about a dead average 5.5") "

Nothing wrong with average!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dated a woman for a few dates before we decided to book a hotel room for a romantic evening....now I know from previous dates that she had cancer treatment a few years earlier but hadn't had sex since the treatments...anyway, to cut a story short after lots of kissing and undressing and we was both naked in the bedroom she asked me to politely go gentle, which i obviously agreed to, however, being that wasn't the problem, her (what was a lovely looking) pussy was so tight, I even struggled to get a finger in let alone anything else, nor was I going to force the issue...I has been told that certain cancer treatments can have this effect, I always took it with a pinch of salt till I witnessed it first hand. So, yes I do believe it can happen, but not just from lack of use

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

I often get women that I'm too big for them, but I don't think they was talking about my cock.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I saw this on the guardians Facebook page

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

I had this issue once. He was as thick as my wrist. Sex was always difficult to some extent.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have experienced this, it does happen!

It was agony and took a lot of work! Lots of positions were a no go, it was very difficult

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I dated a woman for a few dates before we decided to book a hotel room for a romantic evening....now I know from previous dates that she had cancer treatment a few years earlier but hadn't had sex since the treatments...anyway, to cut a story short after lots of kissing and undressing and we was both naked in the bedroom she asked me to politely go gentle, which i obviously agreed to, however, being that wasn't the problem, her (what was a lovely looking) pussy was so tight, I even struggled to get a finger in let alone anything else, nor was I going to force the issue...I has been told that certain cancer treatments can have this effect, I always took it with a pinch of salt till I witnessed it first hand. So, yes I do believe it can happen, but not just from lack of use "

Thanks for this info. That's very valuable to know and yet another reason how it can happen

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I have experienced this, it does happen!

It was agony and took a lot of work! Lots of positions were a no go, it was very difficult "

I've had this a lot and is where you have to be ultra careful

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I had this issue once. He was as thick as my wrist. Sex was always difficult to some extent. "

Wow that's girthy and you must be cautious.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I saw this on the guardians Facebook page "

Excellent and I formative article

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I often get women that I'm too big for them, but I don't think they was talking about my cock. "

Lol

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By *inger_SnapWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

Maybe that explains some of my issues, I had a very long gap in between partners. I'll stick to average though for now lol

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

This is not talked about enough vaginal atrophy is a problem for a lot of women and knowledgeable and understanding doctors very few and far between. The truth is that it is not always fully reversible (although much can be done to improve the situation) and lots of women aren't able to use hormone based products. Pamela Stephenson is great but she does tend to give answers that are a bit glib

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By *otmyfirstrodeo!Man
over a year ago

deepcut

You should just take it like good girl ?? easy for me to say mind you

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"This is not talked about enough vaginal atrophy is a problem for a lot of women and knowledgeable and understanding doctors very few and far between. The truth is that it is not always fully reversible (although much can be done to improve the situation) and lots of women aren't able to use hormone based products. Pamela Stephenson is great but she does tend to give answers that are a bit glib "

Well said indeed. We need more discussions like this

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By *arry monk40Man
over a year ago

Telford

I once had a gf break up with me she could not take size or frequency she said it was exhausting

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip


"Read this article today and thought it important to share.

"Some men with atypically large penises struggle to find women who can accommodate them, but it is not certain that your friend falls into this category. After a long period of abstinence – and most likely hormonal diminution – some women do experience some vaginal atrophy that restricts penetration with a penis of any size.

Consider experimenting with gentle self-penetration once you are aroused through masturbation (use lubrication); this may help you understand your current genital physiology. But most likely, if you want to receive penetration comfortably again, it would be wise to consult a sexual medicine professional who may be able to help. Typical treatments include hormone therapy, sex therapy and vaginal dilation."

Pamela Stephenson

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I just thought I'd point out that I think that's Pamela Stephenson from Not The 9 O'clock News, wife of Billy Connolly. Not relevant, but interesting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have actually had this with a few partnership at the start of the relationship,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I recently had sex with someone I've seen a few times and he felt much bigger than usual.

Maybe my vagina shrunk "
theres hope for me yet then! Haha

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Read this article today and thought it important to share.

"Some men with atypically large penises struggle to find women who can accommodate them, but it is not certain that your friend falls into this category. After a long period of abstinence – and most likely hormonal diminution – some women do experience some vaginal atrophy that restricts penetration with a penis of any size.

Consider experimenting with gentle self-penetration once you are aroused through masturbation (use lubrication); this may help you understand your current genital physiology. But most likely, if you want to receive penetration comfortably again, it would be wise to consult a sexual medicine professional who may be able to help. Typical treatments include hormone therapy, sex therapy and vaginal dilation."

Pamela Stephenson

I just thought I'd point out that I think that's Pamela Stephenson from Not The 9 O'clock News, wife of Billy Connolly. Not relevant, but interesting. "

Yes the person I'm referring to is. I don't know if that's who the op was quoting I just assumed it was

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lots of lube and relaxation and take away pressure to penetrate. You don’t have to do it. Get used to other things and you may find just partial not whole length is ok

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By *spotpleasurerMan
over a year ago

Norwich

It does happen and it is real, especially after the menopause.

My advice would be to treat it like someone who wants to try anal for the first time - plenty of lubrication and start small and slow. And don't force it if you're getting no pleasure out of the experience.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Or perhaps he genuinely just has a massive dong, likes to pull up to the bumper and knocks the back wall out of the garage.

I know vajayjays are legendarily tough but cervixes less so and I've known at least one woman who didn't like her husband's large cock (mine was a nice fit apparently, which is the one and only time I get to brag about a dead average 5.5") "

In my life, there are only two men I have had pain-free sex with. One was my ex - who was only 4 inches erect - the other was a lover who was around 6 inches.

There is definitely such a thing as too big!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Read this article today and thought it important to share.

"Some men with atypically large penises struggle to find women who can accommodate them, but it is not certain that your friend falls into this category. After a long period of abstinence – and most likely hormonal diminution – some women do experience some vaginal atrophy that restricts penetration with a penis of any size.

Consider experimenting with gentle self-penetration once you are aroused through masturbation (use lubrication); this may help you understand your current genital physiology. But most likely, if you want to receive penetration comfortably again, it would be wise to consult a sexual medicine professional who may be able to help. Typical treatments include hormone therapy, sex therapy and vaginal dilation."

Pamela Stephenson

I just thought I'd point out that I think that's Pamela Stephenson from Not The 9 O'clock News, wife of Billy Connolly. Not relevant, but interesting.

Yes the person I'm referring to is. I don't know if that's who the op was quoting I just assumed it was "

Correct.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Great input everyone and glads the guys could contribute too. Much appreciated

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You should just take it like good girl ?? easy for me to say mind you"

I hope you’re joking …

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