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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Do you ever feel a bit lost? Direction-less? Sad, with nothing to be sad about?

What do you do when this feeling strikes?

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

Open the wine, turn up the tunes and dance like no-one is watching

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sit with the emotion, journal, do something you enjoy, go for a walk? Whatever appeals to you in that moment I guess.

For me, accepting that it’s ok to feel like that is the start, and then move onto observing the emotion and trying to work out what the trigger was.

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By *aughty_builder87Man
over a year ago

Keston

"Do you ever feel a bit lost? Direction-less? Sad, with nothing to be sad about?

What do you do when this feeling strikes?

Yeah I feel like that sometimes but I try find something to keep me busy. Video games and movies have helped me. Now that lockdown is over I’m trying to make new friends to chat to and socialise with.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes I do and I go for a walk… Completely take my mind off everything but observe the surroundings on my walk

I feel like it resets my mood when I feel like that.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thank you for replying x

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By *tue555Man
over a year ago

Passed Beyond Reach

Sending a GPS

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By *izzy.miss.lizzyCouple
over a year ago

Pembrokeshire

"Do you ever feel a bit lost? Direction-less? Sad, with nothing to be sad about?

What do you do when this feeling strikes?

Ice cream.

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

"Do you ever feel a bit lost? Direction-less? Sad, with nothing to be sad about?

What do you do when this feeling strikes?

Feel like this too often. Walking helps.

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

Sometimes. I grab the camera and go for a walk, looking for things to photograph helps me refocus

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

Ennui

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The world is so full of negativity, it's very easy to absorb how others feel which brings you down. I do reiki so I can centre myself through my training, and also through meditation

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

why are you feeling like this OP?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do you ever feel a bit lost? Direction-less? Sad, with nothing to be sad about?

What do you do when this feeling strikes?

I get days like that, it’s so frustrating !! X it’s like a nagging feeling that you just don’t know why u have it and creeps in slowly.

I find that yoga helps me a bit to recenters me, otherwise a good time with friends x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do you ever feel a bit lost? Direction-less? Sad, with nothing to be sad about?

What do you do when this feeling strikes?

I tried responding to a message about a social but turned out that ‘social’ was selective and anti-social and didn’t get a response/invite. Wasn’t helpful.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Snuggle under my fluffy pink blanket, put on calming music, write a poem or blog entry, sleep, try not to eat my weight in food.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do you ever feel a bit lost? Direction-less? Sad, with nothing to be sad about?

What do you do when this feeling strikes?

Honestly, I take a timeout day. Say fuck everybody else and please myself, usually by reading something cover to cover or going down a YouTube rabbithole of stuff that interests me.

Doesn't fix anything but sometimes I bore myself into cheering up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do you ever feel a bit lost? Direction-less? Sad, with nothing to be sad about?

What do you do when this feeling strikes?

Yes, I try to keep myself occupied. Or watch crappy tv x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nihilism does kick in once in awhile for me. All of a sudden, I feel what's the point in everything? Then I argue with myself that I can either be sad as fuck and keep fretting over it or enjoy the life experiencing small pleasures even if they are temporary. I find the latter to be the obvious choice and nihilism eventually leads to hedonism.

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

I grab those moments and go right into them, write, shoot photography, journal, draw even, badly. It’s a normal part of being human and a creative force

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

Get lost in a good film or a video game is keeping me sane

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By *rednwilma1Couple
over a year ago

york

Open the wine, turn up the tunes and dance like no-one is watching

Sparkle, you got it spot on !!!!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Also OP, isn't the mere fact of possessing fab's sexiest nipples enough for you?

Women, hard to please eh? (spoken with a modicum of bants and care)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do you ever feel a bit lost? Direction-less? Sad, with nothing to be sad about?

What do you do when this feeling strikes?

Consistantly. I sing. Or if that doesn't work there's drugs and rum

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't fight it ? I'm sure almost of all of us feel this way and the lack of a 'why' can be disconcerting.

As others have wisely said, find your way home with familiar, simple pleasures: exercise, favourite food or music, book or box set. Something to anchor you again.

Take care, OP.

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By *onb21Woman
over a year ago

Cardiff

If this is how you feel right now, I'm sorry and I hope that it will pass quickly.

Feeling lost is kind of my default position but the things I do are not always healthy; they broadly involve some kind of distraction or things that release endorphins.

You don't necessarily need to figure out why you are sad because sadness is a normal feeling that is part of our emotional makeup.

If the feeling doesn't pass and starts impacting your life and wellbeing, then it becomes a health issue and there will be help available to you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A walk in the hills usually sorts me out, throwing axes is an amazing stress relief to.

Planning trips away I find helps me focus x

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By *ean counterMan
over a year ago

Market Harborough / Kettering

Im afraid alcohol is not the answer ! Now where did I leave that glass of malbec??

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By *ools and the brainCouple
over a year ago

couple, us we him her.

"Do you ever feel a bit lost? Direction-less? Sad, with nothing to be sad about?

What do you do when this feeling strikes?

All the time.

I always have a sense of worthlessness and self loathing.

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By *assing Fancies xCouple
over a year ago

Sherwood Forest

On days like this I pour myself a very large gin and curl up on the sofa watching some Miranda

always makes me feel better

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By *iger4uWoman
over a year ago

In my happy place

Yes, embrace it. Start again tomorrow x

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire

"Sometimes I do and I go for a walk… Completely take my mind off everything but observe the surroundings on my walk

I feel like it resets my mood when I feel like that."

This..

Nature is like our reset button, if that's the right phrase..

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"why are you feeling like this OP?"

I don't really know, I should be happy. Just a wave of sadness came over me and I didn't really see the point in anything. I'm sure I'll pull myself together, I'm generally positive x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

find a sensory stimulus that sparks positive memories. Smells or sounds work best for me; whether it be music, or a relaxing sound (you can find anything on YouTube), or the aroma of anything that triggers fond memories; let that fill you up, reminicing of good times focusing on the knowledge there's more to come.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A walk in the hills usually sorts me out, throwing axes is an amazing stress relief to.

Planning trips away I find helps me focus x"

At an axe throwing centre or just going wild in the street??

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By *nfin8yWoman
over a year ago

Newcastle-under-Lyme

I generally go for a walk and try to shift my focus outwards to nature, observing other people and animals etc. I find guided meditation helpful sometimes though as it helps me to a acknowledge the feeling without trying to analyse it too much.

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By *toC Thats MeWoman
over a year ago

Sheffield

Yes, quite often especially this last year. Music or a good chin wag or cry with a friend or my sister always seems to help

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"why are you feeling like this OP?

I don't really know, I should be happy. Just a wave of sadness came over me and I didn't really see the point in anything. I'm sure I'll pull myself together, I'm generally positive x"

Have you had a lot of happy highs recently. Sort of high emotions. I find a bit of sadness or feeling down can follow this. Hope you pop back up soon.x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry to hear OP

I have this all too often and my 4 ways of dealing with it are;

Long dog walk in countryside. Drive somewhere totally random, get out and have a couple of hours with the pooch and nature.

Go and play golf but any sport/activity will do. All about shifting focus from the sadness to something else and if I hit a good shot then the endorphins help too.

Force myself to be social. I'll message a couple of friends or comment on a couple of threads to try have a bit of banter and drag myself out of the funk.

The last and least healthy one is I have a blow out. Arrange a night out/in with friends, get arseholed and press reset on my brain. But I know this isn't healthy and I wouldn't particularly recommend it.

Ultimately, find your happy place and stay there for as long as you need to recharge. You don't need to try and find a "why", it's a natural part of life. Just remember there's always a way back and it's worth it.

Hope you feel better soon, the door's always open if you want to talk (as I'm sure it is with anyone who's commented!)

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By *ean counterMan
over a year ago

Market Harborough / Kettering

If things continue please talk to someone. I've had possibly the worst year of my life this year and finally spoke to my doctor about 3 months ago. Hes given me some "happy pills" and said that they will take a few weeks to work but I feel better already. Not sure why I felt so low as Ive never felt like it before but the doctor was great ,(as usual) so give it a try

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Does the reason why; if indeed there is a reason, matter? What matters is how she's going to get through it.

You could do what I did and put together a self-care bag. At one of my low points, I went online and bought a cotton tote bag that said "here comes the feelings you thought you'd forgotten". I then bought the following to go in it -

Oil burner set, notebook and pen, fancy shower gel, out of my comfort zone colour nail varnish, fancy yarn and a crochet hook, new pj's, my favourite chocolates and a large fluffy pink blanket. I also set up a playlist on Alexa of easy listening songs.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks for all the support and kind words xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A walk in the hills usually sorts me out, throwing axes is an amazing stress relief to.

Planning trips away I find helps me focus x

At an axe throwing centre or just going wild in the street??"

Haha no I’m nit that kind of person lol

It’s at an axe throwing club I go to

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do you ever feel a bit lost? Direction-less? Sad, with nothing to be sad about?

What do you do when this feeling strikes?

I take a couple of Tamazepam (prescription obviously) and go to sleep, after all…tomorrow is another day x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thanks for all the support and kind words xxx"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do feel like this quiet often especially this side doesn't help with any kind of mental issue. Normally I just listen to some music

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By *ougie321Man
over a year ago

Milford Haven

Music on, come on here and join the fun.

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By *ean counterMan
over a year ago

Market Harborough / Kettering

"Thanks for all the support and kind words xxx"

After viewing your profile I can confirm that you have no reason to be down! Absolutely gorgeous!! Come on, onwards and upwards !!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Thanks for all the support and kind words xxx

After viewing your profile I can confirm that you have no reason to be down! Absolutely gorgeous!! Come on, onwards and upwards !!

Thank you, I know there's kindness behind those words, but looking a certain way doesn't mean I can't occasionally struggle too x

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

I'm completely relating to this Kitty.

Don't be me and curl in a ball and cry.

Write down at least one good thing, stick it somewhere you can see it and look at it when you feel shit sweetheart.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I'm completely relating to this Kitty.

Don't be me and curl in a ball and cry.

Write down at least one good thing, stick it somewhere you can see it and look at it when you feel shit sweetheart.

Thank you xx

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By *isAdventure69Woman
over a year ago

Hampshire

I go food shopping , cook and drop the food off at friends and or family .

Today is one of those days ….

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm completely relating to this Kitty.

Don't be me and curl in a ball and cry.

Write down at least one good thing, stick it somewhere you can see it and look at it when you feel shit sweetheart.

right then posh!

you , me and kitty makes 3 lets do this!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I'm completely relating to this Kitty.

Don't be me and curl in a ball and cry.

Write down at least one good thing, stick it somewhere you can see it and look at it when you feel shit sweetheart.

right then posh!

you , me and kitty makes 3 lets do this!"

That might cheer me up lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think I've got anything to add that hasn't been said. Distraction seems to be the answer - it's certainly what I go for. A run a walk or even simply researching and mapping a route I'll probably never walk/run/climb.

I've learnt not to let the feeling take hold - that never ends well. Sending a big hug - one of those where you can lean on the other person and everything is somehow better just because they're there.

Take care.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think a lot of us have felt similar especially over the last 16 months.

When I was feeling like this I found doing gardening helped even if it were 30 mins ing. The task distracted and the fresh air and sunlight cheered.

Failing that I'm a creative soul so I work on a current project.

Know you aren't alone OP x

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"I'm completely relating to this Kitty.

Don't be me and curl in a ball and cry.

Write down at least one good thing, stick it somewhere you can see it and look at it when you feel shit sweetheart.

right then posh!

you , me and kitty makes 3 lets do this!

That might cheer me up lol"

To be fair.... could work

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do you ever feel a bit lost? Direction-less? Sad, with nothing to be sad about?

What do you do when this feeling strikes?

Have a wank

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By *ancer36Woman
over a year ago

Stirling

Dance, to me there is nothing more freeing! It resets my mind and I can transport myself somewhere else I’m not sure if anyone else who isn’t a dancer will get what I mean but it makes me feel weightless and free of stress xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"why are you feeling like this OP?

I don't really know, I should be happy. Just a wave of sadness came over me and I didn't really see the point in anything. I'm sure I'll pull myself together, I'm generally positive x"

(Mr) know that feeling well. Happens weekly. Hope you feel better soon. Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm completely relating to this Kitty.

Don't be me and curl in a ball and cry.

Write down at least one good thing, stick it somewhere you can see it and look at it when you feel shit sweetheart.

right then posh!

you , me and kitty makes 3 lets do this!

That might cheer me up lol

To be fair.... could work

there you go kitty.

lets party x

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