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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Many couples believe that intercourse is the closest sex act you can do and many woman in particular favour intercourse over recieving oral. However I am going to play devils advocate by suggesting that there is a huge disconnect for many couples who have intercourse. The reason for this is because the man and woman are trying to achieve different objectives. Woman, who are capable of it, are attempting to achieve vaginal orgasm. If they are able to cum quickly from intercourse there isn't a problem. However if they need more time then the potential problems begin. Whilst there are many men who can resist their own orgasm and pretty much cum on command, there are more men who have trouble achieving this. This creates issues on both sides. Woman can be left frustrated and often complain about men's lack of "stamina". Men are left feeling inadequate which can then lead to "performance" anxiety. The reason all this occurs is because of conflicting physical realities,namely woman trying to cum and men trying not too. What we need to remember is that each thrust a man makes is stimulation for both the man and woman. Even just one thrust a second results in 60 stimulations a minute. Five minutes later and the stimulation count is up to 300!! Is it any wonder that many men are ready to blow their load after just 5 minutes? So what's the solution? Well firstly I feel woman should understand all of the above physiological differences and recognise that not all men are porn stars or have a numb cock. Secondly, the solution to "premature" ejaculation, although I hate that word as it puts all the responsibility on a man, is for men to simply do their best and if they cum before their partner they should immediately finish her off with a dildo. I'm now very interested to hear the views of men and woman on here about this topic.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont mind a man who cums quickly, and I very rarely have an orgasm from cock in vagina so crack on with your 300 stimulations. Just kiss me at the end and look at me as you cum, that'll feel intimate enough for me.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

This isn't a situation I recognise but I am chuckling at "finish her off with a dildo" imagining a mass murderer equipped with a huge dildo going around despatching women.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I lost my hard on reading that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This isn't a situation I recognise but I am chuckling at "finish her off with a dildo" imagining a mass murderer equipped with a huge dildo going around despatching women. "

Make a good episode of midsommer murders that

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

I'm ginger with a copper coloured top so it's in my DNA to go all night

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

.

FINISH HER!

Yeah, I'm just imagining a dildo wielding fighter a la Mortal Kombat.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

I'm quite happy if a guy cums quite quickly as long as he's happy to enjoy a lot of foreplay leading up to actual sex. I think it depends on individuals really

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never presume what works or doesn't for a woman, because I'm not one and in my limited experience they're all different anyway. Now talking and listening and reacting, they're different. I think women like men who can read their bodies and responses without having to have it explained too much.

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By *wist my nipplesCouple
over a year ago

North East Scotland, mostly


"FINISH HER!

Yeah, I'm just imagining a dildo wielding fighter a la Mortal Kombat."

Damn, you beat me to it!

OP, I think there's a lot more variety and different options when it comes to sex rather than both trying to achieve orgasm and then being finished. The key, as ever is in communication between the participants

Mrs TMN x

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By *assing Fancies xCouple
over a year ago

Sherwood Forest

I could write a 20 page essay about what you've wrote but all I'll say is

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

You make it all sound so clinical OP - the key isn't in any of what you've said but in two grown adults being open and honest enough with one another to both understand and accept the others needs and limitations - once you find someone you can do that with, nothing else matters.

Treat sex as a problem and it will be a problem, treat it as a mutual pleasure however...

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"You make it all sound so clinical OP - the key isn't in any of what you've said but in two grown adults being open and honest enough with one another to both understand and accept the others needs and limitations - once you find someone you can do that with, nothing else matters.

Treat sex as a problem and it will be a problem, treat it as a mutual pleasure however..."

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

One other thing I'll add which I'm sure won't go down with woman too well (pardon the pun) is this. Most woman quite rightly "expect" lots of foreplay and a good session of recieving oral before moving on to intercourse. This means, if the guy knows what he is doing, that the woman will of most likely achieved orgasm at least once before intercourse. To then move on to intercourse and "expect" to cum again before the guy gets his turn is pretty selfish in my opinion. I now wait to be roundly attacked.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This isn't a situation I recognise but I am chuckling at "finish her off with a dildo" imagining a mass murderer equipped with a huge dildo going around despatching women. "

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"One other thing I'll add which I'm sure won't go down with woman too well (pardon the pun) is this. Most woman quite rightly "expect" lots of foreplay and a good session of recieving oral before moving on to intercourse. This means, if the guy knows what he is doing, that the woman will of most likely achieved orgasm at least once before intercourse. To then move on to intercourse and "expect" to cum again before the guy gets his turn is pretty selfish in my opinion. I now wait to be roundly attacked. "

Must admit I’ve never expected anything. It’s always just worked. I guess it pays to know people well before you meet them which is how I do this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"One other thing I'll add which I'm sure won't go down with woman too well (pardon the pun) is this. Most woman quite rightly "expect" lots of foreplay and a good session of recieving oral before moving on to intercourse. This means, if the guy knows what he is doing, that the woman will of most likely achieved orgasm at least once before intercourse. To then move on to intercourse and "expect" to cum again before the guy gets his turn is pretty selfish in my opinion. I now wait to be roundly attacked. "

Erm.....I actually have no words

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"One other thing I'll add which I'm sure won't go down with woman too well (pardon the pun) is this. Most woman quite rightly "expect" lots of foreplay and a good session of recieving oral before moving on to intercourse. This means, if the guy knows what he is doing, that the woman will of most likely achieved orgasm at least once before intercourse. To then move on to intercourse and "expect" to cum again before the guy gets his turn is pretty selfish in my opinion. I now wait to be roundly attacked.

Erm.....I actually have no words "

You? No words! Wtf!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"One other thing I'll add which I'm sure won't go down with woman too well (pardon the pun) is this. Most woman quite rightly "expect" lots of foreplay and a good session of recieving oral before moving on to intercourse. This means, if the guy knows what he is doing, that the woman will of most likely achieved orgasm at least once before intercourse. To then move on to intercourse and "expect" to cum again before the guy gets his turn is pretty selfish in my opinion. I now wait to be roundly attacked.

Erm.....I actually have no words

You? No words! Wtf! "

Don't you start! I'm trying to behave!

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"One other thing I'll add which I'm sure won't go down with woman too well (pardon the pun) is this. Most woman quite rightly "expect" lots of foreplay and a good session of recieving oral before moving on to intercourse. This means, if the guy knows what he is doing, that the woman will of most likely achieved orgasm at least once before intercourse. To then move on to intercourse and "expect" to cum again before the guy gets his turn is pretty selfish in my opinion. I now wait to be roundly attacked. "

I'm not going to attack you for your opinion.

I don't like receiving oral and I'm quite happy to have one orgasm (I'm very unlikely to have more than one actually) after the guy has had his.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"One other thing I'll add which I'm sure won't go down with woman too well (pardon the pun) is this. Most woman quite rightly "expect" lots of foreplay and a good session of recieving oral before moving on to intercourse. This means, if the guy knows what he is doing, that the woman will of most likely achieved orgasm at least once before intercourse. To then move on to intercourse and "expect" to cum again before the guy gets his turn is pretty selfish in my opinion. I now wait to be roundly attacked.

Erm.....I actually have no words

You? No words! Wtf!

Don't you start! I'm trying to behave! "

I did notice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Erm.....I actually have no words "

Men knows what the womens want. The more words they use, the better they knows. Didn't you get the memo?

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

I've never had any issues OP.

Sex is what you make it.

And try not to kill women with dildos. It's bad form

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" I dont mind a man who cums quickly, and I very rarely have an orgasm from cock in vagina so crack on with your 300 stimulations. Just kiss me at the end and look at me as you cum, that'll feel intimate enough for me. "

Is the passion during the journey more intimate and important than the destination?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Erm.....I actually have no words

Men knows what the womens want. The more words they use, the better they knows. Didn't you get the memo? "

Silly me, I should check my mail more often. I'll go back to my corner

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit


"One other thing I'll add which I'm sure won't go down with woman too well (pardon the pun) is this. Most woman quite rightly "expect" lots of foreplay and a good session of recieving oral before moving on to intercourse. This means, if the guy knows what he is doing, that the woman will of most likely achieved orgasm at least once before intercourse. To then move on to intercourse and "expect" to cum again before the guy gets his turn is pretty selfish in my opinion. I now wait to be roundly attacked. "

Not sure which women you've met - but the vast majority I've had the pleasure of spending time with in that way haven't been in the slightest bit like that at all - yes there have been some where it's not clicked sexually between us for whatever reason but that's not down to one or other of us.

I'm sure there are women that are as you suggest, just as there are men who are put for all they can get but tarring them all with the same brush is very wide of the mark at best.

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland


"I've never had any issues OP.

Sex is what you make it.

And try not to kill women with dildos. It's bad form"

Hysterical!

I think us women are actually all quite different. And then we also respond differently to different men. Furthermore, we are more mood dependent re what works with us on a particular night.

Need I continue?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A little bit why I dont think a 'traditional' fab meet would work for me anymore, if this is how it is looked at. Your turn, now my turn, tick the box, check the stopwatch, 7 positions completed before the countdown to cum. Bit shit isnt it Does sex really happen like that for you op

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" I dont mind a man who cums quickly, and I very rarely have an orgasm from cock in vagina so crack on with your 300 stimulations. Just kiss me at the end and look at me as you cum, that'll feel intimate enough for me.

Is the passion during the journey more intimate and important than the destination?"

I just like the looking at each other and the smiling whilst in action, not too bothered about who gets where.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" I dont mind a man who cums quickly, and I very rarely have an orgasm from cock in vagina so crack on with your 300 stimulations. Just kiss me at the end and look at me as you cum, that'll feel intimate enough for me.

Is the passion during the journey more intimate and important than the destination?

I just like the looking at each other and the smiling whilst in action, not too bothered about who gets where.

"

I concur. I like the intimacy and passion, regardless of where it leads or ends.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I knew that some woman would make a joke about this topic but it's actually a very real issue for many couples, particularly for men who can really suffer as a consequence due to many woman's inability to understand the realities. I'm also surprised that we have yet to have some guy comment along the lines of "not a problem for me, I can fuck for hours and get erect again 5 minutes after cumming".

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham


"I lost my hard on reading that. "

You read it all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Odd post. Firstly coming within 5mins of ‘intercourse’ isn’t premature ejaculation; I’d reserve that status for coming before, or during, penetration (God, this is all so clinical!)

Furthermore, if you’re consciously separating the ‘hide the sausage’ bit of intercourse from the joys of foreplay, arousal and stimulation - kisses, stroking, even chatter and giggles, then you’re probably doing it wrong.

Thirdly “finish her off with a dildo”???? You old romantic, you….

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon


"I've never had any issues OP.

Sex is what you make it.

And try not to kill women with dildos. It's bad form

Hysterical!

I think us women are actually all quite different. And then we also respond differently to different men. Furthermore, we are more mood dependent re what works with us on a particular night.

Need I continue? "

Well, you're obviously wrong there..... all women are the same!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A man should WANT to make a woman cum, over and over, if she's capable. Why would he think of it as a chore? Surely her orgasms add to his pleasure, and if he's able to cum multiple times then he should get to do that too. If he can only cum once, but she can cum 10 times, would a good lover really sit there, annoyed, and say "no don't be selfish"????

Maybe I've just been lucky with the guys I've been with, but they enjoy giving me pleasure, they don't resent me for it

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By *ecadent_DevonMan
over a year ago

Okehampton


"This isn't a situation I recognise but I am chuckling at "finish her off with a dildo" imagining a mass murderer equipped with a huge dildo going around despatching women. "

Jack “the rabbit” McDildo

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple


"I knew that some woman would make a joke about this topic but it's actually a very real issue for many couples, particularly for men who can really suffer as a consequence due to many woman's inability to understand the realities. I'm also surprised that we have yet to have some guy comment along the lines of "not a problem for me, I can fuck for hours and get erect again 5 minutes after cumming". "

I know despite what you are saying many women do not orgasm from intercourse.

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town


"A little bit why I dont think a 'traditional' fab meet would work for me anymore, if this is how it is looked at. Your turn, now my turn, tick the box, check the stopwatch, 7 positions completed before the countdown to cum. Bit shit isnt it Does sex really happen like that for you op "

Don't forget to complete the veri... Show her respect and she doesn't disappoint... Has skills... Sucks like a Dyson... Etc..

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

If duration of penetration isn't important, as many on here are suggesting, why do many woman talk about "stamina" and "performance" unless of course it's all just to make some men feel inadequate.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"A little bit why I dont think a 'traditional' fab meet would work for me anymore, if this is how it is looked at. Your turn, now my turn, tick the box, check the stopwatch, 7 positions completed before the countdown to cum. Bit shit isnt it Does sex really happen like that for you op "

Wouldn’t work for me at all that wouldn’t. I sometimes wish I could do that but I’m just not made that way I guess.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What sex needs, is two people to overthink it on both sides, that’s where the passion lays.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit


"I knew that some woman would make a joke about this topic but it's actually a very real issue for many couples, particularly for men who can really suffer as a consequence due to many woman's inability to understand the realities. I'm also surprised that we have yet to have some guy comment along the lines of "not a problem for me, I can fuck for hours and get erect again 5 minutes after cumming". "

Again your experience is not comparable to my own - I'll put my hand in the air and say that I cum quickly especially with penetrative sex and I'm not talking 5 minutes, am talking a lot less.

And do you know whose had the biggest problem with that? Not the women I've been with, they too a tee have been understanding and compassionate about it - the biggest problem at times has been myself, not because I've felt pressurised or been made to feel bad, but because in my own head I've built it up to be a big deal and felt like I should be able to "perform" better.

I've got past it now and accept that if it happens it happens but so long as we both walk away smiling and wanting to do it again it really doesn't matter who cums first, who did what when or whether I put tab A in tab B before tab C - the *only* thing that matters is mutual pleasure and, by approaching it like an adult, that is entirely possible regardless of whether you're one pump and done or can go all night.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If duration of penetration isn't important, as many on here are suggesting, why do many woman talk about "stamina" and "performance" unless of course it's all just to make some men feel inadequate. "

I think women like to make misogynists/MRA types feel inadequate, although god knows why any help's needed with that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

blimey sounds like a mititary operation, i thought sex was all about fun, and having an orgasm isnt the beall and end all of it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I knew that some woman would make a joke about this topic but it's actually a very real issue for many couples, particularly for men who can really suffer as a consequence due to many woman's inability to understand the realities. I'm also surprised that we have yet to have some guy comment along the lines of "not a problem for me, I can fuck for hours and get erect again 5 minutes after cumming". "

Well, I didn’t want to be that guy, but let’s just say I’ve been known to have sex twice in the same week, some of those sessions lasted upwards of 10 minutes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not a problem for me, I can fuck for hours and get erect again 5 minutes after cumming

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By *indergirlWoman
over a year ago

somewhere, someplace


"I knew that some woman would make a joke about this topic but it's actually a very real issue for many couples, particularly for men who can really suffer as a consequence due to many woman's inability to understand the realities. I'm also surprised that we have yet to have some guy comment along the lines of "not a problem for me, I can fuck for hours and get erect again 5 minutes after cumming".

Well, I didn’t want to be that guy, but let’s just say I’ve been known to have sex twice in the same week, some of those sessions lasted upwards of 10 minutes. "

That poor woman you must exhaust her

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not a problem for me, I can fuck for hours and get erect again 5 minutes after cumming "

I thought this was standard.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If duration of penetration isn't important, as many on here are suggesting, why do many woman talk about "stamina" and "performance" unless of course it's all just to make some men feel inadequate. "

To start with, I think you’ll find it’s the men that talk about performance and stamina.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I knew that some woman would make a joke about this topic but it's actually a very real issue for many couples, particularly for men who can really suffer as a consequence due to many woman's inability to understand the realities. I'm also surprised that we have yet to have some guy comment along the lines of "not a problem for me, I can fuck for hours and get erect again 5 minutes after cumming".

Well, I didn’t want to be that guy, but let’s just say I’ve been known to have sex twice in the same week, some of those sessions lasted upwards of 10 minutes.

That poor woman you must exhaust her "

Never found out, they both ghosted me.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit


"If duration of penetration isn't important, as many on here are suggesting, why do many woman talk about "stamina" and "performance" unless of course it's all just to make some men feel inadequate. "

Because people are different and like different things and have different needs sexually - yes *some* women like stamina, *some* like girth, *some* like length, *some* don't like oral, *some* like a myriad of other things - like most things in life it comes down to finding those you are matched with not trying to match with those you're not.

For every woman that likes stamina, there'll be a woman that would find it boring to be mercilessly pumped all night, for every woman that likes a big cock, there'll be a woman who finds them uncomfortable etc etc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have good communication so we don’t get frustrated, we just go with the flow and do what feels good. This sounds so prescriptive and boring quite honestly. Sometimes I cum first, sometimes he does, and if he does then either he or I ‘finish me off’.

Too much thinking op, not enough doing!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Before I have sex with a woman I get the overhead projector out and show her pie charts and Venn diagrams, to highlight where are incompatibility lays and how we both can meet somewhere in the middle, I have to say though when I was changing the pie chart I looked around and she left, so I’ve come to the conclusion that I shall just use graphs and Venn diagrams as I think she buggered off to Greggs.

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town


"Many couples believe that intercourse is the closest sex act you can do and many woman in particular favour intercourse over recieving oral. However I am going to play devils advocate by suggesting that there is a huge disconnect for many couples who have intercourse. The reason for this is because the man and woman are trying to achieve different objectives. Woman, who are capable of it, are attempting to achieve vaginal orgasm. If they are able to cum quickly from intercourse there isn't a problem. However if they need more time then the potential problems begin. Whilst there are many men who can resist their own orgasm and pretty much cum on command, there are more men who have trouble achieving this. This creates issues on both sides. Woman can be left frustrated and often complain about men's lack of "stamina". Men are left feeling inadequate which can then lead to "performance" anxiety. The reason all this occurs is because of conflicting physical realities,namely woman trying to cum and men trying not too. What we need to remember is that each thrust a man makes is stimulation for both the man and woman. Even just one thrust a second results in 60 stimulations a minute. Five minutes later and the stimulation count is up to 300!! Is it any wonder that many men are ready to blow their load after just 5 minutes? So what's the solution? Well firstly I feel woman should understand all of the above physiological differences and recognise that not all men are porn stars or have a numb cock. Secondly, the solution to "premature" ejaculation, although I hate that word as it puts all the responsibility on a man, is for men to simply do their best and if they cum before their partner they should immediately finish her off with a dildo. I'm now very interested to hear the views of men and woman on here about this topic. "

OK now Ive read the op... I feel you might be overthinking it a bit op. Its supposed to be a bit of fun and enjoyment not a top trumps game or first past the post. I don't recognise what you've written at all but given that everyone is different I'm not questioning it may be the case for some. I'd only observe that if it is that transactional it might be worth having a chat first. I've never met a woman yet whose only purpose or outcome of a sexual encounter is penetrative sex and a fast vaginal orgasm. (which is just as well).

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By *urlyCatzWoman
over a year ago

Blackpool


"

Don't forget to complete the veri... Show her respect and she doesn't disappoint... Has skills... Sucks like a Dyson... Etc.. "

Dysons don't actually suck that well!!!

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"If duration of penetration isn't important, as many on here are suggesting, why do many woman talk about "stamina" and "performance" unless of course it's all just to make some men feel inadequate.

Because people are different and like different things and have different needs sexually - yes *some* women like stamina, *some* like girth, *some* like length, *some* don't like oral, *some* like a myriad of other things - like most things in life it comes down to finding those you are matched with not trying to match with those you're not.

For every woman that likes stamina, there'll be a woman that would find it boring to be mercilessly pumped all night, for every woman that likes a big cock, there'll be a woman who finds them uncomfortable etc etc "

I’ll take the pumped all night with a big cock option

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I went sex to be a frenzied passionate coming together of bodies, intimate and sensual and firm all at the same time, I want to focus entirely on his pleasure while he focuses on mine, and between us there will be several orgasms and we'll end up breathing heavily curled up in each others' arms at the end...

At no point in any of that am I counting orgasms or being annoyed if the guy cums before I do during sex. If he does, I know that any guy I picked to sleep with would just look into my eyes, kiss me and slide his hands between my legs!

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By *ocothumpaMan
over a year ago

Herts

‘Intercourse’

I don’t look at it as clinically as that, I just want to have as much fun as possible, and that means making sure the woman I’m with is having fun too

…but you know sometimes it’s just about fucking and intercourse has nothing to do with it

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By *urlyCatzWoman
over a year ago

Blackpool


"Before I have sex with a woman I get the overhead projector out and show her pie charts and Venn diagrams, to highlight where are incompatibility lays and how we both can meet somewhere in the middle, I have to say though when I was changing the pie chart I looked around and she left, so I’ve come to the conclusion that I shall just use graphs and Venn diagrams as I think she buggered off to Greggs. "

Stock up on snacks prior to the pie chart showing? She has no read I to leave

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon


"If duration of penetration isn't important, as many on here are suggesting, why do many woman talk about "stamina" and "performance" unless of course it's all just to make some men feel inadequate. "

Many more men than women do in my opinion....

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town


"If duration of penetration isn't important, as many on here are suggesting, why do many woman talk about "stamina" and "performance" unless of course it's all just to make some men feel inadequate. "

You make a fair point there op. You do see that in many profiles... Along with... must have a cock the size of the hindenberg.. Have no foreskin or a foreskin the texture of mille feuille pastry.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not a problem for me, I can fuck for hours and get erect again 5 minutes after cumming

I thought this was standard. "

Only in the heads of men on Fab, I am assured

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm confused, is it just one woman the op is referring to?

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town


"I went sex to be a frenzied passionate coming together of bodies, intimate and sensual and firm all at the same time, I want to focus entirely on his pleasure while he focuses on mine, and between us there will be several orgasms and we'll end up breathing heavily curled up in each others' arms at the end...

At no point in any of that am I counting orgasms or being annoyed if the guy cums before I do during sex. If he does, I know that any guy I picked to sleep with would just look into my eyes, kiss me and slide his hands between my legs!"

Where's the bit where he watches the rugby while you provide 80 minutes plus added time of fellatio?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

But, I cum from cock.. Not dildo

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I went sex to be a frenzied passionate coming together of bodies, intimate and sensual and firm all at the same time, I want to focus entirely on his pleasure while he focuses on mine, and between us there will be several orgasms and we'll end up breathing heavily curled up in each others' arms at the end...

At no point in any of that am I counting orgasms or being annoyed if the guy cums before I do during sex. If he does, I know that any guy I picked to sleep with would just look into my eyes, kiss me and slide his hands between my legs!

Where's the bit where he watches the rugby while you provide 80 minutes plus added time of fellatio? "

You jest but I actually did that for a guy while watching the football a few weeks ago. I missed 3 England goals while sucking him off!

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit


"If duration of penetration isn't important, as many on here are suggesting, why do many woman talk about "stamina" and "performance" unless of course it's all just to make some men feel inadequate.

Because people are different and like different things and have different needs sexually - yes *some* women like stamina, *some* like girth, *some* like length, *some* don't like oral, *some* like a myriad of other things - like most things in life it comes down to finding those you are matched with not trying to match with those you're not.

For every woman that likes stamina, there'll be a woman that would find it boring to be mercilessly pumped all night, for every woman that likes a big cock, there'll be a woman who finds them uncomfortable etc etc

I’ll take the pumped all night with a big cock option "

Cashier No. 3 please

As ever I'll be Buttons left behind with the mice for company

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I went sex to be a frenzied passionate coming together of bodies, intimate and sensual and firm all at the same time, I want to focus entirely on his pleasure while he focuses on mine, and between us there will be several orgasms and we'll end up breathing heavily curled up in each others' arms at the end...

At no point in any of that am I counting orgasms or being annoyed if the guy cums before I do during sex. If he does, I know that any guy I picked to sleep with would just look into my eyes, kiss me and slide his hands between my legs!"

The OP is hastily going through the rule book, cause I don’t think you’re maverick approach is in there.

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple


"If duration of penetration isn't important, as many on here are suggesting, why do many woman talk about "stamina" and "performance" unless of course it's all just to make some men feel inadequate. "

If you don't like women, don't meet us. Penetration is important to me but, I like more than 2 pumps.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"If duration of penetration isn't important, as many on here are suggesting, why do many woman talk about "stamina" and "performance" unless of course it's all just to make some men feel inadequate.

If you don't like women, don't meet us. Penetration is important to me but, I like more than 2 pumps. "

Meeting one off here would be a first

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town


"I went sex to be a frenzied passionate coming together of bodies, intimate and sensual and firm all at the same time, I want to focus entirely on his pleasure while he focuses on mine, and between us there will be several orgasms and we'll end up breathing heavily curled up in each others' arms at the end...

At no point in any of that am I counting orgasms or being annoyed if the guy cums before I do during sex. If he does, I know that any guy I picked to sleep with would just look into my eyes, kiss me and slide his hands between my legs!

Where's the bit where he watches the rugby while you provide 80 minutes plus added time of fellatio?

You jest but I actually did that for a guy while watching the football a few weeks ago. I missed 3 England goals while sucking him off! "

Oh...That's what the head of Wembley security was doing...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Phew, thank god us girls have a man to tell us where we are going wrong, what we ‘need to realise is’ and how selfish we all are.

Cheers OP, thank you for clearing up all the confusion for our little tiny selfish minds!!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"We have good communication so we don’t get frustrated, we just go with the flow and do what feels good. This sounds so prescriptive and boring quite honestly. Sometimes I cum first, sometimes he does, and if he does then either he or I ‘finish me off’.

Too much thinking op, not enough doing!"

Tell me about it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If duration of penetration isn't important, as many on here are suggesting, why do many woman talk about "stamina" and "performance" unless of course it's all just to make some men feel inadequate.

Because people are different and like different things and have different needs sexually - yes *some* women like stamina, *some* like girth, *some* like length, *some* don't like oral, *some* like a myriad of other things - like most things in life it comes down to finding those you are matched with not trying to match with those you're not.

For every woman that likes stamina, there'll be a woman that would find it boring to be mercilessly pumped all night, for every woman that likes a big cock, there'll be a woman who finds them uncomfortable etc etc

I’ll take the pumped all night with a big cock option "

That's me out then

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

I'm here to meet people for mutual pleasure if we both haven't enjoyed the experience then to me it's pointless. I prefer to read the other person's reactions and body than have clinical sex and say this or that has to be done or if something doesn't happen then it's wrong.

Just enjoy sex and go with the flow .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"One other thing I'll add which I'm sure won't go down with woman too well (pardon the pun) is this. Most woman quite rightly "expect" lots of foreplay and a good session of recieving oral before moving on to intercourse. This means, if the guy knows what he is doing, that the woman will of most likely achieved orgasm at least once before intercourse. To then move on to intercourse and "expect" to cum again before the guy gets his turn is pretty selfish in my opinion. I now wait to be roundly attacked. "

If I may say, you sound like you stopped learning about sexual pleasure when you were a teenager and didn’t have any interest in exploring further as an adult.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This isn't a situation I recognise but I am chuckling at "finish her off with a dildo" imagining a mass murderer equipped with a huge dildo going around despatching women. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A little bit why I dont think a 'traditional' fab meet would work for me anymore, if this is how it is looked at. Your turn, now my turn, tick the box, check the stopwatch, 7 positions completed before the countdown to cum. Bit shit isnt it Does sex really happen like that for you op "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All sounds very mechanical and boring to me. Not all men are the same as women aren't either. Maybe some communication and learning is needed here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"One other thing I'll add which I'm sure won't go down with woman too well (pardon the pun) is this. Most woman quite rightly "expect" lots of foreplay and a good session of recieving oral before moving on to intercourse. This means, if the guy knows what he is doing, that the woman will of most likely achieved orgasm at least once before intercourse. To then move on to intercourse and "expect" to cum again before the guy gets his turn is pretty selfish in my opinion. I now wait to be roundly attacked. "

I don't like oral. 5 minutes of fucking is fine for me. I don't have orgasms with sex meets.

I am clearly not a woman.

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By *um2me123Man
over a year ago

burin

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If duration of penetration isn't important, as many on here are suggesting, why do many woman talk about "stamina" and "performance" unless of course it's all just to make some men feel inadequate.

Because people are different and like different things and have different needs sexually - yes *some* women like stamina, *some* like girth, *some* like length, *some* don't like oral, *some* like a myriad of other things - like most things in life it comes down to finding those you are matched with not trying to match with those you're not.

For every woman that likes stamina, there'll be a woman that would find it boring to be mercilessly pumped all night, for every woman that likes a big cock, there'll be a woman who finds them uncomfortable etc etc

I’ll take the pumped all night with a big cock option "

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast


"I'm here to meet people for mutual pleasure if we both haven't enjoyed the experience then to me it's pointless. I prefer to read the other person's reactions and body than have clinical sex and say this or that has to be done or if something doesn't happen then it's wrong.

Just enjoy sex and go with the flow ."

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By *affron40Woman
over a year ago

manchester

In my opinion if you go into sex with an objective and dissect it to this level you’ve lost the whole point.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

I think we need a wooden spoon emoji more and more each day

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some of my most intense and intimate moments have not involved penetration

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would just like to congratulate the OP for cheering up my day. I read all the posts with enjoyment and had some genuine laugh out loud moments.

Not an alternative to my choice of 3 hrs of non stop sex and 20 odd mind blowing orgasms but not bad for a Tuesday morning.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"In my opinion if you go into sex with an objective and dissect it to this level you’ve lost the whole point. "

This, precisely.

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

One thrust per second for five minutes ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Typical MRA post (referring to the OP)

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

In my experience the man is much more concerned with my orgasm than i am.

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By *egasus NobMan
over a year ago

Wandsworth

The key is feel-good moment does she feel good, do you feel good, then mission accomplish.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just fuck the daylights out of her, she may just love you for it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"In my experience the man is much more concerned with my orgasm than i am. "

I'm more concerned with a woman's reactions myself, they are what sings the tune

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By *assing Fancies xCouple
over a year ago

Sherwood Forest

Just fuck her like tomorrow is never coming... throw her all over the bedroom and make sure she can't think straight, her back is acrhed, she's gasping for breath and her legs are quivering before you both cum together

Pretty simples this sex malarkey Mr

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just fuck her like tomorrow is never coming... throw her all over the bedroom and make sure she can't think straight, her back is acrhed, she's gasping for breath and her legs are quivering before you both cum together

Pretty simples this sex malarkey Mr "

I'd like to fuck her like tomorrow is coming though so I can think about fucking her tomorrow whilst I'm fucking then

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By *assing Fancies xCouple
over a year ago

Sherwood Forest


"Just fuck her like tomorrow is never coming... throw her all over the bedroom and make sure she can't think straight, her back is acrhed, she's gasping for breath and her legs are quivering before you both cum together

Pretty simples this sex malarkey Mr

I'd like to fuck her like tomorrow is coming though so I can think about fucking her tomorrow whilst I'm fucking then "
I see your point better stock up on some bacon lad, that's her goto after a sex

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"One other thing I'll add which I'm sure won't go down with woman too well (pardon the pun) is this. Most woman quite rightly "expect" lots of foreplay and a good session of recieving oral before moving on to intercourse. This means, if the guy knows what he is doing, that the woman will of most likely achieved orgasm at least once before intercourse. To then move on to intercourse and "expect" to cum again before the guy gets his turn is pretty selfish in my opinion. I now wait to be roundly attacked. "

"expect" no.

If it happens it happens. I think your over analysing.

Its about connection between 2 people not who comes 1st and who expects what

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham


"Meeting one off here would be a first"

Odd that

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