FabSwingers.com forum: Women liking overweight guys

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I know like me men love a BBW, but do women like overweight guys like a BBM (or does that mean something completely different)?

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham

The equivalent are called BHM.

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By *anshee99Woman
over a year ago

all over

Yes I do

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By *ittycenMan
over a year ago

south west

"The equivalent are called BHM. "

Big heavy men?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

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By *ittycenMan
over a year ago

south west

"Yes I do"

You are probably about to get a lot of messages

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"The equivalent are called BHM.

Big heavy men?"

Thanks I did think BBM sounded like something a doctor would check you for lol

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham

"The equivalent are called BHM.

Big heavy men?"

Handsome.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Yes I do"

Thank goodness someone does lol.

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By *BWBI2019Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

I always thought it meant big, hairy men! Either or, I love them all!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I always thought it meant big, hairy men! Either or, I love them all!

Mmmm I could be that as well lol

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By *hesblokeMan
over a year ago

Derbyshire village

"The equivalent are called BHM.

Big heavy men?

Handsome. "

I was thinking 'huggable' which isn't so bad.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm hoping they do!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I know like me men love a BBW, but do women like overweight guys like a BBM (or does that mean something completely different)?"

sorry not for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

100%

I love big cuddly chubby men

There’s not so many on here, possibly due to lack of confidence

They’re easier to find on feeder sites or sites like this with dedicated BBW/BHM chats and forums

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"100%

I love big cuddly chubby men

There’s not so many on here, possibly due to lack of confidence

They’re easier to find on feeder sites or sites like this with dedicated BBW/BHM chats and forums"

You can message me anytime ??

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

I love men of all shapes and sizes, so long as it doesn’t impede on their fucking (high sex drive and being licked doesn’t cut it).

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By *rMojoRisinMan
over a year ago

Sheffield

Fully paid up member of the “spare tyre” club!

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

"I love men of all shapes and sizes, so long as it doesn’t impede on their fucking (high sex drive and being licked doesn’t cut it)."

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By *anshee99Woman
over a year ago

all over

Shame the ones on this thread claiming to be nice and cuddly, don't have any/many pics

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

I once dated a guy who was tall, dark and very fit. He had an injury and gained tons of weight. We fucked and then I realised then I couldn't fuck him again. sorry it's a no from me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Shame the ones on this thread claiming to be nice and cuddly, don't have any/many pics "
q

Lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m in and bear like

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I once dated a guy who was tall, dark and very fit. He had an injury and gained tons of weight. We fucked and then I realised then I couldn't fuck him again. sorry it's a no from me"

Can you imagine if a man said that about a woman- would be shredded on here!

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By *lasVe4asWoman
over a year ago

The East End

I love a bigger man

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I once dated a guy who was tall, dark and very fit. He had an injury and gained tons of weight. We fucked and then I realised then I couldn't fuck him again. sorry it's a no from me

Can you imagine if a man said that about a woman- would be shredded on here!"

Yep ! But what can you do about it !!!! This is a great example of the gender inequality on fab

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't mind a belly. But I don't like men that are huge xx

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple

If it impedes their movement around the hips or they have a big abdomen no.

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By *ubwife4uCouple
over a year ago

Heathrow

My wife seems to prefer bigger guys. Dad bod, cuddly, chubby or slightly overweight ( luckily for me!) that does not mean that she will not play with all shapes and sizes but has said many times that hard gym bodied “action man” types don’t really do it for her. In the right situation, all are welcome though!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do I fall into that category?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"My wife seems to prefer bigger guys. Dad bod, cuddly, chubby or slightly overweight ( luckily for me!) that does not mean that she will not play with all shapes and sizes but has said many times that hard gym bodied “action man” types don’t really do it for her. In the right situation, all are welcome though!

Wow awesome shame you are not closer lol

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By *lasVe4asWoman
over a year ago

The East End

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

"I don't mind a belly. But I don't like men that are huge xx"

I'll get me coat.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m carrying a bit of extra timber around the waist. Toned arms and legs though. Does that count?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It would hardly be fair to say I don't like larger guys and women when I am a large woman myself!

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

"It would hardly be fair to say I don't like larger guys and women when I am a large woman myself!

Just because you're 'a large wonan' doesn't mean you have to like large guys. It's your preference.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It would hardly be fair to say I don't like larger guys and women when I am a large woman myself!

Why not? If something doesn’t turn you on it doesn’t turn you on. There’s no rule that says you have to like people with the same body type.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hope for me yet then lol

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By *tew008Man
over a year ago

edinburgh

"The equivalent are called BHM.

Big heavy men?

Thanks I did think BBM sounded like something a doctor would check you for lol"

That’s blackberry messenger

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By *rivervaderMan
over a year ago

bolton

Wow I may be ok yet

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

If a guy my size can get meets then so can many others.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As you get older you can't help getting a dad bod especially if you have a medical condition. It's quite heartwarming to see a lot of women don't mind a dad bod.

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By *uriousscouserWoman
over a year ago

Wirral

As long as we can get it together then it's all good. I'm a fat lass myself so I do have to be careful, but I love a nice chunk of a guy.

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

"As long as we can get it together then it's all good. I'm a fat lass myself so I do have to be careful, but I love a nice chunk of a guy."

Cor blimey missus.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As long as we can get it together then it's all good. I'm a fat lass myself so I do have to be careful, but I love a nice chunk of a guy."

Pleased to meet you...hope you catch my name

Lol x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

However hard i try im always a BHM ! but im loveable XX

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By *dquestCouple
over a year ago

Peterborough

Not my spot of tea.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As long as we can get it together then it's all good. I'm a fat lass myself so I do have to be careful, but I love a nice chunk of a guy."

Good answer.

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"As long as we can get it together then it's all good. I'm a fat lass myself so I do have to be careful, but I love a nice chunk of a guy."

Yes! This! Totally this!

There are some positions that just aren't practical but that's just logistics.

But as CS just said. Love a chunk of a guy. I also love a slim guy and many in between.

If people don't like whatever the subject of a thread is, I don't get why they can't just leave it alone rather than potentially offending. We are all entitled to an opinion of course, but why not just leave it alone if you don't like it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I know like me men love a BBW, but do women like overweight guys like a BBM (or does that mean something completely different)?

sorry not for me"

I get that it’s a public forum and all, but this kind of thing is a confidence booster for a lot of people who don’t have much confidence when people respond positively. If us larger gents aren’t you kind of thing I respect that, but couldn’t you just not comment instead of raining on somebody’s parade. I know it’s your right to comment but in the interest of kindness. Silence in the matter would be a good thing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I know like me men love a BBW, but do women like overweight guys like a BBM (or does that mean something completely different)?

sorry not for me

Exactly that....dont like something dont comment on it

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By *hesblokeMan
over a year ago

Derbyshire village

"I know like me men love a BBW, but do women like overweight guys like a BBM (or does that mean something completely different)?

sorry not for me

Exactly that....dont like something dont comment on it"

I'd have to agree (although it's probably something I've been guilty of in the past myself) - you'd hardly go into a restaurant you didn't like and tell them so.

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By *uriousscouserWoman
over a year ago

Wirral

"I’m in and bear like "

You certainly are!

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By *yronMan
over a year ago

grangemouth

I'm in and quite liking being a BHM!

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle

"I’m carrying a bit of extra timber around the waist. Toned arms and legs though. Does that count? "

Yes with a bit in the middle for the cuddle factor makes it pretty perfect

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By *aste The RainbowMan
over a year ago

Peterborough

Hiya would be castrated for being shallow and that would be the end of them. Incredible, this comment though made by the woman has gone barely noticed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’m carrying a bit of extra timber around the waist. Toned arms and legs though. Does that count?

Yes with a bit in the middle for the cuddle factor makes it pretty perfect

Nice to know.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is nice to know lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I see all this love for the chunky hunks but my messages are still empty lol x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I see all this love for the chunky hunks but my messages are still empty lol x"

Mine too

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"Hiya would be castrated for being shallow and that would be the end of them. Incredible, this comment though made by the woman has gone barely noticed."

No. It was noticed and commented on...

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

I am a “big unit” … but I don’t consider that to be the thing that defines me….

For all the reasons that people start these types of threads, the thing that defines me, is me! It just happens that I am a unit, it does not define who I am and what I am about!!

I am the best seller of me.. I am my best and most unique selling point, I find a way for people to say “wow, I want to know and meet that guy!”…

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m technically overweight, dieting again soon. It would be nice if there’s someone for everyone on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I am a “big unit” … but I don’t consider that to be the thing that defines me….

For all the reasons that people start these types of threads, the thing that defines me, is me! It just happens that I am a unit, it does not define who I am and what I am about!!

I am the best seller of me.. I am my best and most unique selling point, I find a way for people to say “wow, I want to know and meet that guy!”…"

Yeah you are a unit mate but you rock that lions shirt

But as you say. It doesn’t define you.

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle

"I am a “big unit” … but I don’t consider that to be the thing that defines me….

For all the reasons that people start these types of threads, the thing that defines me, is me! It just happens that I am a unit, it does not define who I am and what I am about!!

I am the best seller of me.. I am my best and most unique selling point, I find a way for people to say “wow, I want to know and meet that guy!”…"

I have to admit I’ve never really looked at your pics, I just take you as the guy who posts the sports threads

sorry about that, you look lovely

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By *dventurous fellaMan
over a year ago

where

"Yes I do"

So here I am one of at least 300 replies I’m sure but what makes me different is I bring cake

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By *ools and the brainCouple
over a year ago

couple, us we him her.

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By *ools and the brainCouple
over a year ago

couple, us we him her.

I'm a FBMWASWANSP

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle

"I'm a FBMWASWANSP"

Fab Bearded Man With A Slim Waist And No Stretchy Pants

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By *uddly GoblinMan
over a year ago

Manchester

Larger guy here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Certainly on the larger side here. So give great cuddles

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I appreciate a substantial frame

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By *wofurrowMan
over a year ago

South Lincs and hotels

I’m just that little bit cuddly lol

Fab my pics if you like ladies

Tia x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’m in and bear like "

Tom you are not a bhm

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some of the guys posting on here aren't exactly massively overweight, many of you are tall!

When i think overweight some of you are not what i think of

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Some of the guys posting on here aren't exactly massively overweight, many of you are tall!

When i think overweight some of you are not what i think of "

But the rest are....so thank you and good day

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Some of the guys posting on here aren't exactly massively overweight, many of you are tall!

When i think overweight some of you are not what i think of "

I’m significantly larger than I’d like to be. Well in the wrong areas at least.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Some of the guys posting on here aren't exactly massively overweight, many of you are tall!

When i think overweight some of you are not what i think of

But the rest are....so thank you and good day"

Two words for you

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By *ave1976XXXMan
over a year ago

newmarket

I’m a little over weight but not shy. Love a few extra pounds

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By *lutchieMan
over a year ago

West Midlands

Short 5'6" and stocky and hairy too so joining in

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Some of the guys posting on here aren't exactly massively overweight, many of you are tall!

When i think overweight some of you are not what i think of "

When you think 'overweight', what do you think of?

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By *urvyBi-84Man
over a year ago

Lancs

I’m definitely a larger guy and because of that I was nervous about putting photos of my body on my profile, but thought it better to show it up front rather than getting a bad reaction later, haha.

It’s nice to see comments on here from women who are into larger guys too. Appreciate it’s not everyone’s cup of tea, but I just say there’s more of me to play with

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

This is an unanswerable question.

It is really down to the individual male.

My current 'partner' is 6ft with massive solid rugby thighs , very strong arms AND a very round fat belly.

Is he sexy - hell yeah ......

Would I find him sexy if he was flabby ? No ....

Can some flabby males be sexy ....... YES... !!

It's not about weight or height .....it's about composition and perception.

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By *randmrsc30Couple
over a year ago

East Riding

My husband is a big boy and he’s so so sexy!

His body drives me wild. He can also fuck harder, longer and faster than men half his size classed as athletic.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't fancy people because of their body type

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Some of the guys posting on here aren't exactly massively overweight, many of you are tall!

When i think overweight some of you are not what i think of

But the rest are....so thank you and good day

Two words for you"

Is one of them you? And the other is......love?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The OP asked a question, I'm confused why it seems only pro opinions are wanted. I thought shaming for someones preferences was not ok?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes I do"

I wish......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How about tubby men with dadbods?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm what I would call a stocky dad bod well been told I have this frame before....any interest please message me

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By *otsossieMan
over a year ago

Chesterfield

"The OP asked a question, I'm confused why it seems only pro opinions are wanted. I thought shaming for someones preferences was not ok?

It’s a no-win scenario. You’re either body shaming or judging someone’s sexual preferences.

That’s why I try not to be negative in threads.

Unless it’s the virus maniacs

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By *exyparadiseWoman
over a year ago

Top secret

Always prefer a dad body over a gym arrogant type im afraid, I find dad bods are much down to earth nicer guys

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

"Always prefer a dad body over a gym arrogant type im afraid, I find dad bods are much down to earth nicer guys

Yeah, we're not too bad.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The OP asked a question, I'm confused why it seems only pro opinions are wanted. I thought shaming for someones preferences was not ok?

It’s a no-win scenario. You’re either body shaming or judging someone’s sexual preferences.

That’s why I try not to be negative in threads.

Unless it’s the virus maniacs

I'm not sure saying it's not your thing is body shaming though, its stating your preference, which was asked for. Getting personal would be of course.

People have all sorts of preferences so there will be people liking/not liking/no preference as with any possible choice over everything.

One exception if tea, there is only one brand that's fully acceptable and it comes from oop north.

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham

"The OP asked a question, I'm confused why it seems only pro opinions are wanted. I thought shaming for someones preferences was not ok?

There's just no need really.

If a lizard posts on here asking if anyone likes lizards, why come onto the thread saying no, I hate lizards.

Just pass on by.

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By *urvyBi-84Man
over a year ago

Lancs

"The OP asked a question, I'm confused why it seems only pro opinions are wanted. I thought shaming for someones preferences was not ok?

There's just no need really.

If a lizard posts on here asking if anyone likes lizards, why come onto the thread saying no, I hate lizards.

Just pass on by. "

I don’t mind people saying it’s not their thing, provided they don’t get personal about it…

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By *exyparadiseWoman
over a year ago

Top secret

Agree everyone's own experience and preference, this is a media open chat after all lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The OP asked a question, I'm confused why it seems only pro opinions are wanted. I thought shaming for someones preferences was not ok?

It’s a no-win scenario. You’re either body shaming or judging someone’s sexual preferences.

That’s why I try not to be negative in threads.

Unless it’s the virus maniacs

I'm not sure saying it's not your thing is body shaming though, its stating your preference, which was asked for. Getting personal would be of course.

People have all sorts of preferences so there will be people liking/not liking/no preference as with any possible choice over everything.

One exception if tea, there is only one brand that's fully acceptable and it comes from oop north."

Tetley

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The OP asked a question, I'm confused why it seems only pro opinions are wanted. I thought shaming for someones preferences was not ok?

It’s a no-win scenario. You’re either body shaming or judging someone’s sexual preferences.

That’s why I try not to be negative in threads.

Unless it’s the virus maniacs

I'm not sure saying it's not your thing is body shaming though, its stating your preference, which was asked for. Getting personal would be of course.

People have all sorts of preferences so there will be people liking/not liking/no preference as with any possible choice over everything.

One exception if tea, there is only one brand that's fully acceptable and it comes from oop north.

Tetley

NO. lol

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

Isn't it strange that quite a few guys that are 'average' in their profile are all of a sudden 'overweight' because some ladies and couples say they like 'overweight' guys.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely overweight over here. Lost 3 stone lately and still overweight

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

"Definitely overweight over here. Lost 3 stone lately and still overweight"

But your profile says 'average'??????

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Definitely overweight over here. Lost 3 stone lately and still overweight

But your profile says 'average'?????? "

It shouldn't! I am definitely above average......in weight lol

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

"Definitely overweight over here. Lost 3 stone lately and still overweight

But your profile says 'average'??????

It shouldn't! I am definitely above average......in weight lol"

Errrrm. But you wrote/chose it.

Make your mind up.

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham

"Isn't it strange that quite a few guys that are 'average' in their profile are all of a sudden 'overweight' because some ladies and couples say they like 'overweight' guys.

Blame lockdown! I'm the heaviest I've ever been in my life.

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over a year ago

"Definitely overweight over here. Lost 3 stone lately and still overweight

But your profile says 'average'??????

It shouldn't! I am definitely above average......in weight lol

Errrrm. But you wrote/chose it.

Make your mind up. "

Thank you for pointing out the mistake on my profile, it's obviously a drop down box I missed when I set my profile up. I've never professed to anyone that I am anything other than over weight.

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

"Isn't it strange that quite a few guys that are 'average' in their profile are all of a sudden 'overweight' because some ladies and couples say they like 'overweight' guys.

Blame lockdown! I'm the heaviest I've ever been in my life. "

So are you average or overweight??

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

"Definitely overweight over here. Lost 3 stone lately and still overweight

But your profile says 'average'??????

It shouldn't! I am definitely above average......in weight lol

Errrrm. But you wrote/chose it.

Make your mind up.

Thank you for pointing out the mistake on my profile, it's obviously a drop down box I missed when I set my profile up. I've never professed to anyone that I am anything other than over weight. "

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By *icearmsMan
over a year ago

KIDLINGTON

Larger guy here. Nice arms and good legs just the middle needs tome work. But I do give good hugs..

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over a year ago

"Isn't it strange that quite a few guys that are 'average' in their profile are all of a sudden 'overweight' because some ladies and couples say they like 'overweight' guys.

Blame lockdown! I'm the heaviest I've ever been in my life.

So are you average or overweight??"

I think you can be both

Overweight is factual

Average is subjective

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

"Isn't it strange that quite a few guys that are 'average' in their profile are all of a sudden 'overweight' because some ladies and couples say they like 'overweight' guys.

Blame lockdown! I'm the heaviest I've ever been in my life.

So are you average or overweight??

I think you can be both

Overweight is factual

Average is subjective"

But the same person shouldn't say both.

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By *rMojoRisinMan
over a year ago

Sheffield

According to my BMI, I’m obese.

According to my pals, I’m a fat bastard.

In reality, I’m a couple of stone overweight.

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

"Larger guy here. Nice arms and good legs just the middle needs tome work. But I do give good hugs..

And yet another guy who's profile says average.

???????

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

"According to my BMI, I’m obese.

According to my pals, I’m a fat bastard.

In reality, I’m a couple of stone overweight. "

I'm obese - being 10 stone above the guidelines definitely sorts that out. Lol

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham

"Isn't it strange that quite a few guys that are 'average' in their profile are all of a sudden 'overweight' because some ladies and couples say they like 'overweight' guys.

Blame lockdown! I'm the heaviest I've ever been in my life.

So are you average or overweight??"

This is going to be long answer!

I'm definitely overweight. Currently about a stone over my usual weight, where I feel comfortable. I was an extra 3lbs on top that a couple of weeks ago.

However, even when I get back down to my usual weight, BMI still says I'm a stone over weight. However I'd consider that just to be average compared to other people.

I carry all my weight in my belly too so the rest of me looks average but my belly gets a bit bigger.

The choices on here are slim or athletic, not either of those.

Not curvy, ample, or fabulous.

So that leaves large or average.

Some may say I am large, but o consider myself average. Even though BMI says I'm 2 stone overweight.

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

"Isn't it strange that quite a few guys that are 'average' in their profile are all of a sudden 'overweight' because some ladies and couples say they like 'overweight' guys.

Blame lockdown! I'm the heaviest I've ever been in my life.

So are you average or overweight??

This is going to be long answer!

I'm definitely overweight. Currently about a stone over my usual weight, where I feel comfortable. I was an extra 3lbs on top that a couple of weeks ago.

However, even when I get back down to my usual weight, BMI still says I'm a stone over weight. However I'd consider that just to be average compared to other people.

I carry all my weight in my belly too so the rest of me looks average but my belly gets a bit bigger.

The choices on here are slim or athletic, not either of those.

Not curvy, ample, or fabulous.

So that leaves large or average.

Some may say I am large, but o consider myself average. Even though BMI says I'm 2 stone overweight.

But it's not them writing your profile. If YOU say you're average then you're not overweight.

If YOU say you're overweight then you surely not say you're average in your profile.

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham

"Isn't it strange that quite a few guys that are 'average' in their profile are all of a sudden 'overweight' because some ladies and couples say they like 'overweight' guys.

Blame lockdown! I'm the heaviest I've ever been in my life.

So are you average or overweight??

This is going to be long answer!

I'm definitely overweight. Currently about a stone over my usual weight, where I feel comfortable. I was an extra 3lbs on top that a couple of weeks ago.

However, even when I get back down to my usual weight, BMI still says I'm a stone over weight. However I'd consider that just to be average compared to other people.

I carry all my weight in my belly too so the rest of me looks average but my belly gets a bit bigger.

The choices on here are slim or athletic, not either of those.

Not curvy, ample, or fabulous.

So that leaves large or average.

Some may say I am large, but o consider myself average. Even though BMI says I'm 2 stone overweight.

But it's not them writing your profile. If YOU say you're average then you're not overweight.

If YOU say you're overweight then you surely not say you're average in your profile. "

You have got me thinking and I can totally see your point. But with those categories available, I don't think I'm large when you look at me as a whole, taking into account my face, arms and legs, if bit podgy was an option, I'd choose that.

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

The "average" UK person is overweight, so the two can co-exist.

Does it really matter what someone chooses in a drop down menu? Look at the pictures, chat to the person, meet them for a social and if the "average" guy or gal you meet is morbidly obese and that one fact puts you off, then you never need to see each other again. Sorted. The same might be said of their facial attractiveness. Or table manners. Or conversation ability - whatever deal breakers you have.

To answer the OP, I generally seem attracted more to slimmer guys but that's not a conscious thing and I don't exclude people who are overweight or whatever. It's far more about the overall attractiveness for me, a lot of which is facial attraction. I've been drawn to gents who look to me very attractive in the body, but the facial attractiveness is a no from me. If people think that's shallow, then I plead guilty on all charges. I would expect exactly the same if someone looked at a bit of me and found it unattractive (say, the jelly belly, for example).

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

But it's not them writing your profile. If YOU say you're average then you're not overweight.

If YOU say you're overweight then you surely not say you're average in your profile.

If there was an option for 'fat git' then I'd have chosen that.

Lol

The site has given those options - so that's what chooses from.

People are what they are, but don't change it from one minute to you next just so you 'fit in' on a thread.

People should Embrace what they are. Choose and stick with it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I know like me men love a BBW, but do women like overweight guys like a BBM (or does that mean something completely different)?"

Yeah it's my bloody initials

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over a year ago

"The equivalent are called BHM.

Big heavy men?

Handsome.

I was thinking 'huggable' which isn't so bad."

'horny' sprung to mind

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham

But it's not them writing your profile. If YOU say you're average then you're not overweight.

If YOU say you're overweight then you surely not say you're average in your profile.

If there was an option for 'fat git' then I'd have chosen that.

Lol

The site has given those options - so that's what chooses from.

People are what they are, but don't change it from one minute to you next just so you 'fit in' on a thread.

People should Embrace what they are. Choose and stick with it.

I get you. But my input into this thread was just to explain what a bhm was. I didn't even put myself forward a bhm!

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

"The equivalent are called BHM.

Big heavy men?

Handsome.

I was thinking 'huggable' which isn't so bad.

'horny' sprung to mind"

That's 99.9% of guys on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’m carrying a bit of extra timber around the waist. Toned arms and legs though. Does that count? "

You defo got the legs - oh and the bum

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

But it's not them writing your profile. If YOU say you're average then you're not overweight.

If YOU say you're overweight then you surely not say you're average in your profile.

If there was an option for 'fat git' then I'd have chosen that.

Lol

The site has given those options - so that's what chooses from.

People are what they are, but don't change it from one minute to you next just so you 'fit in' on a thread.

People should Embrace what they are. Choose and stick with it.

I get you. But my input into this thread was just to explain what a bhm was. I didn't even put myself forward a bhm!

Fair enough - my bad. I've not had enough cream cakes today.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The equivalent are called BHM.

Big heavy men?

Handsome.

I was thinking 'huggable' which isn't so bad.

'horny' sprung to mind

That's 99.9% of guys on here.

Seriously, I haven't noticed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Would love to chat to ladies or couples who like tubby men

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

"The equivalent are called BHM.

Big heavy men?

Handsome.

I was thinking 'huggable' which isn't so bad.

'horny' sprung to mind

That's 99.9% of guys on here.

Seriously, I haven't noticed

Im not surprised - many can keep it well hidden.

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham

But it's not them writing your profile. If YOU say you're average then you're not overweight.

If YOU say you're overweight then you surely not say you're average in your profile.

If there was an option for 'fat git' then I'd have chosen that.

Lol

The site has given those options - so that's what chooses from.

People are what they are, but don't change it from one minute to you next just so you 'fit in' on a thread.

People should Embrace what they are. Choose and stick with it.

I get you. But my input into this thread was just to explain what a bhm was. I didn't even put myself forward a bhm!

Fair enough - my bad. I've not had enough cream cakes today.

I had an egg custard tart. Was decent.

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

Fair enough - my bad. I've not had enough cream cakes today.

I had an egg custard tart. Was decent. "

Just one???

I normally start with one box.

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

It takes a lot of energy to keep a body this size going.

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham

Fair enough - my bad. I've not had enough cream cakes today.

I had an egg custard tart. Was decent.

Just one???

I normally start with one box.

Only had one left. Sad times

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

Fair enough - my bad. I've not had enough cream cakes today.

I had an egg custard tart. Was decent.

Just one???

I normally start with one box.

Only had one left. Sad times

My eyes are watering for you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Isn't it strange that quite a few guys that are 'average' in their profile are all of a sudden 'overweight' because some ladies and couples say they like 'overweight' guys.

Blame lockdown! I'm the heaviest I've ever been in my life.

So are you average or overweight??

I think you can be both

Overweight is factual

Average is subjective

But the same person shouldn't say both.

Well...

They can

Choose a tick box on the drop down

Then give a bit more depth in their profile

I think most people pay scant regard to the drop downs tbf

Looking at any pics available is the best measure (assuming they are recent and accurate)

I do think determination of build is visually subjective in the vast majority

I'll always be seen as 'chubby' or 'chunky' as I am naturally round faced and simply don't have the height to balance out my podge

I'd like to shift a couple of stones from a health POV, but aesthetically, I'm content with my build and never apologise for my body shape

I wish other guys would 'own' their body here

You are a good example of that CG

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By *otsossieMan
over a year ago

Chesterfield

My GP told me to “try losing some weight” this week.

Gutted.

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By *landfordfabbersCouple
over a year ago

Blandford ish

My profile says it as a requirement, not huge but chunky with some belly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Isn't it strange that quite a few guys that are 'average' in their profile are all of a sudden 'overweight' because some ladies and couples say they like 'overweight' guys.

Couldn't agree more

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
over a year ago

Coventry

Chunky is a preference for us. Mrs Misfit likes a larger guy with a handsome face, we both like chunky ladies and an cute chunky couple would be just perfect. However chemistry between us all trumps body type.

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

I give up.

So many people that can't make their own minds up as too what they are.

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By *icearmsMan
over a year ago

KIDLINGTON

"Larger guy here. Nice arms and good legs just the middle needs tome work. But I do give good hugs..

And yet another guy who's profile says average.

???????

At the time of posting profile some time ok I was smaller than I am now. Apologies for this oversight profile moderator.

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By *urvyBi-84Man
over a year ago

Lancs

"I'd like to shift a couple of stones from a health POV, but aesthetically, I'm content with my build and never apologise for my body shape

I wish other guys would 'own' their body here

You are a good example of that CG

Second this. I’m in the same boat in wanting to shift a bit of weight for health reasons, but I’m trying to ‘own’ my body rather be bothered by what other people say. I’ve had comments from people who have told me I won’t be able to satisfy them or last long having sex because I’m overweight. I know a few women (and a few men) who would disagree with that!

Ultimately it’s people’s preference. If they don’t find my body shape attractive that’s fine. If they do, great. Where I get cheesed off is when people get rude or make assumptions about people based on their size.

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By *ittycenMan
over a year ago

south west

"Isn't it strange that quite a few guys that are 'average' in their profile are all of a sudden 'overweight' because some ladies and couples say they like 'overweight' guys.

Couldn't agree more

In all honesty, I dont know if I am overweight or average. Going by BMI (which I totally disagree with as a means of measurement), I am obese. I am heavier than I should be.

That being said, I do have a fair amount of muscle - my chest measurement is bigger than my waist so tops hang rather than mould around me! I don’t have much definition though.

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By *eductiveEyesKillerThighsWoman
over a year ago

Nowhere & Everywhere

I think it really depends on what you are planning on doing with said guys!

I'm a fatty, so if getting down and freaky with a big guy, there would be some ergonomic and logistical issues to consider.

Doggy is great because they can rest their belly on my bum

Personally I do like a taller chunkier gents... if they have the personality to interest me!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Big Handsome Man (BHM).

That's normally the terminology.

Well I'm definitely, most definitely one of them. Feel free to get intouch.

I'm a chunky monkey but very funky.

Just because there's a varanda over the toy store, it don't mean it isn't open.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Larger guy here. Nice arms and good legs just the middle needs tome work. But I do give good hugs..

And yet another guy who's profile says average.

???????

What's classed as average?....

I use to put that on my profile, because lots of media content states an average woman's size is 16 these days.... oh I dunno, bollocks to these boxes to tick

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

"Larger guy here. Nice arms and good legs just the middle needs tome work. But I do give good hugs..

And yet another guy who's profile says average.

???????

What's classed as average?....

I use to put that on my profile, because lots of media content states an average woman's size is 16 these days.... oh I dunno, bollocks to these boxes to tick

My point was about those that say they're average in their profile, but then say they're overweight, just to promote themselves in a thread.

I don't have a problem with people's size, just pick one.

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over a year ago

"Larger guy here. Nice arms and good legs just the middle needs tome work. But I do give good hugs..

And yet another guy who's profile says average.

???????

What's classed as average?....

I use to put that on my profile, because lots of media content states an average woman's size is 16 these days.... oh I dunno, bollocks to these boxes to tick

My point was about those that say they're average in their profile, but then say they're overweight, just to promote themselves in a thread.

I don't have a problem with people's size, just pick one.

Ok thanks for your opinion

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hi all, big lad and first time forum user. There's different types of 'big'. I'm tall and broad (6'2", 52 inch chest, 40 inch waist, xxl). I have a big old belly but I carry it well. What always held me back was zero confidence. As I've got older I've become a little more confident, at least I do a good impression of a confident person. I'm no oil painting but I get checked out in the street.

If one person fancies you, others will. Nobody is universally attractive or unattractive.

I also think about what I find attractive. I do find bigger girls attractive but never because they're big, it's because they're attractive.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hi, chubby guy here,took down some photos because of body shaming. Between fab and pof I learnt soo much humility, lol. I cant write a romantic novel to get interest,I'm fit, I work outdoors and play golf regularly and have a dad bod. Don't drink but love sweet stuff. Would give up subscription but sometimes a gem of humour keeps me interested. Im a talker not a texter. Happy fabbing guys ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I try to convince myself I'm not overweight until I see a picture of myself or in the mirror.

Thankfully at 5ft 11 I look fat.

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle

"Larger guy here. Nice arms and good legs just the middle needs tome work. But I do give good hugs..

And yet another guy who's profile says average.

???????

What's classed as average?....

I use to put that on my profile, because lots of media content states an average woman's size is 16 these days.... oh I dunno, bollocks to these boxes to tick

My point was about those that say they're average in their profile, but then say they're overweight, just to promote themselves in a thread.

I don't have a problem with people's size, just pick one.

I have no idea why you are getting your pants in a bunch over this, seriously this argument happens on almost any body type thread, it’s up to the person whose profile it is to describe themselves, we see it all the time on bbw threads, to some you are too big and to others you aren’t big enough!!

Blimey

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi all, big lad and first time forum user. There's different types of 'big'. I'm tall and broad (6'2", 52 inch chest, 40 inch waist, xxl). I have a big old belly but I carry it well. What always held me back was zero confidence. As I've got older I've become a little more confident, at least I do a good impression of a confident person. I'm no oil painting but I get checked out in the street.

If one person fancies you, others will. Nobody is universally attractive or unattractive.

I also think about what I find attractive. I do find bigger girls attractive but never because they're big, it's because they're attractive.

'If one person fancies you, others will'...... That's interesting, why do you think that is?

(welcome to the forums, I hope your visits are fun ones)

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By *dventurous fellaMan
over a year ago

where

Jumping back in as a bigger fella( although not tall) hoping to catch someone’s fancy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I class myself as Extra Gravity Defying while climbing.

I can be a bit shy IRL in the world so would never pick up if someone was eyeing me up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Always prefer a dad body over a gym arrogant type im afraid, I find dad bods are much down to earth nicer guys

Arrogance and being nice have bugger all to do with body type though... I have come into contact with plenty of arrogant dad bods and plenty of super nice gym bods... If you like one, you don't have to put down the opposite to make anyone feel better, or whatever that is meant to be

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

"Always prefer a dad body over a gym arrogant type im afraid, I find dad bods are much down to earth nicer guys

And then there's amazing bigger guys like meeee.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I met a mammoth of a man on Friday night. He was tall and had that viking look going on. also he was wearing a t shirt that said "yes I'm fat, my girlfriend gives me a biscuit everytime we have sex"

He was probably one of the largest men I've seen in a while but it suited him. Sexy is not about size it's how you project it.

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

Own it - simples

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Always prefer a dad body over a gym arrogant type im afraid, I find dad bods are much down to earth nicer guys

And then there's amazing bigger guys like meeee.

Of course! But you would be just as amazing if you were a gym bod, too, no?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wonder what people think of my body?

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

"Always prefer a dad body over a gym arrogant type im afraid, I find dad bods are much down to earth nicer guys

And then there's amazing bigger guys like meeee.

Of course! But you would be just as amazing if you were a gym bod, too, no?

No.

I'm not self-obsessed enough to have a gym-bod.

I'd rather my spare time to others.

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